Remember last year's May Celebration?

We'll have the same arrangement outdoors on the patio, weather permitting


From our last outdoor ice cream social

PFLAG Alamance Monthly Meeting 
Welcoming new people and old friends

Tuesday, July 12, 2022
7:00 p.m.

Annual July Ice Cream Social!

lt's been too long since we have seen
many of our loyal PFLAG participants

So . . .
Join us as we enjoy our favorite dessert with toppings
Share your stories as we catch up on each other's journey
Discussions of challenges to all of us in the LGBTQ+ communiy

We will meet as usual at Elon Community Church
271 N. Williamson Ave.
Park and Enter from the rear. Plenty of paarking there

From Equality NC . . .

EQUALITY NC CELEBRATES EXECUTIVE ORDERS PROTECTING THE LGBTQ+ COMMUNITY

June 16 - President Biden signed a new Executive Order yesterday that will further extend LGBTQ+ protections and expand affirming policies across the country. Biden’s order will push forward LGBTQ protections by:

  • Addressing discriminatory legislative attacks against LGBTQI+ children and families, directing key agencies to protect families and children; HHS and the Department of Education will be developing model policies that increase inclusion in education, and expand access to affirming LGBTQ+ and trans specific healthcare.

  • Preventing so-called “conversion therapy” with a historic initiative to protect children from the harmful practice;

  • Safeguarding health care, and programs designed to prevent youth suicide;

  • Supporting LGBTQI+ children and families by launching a new initiative to protect foster youth, prevent homelessness, and improve access to federal programs; and

  • Taking new, additional steps to advance LGBTQI+ equality


Something to Think About . . .
by Cindy Davis
What is a "Gay Lifestyle," anyway?

A while back, my partner and I attended a long-anticipated concert. We were excited and were counting on having an awesome time and were not disappointed. Prior to the performance, about a row behind us, I overheard the word “pride” and thought, hmmm, this month is Pride month, perhaps there’s some “family” behind us? So, yes, I do confess leaning back in my chair just slightly, hoping to overhear additional thoughts. And then I heard “I’m worried about her going to that Pride March thing. You know how those gay lifestyles can be so dangerous.” OK, so definitely NOT family. I wanted to turn around and educate these folks but decided against it. I didn’t see the point.
 
But here’s the thing. What is a gay lifestyle, anyway? Honestly, I didn’t need to do a bunch of research, because I’m gay and I have gay friends, some of whom are students, professionals (doctors, lawyers, therapists, interior decorators, to name a very few), and some of us are retired. We enjoy good restaurants, theatre, John Denver tributes, travel and baseball games. We play tennis, go jogging, we go bowling. Some of us workout at the gym or use silks. We read, we write, we sing. Our concerns vary, as do our priorities, and religious beliefs. Does this sound dangerous to you? Are you thinking what I’m thinking? Guess what? This describes my heterosexual friends too! 
 
Inspired by this ignorant misconception, I did read a study done by Case Western Reserve University in 2021 on “Sexual Orientation Myths & Facts” and here’s a sample of their data:
 
Myth: Lesbian, gay and bisexual people “flaunt” their sexuality when they talk about their partner, hold hands or kiss one another in public.
These are activities that heterosexual couples do all of the time. Due to homophobic reactions, some lesbian, gay and bisexual people are actually forced to hide their sexuality in public, not flaunt it.
 
Myth: People who are lesbian, gay and bisexual work and live in only certain types of situations.
Lesbian, gay and bisexual people belong to all ethnic and racial groups, are members of all religious communities, exhibit a range of mental and physical capabilities, and are of all ages.
 
Fact: The majority of child molesters are heterosexual men, not lesbian, gay or bisexual people.
Almost all studies show that over 90% of child molestation is committed by heterosexual men.
 
Fact: There is no definable gay “lifestyle”.
Similarly, there is no standard heterosexual lifestyle…the most accurate generalization might be this: lesbian, gay and bisexual people are different from one another in the same ways that heterosexual people are different from one another.
 
“Riding on the tapestry of all there is to see, so many ways and oh, so many things. Rejoicing in the differences, there’s no one just like me. Yet as different as we are, we’re still the same.” -John Denver, “Season Suite: Summer, Fall, Winter, Late Winter, Early Spring”

 Cindy Davis is a retired Licensed Professional Counselor. 
She was an advice columnist for the Times-News, and is also a PFLAG Board Member.

Cindy can be contacted at cbdpflag@gmail.com

Watch for Cindy's column each month on our Newsletter
From PFLAG NATIONAL . . .

Non-Binary Awareness Week is coming, July 10-16, with International Non-Binary People’s Day on July 14th. How much do you know about this topic and those who live with it every day? Not sure where to start your learning? Check out great resources from PFLAG National and our partners at this link.&nbsp

This is just one more of the ways PFLAG National helps all of us with sound, reliable educational material for our use and to correct the misinformation that is increasingly pushed into the media today.

From the NY Times . . .

A chosen family can offer love and support that aren’t defined by biological kinship.

July 4, 2022

All in the family

Today, as we observe the Fourth of July holiday in the U.S., I’m thinking about the permutations of family, the people we invite to the cookout, the ones we’ll be watching the fireworks with. Perhaps you’ll be with your parents and siblings, your kids, your kids’ kids. Perhaps you’ll gather with close friends, with neighbors, reunite with your pandemic pod.

Last week marked the conclusion of Pride Month in the United States. Pride is broadly a celebration of L.G.B.T.Q. rights, but for many members of queer communities, it’s also a celebration of their chosen family.

Chosen families are created outside the structures of (and often in place of) the traditional nuclear family. In the case of the Bickersons, a group of about 10 to 20 queer women, most of whom live near Asheville, N.C., this means raucous Thanksgivings, fishing trips and three-day birthday celebrations. It’s also meant working on one another’s homes, helping each other get sober and providing love and support when one of the group is ill.

“We didn’t have to censor,” one member of the Bickersons, Lenny Lasater, told The Times. “We were real, we were honest, and we could expect to be met with compassion and understanding.”

When a family of origin is absent or unsupportive, a chosen family is essential. And even if your biological family is intact, cultivating close, supportive relationships with neighbors, friends and colleagues can provide welcome kinship, as many of us found during the pandemic.


From Guilford foundation . . .

Transgender women in Greensboro can now access gender-affirming undergarments through our clothing closet.
 
We are partnering with FIT4U to provide free gaffs for trans women while supplies last. This resource is provided by a generous donation made by Victoria Knight. 
 
If you are unable to afford transgender affirming undergarments, such as gaffs or binders, please email center@ggfnc.org to discuss options with us!




A New Service of PFLAG Alamance

Free Resouce Material . . .

PFLAG ALAMANCE HAS A NUMBER OF RESOURCE BOOKLETS THAT WE ARE ABLE TO OFFER FOR THOSE OF YOU WHO ARE SEEKING EDUCATIONAL MATERIAL
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Through the generosity of PFLAG Alamance suporters, we can now send you these excellent publications from PFLAG National without charge:

Our Sons and Daughters
Questions and Answers for Paremts amd families of LGBTQ+ people

Our Trans Loved Ones
Questions and Answers related to Transgender and Gender Expansive persons

Supporting Your LGBTQ+ Grandchild
Your relationship can grow even closer as your work to embrace your grandchid's identity

Just contact us and we will secure the material and send it as soon as possible (allow two weeks):

Email: info@pflagalamance.org
Phone: (336) 584-8722
Mail: PFLAG Alamane
PO Box 623 Elon, NC 27244



Another Effort by PFLAG National
to Spread the Word of Love and Accepance
All Across the Nation

We are excited to share that we will be partnering on a billboard campaign, aimed at spreading awareness and love for our transgender and LGB loved ones and their families, on digital billboards across the country. Have a Gay Day launched this program several weeks ago, and it’s been getting a ton of love from community members, in the press, and on social media. You might even have seen one of these billboards already in your own state, as yours is one of the states where this program launched!

A word to some of you we haven't seen in a while . . .
If you dont feel you need PFLAG any longer, PFLAG needs you! Your experience can make a difference.

P.O. Box 623,
Elon, NC 27244
Phone Number:
336-584-8722