HIGH HOLIDAY MESSAGE TO MY CONGREGATION

 

 From Rabbi Emeritus Mayer Perelmuter

 

“I’VE SEEN THE FUTURE BROTHER, AND IT’S MURDER…” (Leonard Cohen)

 

What a strange way for a Rabbi Emeritus to begin his annual High Holiday Message!

A word of comfort: “I’ve seen the future brothers and sisters, and there can be hope.” Allow me to elaborate.

 

Recently, I digitized my parents’ vintage 8-millimeter home movies from the 40’s and 50’s. They reminded me of a wonderful, simple past. The movies showed me as a toddler, then being taught by a Quebec Canadian farmer to lead two horses pulling a half –filled hay wagon in the Laurentian mountains north of Montreal. Another film showed me as a Bar Mitzvah boy, being blessed by my father in front of the ark in our Johnstown, PA synagogue.

 

This nostalgic exercise evoked a past where the only antisemitism experienced was when I pummeled a fellow 6th grader for calling me a “Yellow Jew.” I recall those idyllic days when I could fill my old Chevy tank with 40 cents a gallon or could spend summer breaks from high school, laying on the beach of Chicago’s Lake Michigan or the freedom of hitchhiking across Israel after volunteering during the aftermath of the 6-day war. Israel then was filled with a sense of invulnerability and an exuberant spirit! Following the turmoil of the 60’s, came the civility of the next few decades when I treasure the years of partnering with Debby to raise our family in Queens and my 36 years of serving a congregation that still remains my spiritual home.

 

Today, that past seems so simple. Why is my home country approaching a divisiveness last experienced prior to the Civil War? Will I be witnessing the sunset of American democracy and a darkened sunrise of a land ruled by a handful of totalitarian oligarchs? And what about the idealistic Zionist dream? My heart aches for all the young Israeli soldiers, some just finishing army training, others starting University or just having married, called up for ongoing reserve duty. I hear from our family about how scary it feels during a missile attack, listening to the booms from their “safe rooms", and how much relief is felt when the all-clear siren is sounded. We cry for the 101 remaining hostages in Gaza, and their families. I pray that this will end and that Israel will live on.

 

And the scourge of anti-Semitism is still with us, after 2000 years. Our High Holiday services across the nation are protected by armed guards, security cameras and defensive barriers.

 

NO, THE FUTURE DOES NOT HAVE TO BE MURDER.

Leonard Cohen’s iconic song ends with the poetic refrain: “Repent, repent, repent, that’s what I meant.” We are now engaged for the next 10 days in the process of communal and personal repentance, or Teshuvah. The word Teshuvah literally means “Return.” Between Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur, we focus on returning to our better selves by striving to be the best human beings we can be. The sound of the Shofar reawakens us to our potential to do so.

 

There is a Talmudic principle saying that it is not sufficient for us to be observers, we are commanded to be doers. We can initiate healing in our community by deepening ties with our families and friends. We can be more loving, show gratitude, ask others for forgiveness, or simply put, be kind.

 

We can be strengthened with the faith that in seemingly hopeless times, “there is a crack, and that’s where the light gets in.” (Leonard Cohen)

 

Debby and I extend to you and your families our wishes for a year of doing much kindness.


In these uncertain days, may the curses of the past year end, and may 5785 usher in a year of blessings.

 

Shana Tova,

Rabbi Mayer and Debby Perelmuter

Join Us for the High Holy Days at The Reform Temple of Forest Hills


Click Here for information on the High Holy Days at RTFH

Thursday 10/10/24 Women's Connection General Meeting at 7:30pm
Friday 10/11/24-Saturday 10/12/24 Yom Kippur
Wednesday 10/16/24-Sukkot Evening Services at 7:00pm
Thursday 10/17/24-Sukkot Morning Services at 10:30am
Friday 10/18/24-Shabbat Evening Services (Chol HaMoed Sukkot) at 7:00pm
Saturday 10/19/24-Wine & Cheese Night in The Sukkah at 7:00pm
Sunday 10/20/24-Temple Tot Sukkot at 2:00pm
Wednesday 10/23/24-Simchat Torah Evening & Consecration of New Religious School Students at 7:00 pm
Thursday 10/24/24-Simchat Torah Morning Services & Yizkor at 10:30am
Friday 10/25/24-Shabbat Evening Service at 7:00pm
Friday 10/25/24-Saturday 10/26/24-ToFHY Fall Shul-In
Saturday 10/26/24-Midnight Run at 4:00pm

Join us in Celebrating 30 years of RTFH and be a part of the exciting next phase of our journey as a community!

 

Don't miss the opportunity to be a part of our Torah Project -- learn more about it at RTFH.org/torah

 

Mark your calendars for an unbelievable family experience to write in RTFH's very own Torah on:

Sunday, February 9th and Monday, February 10th

Sunday, March 23rd and Monday, March 24th

 

Make your Dedications now! 

 

To hear Rabbi Mark Kaiserman speak about the Torah Project from Rosh Hashanah, click below (for the full service and Rabbi Kaiserman’s sermons, visit RTFH’s YouTube page).

Click Here to Hear Rabbi Kaiserman Speak About the Torah Project 

October Women's Connection Meeting

Thursday, October 10th at 7:30pm


Join us on 10/10 @ 7:30 in the RTFH Garden Room for a discussion on the history of women's tallit, led by Phyllis Rosenberg and Kathy Francos, right in time for Yom Kippur. WoCo Members are encouraged to bring their own tallit. Perhaps the design or special memory associated with this beloved ritual item makes for an interesting story you'd like to share!

Study and Connection on Yom Kippur Day

Saturday, October 12

Fill your Yom Kippur day with opportunities for your mind and soul. Between morning and afternoon services, join us for two special learning sessions.


Layperson’s Hour (12:30pm) in the Sanctuary

Living and Thriving with Disabilities

RTFH’s Accessibility, Inclusion, and Empowerment Committee will lead reflections on its members' experiences with disabilities and how we can all create a world inclusive of all needs.

Speakers: 

Karen Eisenstadt, Arlene Green, Jodi Ann Herman, Matthew Kamen, and Scott Sheidlower. Moderated by Gwen Leifer.

Also available at rtfh.org/live


Afternoon Study Session (2pm) in a classroom

Making Meaning with Midrash, led by Susan Grunberg

How can a book written more than 2000 years ago come alive for us today?  The rabbis of the early C.E. did it through a process of combined inquiry and imagination called Midrash - and we can do it too!

Wine & Cheese Night in the Sukkah

(A Parent's Association Sponsored Event, with a little help from their friends at Women's Connection.)


This is a community event, with limited attendance capacity.

Date: Saturday, October 19

Time: 6-8 pm

Place: RTFH Sukkah (enter downstairs through the Garden Room)

Cost: $36 per adult

Children 4 and older are eligible for childcare services provided by ToFHY! (Bring cash for a tip.)

For more information and to register, visit www.rtfh.org/engage/events/

Religious School Sukkah Visits

Sunday, October 20 at 9:30am in the RTFH Sukkah

Volunteer at the Religious School - helping to welcome classes into the sukkah with prayers and lulav shaking! For more information, contact Stephanie Lazarus and Jason Schechter, Parents' Association

Co-Presidents at pa@rtfh.org.

ToFHY Fall Shul-In

Friday, October 25th at 6pm-Saturday, October 26th at 8am


Open to any Temple member in the 8th-12th grades. The Shul-In will be chaperoned by Jules Ilian and Joshua Pagan.  


Cost of $30 includes pasta dinner, snacks, and breakfast.


For more information on ToFHY, go to www.rtfh.org/engage/teens-tofhy/


To register for the Shul-In, go to https://rtfh.shulcloud.com/form/tofhy-fall-shul-in-2024.html

To SIGN UP ONLINE, please visit here.

To DONATE to Midnight Run 2024, please visit here.

DONATE HOODIES FOR THE UNHOUSED

 

Hoodies are the item most requested by the unhoused individuals we meet. They are also the most expensive item for the Social Action Team to purchase.


Please bring CLEAN, ADULT-SIZED HOODIES to Temple's upper lobby before our Midnight Run on Saturday, October 26th.


Thank you! Your Social Action Team

This 20-session class meets Thurs eves, 7:00-9:00 pm in-person (w/hybrid option)

or Sun eves, 7:30-9:30 pm on ZOOM

 

Class begins: Sun Nov 10 // Thurs Nov 14, 2024

 

For registration & questions,

contact Rabbi Sue Oren at introclass@earthlink.net or 1.917.539.1334

 

This class is co-sponsored by: 

BROOKLYN

Brooklyn Heights Synagogue, B’ShERT: Beth Shalom v’Emeth Reform Temple, East Midwood Jewish Center, Flatbush Jewish Center, Kane Street Synagogue, 

Kolot Chayeinu/Voices of Our Lives, Park Slope Jewish Center, Temple Sholom of Flatbush

QUEENS

Malkhut: progressive Jewish spirituality in Queens, The Reform Temple of Forest Hills, West End Temple-Sinai Congregation

We're thrilled to have RTFH as our newest school base offering full time childcare education for children aged 2-5 years old.

For more information

please call 718-569-5902,

E-mail melvillemontessori@gmail.com

or click here www.melvillemontessori.com

Birthday Connection


Acknowledge someone's special day by sponsoring a birthday greeting! 


 Each month, a list of Temple members celebrating birthdays is posted to the RTFH Birthday Connection. Simply click on the link, create or login to your Member's Account, and fill out the online form. Women's Connection will send that person a personalized Happy Birthday greeting to everyone who donated in their honor. At only $1 per greeting, Birthday Connection is an easy way to manage a monthly mitzvah for everyone on your list! 


Hard copies of Birthday Connection lists with instructions are available below and in plastic hanging bins in the lobby of the temple near the coat room or use the link below.


Send Birthday Wishes

Spearheaded by the Israel Support and Action Committee (ISAAC), our congregation supports Israel by giving to The Shiloni Project, a grassroots organization formed to meet the needs of displaced families and soldiers.

Please give generously by clicking here.
See the Israel page of our new website for more details.


See the Social Action Team's Worldwide Efforts page of our new website for ways you can help support Ukraine. 


Music Together at RTFH!


We are so thrilled to be in our RTFH home with our beloved

Music Together®️program! for Babies through 8 yr olds

 

Enroll Today!

MusicTogetherwithMusicandMe.com

718-229-0033

Thank you for your support of 

The Reform Temple of Forest Hills

 

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·Choose to make a donation in honor or in memory of a friend or family member, and the recipient will immediately receive a warm email notifying them of your donation.

 

·Yahrzeit Fund: send a donation in memory of loved ones, and a private note is instantly sent to the recipient!

 

· The Temple Office will provide tax benefit letters after the end of the year fully detailing your donations.