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JEWISH COMMUNITY
CENTER OF
LONG BEACH ISLAND
E-LETTER
FEBRUARY 6, 2026
12 Shevat 5786
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HOW TO ENTER THE JCC BUILDING THIS WEEKEND
Park in the back parking lot or on 24th Street. Sidewalks are clear to the back ramp, front steps, 24th Street door by the back parking lot. There will be someone at the doors to help.
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A TORAH MESSAGE FROM THE RABBI
THE HOLINESS OF A MENTOR
The relationship between Jethro (Yitro in Hebrew), Moses’ father-in-law, and Moses is unique. Jethro is a Midianite priest who spends much of his time in the Torah helping Moses. When Moses first arrives in Midian after fleeing Egypt, Jethro, without hesitation, invites Moses to join him and his family. Ultimately he offers his daughter, Tzipporah, as a wife to the Prophet.
When God sends Moses on a journey back to Egypt, Jethro sends him off willingly and takes care of Moses’ wife and children. So close is their relationship that when Moses leads the Israelites out of Egypt, he makes sure to find his father-in-law to tell him everything that happened. The picture one conjures up of this scene is simply beautiful. Moses sitting alone with Jethro, telling him all of what had happened and painting a vivid picture of the myriad miracles that God performed on behalf of the Israelites. Envisioning Moses speaking while his father-in-law listens intently brings a smile to my face.
Jethro gives Moses positive feedback and acknowledges God's greatness with this blessing:
“Blessed be GOD who delivered you from the Egyptians and from Pharaoh, and who delivered the people from under the hand of the Egyptians.”
(As a Midianite Priest, Jethro’s message and prayer has power.) Moses must have loved the fact that his father-in-law fully and deeply appreciated what had happened.
And then something unexpected occurs. Jethro, always the mentor, observes Moses' leadership style and gives him feedback and provides a way to do it better. He doesn't chastise Moses; he simply tells him that his leadership style is untenable both for Moses and the people.
Moses, who has up until this point been taking direction directly from God, humbly listens and puts Jethro’s plan into action. And it works. What a relationship!
Perhaps the most intriguing part of this is that, as I referenced above, Jethro is not even an Israelite. It is incredible that Moshe Rabbeinu, Moses Our Teacher, the greatest prophet, is taking direction from a Priest from another religion! Interfaith dialogue began at an early stage.
I think; however, that the Torah is providing a bigger life lesson. God is letting us know that a mentor is important. Connection with the Holy One is vital and necessary, but we all need to be blessed to have a bond with a person of maturity and wisdom upon whom we can rely to observe and give feedback; both positive and negative. Each of us needs a person whose only objective is to teach us how to sail the boat, but who has no interest in sailing the boat him/herself.
It is a blessing, and a gift, to have a person agree to give of his/her time, energy, and kindness. The message this week is to look for a mentor and seek to be one to someone else.
Get advice, give advice. When you are there for someone, and someone is there for you, the world becomes a less complicated place.
Shabbat Shalom – Rabbi Michael S. Jay
| Rabbi Jay will be in his office at the JCC after services on Saturdays. The Rabbi is also available at any time or place to schedule in-person, or virtual meetings at your convenience. The Rabbi can be reached by call/text 973-865-9534 or email at Mjayrabrab@gmail.com | | | |
Candle Lighting Time
(Southern Ocean County)
Shabbat Eve
Friday, February 6, 2026
5:04 PM
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Friday
February 6, 2026
SHABBAT DINNNER
&
TU B'SHEVAT SEDER
6:00 PM
SERVICES
7:30 PM
IN PERSON AND
ON ZOOM
Here is
your invitation from
Rabbi Jay to join Services
on Zoom
FRIDAY NIGHT
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Saturday
Febuary 7, 2026
TORAH STUDY
9:00 AM
SERVICES
10:00 AM
IN PERSON AND
ON ZOOM
Here is
your invitation from
Rabbi Jay to join
Zoom services and Torah Study
SATURDAY MORNING
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TORAH READING
Parashat Yitro
Exodus 18:1-20:23
Yitro (“Jethro”) begins as Moses reunites with his father-in-law Yitro and accepts his advice to appoint judges who will help govern the Israelites. The Israelites prepare to encounter God at Mount Sinai. God descends amidst fire, smoke, thunder, and the blast of a shofar and gives the Ten Commandments.
Here is the Portion
HAFTORAH
Isaiah 6:1-7:6, 9:5-6
We read about Isaiah's first vision, in which he is appointed by God as a prophet. As part of this vision, angels call out a line that is repeated daily in the Amidah (standing prayer): "Holy, holy, holy! God of Hosts — whose presence fills all the earth"
Here is the Haftorah
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TORAH QUESTION?
How might the concept of the Sabbath, introduced in this Torah portion, enhance our understanding of spiritual connection and rest in a fast-paced world?
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WEEKDAY SERVICES
Ma'ariv Service
7:30 PM
Here is your invitation from Rabbi Jay to
join Zoom services:
MA'ARIV
Monday - Friday
Shacharit Service
8:15 AM
Sunday at 9:00 AM
Here is your invitation from Rabbi Jay to
join Zoom services:
SHACHARIT
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SUNDAY, February 8
Pickleball
10 AM - 1 PM
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TUESDAY, February 10
Pickleball
10 AM - 1 PM
WAX Brunch
39 Degrees North
11:00 AM
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WEDNESDAY, February 11
Mah jongg & Canasta
12:30 PM
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THURSDAY, February 12
Pickleball
10 AM - 1 PM
Torah Study
11:00 AM
Program with Cantor Geller
7:45 PM
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FRIDAY, February 13
Studying the Prophets
Following morning minyan
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Tuesday, February 10
WAX Brunch
39 Degrees North, Manahawkin
11 AM - 1 PM
Thursday, February 12:
Cantor Geller “How my Traditional, Orthodox Parents Raised me to to be a Cantor in the Conservative Movement” 7:45 PM
Sunday, February 15
WAX Movie afternoon
"Life is Beautiful"
2:00 PM
Wednesday,February 18
WAX Book Club
4:00 PM
Friday, February 20
Kabbalat Shabbat Service & Ice Cream Social Oneg
7:30PM
Saturday, February 21
Cholentfest after services
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PICKLEBALL
Sundays, Tuesdays and Thursdays
10 - 1
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MAH JONGG & CANASTA
WEDNESDAYS
12:30 PM TO 4:00 PM
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PJP "Purim in the Works of European Artists" with Evgenia Kempinski, which took place recently. Special thanks to Rabbi Rafi Spitzer of Congregation Agudat Achim in Schenectady, NY, for serving as moderator. Following is the link to the recording of the program.
LINK FOR THE PROGRAM
Passcode: L.826Tov
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CELEBRATING PURIM WITH
SHALACH MANOS
THE JCC OF LBI WAY
DEADLINE FOR ORDERS FEBRUARY 9
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In the ninth chapter of the Book of Esther, at verse 19, we are told that: “[T]he Jews... made the 14th day of the month of Adar a day of gladness... and of sending portions to one another (mishloach manot). Traditionally we perfrom this mitzvah by sending baskets of goodies to friends and neighbors. Many congregations help us to perform this mitzvah by organizing the distribution of sending baskets to folks in the community.
Since the JCC of LBI is unique with many members not living in the area at Purim, we have come up with a wonderful idea which is in the spirit of the tradition and also supports Israel and the environment at the same time.
We are purchasing and planting individual trees in the name of each of our congregants. Additionally, we will be purchasing our very own Garden in the name of the JCC of LBI.
As a JCC member you will receive a Purim Packet including a Tree Certificate along with a list of those sending you Purim greetings. A contribution of $136 ensures that each member of the congregation will receive greetings from you. If you choose not to participate in giving to the entire congregation, kindly send us a list of those to whom you would like to receive a Purim Package. Each name will be $18 with a minimum of 3.
Times are challenging right now, let’s show our love and support for each other and our beloved state of Israel by supporting this JCC fundraiser. Fill out the form below and return it to the office. You can mail, email, pay on line (https://jccoflbi.org/giving-opportunities/). The deadline for orders is next Sunday, February 9. Questions? Contact Stacey Podos at staciepodos@gmail.com------914-588-2751
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IMPORTANT PROGRAM ON PBS
Black and Jewish America: An Interwoven History
Let My People Go
2/3/2026 | 52m 24s
From intersecting histories of persecution to diverging fates on American shores, episode one of BLACK AND JEWISH AMERICA: AN INTERWOVEN HISTORY traces the early forces that shaped the Black and Jewish connection in the U.S. Journeys of exile, faith, resilience, terror, migration, early civil rights partnerships, and tests of solidarity define the relationship by the early 20th century
02/03/2026 | VIDEO Expires 03/06/2026 | Rating TV-14
CLICK HERE TO VIEW THIS EPISODE
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A CONVERSATION WITH CANTOR SARA GELLER
Thursday, February 12 th
“How my Traditional, Orthodox Parents Raised me to to be a Cantor in the Conservative Movement”
7:45 PM following minyan
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Wednesday, February 18th at 4:00 pm
Estranged: How Strained Female Friendships are Mended or Ended
By Susan Shapiro Barish
Discussion Leader will be interviewing our own beloved
congregant & Author Susan Shapiro Barish
When life gets hard, we turn to our female friends. Husbands, partners, and jobs come and go, but close friendships are our bedrock. Until they're not.What happens when these bonds sabotage instead of support? Who among us has the courage to walk away? And how can we protect ourselves from further heartbreak?
Susan Shapiro Barash takes a deep dive into the complexities of female friendships. By peeling back the societal narrative that our friendships are meant to last forever, she uncovers a more nuanced reality: the closest bonds do falter. Through groundbreaking research and 150 interviews with women ranging in age from 20-80, Barash reveals an emerging trend - estrangement among female friends.
Estranged is an eye-opening investigation/practical guide for women navigating murky waters of suboptimal friendships. The book sheds light on unspoken pain of estrangement-both for the "estranger" who walks away and the "estrangee" who is left behind. Amid candid confessions of betrayal and grief, Barash challenges women to reimagine their friendships and take the bold step of letting go when necessary.
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Susan Shapiro Barash has written over a dozen nonfiction books, including Tripping the Prom Queen, You’re Grounded Forever, But First Let’s Go Shopping and Toxic Friends: The Antidote for Women Stuck in Complicated Friendships. For more than twenty years she taught gender studies in the Writing Department at Marymount Manhattan College and has guest taught creative nonfiction at the Writing Institute at Sarah Lawrence College. For her fiction, Between the Tides, A Palm Beach Wife, A Palm Beach Scandal, and Maribelle’s Shadow, she writes as Susannah Marren.
Susan is the daughter of Selma and Herb Shapiro z'l, founders of the Jewish Community Center of Long Beach Islan
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We are very excited to add to the WAX Gift Shop items from local merchants and artisans. Stop in to look and buy one (or more) of these beautiful pieces for your home, as a gift or just for yourself.
The gift shop is open during office hours M-F 10 - 2.
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The following names will be read by the Rabbi on Friday evening:
Belle Chmielnik
Anna Herman
Gene Klein
Selma Shapiro
William Silver
Edwin Greenfield
Shaindel Hupert
Nettie Rosenthal
Ethel Sharken
Anna Weill*
Rose Diane Segal
Sydney Sussman
Sidney Berkowitz
Robyn Lynn Caspento
Nette Ehrlich
Daniel Glassman*
Hershel Rich
Leonard Schey
Jerry Weisberg*
Estelle Gottesman
Tee Gottlieb*
Harold Koyner*
Lewis Levison*
Morris Miller*
Jeanne Goldberg
Alan Klein
Etta McEwan
Ruth Schwartz
We encourage you to join us on the day of your loved one’s yahrzeit. In the morning, the service is about ½ hour beginning at 8:15 and in the evening at 7:30 until about 7:45. Rabbi will be glad to say the traditional El Malei Rachamim prayer for you, which is recited during the funeral.
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Cary Reimer
February 7
Carol Weissman
February 7
Lewis Becker
February 8
Rhonda Lang
February 8
Jay Eisner
February 9
Kim Braun
February 10
Sue Margulies
February 11
Paula Mandell
February 12
Bonni Rubin-Sugarman
February 12
Elaine Thomas
February 12
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Stephen & Phyllis Lishnoff
February 8
62nd Anniversary
Bernard Rothman & Toby Meyer
February 8
Joe & Carolyn Fleischer
February 10
58th Anniversary
Ira & Ina Morgenthal
February 13
55th Anniversary
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SHARE YOUR NEWS AND PICTURES
CONTACT:
rvalen1963@aol.com
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CARING COMMITTEE
This committee acts as a support system for congregation members facing illness and other personal situations that need to be addressed.
Please contact Chairperson,
Debby Schweighardt
if you are in need of assistance or if you know of a JCC member that needs our help. 973-634-5349
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We would like to expand our Caring Committee to reach out to folks who need a "how are you doing?" call once and a while. Please contact
Debby Schweighardt
973-634-5349 if you are interesting in participating
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GIVING OPPORTUNITIES
PAVERS
Inscribe a paver at the front entrance to the building
8" X 4", 8" X 8" and 12" X 12"
SEE UPDATED ORDER FORM:
PAVER FORM
Become a permanent part of the JCC landscape.
Purchase a personalized paving stone
in honor of your family or in memory of a loved one.
Please contact Diane Hoffman
with your order or with any questions:
dihoff1@aol.com
PRAYER BOOKS
There are still High Holiday Prayer Books and Chumashim available to be purchased in memory or honor of someone or something. The cost of a Prayer Book is $72 each and $120 for an Eitz Hayim Chumash. The donation includes an affirmation sticker in the book and an acknowledgement letter or letters.
See Order form here: Prayer Book
TRIBUTES
SEND ONE OF OUR TRIBUTES IN HONOR OR IN MEMORY OF
See order form here: TRIBUTES
TREE OF LIFE
Add a leaf (leaves) to our beautiful Tree of Life located in the Social Hall. See the order form here: TREE OF LIFE
Bronze Leaf $90
Silver Leaf $126
Gold :Leaf $180
ENDOWMENT FUND
Herb and Selma z”l Shapiro established the first individual Endowment Fund in memory of his father, as part of the JCC’s Endowment Fund portfolio.
Since then, three additional individual Endowment Funds have been established. Other members are encouraged to also provide for the future of our JCC by establishing similar funds. Please consider adding to this number.
A donation of at least $50,000 to the endowment fund will allow the donor to name one of the funds as the donor wishes. All such named funds will be joined together to be part of the Endowment Fund portfolio.
Endowment funds are necessary to ensure the continuation and well being of our congregation. All members are encouraged to help this important effort by contributing to this portfolio, whether as a specific named individual fund, or as a general donation. The donation can be spread over one, two, or three years, and can be paid via check, donation of appreciated stock, wills, or from the RMD of your IRA or 401K account. Your gift to the fund can be sent to the JCC Office. Please mark your check accordingly.
YAHRZEIT PLAQUES
Space is available for memorial plaques on the yahrzeit boards in the Sanctuary.
Here is the order form:
YAHRZEIT
KOL HAKAVOD
Please consider being a part of this campaign to supplement the clergy needs of our congregation. This is a separate, voluntary commitment and is additional to our low annual dues obligation. HERE IS THE LINK TO BRING UP THE DONATION FORM KOL HAKAVOD
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2025 MEMBERSHIP FORMS
Your support is so important to the continued success of the JCC.
Here is form for renewal:
RENEW NOW
And if you have been reading our Shabbat Reminder and other communications and have not yet joined our congregation, here is the new member form:
JOIN NOW
BE A PART OF THE WOMEN'S AUXILLARY
2025 DUES FORM HERE
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JCC FUNDS
Scroll down to see the new Ner Tamid Fund
Your gift to the JCC supports our Clergy, our Congregation and the Community.
ENDOWMENT FUND
This fund was established to assure the continuity of our JCC, and our ability to continue providing a full-service congregation to serve the Jewish people of the area. While a donation of any amount is encouraged, a donation of at least $50,000 allows the donor to name a special or specific Endowment Fund in memory or honor of a specific person event, or family.
GENERAL FUND
Donations to this fund are not earmarked but placed in the general administrative account. Donations to this fund can be in honor or memory of a person, event, or family.
KOL HAKAVOD FUND
Donations to this campaign supplement the clergy needs of our congregation.
RABBI’S DISCRETIONARY FUND
This fund, managed by the rabbi, allows donors to enable the rabbi to do the work of tzedakah in response to the needs of individuals, organizations and the community.
ZENA & JERRY JAY KIDDISH FUND
The Zena and Jerry Jay Kiddush Fund was established in memory of Rabbi Jay's parents to help provide funds for our Saturday morning kiddushes.
NER TAMID FUND
The Ner Tamid Fund was established in 2025 as part of the JCC’s 75th Anniversary Celebration. Its purpose is to fund necessary maintenance or improvement of our beautiful JCC building as well as the Parsonage. To ensure that the JCC remains an Eternal Light for the Jewish Community on and off the island and in Southern Ocean County generally, please consider making a separate donation to the Ner Tamid Fund, or allocating a small portion of your High Holiday donation to that fund.
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JCC LEADERSHIP
OFFICERS
President- Phil Rosenzweig
1ST Vice President-Sherry Fruchterman
2ND Vice President-Diane Hoffman
3RD Vice President- Jon Geier
Treasurer- Stu Cofsky
Secretary- Cliff Denker
Immediate Past President -Michael Babst
BOARD MEMBERS
Howard Babbitt
Diane Buskirk
Lorna Klein
Ken Podos
Sondi Pripstein
Terri Robinovitz
David Shatz
Bonni Rubin-Sugarman
Rose Valentine
Ken Yudman
WOMEN'S AUXILIARY
President - Diane Buskirk
Treasurer - Suzy Geier
Secretary - Joanne Babbitt
Lorna Klein
Joyce Levine
Representative to the Board - Sondi Pripstein
Immediate Past President - Irene Babst
Rabbi Michael S. Jay, Spiritual Leader
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