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If you need to contact Rabbi Brickman in between his visits to Pinehurst, please do not hesitate to do so via phone or email  



cell phone: 917.533.4120

Express your feelings with personalized SJC Cards.  
All cards are a donation to our Temple. 

Send a minimum donation
of $10 per card to   
P.O. Box 2121, Pinehurst, NC 28370 

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Contact Amy Lorber

with requests at

or 910-673-2678

Prayer B
ook Dedicati on

A $54.00 donation (3 times chai) to our Prayer Book Fund provides the sponsor an opportunity to dedicate a book in someone's honor or memory or to highlight a life cycle event.  A special bookplate will be affixed to the inside cover recognizing this gift.
For those interested in purchasing a book, please send a check of $54.00 to the congregation's mailing address (PO Box 2121, Pinehurst, NC, 28370) and include the following information:
  • Name of inscriber(s) - how you want it on the bookplate
  • Name of honoree or person being remembered
  • Reason for the inscription
For more information on making a dedication click here
Honoring the Yahrzeit of a loved one is a wonderful Jewish tradition.    It is a mitzvah to remember your loved one with tzedakah in their memory.  A donation of at least $18.00 chai is suggested.

You can now make a donation via paypal by ciicking here
Rabbi: Ken Brickman
Bernie Rosenblum
Vice President:
Barbara Rothbeind
Audrey Kessler
Kevin Price
President Emeritus:
Lowell Simon
Amy Walters
Religious Programs:
Mindy Fineman 
Michelle Goetzl 
Marcey Katzman  
Building & Grounds:
Sheldon Rappaport
Ira Rozycki
Bonnie Gillman  
June, 2018
Several years ago I was at LaGuardia Airport waiting, along with a multitude of others, for a flight that had been delayed.  It was chaotic.  In the hubbub of passengers trying to reschedule, quiet restless children, or line up for food, I was scrambling to find a seat.  I found one between two women, one a bit younger, one a bit older, and we started talking as a way to calm our frustrations.  It must have been karma because they were both Jewish and, of course, that is what we talked about.   The younger woman was Modern Orthodox and told us about her arranged marriage and some of her traditions; the other was very unobservant.  As we shared our feelings, a momentary bond was created between us.  Later, as flights were being reinstated and we were getting ready to line up, the young woman asked the two of us if we celebrated Shabbat.  At that time, my children were grown and our Friday ritual had changed, so I said not always.  The other woman indicated not at all.  Our new friend told us to light candles on shabbat - that way we would always remember our LaGuardia experience.  And I have not forgotten.
A recent article in Ten Minutes of Torah that I receive every day online helped me relive that memory.  It dealt with the origins of the Sabbath and it piqued my interest.  What are the origins, was the Sabbath celebrated in antiquity, and if so, how?
According to Rabbi Rifat Sonsino in his book " And God Spoke These Words", the Sabbath is one of Judaism's greatest gifts to humanity.  People in the ancient Near East had nothing similar to the Jewish concept of a weekly sacred day of rest.  However, the origin of the word is obscure.  Some say it was ordained by God in the bible, others say that it was adopted from other people. In   reality, he contends, we do not know how pervasive Sabbath observance was in biblical times, but there is evidence in the Book of Amos, 8th cent. BCE, which indicates that by this time, Sabbath was observed by the Israelites.   
After 70 CE, when Romans destroyed the Temple in Jerusalem, the ancient rabbis worked to establish and adapt biblical traditions.  In the process they created the foundation of rabbinic Judaism, which serves as the basis of modern Jewish life - and one of the major precepts was observance of Shabbat.   In the midst of how the Israelites were building the Tabernacle, the rabbis of antiquity deduced that all labors necessary for constructing should serve as the blueprint for Shabbat prohibitions.  There could be no creating, making fire, plowing, gathering wood. 
In our modern world, while Friday and Saturday come automatically, we have to make Shabbat happen.  Today, with our hectic schedules, that is not always easy.  When my son and daughter were small, Shabbat was celebrated at Grandma Fran and Grandpa Aaron's house - no matter what!   And it was special.  That is where my daughter learned to recite the blessing over the candles, in her grandmother's tradition, and my son tried to emulate the dramatic way his grandfather sang the blessing over the wine!  There was always a "conference" between grandparents and grandchildren at the end of the meal, when it was decided that there would also be a sleepover, which was great for mom and dad, too!  But all families don't have the luxury of living close and making their own traditions and memories.  
While the history and modern observance of Shabbat is really in Rabbi Brickman's bailiwick, and I hope I have represented the facts accurately, I think most would agree that from biblical to modern times, Shabbat celebration constitutes both personal and communal identity.  When our congregation gathers on the third Friday of the month to celebrate Shabbat in Sandhills Jewish Congregation style, and we sing and pray as an extended family, the spirit and spirituality of the holiday is so meaningful.  As we hug our neighbor and say "Shabbat Shalom" truly, at that moment, in our little corner of the world, all is at peace.  

President's Message

Recently I have felt like the "wandering Jew". On Memorial Day Jackie and I drove up to Washington D.C. which I vow I will never do again as the last thirty miles took us two and one half hours. We went up to attend my oldest friends grandson's Bar Mitzvah. Five days later I flew to Canada to attend the retirement party for the Rabbi I had hired when I chaired the Pulpit Committee twenty five years ago. The two Congregations and facilities could not have been more different. In Washington the main sanctuary could easily seat over two thousand congregants, while the one in Canada is just a little bit bigger than our own Temple. Despite the discrepancy in size, at both affairs I felt wrapped in a warm cocoon of "Jewishness", familiarity and belonging as we chanted the same melodies and performed the same rituals as we practice in the Sandhills, and for that matter, throughout the world. Even though many of the faces were unfamiliar the feeling of belonging was overwhelming. It is my hope, and I have great confidence, that when strangers and visitors to our Temple gather for prayer with us that they leave with that same wonderful feeling I experienced in Washington and Canada.
  Stay well,
Rabbi's Message
When I was in Rabbinic School, I had a classmate who was dating a man whose family celebrated the anniversaries of their sons' Bar Mitzvahs.  At the time her boyfriend was turning 23 and the family hosted a large party in celebration of the 10th anniversary of his Bar Mitzvah.  I had never heard of that custom and to be honest I have not heard of it since.  However as I celebrate the 50th anniversary of my Bar Mitzvah, I am thinking that perhaps the anniversaries of life cycle events besides birthdays and weddings are worthy of celebration.  On June 15, 1968, I stood on the pulpit of Temple Emanuel in Worcester, Massachusetts and became a Bar Mitzvah.   As a result of the post war baby boom there were so many young men becoming Bar Mitzvah (Girls were not yet allowed to become Bat Mitzvah, at least at my temple.) that we all had to share our Bar Mitzvah services. 
As a sign of how things have changed since then, the rabbi only allowed luncheon receptions immediately following the service at which music was not allowed.  Evening parties were also not allowed.  In those days, the respect given to the rabbi of our congregation was such that no one would ever challenge these rules.  When we sold my parents' home we discovered that my mother had recorded every detail of my Bar Mitzvah reception.  The gift list indicated that most people gave me $5.00.  Some gave $10.00.  Others purchased a $25.00 United States Savings Bond which cost around $18.00.  A couple of very wealthy guests gave me the whole $25.00 so I would not have to wait for the savings bond to mature.  If these gifts seem miserly, you must know that my mother also saved the bill from the caterer.  The luncheon which was strictly kosher only cost about $6.00 a person, so the gifts were in keeping with the old rule of thumb that one's gift should cover the cost of your meal for such an event.
Sadly many of those who shared that milestone with me have passed on.  Nevertheless, recalling that day on which I became a man in the Jewish community, fountain pen and all, still makes me smile.  I guess that was the day on which I took my first step on the road that led me to the rabbinate.  Throughout my career I have stood on the pulpit with many young men and women becoming Bar/Bat Mitzvah.  Though obviously much has changed in the 50 years since I reached that milestone, it is still a transformative moment in the life of the celebrant and the family.  So while the caterer's bill may have increased substantially and the gifts have grown proportionately, the meaning of the event remains as it always has been - the moment when a young person stands before our community and takes his/her place in the long chain of our tradition.

Rabbi Ken Brickman 
Upcoming Events    
  • Friday, June 22, 7 PM Shabbat Services
    Oneg Shabbat Hosts - Alex & Trudi Porter,
    Shelly & Sheila Rappaport, Marc Benard & Jan Winter
  • Saturday, June 23, 10 AM - Torah Study
  • Sunday, June 24, 10 AM - Annual Meeting
  • Sunday, September 23, 2 PM - Book Club
Congregational Happenings

Cooking with Carol
                                                                                           ...the tasters celebrating Shavuot
 ...the bakers,


On Thursday, May 17th a group of our SJC bakers gathered with Carol Pierce to prepare cheesecakes to be served after Shavuot Services on Sunday, May 20th.  The baking session was both informative and lots of fun.  But the best part was enjoying the results.  There were four varieties available for tasting: Ricotta, No Bake, Basic, Pineapple Upside Down, and no one could decide which one was the best - because they were all exceptionally delicious!


Caring for our Kitchen
Following is a wish list of items that our kitchen could use.  Call it a "Kitchen Shower"! 
  • spring form pans
  • cutlery tray organizer for drawers
  • teaspoons
  • soup pot
  • toaster/toaster oven
  • hand mixer
  • dust buster
  • plastic storage bins

Call Audrey Shalikar at 732-991-0691 if you would like to give the kitchen a gift.   


A special Thank you to Chip and Beverly Mirman for their donations of brooms, dustpans, measuring cups, measuring spoon sets, sponges.  They will get a lot of use.  


Lunch Bunch

The SJC Ladies Lunch Bunch had their June gathering at Pinehurst Country Club.  It was a beautiful day to sit on the veranda and enjoy good food and interesting conversation.  The next lunch will be held Thursday, July 5th, 11:30 AM at Nina's Classic Cuisine,
122 Central Park Avenue in Pinehurst.  Please join us.  Email Jeanne Skirboll at or call 412-491-7480.

Book Club

The Book Club will resume after the High Holidays, on Sunday, September 23rd at 2 PM, at the home of Barbara and Matthew Rothbeind. 

The book that has been selected is Ten Years Gone by Jonathan Dunsky.
Jonathan Dunsky is the author of three crime novels,  all mysteries taking place in the early days of the State of Israel and featuring private investigator Adam Lapid, a Holocaust survivor and former soldier and Nazi hunter.  It is an exciting read and "detective Adam Lapid" creates a bond with his readers.   
Born in Israel, Mr. Dunsky, served for four years in the Israeli Army.  He holds a degree in computer sciences and business. He's lived for several years in Europe and currently resides in Israel with his wife and two sons.
Cards from the Congregation

A SJC Greeting Card can send wishes for birthdays, anniversaries, congratulations, good health, thank you, and condolences - or any other occasion that you might have.  And what a perfect way to express your feelings.   There are beautiful selections - some utilizing the artwork of our congregants.  You can even personalize a card by using your own picture, as they are produced by Shutterfly.  You can send one to anyone, anywhere, they are not just for temple members.  Remember this option when you want the perfect way to send a special message.  And  you are supporting the Temple at the same time.  A $10.00 card earns the congregation almost $7.00.

To send a card, contact Amy Lorber at or 910-673-2678.   
Member News
Susie Gordon would like to thank everyone in her Temple family for their prayers, good wishes,  meals, flowers, calls, texts and cards during her recent illness.  The good thoughts helped put her on the road to a speedy recovery and she is very appreciative.

Congratulations to Sheila and Shelly Rappaport who observed their 60th wedding anniversary on June 15th.  May they continue to celebrate in good health.

We are excited to announce that we have launched a new website for the Temple - The goal was to create a website that would entice prospective temple members to join our congregation and to have a site that was easy to navigate for our members. We believe that it is very user friendly for all mobile devices. Now for the first time you will be able to access information that was not possible in the past.  
You should have received a memo via email as a quick reference guide.

One key item of information that we will include here is details on how to access the membership portal. One link on the top navigational bar is called MemberPortal. If you click on that, you will be asked to input a password. The password for everyone in the congregation is SJC18. From here, you can access our membership directory, photo albums, newsletters, and the yahrzeit list. There is also a link to make a donation to the temple if you choose.

If you have any questions or need any assistance navigating through the site, please contact Amy Walters at or call (301) 229-9656.
The website was designed by Parker Wallman.   

April Yahrzeits

We remember loved ones during our  June Shabbat services...
06/01  Monroe Flaster
06/02  Nathan Lipson
06/04  Samuel Sander
06/05  Abraham Alan Gordon
06/08  Michael Poteat
06/09  Philip Rogow
06/12  Clair Weisser
06/12  Roland Deutsch
06/14  Samuel Tenzer
06/18  Milton Bloom
06/19  Irene Rothbeind
06/22  Andrew Jonathan Prince
06/23  Marilyn Ulrich
06/28  Harris Weston
06/30  Esther Tenzer
06/30  Mollie Sessler
06/30  Ruth Porter 

Thank you to those who donated during the month of May. 


  • Karl & Harriet Ecker
  • Pete Sessler & Mindy Fineman
  • Mitch & Kathleen Fox
  • Ralph & Vivian Jacobsen
  • George & Kathy Poteat
  • Kevin & Susan Price
  • Lynn Reiger
  • Matthew & Barbara Rothbeind
  • Chuck & Amy Walters

 Rabbinic Fund

  • Sheila & Shelly Rappaport
  • Terry Canter, in memory of Herbert M. Canter
  • Paul Rogow & Carol Gemson, in memory of Bennett Gemson
  • Ione Katz, in memory of Robert Katz
  • George & Audrey Kessler, in memory of Fannie Koblenz and Etta Nathenson
  • Donald & Carol Pierce, in memory of Ellen Trazenfeld
General Donations
  • Mark Adel & Liberty Tax
  • Shea & Amanda Jones
  • Donald & Carol Pierce
  • Shelly & Sheila Rappaport

Events in the Community

Givens/Tuffs Library  
The summer heat is here!
Stay cool this summer with books from the Given Memorial Library or Given Book Shop!
Be even cooler as you participate in our cool events and programs. 
-June Events  
Alzheimer's Workshops, Saturdays, June 9, 16, 23, 30, 10 - 11:30,  
Given Memorial Library, 150 Cherokee Rd.  Learn about Dementia, Alzheimer's and caregiving.  Lectures presented by Chris Englefried, M.S.W.  Topics explore all aspects of these conditions.  This event is free but space is limited.  Call Chris to reserve a spot at 910-235-4242.  
Summer Camp - Moore Fun for Given Kids, Monday - Friday, June 18 - 22, 9:30 - Noon Given Memorial Library, 150 Cherokee Rd.  For rising 2nd-3rd graders.  Crafts and activities includes planting seeds, making music in the garden and creative cooking.  Sign up in the library or at  There is still room but registration ends soon.  
For more information,  click here  
Farmers on the Green - A Taste of NC, Thursday, June 21st, 6:30 PM
Event features a NC based Farm to Table meal on the Pinehurst Village Green, downtown Pinehurst.  Food is expertly prepared by Mark Elliott of Elliott's on Linden.  There is a representation of local farmers.  Tickets are $80.00, includes taxes and 1 drink ticket, available at Tufts archieves.
For more information, click here 
Story Time, Thursday, June 28, 10:30 AM, Given Memorial Library, 150 Cherokee Rd.
Wonderful volunteers share their love of reading with children ages 3 - 5, free to public.
June Book Sales at the Given Outpost & Book Shop, 95 Cherokee Rd.   
Monthly sale: cookbooks, health, fitness and self help - buy 1 get 1.  Author highlight:
Jodi Picoult & Robert Parker - buy 1 get 1
June Calendar, click here  
-July Events
Saturday Kids Program - Maker Saturday, July 7, 10 - Noon, Given Memorial Library,  
150 Cherokee Rd. Pinehurst.  Stop by and see what you can make.  Bring a friend, this is free.
Gathering at Given - Bringing world-renowned musicians to the Sandhills, Thursday,
July 12, 3:30 PM, Given Memorial Library, 150 Cherokee Rd. 
 In partnership with OutreachNC Magazine, Rooster's Wife venue owner Janet Kenworthy and singer/songwriter Laurelyn Dossett will discuss careers in the music industry. OutreachNC editor Corbie Hill moderates, and Laurelyn will perform a few songs.  Afternoon only!
Summer Camp - Moore Fun for Given Kids, Monday - Friday, July 16 - 20, 9:30 - Noon
Given Memorial Library, 150 Cherokee rd.  For rising 4th-5th graders, crafts and activities such as being an animal during yoga, planting seeds, making music in the garden and creative cooking. Sign up in the library or at  There is still room but registration ends soon so please sign up asap.  
For more information, click here 
This month is featuring Beach Reads - books for the pool, beach or shade.  Monthly sale: paperbacks - buy 1 get 1.  
For July calendar, click here  
* New member Susan Miles, along with her husband Tom, have relocated their company Belevation to Biscoe, NC.  Manufacturers of direct to consumer support garments for expectant moms, it can be accessed from their website ( or Amazon, and you can like Belevation on Facebook.  Visit their site to see their most popular items for spring.

* Gary Miljour is a local mortgage lender with loanDepot in Southern Pines.  If you are in need of mortgage financing to buy a home or need to discuss other mortgage options, please feel free to reach him at 480-251-0002 (cell) or reach him online at for a free consultation.  He has been helping clients with mortgage loans for over 13 years.  (NMLS#207208).

* Looking for books for your kids or grandkids? Michelle Goetzl is an independent consultant with Usborne Books & More and a children's book expert. She can help you find the perfect book for every occasion and child. (910) 691-4711
*Liberty Tax on 5, locally owned by Mark & Camelia Adel. Specializing in Small Business, Corporate, and Non-Profit Tax Returns. Conveniently located near the bowling alley on Hwy 5. Call 910-235-5428 or e-mail to Mention this and we'll take $20 off your fees PLUS a portion of those fees will be donated back to the SJC!

* Shelly Rappaport continues to add new styles to his Custom Handmade Woodwork. In addition to his custom made toys, banks and infant toys, he has new styles of menorahs, candle sticks, platters, bowls, wine stoppers, etc.  It is a One Stop Gift Shop.  Check them all out at or contact Shelly at 
(910) 603-6361.  Please note many items are not listed on ETSY so for more information, give Shelly a call.  
* Need a reliable handyman? Lee Sawyer is your guy for a wide variety of jobs. Contact him at or on his cell at 910-691-1534
* Rediscover the Thyme & Place Cafe, which has a new chef and a new menu with vegetarian and vegan options.  Proprietor Leslie Philip would be happy to cater a private event, become your personal chef or create a life-cycle celebration in the cafe.  Hours: Tuesday thru Saturday,  
10 AM - 2 PM, 155 Hall Avenue, Southern Pines. 
* Do you need a server, bartender, coordinator, or planner? Contact Audrey Shalikar for all of your entertainment and party planning needs. Call Audrey @ 910-400-5353 or cell: 732-991-0691.
* Sue Deutsch has created a website that provides a single source for listings of events, happenings and activities in the area.  Please visit and like The Pines Times on Facebook.   
* Travel With Flair * Amy Sawyer, Owner * * 910-221-9754
Specializing in journeys, weddings and honeymoons of distinction. Certified Tahiti Tiare Agent.
* Sitter Services - Audrey Shalikar is available to provide exemplary babysitting for kids and grandkids, for adults in need, as well as pet sitting and house sitting. She offers companionship and can help with cooking, tasks around the house, in the garden, shopping, errands and whatever else might be useful. People, homes & pets of all kinds..... call Audrey Shalikar @ 910-400-5353 or cell: 732-991-0691.
Ellen Pfann opened her own company, Best In Show Homes. Ellen has been in the business for 12 years, and has seen a lot of changes, and sold a lot of houses.  Visit or LIKE Best in Show Home on Facebook.