How to Model Healthy Coping Skills

Helping kids learn strategies for handling big emotions

Tips:

Talk kids through how you cope

Show your feelings (even the painful ones)

Be kind to yourself

Painful feelings are unavoidable, but how we respond to them is a choice. And showing children how to cope effectively with uncomfortable emotions is one of the most important ways we can support their wellbeing and development.

Children pick up behavior patterns from adults, so one of the best ways to teach your kids good coping skills is to practice them yourself. Leading by example is also usually more effective than trying to tell kids what to do.

Writer: Rosa Klein-Baer   Clinical Expert: Grace Berman, LCSW      Childmind.org

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 Good Job" We all say that to our kids to encourage them. But praise does not grow connection between you and your child. But what can we say instead? When you’re making a change it can be really hard to just stop so here are some suggestions.

 1.      “You did it!”

2.     “Thank you”

3.     “How do you feel?”

4.     “You worked it out!”

5.     “Tell me about it”

6.     “I love to watch you do x”

7.     “That was hard work, you kept trying”

8.    “You look excited!”

9.     “I appreciate your help”

10. Say nothing

These phrases show your interest, share your child’s excitement, prompt discussion, express genuine gratitude, and encourage them. Isn’t that just so much more meaningful and connecting than praise?

For complete article: https://happinessishereblog.com/10-things-to-say-instead-of-good-job/

For a Successful Transition To Adulthood

1.      Start planning as soon as possible. School systems like new Jersey typically begin planning for transition with families when the child turns 14. Many agencies and advisory groups recommend starting 4 or 5 years earlier.

2.     Focus on transition planning in IEPs. The goals and strengths of the individual should be identified and helping them reach those goals, whether with standard course work or more specialized training, should be the focus of the plan.

3.     Determine if guardianship is appropriate. Guardianship requires a court appointment once the individual has turned 18. Independence needs to be weighed against safety and security. Full or limited guardianship are both options, as are limited powers of attorney for health care and property matters.

4.     Find an attorney who specializes in special needs planning. Having a knowledgeable advocate to guide you through the issues and connect you to community resources can be invaluable.

5.     Evaluate post-secondary or vocational education opportunities. None of us stop learning when we move on from high school. Additional course work may improve employment opportunities and increase independence.

6.     Ensure eligibility for government programs and benefits. At transition, all the programs that were delivered through the school system stop. Medicaid eligibility makes more programs available for young adults. Assume that applying for either SSI or SSDI will take longer than you expect.

7.     Be creative, be resourceful, and be realistic about employment. Most young adults with special needs are unable to find full-time paid employment. Targeting positions that utilize an individual’s strengths and interests will increase your chances for success as will identifying firms who have histories of hiring individuals with special needs.

8.    Seek opportunities for exercise and social interaction. Finding opportunities regardless of where you live is important for maintaining or improving physical and mental health.

9.     Locate appropriate housing. While independent living is often the goal, identifying and pursuing the optimal living arrangement for your young adult should be your priority. Start early as many preferred locations have long waiting lists.

10. Find time for respite. Transition takes its toll on the whole family. Often the adult family member with special needs requires more time and attention as an adult than he/she did while in school. It is important for everyone to get a break from the challenges of caring for a young adult.

https://oakwealth.com/top-ten-recommendations-for-special-needs-families/top-10-recommendations-for-a-successful-transition-to-adulthood/