PFLAG Alamance Monthly Meeting 
Welcoming new people and old friends

August 10, 2021
7:00 p.m.

Community Life Center
Elon Community Church UCC
271 N. Williamson Ave. 
Elon, NC

Welcome to PFLAG Alamance. We offer a safe, confidential space in which to explore our feelings and under-standings about the LGBTQIA+ experience, especially "coming out" and what this means to families and other loved ones. Listen and share as much or as little as you feel comfortable with, knowing that others can understand.

We will continue to follow Covid protocols and Elon Community Church policies.

  • Vaccinations recommended, but not required.
  • Masks are optional in the building now, but many are more comfortable wearing a mask, so please feel free to do so.
  • Social distancing will be practiced.

Please enter the building through the covered walk behind the sanctuary. 
Plenty of parking there.

From NBC Out . . .

Over 160 LGBTQ athletes will compete at Olympics, setting global record
From New Zealand to Brazil, these out athletes are lifting, diving and kicking their way into the spotlight at the Tokyo Games.

By Dan Avery
July 23, 2021, 4:30 AM EDT / Updated July 26, 2021

Postponed by the coronavirus pandemic, the 2020 Summer Olympics will finally take place in Tokyo from July 23 to Aug. 8. But they’ll be different from any other Games — and not just because spectators are being prohibited.

There will be record participation by out LGBTQ athletes: at least 163, according to Outsports, nearly triple the 56 who participated in the 2016 Summer Games in Rio. About 34 will be from the U.S., including five members of the women’s basketball team and four members of the women’s soccer team.

The Tokyo Games will also be the first at which openly transgender athletes will compete, including New Zealand weightlifter Laurel Hubbard, who was selected for the women’s super-heavyweight 87 kilogram-plus (192 pound-plus) category.

An NBC News special . . .

100 years of LGBTQ firsts:

Breakthroughs from the tennis court to the Supreme Court

First same sex couple married in the U.S

June was Pride Month, and NBC celebrated by honoring lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer firsts. Here is a fascinating article that takes a few minutes to read but it's filled with unforgettable moments of history.

Something to Think About . . .
by Cindy Davis
Growing Older, Not Old
When my partner and I purchased our home 22 years ago, I can assure you that we were not thinking about what it would be like to manage the place many years later. We fell in love with the generous size of the rooms, the cathedral ceilings, bay windows and the lovely, bright kitchen. There is a neighboring creek, with tiny minnows, and a wood bridge that crosses over it, adding to its charm. We both have always adored the place, cozy and conveniently located. Over time, we’ve had to begin dealing with aspects of the house that are presenting less than ideal circumstances. We don’t fancy the stairs. There are 18 of them leading from the street up to the front door. There are another 18 leading from the garage up to the door that opens into our kitchen. I kid you not.
Never mind schlepping loads of laundry from the laundry room (located off of the garage) upstairs, try hauling sacks of groceries. After saying it out loud that these were problems, it didn’t take us long to unearth additional displeasing and general maintenance headaches, such as fixing the roof, replacing the water heater, rusty appliances, and, well, you get the picture.
Motivated problem solvers that we are, we decided to explore alternative living situations that might provide us with an easier way of life. I was anxious to move, my partner was not. Still, we decided that it couldn’t hurt to visit a couple of adult independent communities, so we did, but this proved to hold our interest for only a moment. It didn’t seem to fit. What followed were visits to a few “multi-generational” apartment complexes, which convinced me I wanted to stay put and not move, while my partner had begun dreaming about a maintenance-free future without stairs.
What to do, what to do? And there it was…it suddenly dawned on us that we had another option. Why not figure out which improvements we could make that would increase the quality of our lives, making it possible to stay in our beloved home. A “eureka” moment, I assure you. We set about researching chair lift and bath- to- shower companies, and collecting estimates on flooring and interior painting, as well as the cost to replace appliances. We learned that by refinancing our mortgage, we could not only decrease the years we’ll be paying on it, at a lower interest rate, it would also provide the capital to make our improvements. We felt quite well informed and wise!
All of the decision making has been terribly exciting (and at times a bit overwhelming). When the chair lift was installed, and I took it for a spin, I was abruptly overcome by the feeling that I had gotten old. Up until that moment it had not been a visceral, literal experience. I felt throttled and disillusioned, worried that all of the planning had been a mistake. This first, new addition to our home did not appear to offer freedom, as promised, but instead seemed a reflection of my limitation. Overcome with self-judgment, I thankfully confessed this to a friend; a contemporary who had been a terrific sounding board, involved in my process from the very start. He cheered me on for having the gumption to take the bull by the horns, for being resourceful, and for paying attention to what I need. Growing older has its trade-offs. Clearly, it presents some challenges, as well as some perspective. Hopefully, it provides an opportunity to learn some lessons. Taking care of yourself doesn’t always look the way you imagined it might. And growing older – that’s different from getting old.
 If you’d like to take a ride on our chair lift, tickets are now on sale. Whee!

 Cindy Davis is a retired Licensed Professional Counselor. 
She was an advice columnist for the Times-News, and is also a PFLAG Board Member.

Cindy can be contacted at

Watch for Cindy's column each month on our Newsletter
Designer who won't make same-sex wedding websites loses case

The ruling is another twist in a series of court rulings nationwide about whether businesses denying services to LGBTQ people amounts to bias or free speech.

By The Associated Press

DENVER — A U.S. appeals court has ruled against a web designer who didn’t want to create wedding websites for same-sex couples and sued to challenge Colorado’s anti-discrimination law, another twist in a series of court rulings nationwide about whether businesses denying services to LGBTQ people amounts to bias or freedom of speech.

A three-judge panel of the 10th U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals in Denver on Monday denied Lorie Smith's attempt to overturn a lower court ruling throwing out her legal challenge.
The Alliance Defending Freedom, which represents Smith, argued that the law forced her to violate her Christian beliefs.

In the 2-1 ruling, the panel said Colorado had a compelling interest in protecting the “dignity interests” of members of marginalized groups through its law.

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