September 2018 INDEPENDENCE HOUSE NEWS

"HEAR MY VOICE" at the 18th Annual Independence House Domestic Violence Awareness Month Community Breakfast on October 4th

Please join Independence House for our annual signature event as we host the 18th Annual Independence House  Domestic Violence Awareness Month Community Breakfast.  Sponsored by the Cape Cod Five Cent Savings Bank Charitable Foundation Trust, this free community event will take place on Thursday, October 4, 2018 from 8:00-10:00am at the Doubletree by Hilton in Hyannis. 

This year's community breakfast theme "Hear My Voice" will present a multi-demographic panel of survivors
who will share their stories of violence and abuse. T
he event will conclude with a candle lighting in remembrance of the domestic violence homicides that occurred  in Massachusetts this past year. The Independence House Silent Witness display will begin it's annual tour across Cape Cod at the breakfast with each Silent Witness figure representing homicide victims.  

This event is FREE by RSVP only.  To RSVP, please send an email to Donna at donnag@indhouse.net with your request to attend, and include full name, any company and position title if applicable, address, phone and email.  You will receive an email confirmation back that your reservation is received and confirmed.

Captain Fantastic-The Magic of Elton John to benefit Independence House and Cape Cod Synagogue on Oct 20 

Independence House and the Cape Cod Synagogue are joining together for a 2nd year in a collaborative fundraiser that benefits both organizations. Tickets are on sale now at EltonJohnTribute.BrownPaperTickets.com or at the Independence House Hyannis Office.

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captain fantastic - the magic of elton john coming Oct 20, 2018
Captain Fantastic - The Magic of Elton John coming Oct 20, 2018


Mark your calendars for a fun-filled evening as Captain Fantastic entertains us in an Elton John tribute concert, with special guest appearances by Billy Joel tribute, Jimmy Buffet tribute, and the Rascal Flats tribute.

When: Saturday, October 20, 2018
Time: 7:00pm
Where:  Barnstable Performing Arts Center, 744 West Main Street, Hyannis.
$25 per person advanced purchase
$20 per person for groups of 10 or more.
$30 per person at the door

Tickets available online at https://eltonjohntribute.brownpapertickets.com /

Program advertisement space is available. 
Download sponsor packet.  
Contact Donna  donnag@indhouse.net   or call 508-771-6507 x221.

Thank you to our sponsors: 





SAVE THE DATE:  OCTOBER 20, 2018- PREVENTION CONFERENCE:  #SoMuchAbuse: Let's End it Together

#SoMuchAbuse: Let's End it Together is a call to action conference focused on exploring, teaching and implementing strategies for the Primary Prevention of Sexual and Domestic Violence; the conference is scheduled for Saturday, October 20, 2018 from 8:00am-3:30pm. at Dennis- Yarmouth Regional High School.
Led by Independence House, and generously sponsored by a grant from the Verizon Foundation, the conference will bring together community leaders, multi-disciplinary professionals, individuals, employers, first
responders, parents, coaches and high school students to increase their knowledge about current thinking around preventing sexual and domestic violence. 

Keynote Speakers are Jetta Bernier, M.A., Director of MassKids, the Massachusetts Chapter of Prevent Child Abuse America, and the Executive Director of The Enough Abuse Campaign. Ms. Bernier has developed an
interactive evidence-informed training designed for school personnel, a policy guide for schools and youth organizations, and a series of prevention guides for parents. Duane de Four, M.A. is the Founder and Sole Proprietor of DD4 Consulting. From 2010-2018, Duane was a Senior Prevention Specialist at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology. He is an educator, media critic, and activist with more than twenty years of experience developing strategic initiatives, policies, and curricula. Mr. de Four also facilitates discussions focused on sexual dating violence prevention, masculinity, privilege, power and accountability for sexual health. He has worked in a variety of settings, including the NFL, NBA, NHL, MLB, NASCAR, and all branches of the U.S. military.

Conference workshops presented by professionals will address related topics that intersect with sexual and
domestic violence. Conference attendees will explore the roots of sexual and domestic violence, and afternoon town meeting sessions will identify tools and next steps to assist communities in their work towards ending sexual and domestic violence. They will be challenged, motivated and energized to be brave, bold and brilliant in this work. The tools and resources that attendees take away from this conference will reinforce that 'Together, We Can End Abuse.'

Lysetta Hurge-Putnam, Executive Director of Independence House states, "For several years now at
Independence House, we have embraced a fundamental truth within our mission, and that truth is that Sexual and Domestic Violence are preventable if we employ the effort. While there is still much more to be learned, our current understanding informs us that we must address cultural and societal norms that perpetuate these forms of violence, and we are seeing a striking example of this in the #MeToo movement of today. Our conference demonstrates our determination and conviction to work in partnership with our community in this effort by offering concrete strategies, tools and resources. The time is past for only awareness, it is instead, time to actively work towards prevention, ..and to coin a phrase"... "Prevention is better than a cure."

Chris Morin, Director of Prevention, Education and Outreach expresses "We need to raise a generation of
children who do not choose violence when a conflict occurs." Currently Independence House provides
assistance to over 9,000 Cape Codders annually and in the last fiscal year reported over 950 hours spent to
assist just children and teens impacted by domestic or sexual violence. Michael Patterson, Assistant District
Attorney and Chief of the Domestic Violence Unit for the Cape and Islands District Attorney's Office states that 4160 domestic and sexual violence cases were reported through their office in a 30 month span between January 2016 and July 2018.
  
A collaborative committee of representatives from multiple organizations aligned with the Independence
House mission have been meeting and planning this conference for almost 2 years. Independence House
would like to thank and recognize the committee consisting of Chris Morin, Director of Prevention, Education and Outreach for Independence House; Barbara Burgo, representing the Barnstable County Human Rights Commission; Kara Galvin, Director of Youth Services for Cape & Islands Workforce Development Board; Edye Nesmith, Executive Director of the Cape Cod Council of Churches; Paula Degree, Faith Captain for Cape Cod at Freedom for All Massachusetts; Nsreen Alkhatib, Domestic Violence Advocate for Independence House; Katia DaCunha, Tri-lingual Domestic Violence Advocate for Independence House; and Renee King, Director of YMCA Teen Achievers.

Registration for the #SoMuchAbuse: Let's End it Together Prevention Conference is Free and available now on the Independence House website at https://independencehouse.org/prevention-conference.

Special Project to Benefit Survivors of Domestic Violence with Safe Housing Assistance

"Hear My Voice: Safe Housing Project" is an independently sponsored project created by Alicea Sader, as part of a private leadership course Alicea is taking part in, and the project is supported by Independence House.  The project is a two-part endeavor.  Part one- will share stories of survivors through a series of interviews that will lead to a publication. Part two- raising funds to support survivors of domestic or sexual violence who are struggling with the cost of establishing or maintaining safe housing.  The projects funds will help survivors with items such as, but not limited to, rent assistance including first or last months rent, home/house repairs or upkeep, utilities in cancellation status, and  more.  Housing costs are a significant and often prohibitive obstacle to safety and freedom from abuse. Direct donations are requested to this project fund which will be restricted for distribution by Independence House to survivors and clients of Independence House who qualify for assistance.  Donate by clicking the donate button above or click here

Are you a survivor of domestic violence?

You are invited to share your story for this project.  If you choose to participate, your story or portions of your story may be published in a book with a collection of other stories and may be used for fundraising with the goal of raising money to assist survivors who are struggling with costs associated with housing. These stories are deeply personal and any contributions will be considered an act of courage and generosity. If you are willing, let's work together to disappear abuse and support women in living safe lives. All story collections must be complete by Friday, October 12, 2018.  There are two ways to participate:

Tell Your Story
...either in person or over the telephone to Alicea and she will write it for you. Please contact Alicea at 774-487-7387.  Your story matters and she would love to write it.

Write Your Story
...poems, artwork, or any part of your story you would like to share.  You may submit it by email to 
stories20@yahoo.com  or mail it Alicea Sader, PO Box 101, West Dennis, MA 02670.  Written submissions can be completely anonymous.  There is no minimum length, but try to limit your submission to a maximum of five pages. You are invited to consider including what gives you strength or how something or someone made a difference for you.

While all stories are important and we are grateful for your participation, not all stories may be included in the project. Your story may also be modified or edited as appropriate to preserve confidentiality, or as determined appropriate for publication or use at the discretion of the project leader.


Have you seen our new website?

Independence House launched a new website on July 30th. 

Please visit us at https://independencehouse.org



Independence House immediate need WISH LIST
Can you help? 

Hyannis Office Food Pantry:  Culturally diverse non-perishable food items. Also, cereal, pasta, pasta sauces, canned fruit, and bottled water. 

Email any questions to: donnag@indhouse.net . or call 508.771.6507 x221. Thank you in advance for your generosity.

Teddy Bear Breakfast- December 1st- Reserve Early
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Please join Independence House for a special annual Teddy Bear Breakfast on Saturday, December 1, 2018 from 10:00am-12:00pm, hosted and sponsored by Clancy's Restaurant, 8 Upper County Road in Dennisport.
Enjoy a delicious breakfast buffet and Belgium Waffle decorating station.
Every child attending receives a new plush Teddy Bear.
Have a personal visit and a picture taken with Santa.
Meet and mingle with the Elves!
Tickets are: $15 adults,  $10 children
Advanced reservations required.
Register online:   https://indhouse.ejoinme.org/teddybear.

Independence House Men's Initiative
White Ribbon Day offers a statewide framework for local programs to engage their community in the prevention of sexual and domestic violence.  For the past six years, Independence House has co-sponsored a White Ribbon Day event with the District Attorney's Office and the Yarmouth Police Department.  Each year, between 80 and 100 men come together to take the pledge: "From this day forward, I promise to be part of the solution in ending violence against women."
 
Independence House is organizing a Men's Initiative, which is a monthly forum for male identified individuals to promote positive masculinity, safety and health in men's lives and is grounded in our interest to keep the pledge alive from year to year. It also provides a safe place for dialogue about the issues, programs and practices that foster positive changes in men and boys, changes that counteract the social norms of showing no emotion, being in control at all times and being part of a culture that accepts sexual harassment and rape.
 
Independence House has taken the step to reach out specifically to men and boys in our community and ask the question, "what can be done to prevent intimate partner violence and sexual assault?" The creative thinking and commitment to this work benefits everyone in our community and beyond. By changing the dialogue around gender-based violence, Independence House is contributing to a global movement that aims at reevaluating gender roles, and finally ending the cycle of violence.
 
If you are interested in changing the dialogue and being part of the solution in ending violence against women, please join the Men's Initiative.  Please send your contact information to Chris Morin at chrism@indhouse.net.  You will receive an email as to the date and time of our planned meeting.


Groups and Counseling in the Community
FALL GROUP OFFERINGS:
HYANNIS OFFICE

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SUPPORT GROUP-HYANNIS is an 8 week group providing a safe place for female survivors who have been affected by domestic violence. The group will contain both psychoeducation as well as an opportunity to process emotions. Group topics will include understanding domestic violence, healthy vs. unhealthy relationships, anger, self-esteem, stress and coping, as well as coping skills and gratitude. Group meets on Thursday evenings from 5:00-6:00 PM at the Hyannis office starting September 20th. Contact Molly at mollym@indhouse.net 508-771-6507 ext. 242 or Ryan at ryans@indhouse.net 508-771-6507 ext. 226 for more information or to complete an intake. An intake and participation in individual counseling are required prior to group attendance. Childcare is provided.
 
HEALING THROUGH CREATIVE EXPRESSION-HYANNIS is a once a month workshop which promotes and enhances physical, emotional and mental health by using creative expression. Creative expression can help decrease symptoms of depression, anxiety and stress while increasing self-awareness and self-esteem. As survivors of both domestic and sexual violence, creative expression can help clients understand their thoughts and feelings and provide new and healthy outlets for processing emotions. Groups will be offered once per month, the first Thursday of each month from 5:00-6:30 PM in the Hyannis office. Intakes are required a week prior to group attendance. Please contact Katia at katiad@indhouse.net 508-771-6507 ext. 234 for more information or to schedule and intake. Childcare is provided.
 
SURVIVOR OF SEXUAL VIOLENCE SUPPORT GROUP - HYANNIS is an 8 week group providing a safe space for female adults who have been impacted by sexual violence at any age. The group combines creative and relaxing activities allowing survivors to share their thoughts and feelings. Education and information is shared during the group, as well as, safe coping skills that can be easily utilized outside the group. The group will meet on Wednesday evenings from 5:00 PM-6:00 PM at the Hyannis office starting September 19th. Contact Diane at dianec@indhouse.net or 508-771-6507 ext. 231 or Tara at taraw@indhouse.net 508-771-6507 ext. 251 for more information or to complete an intake. An intake and participation in individual counseling is required prior to group attendance.  
 
PARENTING EMPOWERMENT GROUP - HYANNIS is a 10 week group which uses an evidence based curriculum focusing on families who have been impacted by domestic violence. The group uses psychoeducation as well discussions that promote skill building for healthy relationships and positive parenting. Topics include family of origin, child development as well as the effects of domestic violence on children. The group will meet on Friday mornings from 10:00-11:00 AM starting in September at our Hyannis location. Contact Abby at abbyf@indhouse.net or 508-771-6507 ext. 222 for more information or to complete an intake. An intake and participation in individual counseling is required prior to group attendance. Childcare is provided. 
 
EMPOWERMENT BY LANGUAGE - HYANNIS is an ongoing group designed to assist survivors of domestic and sexual violence gain confidence as they navigate the various systems and resources in the community to assist with their needs. Clients will feel more empowered as they learn English as a second language. The group meets on Monday evenings from 4:00-5:30 PM. The group will resume September 17th. Please contact Katia at katiad@indhouse.net or 508-771-6507 ext. 243 for more information or to complete an intake. An intake and participation in individual counseling is required prior to group attendance.

SURVIVOR SUPPORT GROUP LED IN PORTUGUESE & SPANISH - HYANNIS is a group for survivors of sexual and domestic violence. The group focuses on the cycle of abuse, the power and control wheel, and signs of abuse, red flags and the impact to self-esteem. The group also assists survivors of sexual violence to recognize the impact on them following an assault. The facilitator utilizes art as an outlet to healing. The group meets from 5:00-6:00 PM on Tuesday evenings and will begin Tuesday, September 18th. Please contact Katia at katiad@indhouse.net or 508-771-6507 ext. 243 for more information or to complete an intake. An intake and participation in individual counseling is required prior to group attendance. Childcare will be provided.
 
CHILDREN EXPOSED TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE GROUP is a 10 week group geared toward children ages 7-10 who have been impacted by domestic violence. The group will focus on building healthy relationships. The group will be activity based and topics covered will include feelings, self-esteem, and communication. Date to be determined. Parent/Guardian consent will be needed to participate in the group. Contact Abby at abbyf@indhouse.net or 508-771-6507 ext. 222 to participate or with questions.

HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS TWEEN GROUP is an 8 week group geared towards tween's ages 11-13 who have been impacted by teen dating violence. This group will focus on building healthy relationships. Group discussion will be guided by the needs of the group but topics covered include boundaries, consent, and the different types of abuse. Date to be determined. Parent/Guardian consent will be needed to participate in the group. Contact Abby at abbyf@indhouse.net or 508-771-6507 ext. 222 to participate or with questions.

HOMICIDE SURVIVOR SUPPORT GROUP - HYANNIS - is an 8 week group open to family members, close friends, neighbors, schoolmates and members of the community who have lost someone to a homicide (vehicular homicide, DUI, domestic violence, gun violence, etc.) Our hope is to assist survivors in finding a path to coping with their pain and eventually rebuild and find a 'new normal.' Date to be determined.  Please contact Nanci at nancir@indhouse.net or 508-771-6507 ext. 232 or Freddi at freddic@indhouse.net or ext. 241 for more information or to complete an intake.  An intake and participation in individual counseling is required prior to group attendance.
FALMOUTH OFFICE
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SUPPORT GROUP-FALMOUTH is a 6 week group that provides a safe space for adult women survivors to talk about their experiences and learn about how their lives have been impacted by domestic violence in order to begin the healing process and move from surviving to thriving.  The group will explore dynamics of abuse, effects on other family members, safe coping skills, and self-care.  The group welcomes any survivors whether your abuse is current or in the past, as this is a space for everyone to heal.  The group will be held on Thursday evenings from 5:30-7:00 PM at the Falmouth office starting September 13th. If you are interested in attending the group, or learning more about it please contact Freddi 508-771-6507 ext. 241 or freddic@indhouse.net An intake and participation in individual counseling is required prior to group attendance.
 
HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS TEEN GROUP-FALMOUTH  is an 8 week group geared towards teen's ages 14-16 who have been impacted by teen dating violence.  This group will focus on building healthy relationships.  Group discussion will be guided by the needs of the group but topics covered include boundaries, consent, and the different types of abuse.  The group will meet on Tuesday night's in Falmouth.  Date to be determined. Parent/Guardian consent will be needed to participate in the group.  Contact Abby at abbyf@indhouse.net or 508-771-6507 ext. 222 to participate or with questions.
 
ORLEANS OFFICE
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SUPPORT GROUP-ORLEANS is a 6 week group that provides a safe space for adult women survivors to share with and listen to others about their experiences and learn how their lives have been impacted by domestic violence. The group will explore the dynamics of abuse, safe coping skills, self-care, and discussions about healthy vs. unhealthy relationships. The group will meet on Thursday evenings from 5:30-6:30 PM at the Orleans office starting September 20th. (Note: Group will not be meeting on October 25th.) Please contact Stella or Jocelyn at 508-771-6507 ext. 271 or 270 to participate or schedule an intake if not a current client. An intake and participation in individual counseling is required prior to group attendance.

 
All groups are offered free of charge and are confidential
 
ONGOING GROUPS AND INDIVIDUAL COUNSELING AT LOCATIONS IN THE COMMUNITY: 
  • Independence House counselors provide weekly individualized counseling for those requesting services and are residents of Gosnold's Emerson House. 
  • Independence House counselors are currently providing a seeking safety group for residents of Angel House. 
  • Independence House continues its ongoing services and groups for women at the Barnstable County Correctional Facility and the Barnstable County Community Corrections Center.
  • An Independence House counselor is available at the following locations once a month to speak confidentially and in a private setting about any form of abuse they might be experiencing and to receive information and resources. 
       * Mashpee Senior Center, 2nd Wednesday of every month from 10:00am-12:00pm. 
       * Health Imperatives, 2nd and 4th Tuesday of every month from 2:00-4:00pm
INDEPENDENCE HOUSE, INC.    
24-HOUR HOTLINE: 800-439-6507 

For appointments, please call Monday-Friday from 9am-5pm:
508-771-6507

MAIN OFFICE, HYANNIS:  160 Bassett Lane, Hyannis, MA 02601
Monday-Thursday 9am-7pm, Friday 9am-5pm.  Walk-ins welcome. 

Other locations: 
FALMOUTH: 220 Main Street, 2nd Floor, Suite 200, Falmouth, MA 02540 
(Mon 9am-5pm, Tue 9am-7pm, Wed 9am-12pm or by appointment, Thu 9am-7pm,   Fri 9am-5pm, walk ins welcome)
ORLEANS: 5 Namskaket Rd. Unit 1, Orleans, MA 02653
(Mon 9am-5pm, Tue 11am-7pm, Wed 9-11am and afternoons by appointment, Thu 11am-7pm, Fri 9am-5pm)
PROVINCETOWN: 2 Mayflower Ct., Provincetown, MA 02657 (Thursday by appointment)
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To assist with 209A abuse prevention orders and 258E harassment prevention orders, Independence House SAFEPLAN Advocates are available in ALL Cape Cod District and Probate Court Houses during normal court business hours. 
FALMOUTH DISTRICT COURT: 161 Jones Ave, Falmouth
ORLEANS DISTRICT COURT: 237 Rock Harbor Rd., Orleans
BARNSTABLE DISTRICT AND PROBATE COURT: 3195 Main (Court Complex), Barnstable
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An Independence House Domestic Violence Advocate  is available at  :
FALMOUTH POLICE DEPARTMENT: Mon, Tues, Wed 8am-4pm 774-255-4527 x4550

Independence House is a
long standing
member of  Jane Doe, Inc.


Independence House is a 2018 community grant recipient

Independence House is a 2017 prevention grant recipient


 
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