JEWISH COMMUNITY

CENTER OF

LONG BEACH ISLAND

E-LETTER





FEBRUARY 6, 2026

12 Shevat 5786





 

HOW TO ENTER THE JCC BUILDING THIS WEEKEND


Park in the back parking lot or on 24th Street. Sidewalks are clear to the back ramp, front steps, 24th Street door by the back parking lot. There will be someone at the doors to help.

 

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OF THE SHABBAT REMINDER

A TORAH MESSAGE FROM THE RABBI


THE HOLINESS OF A MENTOR


The relationship between Jethro (Yitro in Hebrew), Moses’ father-in-law, and Moses is unique. Jethro is a Midianite priest who spends much of his time in the Torah helping Moses. When Moses first arrives in Midian after fleeing Egypt, Jethro, without hesitation, invites Moses to join him and his family. Ultimately he offers his daughter, Tzipporah, as a wife to the Prophet. 


When God sends Moses on a journey back to Egypt, Jethro sends him off willingly and takes care of Moses’ wife and children. So close is their relationship that when Moses leads the Israelites out of Egypt, he makes sure to find his father-in-law to tell him everything that happened. The picture one conjures up of this scene is simply beautiful. Moses sitting alone with Jethro, telling him all of what had happened and painting a vivid picture of the myriad miracles that God performed on behalf of the Israelites. Envisioning Moses speaking while his father-in-law listens intently brings a smile to my face.


Jethro gives Moses positive feedback and acknowledges God's greatness with this blessing:


“Blessed be GOD who delivered you from the Egyptians and from Pharaoh, and who delivered the people from under the hand of the Egyptians.”


(As a Midianite Priest, Jethro’s message and prayer has power.) Moses must have loved the fact that his father-in-law fully and deeply appreciated what had happened.


And then something unexpected occurs. Jethro, always the mentor, observes Moses' leadership style and gives him feedback and provides a way to do it better. He doesn't chastise Moses; he simply tells him that his leadership style is untenable both for Moses and the people. 


Moses, who has up until this point been taking direction directly from God, humbly listens and puts Jethro’s plan into action. And it works. What a relationship!


Perhaps the most intriguing part of this is that, as I referenced above, Jethro is not even an Israelite. It is incredible that Moshe Rabbeinu, Moses Our Teacher, the greatest prophet, is taking direction from a Priest from another religion! Interfaith dialogue began at an early stage.


I think; however, that the Torah is providing a bigger life lesson. God is letting us know that a mentor is important. Connection with the Holy One is vital and necessary, but we all need to be blessed to have a bond with a person of maturity and wisdom upon whom we can rely to observe and give feedback; both positive and negative. Each of us needs a person whose only objective is to teach us how to sail the boat, but who has no interest in sailing the boat him/herself. 


It is a blessing, and a gift, to have a person agree to give of his/her time, energy, and kindness. The message this week is to look for a mentor and seek to be one to someone else.


Get advice, give advice. When you are there for someone, and someone is there for you, the world becomes a less complicated place.


Shabbat Shalom – Rabbi Michael S. Jay


Rabbi Jay will be in his office at the JCC after services on Saturdays. The Rabbi is also available at any time or place to schedule in-person, or virtual meetings at your convenience. The Rabbi can be reached by call/text 973-865-9534 or email at Mjayrabrab@gmail.com

Candle Lighting Time

(Southern Ocean County)

Shabbat Eve

Friday, February 6, 2026

5:04 PM

Friday

February 6, 2026


SHABBAT DINNNER

&

TU B'SHEVAT SEDER

6:00 PM

SERVICES

7:30 PM

IN PERSON AND

ON ZOOM

Here is 

your invitation from 

Rabbi Jay to join Services

on Zoom

FRIDAY NIGHT

Saturday

Febuary 7, 2026

TORAH STUDY

9:00 AM

SERVICES

10:00 AM

IN PERSON AND

 ON ZOOM

Here is

your invitation from 

Rabbi Jay to join

Zoom services and Torah Study

SATURDAY MORNING


TORAH READING

Parashat Yitro 

Exodus 18:1-20:23

Yitro (“Jethro”) begins as Moses reunites with his father-in-law Yitro and accepts his advice to appoint judges who will help govern the Israelites. The Israelites prepare to encounter God at Mount Sinai. God descends amidst fire, smoke, thunder, and the blast of a shofar and gives the Ten Commandments. 

Here is the Portion


HAFTORAH

Isaiah 6:1-7:6, 9:5-6

We read about Isaiah's first vision, in which he is appointed by God as a prophet. As part of this vision, angels call out a line that is repeated daily in the Amidah (standing prayer): "Holy, holy, holy! God of Hosts — whose presence fills all the earth" 

Here is the Haftorah


TORAH QUESTION?


How might the concept of the Sabbath, introduced in this Torah portion, enhance our understanding of spiritual connection and rest in a fast-paced world?


WEEKDAY SERVICES


Ma'ariv Service

7:30 PM

Here is your invitation from Rabbi Jay to

join Zoom services:

MA'ARIV


Monday - Friday

Shacharit Service

8:15 AM

Sunday at 9:00 AM

Here is your invitation from Rabbi Jay to

join Zoom services:

SHACHARIT

SUNDAY, February 8

Pickleball

10 AM - 1 PM

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TUESDAY, February 10

Pickleball

10 AM - 1 PM

WAX Brunch

39 Degrees North

11:00 AM

*****

WEDNESDAY, February 11

Mah jongg & Canasta

12:30 PM

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THURSDAY, February 12

Pickleball

10 AM - 1 PM

Torah Study

11:00 AM

Program with Cantor Geller

7:45 PM

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FRIDAY, February 13

Studying the Prophets

Following morning minyan


Tuesday, February 10

WAX Brunch

39 Degrees North, Manahawkin

11 AM - 1 PM


Thursday, February 12:

Cantor Geller “How my Traditional, Orthodox Parents Raised me to to be a Cantor in the Conservative Movement” 7:45 PM


Sunday, February 15

WAX Movie afternoon

"Life is Beautiful"

2:00 PM



Wednesday,February 18

WAX Book Club

4:00 PM


Friday, February 20

Kabbalat Shabbat Service & Ice Cream Social Oneg

7:30PM


Saturday, February 21

Cholentfest after services



PICKLEBALL

Sundays, Tuesdays and Thursdays

10 - 1

MAH JONGG & CANASTA 

WEDNESDAYS

12:30 PM TO 4:00 PM 


PJP "Purim in the Works of European Artists" with Evgenia Kempinski, which took place recently. Special thanks to Rabbi Rafi Spitzer of Congregation Agudat Achim in Schenectady, NY, for serving as moderator. Following is the link to the recording of the program.
LINK FOR THE PROGRAM
Passcode: L.826Tov


CELEBRATING PURIM WITH

SHALACH MANOS

THE JCC OF LBI WAY


DEADLINE FOR ORDERS FEBRUARY 9


In the ninth chapter of the Book of Esther, at verse 19, we are told that: “[T]he Jews... made the 14th day of the month of Adar a day of gladness... and of sending portions to one another (mishloach manot). Traditionally we perfrom this mitzvah by sending baskets of goodies to friends and neighbors. Many congregations help us to perform this mitzvah by organizing the distribution of sending baskets to folks in the community. 


Since the JCC of LBI is unique with many members not living in the area at Purim, we have come up with a wonderful idea which is in the spirit of the tradition and also supports Israel and the environment at the same time.


We are purchasing and planting individual trees in the name of each of our congregants. Additionally, we will be purchasing our very own Garden in the name of the JCC of LBI.


As a JCC member you will receive a Purim Packet including a Tree Certificate along with a list of those sending you Purim greetings. A contribution of $136 ensures that each member of the congregation will receive greetings from you. If you choose not to participate in giving to the entire congregation, kindly send us a list of those to whom you would like to receive a Purim Package. Each name will be $18 with a minimum of 3.


Times are challenging right now, let’s show our love and support for each other and our beloved state of Israel by supporting this JCC fundraiser. Fill out the form below and return it to the office. You can mail, email, pay on line (https://jccoflbi.org/giving-opportunities/). The deadline for orders is next Sunday, February 9. Questions? Contact Stacey Podos at staciepodos@gmail.com------914-588-2751 



IMPORTANT PROGRAM ON PBS


Black and Jewish America: An Interwoven History

Let My People Go

2/3/2026 | 52m 24s


From intersecting histories of persecution to diverging fates on American shores, episode one of BLACK AND JEWISH AMERICA: AN INTERWOVEN HISTORY traces the early forces that shaped the Black and Jewish connection in the U.S. Journeys of exile, faith, resilience, terror, migration, early civil rights partnerships, and tests of solidarity define the relationship by the early 20th century


02/03/2026 | VIDEO Expires 03/06/2026 | Rating TV-14


CLICK HERE TO VIEW THIS EPISODE



A CONVERSATION WITH CANTOR SARA GELLER

Thursday, February 12 th

“How my Traditional, Orthodox Parents Raised me to to be a Cantor in the Conservative Movement”

7:45 PM following minyan


WAX BOOK DISCUSSION GROUP

Wednesday, February 18th at 4:00 pm


Estranged: How Strained Female Friendships are Mended or Ended

By Susan Shapiro Barish


Discussion Leader will be interviewing our own beloved

congregant & Author Susan Shapiro Barish

When life gets hard, we turn to our female friends. Husbands, partners, and jobs come and go, but close friendships are our bedrock. Until they're not.What happens when these bonds sabotage instead of support? Who among us has the courage to walk away? And how can we protect ourselves from further heartbreak?

Susan Shapiro Barash takes a deep dive into the complexities of female friendships. By peeling back the societal narrative that our friendships are meant to last forever, she uncovers a more nuanced reality: the closest bonds do falter. Through groundbreaking research and 150 interviews with women ranging in age from 20-80, Barash reveals an emerging trend - estrangement among female friends.

Estranged is an eye-opening investigation/practical guide for women navigating murky waters of suboptimal friendships. The book sheds light on unspoken pain of estrangement-both for the "estranger" who walks away and the "estrangee" who is left behind. Amid candid confessions of betrayal and grief, Barash challenges women to reimagine their friendships and take the bold step of letting go when necessary. 


Susan Shapiro Barash has written over a dozen nonfiction books, including Tripping the Prom Queen, You’re Grounded Forever, But First Let’s Go Shopping and Toxic Friends: The Antidote for Women Stuck in Complicated Friendships. For more than twenty years she taught gender studies in the Writing Department at Marymount Manhattan College and has guest taught creative nonfiction at the Writing Institute at Sarah Lawrence College. For her fiction, Between the Tides, A Palm Beach Wife, A Palm Beach Scandal, and Maribelle’s Shadow, she writes as Susannah Marren.


Susan is the daughter of Selma and Herb Shapiro z'l, founders of the Jewish Community Center of Long Beach Islan


We are very excited to add to the WAX Gift Shop items from local merchants and artisans. Stop in to look and buy one (or more) of these beautiful pieces for your home, as a gift or just for yourself.


The gift shop is open during office hours M-F 10 - 2.

CONGREGATION NEWS

The following names will be read by the Rabbi on Friday evening:


Belle Chmielnik

Anna Herman

Gene Klein

Selma Shapiro

William Silver

Edwin Greenfield

Shaindel Hupert

Nettie Rosenthal

Ethel Sharken

Anna Weill*

Rose Diane Segal

Sydney Sussman

Sidney Berkowitz

Robyn Lynn Caspento

Nette Ehrlich

Daniel Glassman*

Hershel Rich

Leonard Schey

Jerry Weisberg*

Estelle Gottesman

Tee Gottlieb*

Harold Koyner*

Lewis Levison*

Morris Miller*

Jeanne Goldberg

Alan Klein

Etta McEwan

Ruth Schwartz

 

We encourage you to join us on the day of your loved one’s yahrzeit. In the morning, the service is about ½ hour beginning at 8:15 and in the evening at 7:30 until about 7:45. Rabbi will be glad to say the traditional El Malei Rachamim prayer for you, which is recited during the funeral.

Cary Reimer

February 7

Carol Weissman

February 7

Lewis Becker

February 8

Rhonda Lang

February 8

Jay Eisner

February 9

Kim Braun

February 10

Sue Margulies

February 11

Paula Mandell

February 12

Bonni Rubin-Sugarman

February 12

Elaine Thomas

February 12

 

Stephen & Phyllis Lishnoff

February 8

62nd Anniversary

Bernard Rothman & Toby Meyer

February 8

Joe & Carolyn Fleischer

February 10

58th Anniversary

Ira & Ina Morgenthal

February 13

55th Anniversary


SHARE YOUR NEWS AND PICTURES

CONTACT: 

rvalen1963@aol.com


CARING COMMITTEE

This committee acts as a support system for congregation members facing illness and other personal situations that need to be addressed.

Please contact Chairperson,

Debby Schweighardt

if you are in need of assistance or if you know of a JCC member that needs our help. 973-634-5349



We would like to expand our Caring Committee to reach out to folks who need a "how are you doing?" call once and a while. Please contact

Debby Schweighardt

973-634-5349 if you are interesting in participating


GIVING OPPORTUNITIES


PAVERS

Inscribe a paver at the front entrance to the building

8" X 4", 8" X 8" and 12" X 12"


SEE UPDATED ORDER FORM:

PAVER FORM

Become a permanent part of the JCC landscape.

Purchase a personalized paving stone

in honor of your family or in memory of a loved one.


Please contact Diane Hoffman

with your order or with any questions:

dihoff1@aol.com



PRAYER BOOKS

There are still High Holiday Prayer Books and Chumashim available to be purchased in memory or honor of someone or something. The cost of a Prayer Book is $72 each and $120 for an Eitz Hayim Chumash. The donation includes an affirmation sticker in the book and an acknowledgement letter or letters.

See Order form here: Prayer Book



TRIBUTES

SEND ONE OF OUR TRIBUTES IN HONOR OR IN MEMORY OF

See order form here: TRIBUTES



TREE OF LIFE

Add a leaf (leaves) to our beautiful Tree of Life located in the Social Hall. See the order form here: TREE OF LIFE

Bronze Leaf $90

Silver Leaf $126

Gold :Leaf $180



ENDOWMENT FUND


Herb and Selma z”l Shapiro established the first individual Endowment Fund in memory of his father, as part of the JCC’s Endowment Fund portfolio.


Since then, three additional individual Endowment Funds have been established. Other members are encouraged to also provide for the future of our JCC by establishing similar funds. Please consider adding to this number.


A donation of at least $50,000 to the endowment fund will allow the donor to name one of the funds as the donor wishes. All such named funds will be joined together to be part of the Endowment Fund portfolio.

 

Endowment funds are necessary to ensure the continuation and well being of our congregation. All members are encouraged to help this important effort by contributing to this portfolio, whether as a specific named individual fund, or as a general donation. The donation can be spread over one, two, or three years, and can be paid via check, donation of appreciated stock, wills, or from the RMD of your IRA or 401K account. Your gift to the fund can be sent to the JCC Office. Please mark your check accordingly. 



YAHRZEIT PLAQUES

Space is available for memorial plaques on the yahrzeit boards in the Sanctuary. 

Here is the order form: 

YAHRZEIT



KOL HAKAVOD


Please consider being a part of this campaign to supplement the clergy needs of our congregation. This is a separate, voluntary commitment and is additional to our low annual dues obligation. HERE IS THE LINK TO BRING UP THE DONATION FORM KOL HAKAVOD


2025 MEMBERSHIP FORMS


Your support is so important to the continued success of the JCC.

Here is form for renewal:

RENEW NOW


And if you have been reading our Shabbat Reminder and other communications and have not yet joined our congregation, here is the new member form:

JOIN NOW


BE A PART OF THE WOMEN'S AUXILLARY

2025 DUES FORM HERE


JCC FUNDS

Scroll down to see the new Ner Tamid Fund


Your gift to the JCC supports our Clergy, our Congregation and the Community.


ENDOWMENT FUND

This fund was established to assure the continuity of our JCC, and our ability to continue providing a full-service congregation to serve the Jewish people of the area. While a donation of any amount is encouraged, a donation of at least $50,000 allows the donor to name a special or specific Endowment Fund in memory or honor of a specific person event, or family.


GENERAL FUND

Donations to this fund are not earmarked but placed in the general administrative account. Donations to this fund can be in honor or memory of a person, event, or family.


KOL HAKAVOD FUND

Donations to this campaign supplement the clergy needs of our congregation.



RABBI’S DISCRETIONARY FUND

This fund, managed by the rabbi, allows donors to enable the rabbi to do the work of tzedakah in response to the needs of individuals, organizations and the community.


ZENA & JERRY JAY KIDDISH FUND

The Zena and Jerry Jay Kiddush Fund was established in memory of Rabbi Jay's parents to help provide funds for our Saturday morning kiddushes.



NER TAMID FUND

The Ner Tamid Fund was established in 2025 as part of the JCC’s 75th Anniversary Celebration. Its purpose is to fund necessary maintenance or improvement of our beautiful JCC building as well as the Parsonage. To ensure that the JCC remains an Eternal Light for the Jewish Community on and off the island and in Southern Ocean County generally, please consider making a separate donation to the Ner Tamid Fund, or allocating a small portion of your High Holiday donation to that fund.

 

JCC LEADERSHIP



OFFICERS

President- Phil Rosenzweig

1ST Vice President-Sherry Fruchterman

2ND Vice President-Diane Hoffman

3RD Vice President- Jon Geier

Treasurer- Stu Cofsky

Secretary- Cliff Denker

Immediate Past President -Michael Babst


BOARD MEMBERS

Howard Babbitt 

Diane Buskirk

Lorna Klein

Ken Podos

Sondi Pripstein

Terri Robinovitz

David Shatz

Bonni Rubin-Sugarman

Rose Valentine

Ken Yudman


WOMEN'S AUXILIARY

President - Diane Buskirk

Treasurer - Suzy Geier

Secretary - Joanne Babbitt

Lorna Klein

Joyce Levine

Representative to the Board - Sondi Pripstein

Immediate Past President - Irene Babst



Rabbi Michael S. Jay, Spiritual Leader


JCC INFORMATION


THE JCC OF LBI IS LOCATED AT

2411 Long Beach Boulevard

(24th Street)

Spray Beach, NJ 08008

Telephone: 609-492-4090 FAX: 609-492-7550

email: jccoflbi@gmail.com

web site: www.jccoflbi.org  

  

THE OFFICE IS OPEN

MONDAY - FRIDAY

FROM 10 - 2




 Staff:

 Leslie Dinkfelt, Office Manager

  Mary Beth Krieger, Staff Member

 Diane Parzych, Staff Member

Susan Berube, Kitchen Manager




BULLETIN:

LATEST BULLETIN



PRAYER BOOK:

Prayer Book

 

WEB SITE:

JCC WEB SITE


PAVERS:

PAVER FORM 


TREE OF LIFE

TREE

  

YAHRZEIT PLAQUE FORM:

YAHRZEIT PLAQUES


KOL HAKAVOD DONATION FORM

KOL HAKAVOD


TRIBUTES:

TRIBUTES 



CONTACT INFORMATION:

  Rabbi Michael S. Jay

mjayrab@gmail.com


Phil Rosenzweig, President

prosenzweig@sanddlawyers.com 


 

E-mail Editor: Rose Valentine 

rvalen1963@aol.com 

Graphics by

Mary Beth Krieger

Contributing Articles by

Stu Lehrer