PFLAG Alamance Monthly Meeting 
Welcoming new people and old friends

September 14, 2021
7:00 p.m.

Community Life Center
Elon Community Church UCC
271 N. Williamson Ave. 
Elon, NC

Welcome to PFLAG Alamance. We offer a safe, confidential space in which to explore our feelings and under-standings about the LGBTQIA+ experience, especially "coming out" and what this means to families and other loved ones. Listen and share as much or as little as you feel comfortable with, knowing that others can understand.

We will continue to follow Covid protocols and Elon Community Church policies.

  • Vaccinations recommended, but not required.
  • Masks are required in the building now.
  • Social distancing will be practiced.

Please enter the building through the covered walk behind the sanctuary. 
Plenty of parking there.


A friend recently shared an interesting Facebook group with a special message for mothers of LGBTQIA kids. Believing that we can never have too many resources, we're including a link to this group that could be worth your consideration.

An important challenge from PFLAG National . . .

The Equality Act passed in the House, and we need you to contact your Senators and tell them to vote in favor of this critical piece of legislation. Congress is on a six-week recess for August and part of September. While they're back home, we need to make sure Senators hear from us--people who care about LGBTQ+ equality--and will urge them to take action when they return to Washington. Even if your Senators have committed to vote yes, call them, email them, and tweet them your thanks; they need to know that the majority of people in this country support protections from discrimination. Help get the Equality Act across the finish line and take action NOW!

  • Senator Thom Tillis

  • Senator Richard Burr

From the Washington Post . . .

Pete and Chasten Buttigieg say they have become parents

August 17, 2021 at 2:05 p.m. EDT

Transportation Secretary Pete Buttigieg said Tuesday that he and his husband, Chasten, have become parents, following a year-long quest to adopt a child.

“For some time, Chasten and I have wanted to grow our family. We’re overjoyed to share that we’ve become parents!” Pete Buttigieg tweeted. “The process isn’t done yet and we’re thankful for the love, support, and respect for our privacy that has been offered to us.

A spokeswoman for Pete Buttigieg said Tuesday that she had no other information to share beyond the tweets. It was not clear whether the transportation secretary would take paternity leave.

The couple, who have been married for three years, had been trying to adopt for a year, taking part in parenting workshops. They were on lists that would allow them to receive a baby who had been abandoned or surrendered at short notice and also were seeking to be matched with a prospective mother."

Late news Saturday, 9/4/21: "Transportation Secretary Pete Buttigieg and his husband Chasten announced the birth of their son and daughter on Saturday.

"Chasten and I are beyond thankful for all the kind wishes since first sharing the news that we're becoming parents," the Biden Cabinet secretary posted on social media.

"We are delighted to welcome Penelope Rose and Joseph August Buttigieg to our family."

Something to Think About . . .
by Cindy Davis
Quiet Connections
Recently, I started volunteering with the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI). I’d had positive experiences presenting at some of their educational classes years ago while in private practice. The organization also provided excellent resources for many of my clients. After attending a NAMI Alamance County Affiliate meeting via Zoom not long ago it was clear to me that I wished to be involved again. NAMI has its ducks in a row. It is a wide-reaching group that’s highly organized, offering training, education and assistance. As a society, it appears that we are becoming more open when it comes to discussing mental health issues. No doubt, it helps when celebrities and Olympic athletes disclose their challenges with mental illness, but there’s still more work to do when it comes to eliminating the stigma.
 I don’t reveal that I’m Bi-polar unless I feel that it is safe to do so, and in very specific contexts. For instance, sometimes it was helpful, if not also therapeutic to share my diagnosis with certain clients who were having difficulty managing their disorder. Or when, as I mentioned, I was presenting for educational purposes. This condition is often associated with major mood swings and chaotic episodes that create turmoil and distress. Stereotypes like these can make it embarrassing to reveal that you’ve got an illness or seek guidance. Symptoms vary for different individuals, and so does treatment. What helped me the most was learning about MY condition and discovering how many people actually have Bi-polar disorder. It helped me to not feel so alone, or so crazy.
I was not aware, until very recently, how dedicated NAMI is to the LGBTQI community. The scope of their research far exceeds what I have highlighted here. I encourage folks to visit their website (one of many listed below).
  • LGBT adults are more than twice as likely as heterosexual adults to experience a mental health condition. Transgender individuals are nearly four times as likely to experience a mental health condition.
  • LGB youth and Transgender youth experience greater risk for mental health conditions and suicidality.
  • For many LGBTQI people, socioeconomic and cultural conditions negatively impact mental health conditions. Discrimination, prejudice, denial of civil and human rights, harassment and family rejection can lead to new or worsened symptoms.
  • A powerful and unique challenge facing LGBTQI people is the issue of Coming Out. Revealing one’s sexual orientation or gender identity may impact social experiences and relationships.
  • Serious problems such as substance abuse (self-medication) are nearly twice as  amongst LGBTQI people and almost four times as likely for Transgender individuals. Homelessness is estimated to be 120% higher. The LGBTQI population is at a higher risk for suicide attempts than the heterosexual population, four times as likely amongst LGBTQI High School students, and 40% higher amongst Transgender adults.
It is validating for me that NAMI addresses both mental health and LGBTQI issues in the same breath. It recognizes the unique difficulties of what it can mean to be LGBTQI and correlates this to scientific findings about the impact on mental health.
Reaching out and asking for help isn’t always easy, but it can make all the difference in the world. Finding the right Mental Health Professional is key. Think about what you’re looking for – a provider who is a part of the LGBTQI community, or someone who has competency in LGBTQI issues. Male or female. Don’t be afraid to have preferences. Communicate with local LGBTQI community centers, health centers, support groups, learning institutions, for potential referral resources.
NC NAMI Helpline 800-451-9682
LGBTQI National Help Center - offers confidential peer support or LGBT youth, adults and seniors, including phone, text and online chat (
The National Center for Transgender Equality - offers resources individuals for transgender individuals including information on the right to access health care (
Trans Lifeline – peer support, run by and for trans people (
For more information about NAMI, visit their website at
 Cindy Davis is a retired Licensed Professional Counselor. 
She was an advice columnist for the Times-News, and is also a PFLAG Board Member.

Cindy can be contacted at

Watch for Cindy's column each month on our Newsletter
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Elon, NC 27244
Phone Number:
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