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Are you one of the Flitterati?
This demands leaving the door open, waiting, avoiding, weighing things up, back-pedaling “just in case” and you don’t want to limit yourself, or rule anything out or close a door on choice – so best to stay put for a while and think it over; not make any hasty decisions. After all there’s no rush and besides a clear path hasn’t suggested itself yet. Sound familiar?
Are you one of those people who just can’t make their minds up? Should you stay or should you go? Should you date or dump? Why do you always want what someone else has ordered? Who are these people who confidently makes choices? How come they know their own minds??
Of course you want to chase your bliss. But what exactly is it? Is it a year out so you can help in orphanages in Africa or work in an orangutan sanctuary? Do you fancy dropping it all to become a yoga teacher, children’s author or travel blogger?
If it helps you are not alone.
Welcome to the Flitteratti
If you want to know if you are a Flitterer here’s a simple test.
- You answer questions – “Yes. No…” but don’t realise you do it.
- You always think there is something better round the corner so don’t commit to the present.
- You half finish or abandon courses, writing projects, keep fit classes, diets etc.
- You find it very stressful to make a decision from anything from a night out to a career move
- Travel always seems the best way out
- You go round and round in circles a lot. Friends are bored of hearing your “broken record”
- You wait for Fate to deal with situations rather than make a decision yourself. Then when you do you complain about what’s happened.
- You get anxious about making the wrong decision
- Perfectionism is a bit too important
- You’re often exhausted by your indecision and neurotic thoughts
- You “leave the door open” on relationships in case someone better comes along
- In the end you do nothing
Committing To Your Life – How scary is that?
With so many incredible choices out there of course it is important to chose the right path and deal with the consequences. But when you are crippled by procrastination and indecision you may find that life passes you by as you ponder away the years.
You are not alone. I have coached scores of people young and not so who are beginning to find some relief in not doing everything and committing to something at last.
Here are a few coaching questions to help the Flitter-minded settle on a path of purpose and passion:
- What would your life look and feel like if you fully committed to something?
- What would you have to believe in to do that?
- If you don’t make the decision what do you expect to happen?
- What might you regret about not committing yourself?
- Finishing this sentence – “Being responsible means….”
Defining your happiness or lassoing your passion is often the backbone to coaching sessions. This is great when the coach is guiding you through the process of goal setting and coming up with strategies to get you to your destination.
I have many more coaching tools to help those stuck in Flitteration. Why not book that trial session with me now?
Or pass this newsletter on to someone for whom the moment is never good enough.
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