Most of us can't - and don't - go running to a therapist every time there's something on our hearts and in our heads. We would be there every day! Some people do run to a therapist. Some call a friend. Some run to their mom. Some reach for meds. Some hide under the covers. Some go to a sister's house. Some pour the wine. Some retreat. Some go wild.
But we're all running our heads into the wall as we hold onto "it."
Can we self-heal when there's a heavy something emotionally weighing us down? Or does it usually require an outside source?
How can we self-heal?
When I could not shake off a heavy heart from greatly missing my daughter (who lives on the other side of the country and who I had not seen since Christmas 2019 - thank you, stupid pandemic), I wanted to help heal me. I simply could not hang out in that funk & junk & muck anymore.
How?
- I vented it out with a few close friends (good listeners only need apply!).
- I found peaceful settings (the beach helped dramatically).
- I stopped focusing on the missing 'dread' twenty-four-seven-every-waking-freakin-minute (we only add energy to it when we do that).
- I chose a different action besides continuing to whine (ask ourselves: how else might we spin it?).
- I booked a flight to Arizona.
That last thing helped me the most ... visiting my daughter. I did so in March for a week and felt absolutely better and calmer. I met her environment, saw her apartment, visited her at work, we walked around town through the leftover (and new) snow, spent a day on the slopes, spent time with her friends, and performed a LOT of "therapy shopping" together. I attempted to better understand why she chooses to live in Arizona so far away from "the family" and to notice what she likes about the area.
Do I still miss her drastically? Yes. Do I still want to see her again asap? Yes. Yet the absolute best thing for me was to stop whining about it and cease focusing on it SO MUCH. And I was doing that - SO MUCH. (Have you ever gotten on your own nerves? Become sick of hearing yourself? Yep, like that.) I kept saying, "I can't shake this funk, can't shake it." Yet I wasn't trying to either.
I preach this over and over, snippeteers - that the universe is listening to us. That WE are listening to us. What we tell it, what we tell us - boomerangs back. What we say or think or focus on ... helps us to hold onto it longer and stronger. The universe was listening to me whine which only exasperated everything - it made me miss her more and to feel like a bigger cry-baby. NONE of it was serving me well.
(Cry-baby, cry-baby, wipe your eyes, baby ...)
Whatever is emotionally weighing you down - face it - stand up to it - vent about it - visit it - understand it ... then take a different action & perspective. Spin it differently. Serve yourself better.
Can we self-heal? You betcha, babes.
