Jewish Community Center of Long Beach Island E-Letter



May 21, 2021
10 Sivan 5781



LET'S WALK THE BRIDGE:
A CHAVERAH EVENT
Sunday, May 23rd
10:00 AM
WEATHER PERMITTING

We will meet and park on the road by the Boat Yard (2304 E. Bay Avenue, Manahawkin - right hand turn going west after the Bonnet Island Estate and follow signs to Boat Yard).


We plan to walk to the top of the bridge and then return to the cars. You can of course continue to the the other side and then return.

A reservation at the Old Causeway Inn has been make for 11:30 AM for anyone who wants to join us for Brunch. If the weather is nice we can eat outside. Otherwise we can eat inside with socially spaced tables.



A MESSAGE FROM
THE RABBI
Dear Members of the JCC of LBI and Friends:
 
As I am writing this there has been an announcement that Israel and Hamas have agreed to a ceasefire. This is very good news. However, the events of these last 11 days in Israel, Gaza, here, and around the world, have left me with great sadness and with great trepidation. I have to add anger to the list of emotions. Anger at the physical and verbal violence Israelis and Non-Israeli Jews are being subjected to, and anger at the continuing double standard that Israel is being held to. There is anger at the reaction of some in Congress, and anger at the inaction of others in Congress, but great gratitude that Congress as a whole has been supportive of Israel in its time of need. There is anger at celebrities who should most certainly keep playing sports, singing songs, acting, or making jokes.
  
I fully support Israel as it fights yet another physical and public relations war. I urge you to do the same. At moments such as these, our brothers and sisters need our support. They need our support emotionally, intellectually, spiritually, and financially.
 
They need to hear from us. If you have family, friends, or acquaintances in Israel, reach out to them. Let them know you care. When the pandemic is over, they will need us to go to Israel and to hug them in person. 

For me, the most insufferable thing to have witnessed is that Hamas (a terrorist organization), and Israel (a sovereign nation) are viewed by the press, and much of the world, as moral equivalents. There is no moral equivalency Hamas indiscriminately launches rockets into Israel seeking to do maximum damage. This is because Hamas’ sworn goal is to destroy the Jewish State and to kill Jews. At the same time, Israel is forced to protect itself under rules of engagement that force its army to degrade Hamas’ military capabilities while at the same time avoiding as many civilian casualties as possible. Israel must do this despite the fact that Hamas intentionally places its facilities in areas densely populated by civilians. 

For Israel, it is an untenable situation. If it doesn’t attack, Hamas will continue its rocket barrages and kill more Israelis. Yet, if it does attack, the world will tell Israel that it is doing so out of proportion to the danger. (No other country is subject to such standards.)
In this regard, the number of posts that I have seen on social media that talk about the need for “proportionality” of the Israeli response (aka defense) is equally appalling. If someone is seeking to destroy a nation (and its citizens), that nation is permitted to do what is necessary to end the threat. For those who seek “proportionality”, I would imagine that their position would be different if those rockets forced them to run for bomb shelters.

To be clear, the death of any non-combatant, Israeli or Palestinian, is heartbreaking. Life, and the preservation of life, is a core Jewish value. This is why the IDF goes to such great lengths to prevent killing Palestinian civilians. But when a sovereign nation is attacked it is left no real choice.

Most of us do not remember a world without Israel. We have always known that we have a homeland to be proud of. We have always known that we can travel there and that, if we chose, we could live in a Jewish state. This is a blessing and a fact that we should never take lightly.
Israel’s ability to vigorously defend itself is important not just to Israel, but to Jewish people all over the world. One thing that has become clear over these last few days is that there are many people in the United States who do not support Israel. I fear that this number grows each day. Despite the fact that this current crisis appears to be winding down, I urge you to email and call your elected officials and make them know about your concern and the need for steadfast United States support of the Jewish homeland. Over the last few days, I reached out to my representatives no less than 4 times. Each call or email or letter counts.
 
No democracy is perfect. No country is perfect. The United States is not perfect. Israel is not perfect. However, the amount of vitriol levied against Israel over the last 11 days from all facets of life, entertainers, sports figures, politicians, academics, and “Allegedly” neutral news commentators, has been horrific. There is no way to characterize many of the comments other than as antisemitic. How people can label Israel as an “oppressor”, “colonialist”, or an “apartheid state” is inconceivable. It shows a complete ignorance of the terms and of history. And yet, they do. And they do it with conviction. The rhetoric is simplistic in form, shameful in manner, and disgraceful. 

There is no doubt that Israel is singled out because it is a Jewish state.

As a human and as a Jew, I am mindful of the fact that many Palestinians have suffered and are suffering. Caring for the stranger is a core Jewish value. 

Could Israel do more to reduce the Palestinian suffering? Maybe. Could the Palestinians do more to reduce Palestinian suffering? Yes. While, perhaps, Israel could do more, the world needs to remember that the history of the middle east is incredibly complicated and non-linear.
I don’t think that the people on college campuses, or who “like” the tweets of AOC, or enjoy the monologues of Trevor Noah or John Oliver, have any idea of the actual history of the Jewish people or of the State of Israel. Nor do they know the history of offers for peace made by Israel (since before the Declaration of the State of Israel in 1948) that were continually rejected by the leaders of the Arabs and of the Palestinians.
I think that most of these folks probably believe that Palestine (and Palestinians) always existed. They don’t know that the name “Palestine” was created by the Romans to disenfranchise the Judeans when they tried to kick the Judeans out of Judea in, or around, the second century. Nor do they know that, during the British Mandate, Jews were called Palestinians. Nor do they know that Arabs living in the area did not begin to refer to themselves as “Palestinians” until the middle of the 1960s.

One of the most sobering things about this most recent crisis is that it has impacted Jewish communities at home. Over the last week there has been a spike in antisemitic acts in the United States. Israel’s war has created a new excuse for the haters to step out of the shadows.
We may very well be on the precipice one of the more dangerous times in our history as Jews, and in the history of the land of Israel. Yes, a ceasefire has been agreed to. But the battle against Israel will continue. We will need to continue to vigilantly support and defend our homeland and our brothers and sisters. We will also need to deal with the growing antisemitism (from the right and the left) here at home.  
The first step to working on all of this is to be educated. If you need a primer on the history of Israel, Israel’s attempts to make peace, or the history of antisemitism, reach out to me. I can provide you with a list of books and/or articles.
The good news is that it is that there is a ceasefire and that it is almost Shabbat.
 
Get some rest, we will need it.

With concern, love and in solidarity –
Shabbat Shalom – Rabbi Michael S. Jay
SHABBAT SHALOM

Candle Lighting Time
Friday evening,
May 21, 2021
7:52 PM
So. Ocean County

JOIN US FOR SERVICES
May 21, 2021
6:00 PM
Kabbalat Shabbat
Here is 
your invitation from 
Rabbi Jay to
Join Zoom Services/Dinner

Saturday morning
May 22, 2021
Torah Study
9:00 AM
Services
10:00 AM
Here is 
your invitation from 
Rabbi Jay to
Join Zoom Torah Study/Services

A Lombardi will be reading Torah.

Torah Reading
Parashat Nasso
Numbers 4:21-7:89 
Here is the Reading

Haftorah
 Judges 13:2 - 13:25
Here is the Haftorah

Saturday evening
9:00 PM
Havdallah

Here is 
your invitation from 
Rabbi Jay to
Join Zoom Services

Sunday - Thursday
Ma'ariv Service
7:30 PM
Here is 
your invitation from 
Rabbi Jay to
Join Zoom Services:

Sunday - Friday
Shacharit Service
8:15 AM
Here is 
your invitation from 
Rabbi Jay to
Join Zoom Services:

WE ARE REOPENING THE SYNAGOGUE & GROUNDS
IN JUNE FOR IN-PERSON SHABBAT SERVICES

A letter was sent out this week to all members from the JCC President, Mike Babst.
We would like to share it with all our Shabbat Reminder readers.


Here is the in-person schedule.
Please note Zoom services will continue as well.

Friday, June 4
Parking lot service at 5:00 PM and 6:30 PM

Friday, June 11
Zoom only at 6:00 PM with Hazzan Geller

Friday, June 18
Parking lot service at 5:00 PM and 6:30 PM

Friday, June 25
SHABBAT ON THE BEACH 24th Street Beach at 6:00 PM

Saturday, June
5, 12, 19, 26
Services in the Sanctuary 
9:30 AM - 10:45 AM

RESERVATIONS ARE REQUIRED FOR ALL SERVICES.

ADDITIONAL INFORMATION WILL BE IN NEXT WEEK'S SHABBAT REMINDER

.THIS WEEK'S SCHEDULE

MONDAY 5/24
10:00 AM Chumash Class

WEDNESDAY 5/26
5:00 PM WAX Book Review

THURSDAY 5/27
11:00 AM Torah Study with the Rabbi
2:00 PM Beginning Hebrew with Ira
7:45 PM A Bisel Shtisel

The Wednesday evening University Class led by Rabbi Jay which delved into the program from the Hartman Institute on the Palestinian-Israeli Conflict has been completed. We had a fascinating time learning together. The topic could not have been more timely.
HERE ARE THE LINKS FOR THE ACTIVITIES FOR THIS WEEK
MAY ACTIVITIES
MOVIE NITE
7:45 PM
SHTISEL CONTINUES.....
May 27 - Mother and Daughter: Giti and Rachami
June 3 -The Abba and his Brother: Shulem and Nukhem

Note: The Shtisel discussions have been moved forward since we discussed Israel last week.

WAX BOOK REVIEW
Wednesday, May 26
5:00 PM
"The Third Daughter"
by Talia Carner
 A frightening journey into the New World of the late 1800s, told by a trusting young woman lured from Russia and forced into prostitution in Buenos Aires. As she finds courage in the face of danger and hope in hours of despair, Batya struggles to free herself from bondage while bringing down the powerful pimps’ union. The turn of the 20th century finds fourteen-year-old Batya in the Russian countryside, fleeing with her family endless pogroms.

LOOKING FORWARD TO JUNE

Thursday, June 17 at 7:45 PM

SUSAN & FRIENDS 2021
THE MEN SPEAK OUT"

EDMUND A. HAJIM
author, financier and philanthropist will discuss his book
"On the Road Less Traveled: An Unlikely Journey from the Orphanage to the Boardroom "


UTHE WOMEN'S AUXILIARY
OF THE
JCC OF LBI
Community Shabbat Dinner
Friday, June 11, 2021
We will start our evening with the blessings and services and to make this evening even more special, Cantor Geller will be joining us. Please join us as Cantor Geller will teach us special Shabbat z’merot (songs). Following our services, there is a period of sharing your Shabbat dinner with family and friends in a breakout room. If you have no specific request and are open to making new friends, please respond to this email and we will arrange for you to be seated with a fabulous group of people. 
 
Please click on this link and fill in the form by Friday, June 11 at 3:00 PM. List your name(s), (couple(s) or single(s), and include the names of friends and family to be included in your private breakout room or send an email to: JCCOFLBIShabbatDinner
 
Or join at the last minute, all are welcome!
 
This is our ninth celebration of this type of event, hoping to see you then!!! If you have any questions, please feel free to contact Rabbi Jay (973) 865-9534 or Irene B. at (856) 904-5145 for dining arrangements.
 
Click this link to join our Friday night Shabbat Service/Dinner.
 
Rabbi Jay and Sheri
Michael and Irene B.
THIS WEEK'S YAHRZEITS

The following names will be read at Friday night services.
Bertram Stern Lowe
Gertrude Miller
Eve Robinson
Terry Shapiro
Lena Sobelsky
Anna Gubar*
Edward Oertell
Jeanne Paris
Beverly Rosenstein
Jennie Schlanger*
Leo Baron
Morris Brounstein
Sadie Chalek
Bernard Diamond
Jenny Kessler
Diane Korn
Avram Shatz
David Cohen
William Feather*
Jessica Fields
Celie Nelson
Samuel Starr*
Grace Berman
Dr. Raul Fleischmajer
Hilde Hess Lewisohn
Sylvia Marcus
Gene Mendlow*
Ida Opatosky
Leonard Ostreicher
Murray Rosenthal
Barbara Cohen
Joseph Herman
 
In this Zoom era, we have been able to have a daily minyan at 8:15 AM and at 7:30 PM and on Shabbat. We encourage you to join us on the day of your loved one’s yahrzeit. In the morning, the service is about ½ hour beginning at 8:15 and in the evening at 7:30 until about 7:45. Rabbi will be glad to say the traditional El Malei Rachamim prayer for you, which is recited during the funeral, going up to the grave of the departed, Yizkor remembrance day and other occasions on which the memory of the dead is recalled. You are also welcome to share with the minyan some special memories of your loved one. 



Cake
Carol Barsh
May 22
Lawrence Garb
May 22
Michael Miller
May 22
Deede Schneider Rothenberg
May 23
Toby Slomovitz
May 23
Karen Shatz
May 27
Zee Jay Greenspan
May 28
Harriet Sklar
May 28
 
CONDOLENCES TO

ELLIE GARRY
on the loss of her mother
Belle Gesselman
"May God remember forever our dear ones who have gone to their eternal rest. May they be at one with the One who is life eternal. May the beauty of their lives shine for evermore, and may our lives always 
bring honor to their memory."

MAZEL TOV TO

JENNIFER & JOHN MILLNER
on the marriage of their son
Dr. Steven Millner to
Shelby Heary
Memorial Day Weekend

SHARE YOUR NEWS
AND PICTURES
CONTACT: 

CARING COMMITTEE
  This committee acts as a support system for congregation members facing illness and other personal situations that need to be addressed.
Please contact Chairperson,
Debby Schweighardt
if you are in need of assistance or if you know of a JCC member
that needs our help.
973-634-5349 

GIVING OPPORTUNITIES

PAVERS
Inscribe a paver at the front entrance to the building
8" X 4", 8" X 8" and 12" X 12"

SEE UPDATED ORDER FORM:
Become a permanent part of the JCC landscape.
Purchase a personalized paving stone
in honor of your family or in memory of a loved one.

Please contact Diane Hoffman
with your order or with any questions:


PRAYER BOOKS
There are still High Holiday Prayer Books and Chumashim available to be purchased in memory or honor of someone or something. The cost of a Prayer Book is $72 each and $120 for an Eitz Hayim Chumash. The donation includes an affirmation sticker in the book and an acknowledgement letter or letters.
See Order form here: Prayer Book


TRIBUTES
SEND ONE OF OUR TRIBUTES IN HONOR OR IN MEMORY OF
See order form here: TRIBUTES


TREE OF LIFE
Add a leaf (leaves) to our beautiful Tree of Life located in the Social Hall. See the order form here: TREE OF LIFE
Bronze Leaf $90
Silver Leaf $126
Gold :Leaf $180


ENDOWMENT FUND - NEW INFORMATION !!!!!!!

Herb and Selma z”l Shapiro established the first individual Endowment Fund in memory of his father, as part of the JCC’s Endowment Fund portfolio. Judith z”l & Donald Pripstein joined the Shapiros and established The Pripstein Family Endowment Fund. 

As recently reported, Don Pripstein pledged another $50,000 to establish The Judith & Donald Pripstein Endowment Fund.

As a result of Don’s letter, another member has stepped forward to establish an individual Fund. He pledged $50,000 and made a substantial first payment. The announcement of this will take place as soon as all the naming particulars are decided.

A donation of at least $50,000 to the endowment fund will allow the donor to name one of the funds as the donor wishes. All such named funds will be joined together to be part of the Endowment Fund portfolio.
 
Endowment funds are necessary to ensure the continuation and well being of our congregation. All members are encouraged to help this important effort by contributing to this portfolio, whether as a specific named individual fund, or as a general donation. The donation can be spread over one, two, or three years, and can be paid via check, donation of appreciated stock, wills, or from the RMD of your IRA or 401K account. Your gift to the fund can be sent to the JCC Office. Please mark your check accordingly. 


YAHRZEIT PLAQUES
Space is available for memorial plaques on the yahrzeit boards in the Sanctuary. 
Here is the order form: 


KOL HAKAVOD

Please consider being a part of this campaign to supplement the clergy needs of our congregation. This is a separate, voluntary commitment and is additional to our low annual dues obligation. HERE IS THE LINK TO BRING UP THE DONATION FORM KOL HAKAVOD

JCC FUNDS

Your gift to the JCC support our Clergy, our Congregation and the Community.

ENDOWMENT FUND
This fund was established to assure the continuity of our JCC, and our ability to continue providing a full-service congregation to serve the Jewish people of the area. While a donation of any amount is encouraged, a donation of at least $50,000 allows the donor to name a special or specific Endowment Fund in memory or honor of a specific person event, or family.

GENERAL FUND
Donations to this fund are not earmarked but placed in the general administrative account. Donations to this fund can be in honor or memory of a person, event, or family.

KOL HAKAVOD FUND
Donations to this campaign supplement the clergy needs of our congregation.

RABBI’S DISCRETIONARY FUND
This fund, managed by the rabbi, allows donors to enable the rabbi to do the work of tzedakah in response to the needs of individuals, organizations and the community.

ZENA & JERRY JAY KIDDISH FUND
The Zena and Jerry Jay Kiddush Fund was established in memory of Rabbi Jay's parents to help provide funds for our Saturday morning kiddushes.
The Pergula on the JCC property is for sale. $600.00. Contact Sherry for further information
fsherryf@yahoo.com
JCC INFORMATION
THE JCC OF LBI IS LOCATED AT
2411 Long Beach Boulevard (24th Street)
Spray Beach, NJ 08008
Telephone: 609-492-4090 FAX: 609-492-7550
web site: www.jccoflbi.org  
  
THE OFFICE IS TEMPORARILY CLOSED.
PLEASE USE THE PHONE OR EMAIL WITH REQUESTS.
OUR OFFICE STAFF WILL BE CHECKING IN REGULARLY.
  Staff:
 Leslie Dinkfelt, Office Manager
  Mary Beth Krieger, Staff Member
Tony DeGregorio, Custodial Staff
Kitchen Manager: Susan Berube

USEFUL LINKS
LATEST
BULLETIN:

PRAYER BOOK:
 
WEB SITE:

PAVERS:

TREE OF LIFE
  
YAHRZEIT PLAQUE FORM:

KOL HAKAVOD DONATION FORM
KOL HAKAVOD

TRIBUTES:


CONTACT INFORMATION:
  Rabbi Michael S. Jay

Michael Babst, President

 
E-mail Editor: Rose Valentine 
rvalen1963@aol.com