5. Complaining – When I was a corporate manager, I’d tell my staff, “Don’t bring me your problems, bring me your solutions.” When you focus on negative things, you’re really setting yourself up for unhappiness. Instead, create a space and time to articulate your feelings in a healthy way; journal those thoughts and feelings or talk to a trust friend or colleague.
6. Control – When my husband, Jeff read this newsletter to proof it, he started laughing when he read this one, and said, “Really? You’re going to tell people to lose their need to control things? Are you going to practice what you preach?” I gave him the stink eye and replied, “I know I can’t control everything, but I can choose to control how I react, and I think I’m going to react badly to your comment.” Seriously, though you need to check-in on this one and remember not to beat yourself up when things don’t go your way and know that you are always in control of your actions…which of course speak louder than words!
7. Assuming – If you assume things will never get better then they won’t! According to brain scientist assuming saves brain energy. You draw on past experiences and find patterns on how the world works. When we encounter new situations, we apply these old patterns. The problem is that assuming can damage our capacity to relate to others authentically. Energy, like thoughts, follow intention. Take your assumptions and question their truth and legitimacy.