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(Phase I and Phase II participant reflection by Steve Beyerlein)
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STARTING POINT
Though I brought decades of experience in coaching and mentoring, I soon realized the primary aim of the Self-Growth Project was not about guiding others—but about courageously turning inward. Phases I and II encouraged me to examine the gap between my current self and my Ideal Self and intentionally move toward a better next self—my Horizon Self.
Leading up to the Self-Growth Project, I had spent several years drafting and redrafting retirement goals. These captured desired qualities across life roles, but I lacked clarity on how to meaningfully pursue them. I kept thinking: “If only I could be more stoic or more diligent.” But that approach wasn’t appealing—it was easy to delay action until tomorrow, next week, or next year.
MINDSET SHIFT
The Self-Growth Project helped me tackle the challenge of designing life just one week at a time. What made it transformational was realizing it wasn’t about piling on tasks or forcing change. It was about adopting naturalistic practices that helped me live more authentically and intentionally.
A key turning point came when I stopped treating tools as tasks—and began using them to truly listen to my life.
TRANSFORMATION IN DAILY PRACTICE
In my 35 years as a faculty member, journaling was irregular and project-driven. Through the Self-Growth Project, journaling became a source of serenity. Using prompts grounded in Naikan philosophy, I recorded not just what I did—but how my actions aligned with my values and intentions.
My inner critic gave way to a voice of gratitude and discernment. Community AI tools like the Insight Generator and Assessment Mentor brought clarity I didn’t know I was missing.
LIVING MY HORIZON SELF
My desire to be a growth coach for my grandchildren, a lay apostle in my community, and a mentoring partner to colleagues is no longer a distant ideal. It’s a consciousness I now inhabit—in reflection, family planning, coaching, and energizing fitness as well as wellness routines.
My weekly growth plans—once tactical checklists—now integrate spiritual, physical, and emotional intentions. These aren’t just calendar items to mark off. They’re invitations to practice becoming.
OBSTACLES
The journey hasn’t been without challenges—fear of failure, perfectionism, and reluctance to assert myself. But each week, I’ve found more courage to act with intuition, risk disapproval, and bring my full self into the moment. Reflection is no longer just retrospective—it’s more of a real-time performance practice.
BIGGEST BREAKTHROUGH
One of my deepest shifts came in how I engaged with discomfort—especially around aging, faith, and my role as a spouse. What once felt like emotional exposure now feels like spiritual presence. Daily check-ins based on feelings and perceptions, not self-righteousness, has become a channel for staying emotionally engaged (even when it hurts) and offering presence (without the urge to fix prematurely).
INSIGHT TO CARRY FORWARD
If I had to offer one insight to others: the practices that changed me weren’t flashy. They were right-sized and often imperfect—but they were aligned. That alignment has spawned celebrated progress rather than regret. It has amplified my joy, deepened my relationships, and broadened my impact.
VISION FOR WHAT’S NEXT
As we launch Phase III, I’m not primarily aiming for more growth. I’m aiming for deeper presence. I want to become the kind of person whose legacy is lived day by day—not written after the fact.
I believe Phase III offers us a chance to build a community of practitioners—where trusted spaces invite us to share our experience, strength, and hope not just occasionally, but rhythmically and organically.
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