The holidays, as we know, can be the most stressful time of year. Many people are depressed or worse, which is something we need to keep in mind in our communications with them. This can even extend to the way we wish them season's greetings. See the article below from
https://optionb.org, a nonprofit initiative dedicated to helping people build resilience in the face of adversity.
When a friend or loved one is going through a hard time, the usual season's greetings -- "Merry Christmas!" "Happy Hanukkah!"-may not feel right. Still, you can find a kind and meaningful way to acknowledge the holidays. Try some of these phrases instead.
When you want to acknowledge the holidays
Your friend may not feel like participating in holiday events-or maybe they're doing their best to maintain high spirits or to create new traditions to replace the old. However they feel about the holidays, it can comfort them to know that you're thinking about them and that you're there if they need you.
Instead of:
"Happy holidays"
Try:
"I'm thinking of you, especially during the holidays."
"I imagine this Christmas/Hanukkah/Kwanzaa/New Year is tough for you. How are you doing today?"
"This might not be your best holiday ever, but I'm thinking of you and wishing you the best New Year possible."
When you want to cheer them up
When someone goes through a life-changing event, it makes sense that the holidays will change for them, too. Let your friend know you're there for them, however they feel or whatever they want to do. It's okay if they don't feel like celebrating-putting on a happy face might not be realistic or helpful. Plus, research shows that expressing feelings honestly can help people heal.1
Instead of:
"Where's your holiday spirit?"
"Cheer up! It's the holidays!"
Try:
"It's okay for you to feel however you feel this holiday season. I'm here for you."
"I want to spend time with you this holiday season, no matter how you're feeling."
