There are many stages of marriage and each has its challenges. Keeping your marriage new and fresh helps you both to grow, learn and move in the same direction, not opposite directions. It takes constant communication about your needs and desires to accomplish this.
All too often I see couples who have given 100% focus to raising their children only to find out 18 years later that they no longer have anything else in common with their spouse. Balancing the many roles of wife/husband/parent/friend/sibling/co-worker, etc. takes a lot of work and if you are struggling to do this, counseling can help you get back on track before someone decides to look elsewhere for comfort.
Maryellen Dabal, MA, LMFT
Southlake Counseling & Neurofeedback Center
420 North Carroll Ave Suite 140
Southlake, TX 76092
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Service Spotlight: Renew Marital Excitement
Any long-term relationship has its ups and downs and its good and bad times. Paying attention to what happens during those good times and talking about them can help to keep the excitement growing and changing in a marriage. Learn what you do well together. Explore what excites you about your spouse. Periodically discuss your needs and have they changed from one year ago? They probably have. Discuss your fantasies with each other. Help some of those fantasies to come true as long as both parties agree.
Being a parent we are generally taught to put our children first. Of course they are very important in our lives but parents also need time alone to continue being spouses. After all, you did make that decision to spend the rest of your lives together; maintaining that relationship is one of the best gifts you can give your children. You have the opportunity to model what a healthy relationship looks like. To do that, you need to work on renewing the excitement you first had at the beginning of the relationship as well as learning about who each other is now. Setting some boundaries with your kids can allow that to happen.
If you have a desire to make your marriage better than it is now or want to learn some simple things you can do to maintain that excitement, call me to set up an appointment and I look forward to helping you grow and change together.
I welcome feedback regarding the newsletter or questions about my practice. I can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org. I cannot, however, give advice through email. For more information on my practice please visit my website: www.dabalmft.com.
I wish you well...