PFLAG Alamance Monthly Meeting 

Tuesday, February 14, 2023

7:00 p.m.

It's a great time to get back in touch with old friends and meet
some new participants in our local chapter meeting. Help us
explore plans for this new year in our work of support and education.
Exciing things are happening in our County.

Elon Community Church
271 N. Williamson Ave.
Park and Enter from the rear. Plenty of parking there

A Short Video TEDx Talk . ..

This Could Be the Most Important 15 Minutes You Have Ever Spent

Trans physician uses life savings to keep clinic open after insurers deny reimbursements

A Louisiana doctor said three insurance companies had refused for nearly two years to reimburse her for care that she provided after she transitioned and changed her name.

Dec. 29, 2022

Tiffany Najberg, a Louisiana doctor who is transgender, said three insurance companies refused to reimburse her since she legally changed her name nearly two years ago.

She companies have since come to agreements with her and her Shreveport clinic, UrgentEMS, but not until after she started a petition that has garnered nearly 12,000 signatures and received news media attention about her cause, including inquiries from NBC News.

While the three insurers have agreed to update her name in their records and pay back claims, Najberg and her clinic have yet to receive any checks. In the meantime, she has spent her life savings — about $200,000 — to sustain her clinic, where she provides both primary and urgent care, including to more than 100 transgender patients, some of whom come from Alabama and Tennessee, two states that have passed restrictions on gender-affirming medical care for minors.

After Najberg changed her name in April 2021, she said, she updated it with all the necessary government offices and with databases from which most insurance companies pull information about providers. 

She said Medicare, Medicaid, Blue Cross Blue Shield and United all updated the information and continued to reimburse her for the care she provided to her patients. But she said Aetna, Cigna and Humana had repeatedly denied her claims and refused to reimburse her. 

Something to Think About . . .
by Cindy Davis
A Trip to the Store 
I rather enjoy grocery shopping. With the luxury of being able to go mid-week and mid-afternoon, it’s not quite so crowded, and I have gotten acquainted with several of the staff (who, by the way, were delighted to have me call them by their names in this column!)
The produce manager and I occasionally have lunch together. Aside from being great company, Bill is brilliant and witty. He also knows his greens, and one day I was looking for acorn squash – the kind that comes already cut (because they are such a bear to slice), and he informed me that the store wasn’t carrying them anymore. But he suggested that I substitute sweet potato in the recipe I was planning, and it yielded wonderful results. (If you’re interested in having the recipe, just let me know).
 I always exchange pleasantries with Angela, one of the store managers. She’s good at throwing her arm around my shoulder and smiling. A few days before Mother’s Day, Angela presented me with a bouquet of flowers, my favorite arrangement of multi-colored daisies. It caused my eyes to mist - it was a terrific surprise and a lovely gesture.
Marty runs the dairy department. He’s not real talkative, but when my brand of lactose free milk isn’t on the shelf he will rummage around in the back and find what I need. I appreciate that. At check-out, William marches right over and loads my groceries into my cart and walks me to my car where he unloads them. I know that staff will do this if asked, but William simply does it because he wants to. Without meaning to sound overly self-important, I must admit that I feel very well taken care of.
 Recently, I had a memorable experience with another shopper (I don’t know his name). Pork loin was on sale and he and I were jockeying for position at the refrigerated cases, examining our options. I found one that I wanted, both perfect in size and price, and put it in my cart. I stepped away for one moment, shuffled a bit farther down the aisle to look at the pork chops and when I returned to my cart my pork loin was gone! I thought, am I going crazy - hadn’t I just put it in my cart? I decided to discreetly glance in my neighbor’s cart, and lo and behold there it sat! I could tell by the size and the price that it was mine and what came next absolutely tickled me. I began laughing my head off. I couldn’t control myself. A part of my happiness, of course, was feeling relieved that I hadn’t lost my mind. I believe I spooked the pork thief with my non-stop giggles because he quickly vacated the meat department.  
I can be in a literally cranky mood before I drive the short distance from my house to the grocery store, and in a flash, I cheer up. Hunting around for a ripe avocado, smelling the strawberries, checking to see if salmon is on sale, picking out a nice Pinot Grigio, and experimenting with different ingredients so I can try a new recipe, these are little joys. I can’t help but be a bit resistant when I hear about grocery stores that will do your shopping and deliver the goods to your door. I understand how that might work for some people, but I would feel terribly deprived.

 Cindy Davis is a retired Licensed Professional Counselor. 
She was an advice columnist for the Times-News, and is also a PFLAG Board Member.

Cindy can be contacted at

Watch for Cindy's column each month on our Newsletter

'School choice' is culture-war focus for Kansas legislators

In lieu of a Florida-style “Don’t Say Gay” bill, Kansas Republicans are trying to help parents remove their kids from public schools over a "sexualized woke agenda.”

Jan. 31, 2023
By Associated Press

Top Republican legislators in Kansas are focusing on helping conservative parents remove their children from public schools over what’s taught about gender and sexuality rather than pursuing a version of what critics call Florida’s “Don’t Say Gay” law.

A proposal to allow parents to use state tax dollars to pay for private or home schooling was to be available online Tuesday, a day after a committee on K-12 spending introduced the measure in the House.

The introduction comes as funding and lesson plans for public schools have become hot button issues for conservative politicians nationwide. Lawmakers in Iowa approved a similar law last week and at least a dozen states are considering similar legislation.

Funneling public funds toward private schools is not a new idea, but it picked up fresh steam following the outbreak of the coronavirus pandemic partly because of parents’ concerns over masks and vaccines. The issue also has been driven by opposition to how some schools conduct lessons about topics such as gender, sexuality and race.

A New Service of PFLAG Alamance
Free Resouce Material . . .


Through the generosity of PFLAG Alamance suporters, we can now send you these excellent publications from PFLAG National without charge:

Our Sons and Daughters
Questions and Answers for Paremts amd families of LGBTQ+ people

Our Trans Loved Ones
Questions and Answers related to Transgender and Gender Expansive persons

Supporting Your LGBTQ+ Grandchild
Your relationship can grow even closer as your work to embrace your grandchid's identity

Just contact us and we will secure the material and send it as soon as possible (allow two weeks):

Phone: (336) 584-8722
Mail: PFLAG Alamane
PO Box 623 Elon, NC 27244

A word to some of you we haven't seen in a while . . .
If you dont feel you need PFLAG any longer, PFLAG needs you! Your experience can make a difference.

P.O. Box 623,
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