If you're feeling a bit exhausted these days, even though you haven't been "doing" as much as usual, you're not alone. The amount of readjusting and shifting happening both individually and collectively, internally and externally, can be just as, if not more, exhausting than running a marathon! We've been through a lot lately, and there is only more to come, so rest your weary soul as your body and mind require it.

One thing contributing to the exhaustion is the amount of information coming at us, with a relentless urgency and intensity - sometimes warranted, and sometimes not - that is wearing on our psyches. And because there is so much disparate and contradicting viewpoints, sources, opinions, censorship and filters it's increasingly challenging to tell the difference between what's true or not, and see through any lies and confusion and/or disinformation - which all takes extra energy. It's become nearly impossible to know what’s what except for the fact that we're being stirred up to be as polarized as possible.

Because we each affect one another, what you can do to help mitigate that disharmony, is to find the places within yourself and your own world where are you are polarized and disconnected. Where are you deceiving, deluding, denying and/or lying to yourself about any area of your life? Where can you make yourself more unified and WHOLE?

In other words, if you are feeling helpless or not in control, the best thing you can do right now for yourself, and the world, is focus on what truths you need to face about yourself and what you need to do to confront and heal them . This can be a painful and rude awakening, or maybe it’s a truth that you've known was there but you have chosen to be in denial about or ignore.

The only way that we are going to move forward in a healthy way individually and collectively is if everyone takes the responsibility for healing their own life. Because when we don’t do that, unresolved pain can manifest as illness, projection, hatred, violence, scapegoating and/or relying on someone or something else to fix it like a person, authority figure, drug or law. These are not the healthiest or most effective options to say the least...

Look, I’m not saying this is an easy thing to do (i.e. I've been to the mattresses with myself the past week or two and it ain't no picnic - not to mention the amount of Kleenex I've been through!), but because the way the Universe has set us up with these rare circumstances it is a prime opportunity that can go one of two ways: either sink deeper into repressing our wounds and treating them with our various addictive behaviors - which by the way, could be things as seemingly benign as Netflix, video games, social media scrolling, exercising, food etc. that distract and numb you - rather than using the current restrictions and limitations to dig deep, see what’s going on in your heart and where the inner work needs to be done to become as whole and healthy as possible.

The fact is, our country and the world cannot be whole until it’s citizens are whole. Until we are honest with ourselves how can we expect the government or anyone in a position of authority to be honest with us? We all need to do our part.

SO, for the PGG Video of the week, I talk about why you need to be honest with yourself, and for the Instagram post, a reminder about how this is a time of transformation . And if you're wondering what you can do to help usher in a better future , you can watch my answer to that question here . (Full recording of the talk here ).

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P.S. Need a little guidance and one-on-one support at this time? For info about working with me check out the website for my individual coaching services .
Also, since I have my first group Zoom talk under my belt and we haven't been able to meet IRL, I'll be offering virtual group coaching soon, so stay tuned for details!

And in case you missed these, you can read my PGG's that specifically address the current crisis: Quality Control: How to make the best of these times of quarantine and questioning, How to cope with (and benefit from) what you can't see during the time of corona , United We Stand . and Anatomy of Awareness . You can also check out The Pain of Being which talks about the George Floyd/BLM protests. Feel free to share those links (or any others) with anyone who could benefit <3
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Reality Bites
Originally published January 7, 2014

Truth is a deep kindness that teaches us to be content in our everyday life and share with the people the same happiness . ~ Khalil Gibran

If you look for truth, you may get comfort in the end; if you look for comfort you will not get truth only soft soap and wishful thinking to begin, and, in the end, despair . ~ C.S. Lewis

New Year’s always stirs up thoughts about what we want to change in our lives, but that means you need to have a good idea of what needs to change in the first place — and like the famous prayer says, have the serenity to accept the things you cannot change, the courage to change the things you can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

Getting to that accurate perception is the first step, and might actually be more important than making the change; therefore perhaps our work this year is to “snap out of it” and instead see ourselves, situations and people as they really are, not how we’d like them to be . Then and only then can real change begin.

Humans, especially 21st century versions, want what we want when we want it; our media and technology only makes this worse, fueling our impulses and imagination with its magnified distortion of time, place and interaction; they enable us to more easily delude ourselves in thinking our situation is one way when it is in fact another; when we think a job, our health, or a relationship is positive when it’s not, or vice versa. They distract us and makes us forget that anything lasting is a process and requires massive amounts of reflection, patience and perseverance.

As the biblical saying goes, “Know the truth and the truth shall set you free”. It’s not always fun getting there. Letting go of lifelong dreams and illusions as well as accepting ourselves, people and circumstances as they are — relinquishing any hope that they are or will become what or who you wish them to be — can be extremely painful and, in fact, feel like a death that you need to grieve.

The good news is that knowing and accepting the truth affords us a more profound, productive and meaningful life experience when we know what is real . When we live from that place we can then make better decisions about addressing any situation, how to improve it or let it go — the more accurate the assessment, the more effective the solution can be.

Because of my talent for connecting the dots, cutting through the “crap” and getting to the root of things quickly and directly , my clients might not like what I have to tell them at first — yet they always come back to me days, weeks or years later and admit it was not necessarily what they wanted to hear, but ultimately exactly what they needed at the time. (And saved them thousands of dollars in therapy!)

The truth can be overwhelming but once you acknowledge it, you can really start to move forward . So before you seriously embark any resolutions, begin there. It’s Strong Medicine to start off the year, but essential if you want to get healthy in any area of your life.

Feeling like A Change is Gonna Come , but not sure how to make it happen? Give me a buzz and I’ll be the doctor with the diagnosis and that spoon full of sugar to make the medicine go down! ❤

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