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VOLUME XIII ISSUE NO. 6 | JUNE 2021
Coaching for Happy, Resilient Effectiveness

George Pitagorsky offers individual and team coaching with a foundation in mindful awareness, systems and process thinking, and wisdom teachings. The goal is sustained optimal performance - effectiveness, happiness, resilience, and adaptability.

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All the Time Everywhere
Body awareness is not about formal meditation or a Yoga class. Though those are training grounds for it. Body awareness is not thinking about anything. It is feeling sensations.
 
Using the body as an object of mindful awareness is the primary way to cultivate moment-to-moment dynamic presence at work, at home, or anywhere. It helps you to cut through habitual behaviors. It is a way to differentiate between thinking about experience and experience itself.
 
With body awareness, you see the difference between thoughts and feelings. You cultivate awareness of the subtle movement of energy in the body - using it for focus, relaxation, enjoyment, healing.
 
Thinking and Feeling
It is common to spend most, if not all the time, thinking about things. Though to be exclusively in the thinking mind is cutting off full experience. Thoughts proliferate to the extent that you don't sense your body even when you are relaxing. To be fully present, feeling and thinking, enhances the capacity to perform optimally and happily.  
 
Being present in the body doesn't mean turning off the mind, it means unifying body and mind. Sensing the body, you gain a fresh perspective. Being with sensations you fully experience presence. Being aware of sensations brings insight and wisdom.  
 
How to Work with the Body
Practice this simple exercise anywhere at any time. It brings you to the present moment, promotes relaxed focus, and cuts through distractions. Over time it cultivates a natural union of mind and body, thoughts, and feelings.

  • With your eyes open, feel the sensation of the weight of your body. Feel the air against your skin. Feel the sensation of movement. 
  • Feel the sensation of breathing wherever it is most comfortable for you - the rising and falling of the chest or abdomen, air passing through your nostrils.
  • Feel the whole body.
  • Notice the movement from feeling to thinking (labeling, commenting, etc.) and
  • Gently but firmly bring attention back to just feeling the sensations
  • Feel what it is like to be present.
  • Again, if your slip into thinking about what you are feeling, come back to sensations, to presence.

Blend Body Awareness Breaks into Your Day
Do this simple but powerful exercise for a few brief moments throughout the day. Less than thirty seconds or three natural breaths, will do. 
 
Set an alarm or use the phone or ping to signal a body awareness break. Do it when you realize that your attention has slipped away from the content while at a meeting, while reading, writing, or doing anything. 
 
Coming back to sensations when distracted by thoughts cultivates concentration. The more you do it the less you will slip away into unplanned mental side-trips and the shorter the side-trips will be.
 
Formal Practice
If you want to accelerate the process of becoming increasingly present and aware, do the exercise with your eyes closed as a formal meditation in a quiet place where you are unlikely to be interrupted. You can begin with five or ten minutes and build to 30 to 45 minutes at a time.
 
Don't make it a chore, there are enough of those around. Think of it as a relaxing and rejuvenating mini-vacation. At first, it requires effort, increasingly it becomes effortless.
How to be Happy Even When You Are Sad, Mad or Scared:

How to be happy...How to be Happy Even When You Are Sad, Mad or Scared is available on Amazon.com. It is a book for children of all ages (including those in adult bodies). Buy it for the children in your life so they can be better able to “feel and deal” - feel and accept their emotions and deal with them in a way that avoids being driven by them. You can order the book at https://www.amazon.com/How-Happy-Even-When-Scared/dp/1072233363
Performance and Open-minded Mindfulness
Open-minded: questioning everything, accepting diversity and uncertainty. 
 
Mindful: consciously aware; concentrated. 

Foundation for blending process, project, engagement and knowledge management into a cohesive approach to optimize performance.
By George Pitagorsky

Success is measured in how well and how regularly you meet expectations. But what exactly are expectations, and how do you effectively manage them when multiple priorities and personalities are involved?
Using the case study of a Project Manager coordinating an organizational transition, this Managing Expectations book explores how to apply a mindful, compassionate, and practical approach to satisfying expectations in any situation. George Pitagorsky describes how to make sure expectations are rational, mutually understood, and accepted by all those with a stake in the project. This process relies on blending a crisp analytical approach with the interpersonal skills needed to negotiate win-win understandings of what is supposed to be delivered, by when, for how much, by who, and under what conditions.

Managing Conflict in Projects
By George Pitagorsky

Managing Conflict in Projects: Applying Mindfulness and Analysis for Optimal Results by George Pitagorsky charts a course for identifying and dealing with conflict in a project context.

Pitagorsky states up front that conflict management is not a cookbook solution to disagreement-a set of prescribed actions to be applied in all situations. His overall approach seeks to balance two aspects of conflict management: analysis based on a codified process and people-centered behavioral skills.

The book differentiates conflict resolution and conflict management. Management goes beyond resolution to include relationship building that may serve to avoid conflict or facilitate resolution if it occurs.
 
The Zen Approach to Project Management 
By George Pitagorsky

Projects are often more complex and stressful than they need to be. Far too many of them fail to meet expectations. There are far too many conflicts. There are too few moments of joy and too much anxiety. But there is hope. It is possible to remove the unnecessary stress and complexity. This book is about how to do just that. It links the essential principles and techniques of managing projects to a "wisdom" approach for working with complex, people-based activities.