September 10, 2025

Pluralism, and the Grateful Dead

Last week I went to a talk at the University of Southern Maine by Dr. Eboo Patel called Strengthening Democracy Through Pluralism.


Here’s what I learned.


Eboo Patel is a terrific speaker. And he likes the Grateful Dead. It was super-fun to hear his band analogies; how the Grateful Dead are a model of pluralism.


Pluralism is acceptance of multiple beliefs; different from “I know what’s right and you should conform.” Pluralism says “We can both be right and coexist.”


Variety is written into the nature of the universe. Eboo argued that we should adopt pluralism in our governance and in all manner of things because that’s how the universe is designed. The natural world is ALL about variety and coexistence. It works well. So that’s the model we should follow.


Diversity is written into the nature of our nation. Our Constitution has ideals such as religious freedom and freedom of speech specifically to encourage diversity of thought.


Particularity is sacred. You don’t have diversity if you don’t have particularity; that is, seeing and honoring the particular characteristics of individuals. It’s not okay to make broad categorizations and generalizations.


Pluralism takes work. It’s really hard to get people with diverse beliefs to work together cooperatively.


Diversity is not just the differences you like.


Not a melting pot, a potluck. The idea of the United States as a melting pot – where we all get blended and pushed to conform to a single culture – is not helpful. Rather, we should celebrate our DIVERSITY of cultures here in the United Stated. THAT’s what makes the United States strong and special. In Europe, each country had a religion and every citizen was expected to fall in line with their county’s religion. That’s what the founders were fleeing.


It’s critical to have spaces that bring people together for non-controversial activities that require cooperation. Examples: train stations, sports events, libraries, etc. In these places, we coexist peacefully in spite of holding widely-different ideologies. We can do it!


Let’s create spaces where it’s easy for people to be good. This is what I try to do as a facilitator.


Eboo told us how he used to think that social justice was the cause of the left; owned by the liberals. Then he met a group of pro-life conservatives who explained to him that actually, THEY were fighting for social justice. Each one of us thinks we’re fighting for social justice.

The thing about the Grateful Dead is that there’s no single right way to play the song. Each song is a plurality of musical instruments and even belief systems. It’s okay to gather the gifts of the moment and make up the music as you go.


Dr. Eboo Patel is the founder and president of Interfaith America and is the author of five books on diversity and democracy. He lives in Chicago.


Dr. Patel was the inaugural speaker in the USM Forum on American Democracy, hosted by USM President Jacqueline Edmonston. This year’s focus is on pluralism. The next talk will be by Raj Vinnakota, President of the Institute for Citizens & Scholars. The topic is Pluralism in Practice. November 5, 2026. 5pm. Hannaford Hall. USM. Learn about it here. I’ll be there.


USM Reads (the University book club) will discuss Dr. Patel’s latest book We Need To Build on September 30 at noon in Glickman Hall, Room 103, on the USM Portland campus.

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Common Ground Fair


My topic this year is How to Get Along when we Disagree. I will be at the SPA (Social and Political Area) Speaker's Tent at 11am on Sunday, September 21.


Many of us fear current environmental and political trends. Some of us are terrified. Many of us are retreating to our own corners, increasingly alienated from each other; increasingly afraid to engage with others who think differently.


Come learn some practical tips and tools for navigating this scary world. Learn strategies to get along with others even when you disagree; even when you don't like what they believe. Come get inspired and gain confidence to forge conversations and partnerships across divides; political divides, religious divides, wealth divides.


Presenter Craig Freshley has written a best-selling book called Together We Decide, An Essential Guide for Making Good Group Decisions. And he has received the American Award for Civic Collaboration for facilitating conversations between Democrats and Republicans.

Other ideas

Amendment 1: Changes in the Voting Process - Monday September 29 at 6:30pm

Hosted by Building Bridges, an affiliate of Braver Angels. Representatives for the Maine Yes on 1 and No on 1 campaigns and there will be opportunity to ask them questions. The ballot question is: “Do you want to change Maine election laws to eliminate two days of absentee voting, prohibit requests for absentee ballots by phone or family members, end ongoing absentee voter status for seniors and people with disabilities, ban prepaid postage on absentee ballot return envelopes, limit the number of drop boxes, require voters to show certain photo ID before voting, and make other changes to our elections?”

Learn more and register here

Setting Strategic Directions - Strengthening your team's ability to thrive in times of chaos and uncertainty - Tuesday, October 7 at 11am

Join Nicola Chin and the Maine Philanthropy Center on October 7th to explore how to set a Strategic Direction for your organization that can improve your decision-making, strengthen your team relationships and set you on the path to building power. We'll share the 7 components of a strategic direction we want all teams to have. We'll discuss straight-forward/collaborative ways for developing each, and why this approach can help your team thrive in times of chaos and uncertainty. 

Learn more and register here

Mom update

Went to LL Bean with Mom. It was her birthday. She’s always wanted a pair of Bean boots. She’s 84. It’s about time.


Not only that, we got her a pair of wool Bean Boot Socks to go with them.


Not only that, when we went to the counter Mom said, “Craig, ask them to look me up. I might have some Bean Bucks. Turns out she had $124 worth of Bean Bucks! So we didn’t have to pay a penny.


Not only that, did you know that Ben and Jerry’s is back in Freeport? So we stopped there too.


She moved here recently from California. It’s nice to be able to do adventures with mom right here in my home state.

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Did you notice I changed the name? This newsletter used to be mostly about my work. Now it's mostly about me. Haha.


No really. In future editions you're going to find stories from all walks of my life, not just my work. Think: not-so-much a newsletter from a consulting company, but ideas and stories from a guy trying to get along and find peace.

Given my career as a neutral facilitator, I've been restrained about publishing personal and political views. Not so much now. I was talking with a colleague about this and she concluded: "Craig, you want to put your voice into the ring."


If the new format is not for you, I understand if you unsubscribe. No problem. I don't want to send you something you don't want. Yet if you're curious, I hope you stay tuned.


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