O Star of Wonder, Star of Night, star with royal beauty bright;

westward leading, still proceeding, guide us to thy perfect light!

excerpt from "We Three Kings"

by John Henry Hopkins Jr.

Parish Newsletter

January 2023 

A New Year. A Renewed Journey.

O God, by the leading of a star you manifested your only Son to the peoples of the earth: Lead us, who know you now by faith, to your presence, where we may see your glory face to face; through Jesus Christ our Lord, who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, one God, now and for ever. Amen.

 

Collect for The Epiphany, January 6


We have seen His star in the East, and have come to worship Him. This statement by the three wise men to King Herod signals for us the Epiphany, the conclusion of Christmastide, and the heart of the message for all who follow the risen Lord. As we celebrated Christmas we heard the angels announcing Jesus’ birth first to the poor and humble shepherds. And then as we prepared to celebrate the feast of the Epiphany we learned that God’s reconciling love is for ALL people: lowly and powerful; rich and poor, “insiders” and “outsiders;” those we love and those we despise.

 

The Magi’s statement is a powerful one; it is a declaration of action. It is one thing to see the beautiful star in the heavens, the star that proclaims the birth of the King of Kings, and it is quite another to follow it. You see, the wise men did not simply look at the star, admire its beauty, and leave it at that. Oh, no; they followed it. They took action: they seized the moment and went out in search of the newborn king. They didn’t know where it would lead, but they knew what they would find when they arrived. And so they set out to follow the star.

 

We too have heard the wonderful news proclaimed that our King is near. We have seen his star in the beauty of Christmas. We know the story of his life, his teaching, and his amazing gift of redeeming love. Now we, like those kings of old, have a choice to make: we can admire His star from a distance – or we can go. We can go and give those gifts which are uniquely ours and which He most desires from us: our hearts, our hands and our selves, in service to the One who gave himself for US that we might have life and have it abundantly.

 

Faithfully,

A Beautiful Christmas 

St. Mary's Supports - A Baby Center

A sincere and heartfelt thank you to all of you for helping us support the important work done by The Baby Center. What could be more fitting in this Christmas Season than to uplift young families and newborn babies. Your generosity during our Christmas Service Open Plate resulted in $1719.00 being donated to The Baby Center. We were also able to donate $370 worth in gift cards gathered during our Christmas Party. Thank you St. Mary's!


A Joyous Celebration of Saint Lucia

at First Lutheran

Many St. Mary's parishioners gathered at First Lutheran on December 13th for a beautiful night of prayers and caroling and sharing traditions. For those of you who were unable to attend, I cannot attach the delicious baked goods they served but, I can attach the program from the evening. Click here to read through the celebration of St. Lucia.


St. Mary's Celebrates!

Our First Annual Night of Christmas Joy and Caroling Party

The rain stopped just in time for our celebration. We had so much fun, caroling (thank you Mark Lawlor) around a beautiful fire (thank you Peter Wagenblas). The Holiday Cheer was flowing with cider and wine and delectable treats galore. Pin the Nose on Rudolph proved to be challenging but Shiloh and Shenandoah Theroux were fabulous "safety assistants". Thank you all for bringing the JOY!



But Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me and do not hinder them, for to such belongs the kingdom of heaven.”

Matthew 19:14

A GIANT thank you to all of the families and children who participated in our Christmas Pageant this year! We had a beautiful menagerie of animals in the manger, sheep, a kitten, a tiger, and a clydesdale sized donkey. We had radiant angels and stars twinkling, a charismatic Ceasar Augustus, a wise prophet Isaiah and a whole flock of enthusiastic shepherds. Our baby Jesus appeared at the last minute and switched from being a wolf to being the christ child. A special thanks to our teenagers and even a couple college students who helped us complete our cast and support the youngest participants. It was a beautiful night. THANK YOU ALL!

Search Committee Corner

Almost four months into its tenure, your Search Committee is progressing steadily towards its first key objective: Organizing the survey of our membership that will facilitate the creation of our parish profile. That profile will be circulated throughout the Episcopal Church – on our own website, the Diocesan website, and the Episcopal News Service’s situations vacant columns, for example – with the goal or reaching every priest who might consider the opportunity to become our next rector.



The survey will consist of a series of multiple-choice questions. It’s designed, in effect, to take the temperature of the parish. It will do so by asking us to indicate what, as a congregation, we like and don’t like about our present situation; what changes, in terms of new programs and initiatives and de-emphasis on old ones, we would like to see St. Mary’s undertake in the next few years and beyond; what qualities we want to see in our new rector; and other relevant issues. Once all the data are gathered, they will be subjected to analysis and interpretation that will provide a template for the parish profile.


The success of the survey will, of course, rest on the depth of responses that it receives from parish members. Of course, we hope for 100 percent participation, so that every voice is heard. Certainly, we strongly encourage you to start thinking about your expectations for St. Mary’s and its future rector, and to be prepared to reveal those thoughts once the survey arrives. We’ll let you know well in advance when you can expect to receive the survey, and we’ll set up a meeting in Walden Hall to outline its details and the procedure for completing it. The survey will be available both remotely – via email – and in pen-and-paper format. And we assure you that we’ll maintain the privacy of all participants’ responses. So as you gather your thoughts about our parish, please remember to check for updates in the Search Committee Corner in the weekly parish Enews. And please feel free to contact us with your thoughts and suggestions at [email protected].



An Update From Our Outreach Committee

Outreach Committee Minutes

December 5, 2022

5:00 p.m. St. James Room

Present: Roy Hammer, Bev Parke, Judy Scarafile, Barry Olofsson, Bill Babcock, Jud Phelps, Allison Bresette, Father Scott, Sally Cameron, and Leezie Magruder


There was a thoughtful discussion about the allocation of the remaining Outreach Funds to be

distributed ($26,407.60).


The programs from October that were tabled were reported on:

Sally Cameron

These requests from the Angel House were actually a duplicate application due to a change in the administration at Angel House.

 $2,000 - Angel House Family Shelter

$2,500 - $5,000 -- Angel House Family Shelter -- Housing Assistance Corporation

Judy Scarafile for Peter Scarafile

This request is to support an ongoing program helping people keep up with their medical needs.

 $1,000 - $2,500 - Duffy Health Center

Bev Parke

The Amazing Grace program is going to be active this summer as they hold their camp program for children of an incarcerated parent.

$1,000 - $2,500 -- Amazing Grace of Cape Cod

Judy Scarafile

Judy explained the request from Big Nick’s Ride. After a thoughtful discussion by the committee members present, it was felt that their request does not really match our mission so no money will be allocated.

$2,500 - $5,000 -- Nicholas G. Xiarhos Memorial Fund - Big Nick's Ride for the Fallen

Jud Phelps

This request from the Baby Center was overlooked in October. 

$1500 – Baby Center for funds for car seats.

Jud Phelps requested that the money allocated to N.A.M.I. ($2500) in October be reallocated to F.A.I.R. due to lack of communication from N.A.M.I. administrator. The committee agreed to grant this request.

           

The Committee voted to allocate the following amounts:

$8,000 – to be divided between Angel House and the Housing Assistance Corporation

                 Angel House -- $5,000

                 Housing Assistance Corporation -- $3,000

$2,500 – Duffy House

$2,450 – Amazing Grace for camp scholarships

$450 will be identified as coming from the Eleanor Braun Fund for scholarship support

                  $2000 will be identified as coming from Outreach to be used for scholarships for one 8 --11 year old and one 12 – 15 year old.

$3,000 – The Baby Center for car seats

$2,000 – Hands of Hope

                 $1,000 will be identified as coming from the Marion Ferguson Fund

                 $1,000 will be identified as coming from Outreach

$5,000 – The Needy Fund

$3,000 – Habitat for Humanity

Final amount for Miracle Kitchen still to be determined

The Youth Group gift certificate program will not be happening this year.

Any remaining funds will be allocated to the Rector’s Discretionary Fund

The Christmas Offering will be decided by the Vestry at their next meeting. The parish will be notified of about the offering distribution.

 

The total allocated amount was $25,950.

 

The committee agreed that we should meet more than 2 times a year. We want to attempt to get programs to apply on our timeline of April 1 and October 1 so their program can be considered. Two programs we hope to learn more about are Tommy’s Place and We CAN. Committee members are encouraged to help get the word out to organizations and other parishioners.

 

The application is on the St. Mary’s website – stmarys-church.org

 

Future meeting will be determined.

 

Respectfully submitted,

Leezie Magruder



Pastor Russ's Creation Care Column

Nearly Every Country Signs

Agrees to a Sweeping Deal to Protect Nature


MONTREAL, Quebec


Roughly 190 countries early on Monday approved a sweeping United Nations agreement to protect 30 percent of the planet’s land and oceans by 2030 and to take a slew of other measures against biodiversity loss, a mounting under-the-radar crisis that, if left unchecked, jeopardizes the planet’s food and water supplies as well as the existence of untold species around the world.


The agreement comes as biodiversity is declining worldwide at rates never seen before in human history. Researchers have projected that a million plants and animals are at risk of extinction, many within decades. The last extinction event of that magnitude was the one that killed off the dinosaurs 65 million years ago.


While many scientists and activists had pushed for even stronger measures, the deal, which includes monitoring mechanisms that previous agreements had lacked, clearly signals increasing momentum around the issue.


“This is a huge moment for nature,” Brian O’Donnell, director of the Campaign for Nature, a coalition of groups pushing for protections, said about the agreement. “This is a scale of conservation that we haven’t seen ever attempted before.”


Overall, the deal lays out a suite of 23 environmental targets. The most prominent, known as 30x30, would place 30 percent of land and sea under protection. Currently, about 17 percent of the planet’s land and roughly 8 percent of its oceans are protected, with restrictions on activities like fishing, farming and mining.


The United States is just one of two countries in the world that are not party to the Convention on Biological Diversity, largely because Republicans, who are typically opposed to joining treaties, have blocked United States membership. That means the American delegation was required to participate from the sidelines.


President Biden has signed an executive order that would similarly place 30 percent of United States land and waters under protection, but any legislative efforts to support that goal are expected to face strong opposition when Republicans take control of the House in January.


While there are multiple causes of biodiversity loss, humans are behind them all. On land, the biggest driver is agriculture. At sea, it’s overfishing. Other factors include hunting, mining,logging, climate change, pollution and invasive species.

Buildings and Grounds Update

Our solar panels have been working hard for us. Originally it was estimated that we would produce about 40% of the electricity we consume. Our 104 panels have produced 44% of our electricity in 2022. (Pray for sunshine). That was over 40 MW of electricity and the solar panels saved us over $11,000 in 2022. 

That is enough electricity to run a refrigerator for 25 years! As a wonderful bonus we saved the equivalent of 734 trees. Overall a pretty good year. Congratulations to all of you who supported the project. 


A Note From Our Pastoral Care Team

Caregiver stress: Tips for taking care of yourself

Caring for a loved one strains even the most resilient people. If you're a caregiver, take steps to preserve your own health and well-being.

By Mayo Clinic Staff

As the population ages, more caregiving is being provided by people who aren't health care professionals. About 1 in 3 adults in the United States provides care to other adults as informal caregivers.

A caregiver is anyone who provides help to another person in need, such as an ill spouse or partner, a disabled child, or an aging relative. However, family members who are actively caring for an older adult often don't self-identify as a "caregiver." Recognizing this role can help caregivers receive the support they need.

Caregiving is rewarding but stressful

Caregiving can have many rewards. For most caregivers, being there when a loved one needs you is a core value and something you wish to provide.

But a shift in roles and emotions is almost certain. It is natural to feel angry, frustrated, exhausted, alone or sad. Caregiver stress — the emotional and physical stress of caregiving — is common.


People who experience caregiver stress can be vulnerable to changes in their own health. Risk factors for caregiver stress include:

  • ·      Being female
  • ·      Having fewer years of formal education
  • ·      Living with the person you are caring for
  • ·      Social isolation
  • ·      Having depression
  • ·      Financial difficulties
  • ·      Higher number of hours spent caregiving
  • ·      Lack of coping skills and difficulty solving problems
  • ·      Lack of choice in being a caregiver

Signs of caregiver stress

As a caregiver, you may be so focused on your loved one that you don't realize that your own health and well-being are suffering. Watch for these signs of caregiver stress:

  • ·      Feeling overwhelmed or constantly worried
  • ·      Feeling tired often
  • ·      Getting too much sleep or not enough sleep
  • ·      Gaining or losing weight
  • ·      Becoming easily irritated or angry
  • ·      Losing interest in activities you used to enjoy
  • ·      Feeling sad
  • ·      Having frequent headaches, bodily pain or other physical problems
  • ·      Abusing alcohol or drugs, including prescription medications


Too much stress, especially over a long time, can harm your health. As a caregiver, you're more likely to experience symptoms of depression or anxiety. In addition, you may not get enough sleep or physical activity, or eat a balanced diet — which increases your risk of medical problems, such as heart disease and diabetes.


To help manage caregiver stress:

  • ·      Accept help. Be prepared with a list of ways that others can help you, and let the helper choose what he or she would like to do. For instance, a friend may offer to take the person you care for on a walk a couple of times a week. Or a friend or family member may be able to run an errand, pick up your groceries or cook for you.
  • ·      Focus on what you are able to provide. It's normal to feel guilty sometimes, but understand that no one is a "perfect" caregiver. Believe that you are doing the best you can and making the best decisions you can at any given time.
  • ·      Set realistic goals. Break large tasks into smaller steps that you can do one at a time. Prioritize, make lists and establish a daily routine. Begin to say no to requests that are draining, such as hosting holiday meals.





  • ·      Get connected. Find out about caregiving resources in your community. Many communities have classes specifically about the disease your loved one is facing. Caregiving services such as transportation, meal delivery or housekeeping may be available.
  • ·      Join a support group. A support group can provide validation and encouragement, as well as problem-solving strategies for difficult situations. People in support groups understand what you may be going through. A support group can also be a good place to create meaningful friendships.
  • ·      Seek social support. Make an effort to stay well-connected with family and friends who can offer nonjudgmental emotional support. Set aside time each week for connecting, even if it's just a walk with a friend.
  • ·      Set personal health goals. For example, set goals to establish a good sleep routine, find time to be physically active on most days of the week, eat a healthy diet and drink plenty of water.
  • Many caregivers have issues with sleeping. Not getting quality sleep over a long period of time can cause health issues. If you have trouble getting a good night's sleep, talk to your doctor.
  • ·      See your doctor. Get recommended vaccinations and screenings. Make sure to tell your doctor that you're a caregiver. Don't hesitate to mention any concerns or symptoms you have.

Respite care

It may be hard to imagine leaving your loved one in someone else's care, but taking a break can be one of the best things you do for yourself — as well as the person you're caring for. Most communities have some type of respite care available, such as:

  • ·      In-home respite. Health care aides come to your home to provide companionship, nursing services or both.
  • ·      Adult care centers and programs. Some centers provide care for both older adults and young children, and the two groups may spend time together.
  • ·      Short-term nursing homes. Some assisted living homes, memory care homes and nursing homes accept people needing care for short stays while caregivers are away.

The caregiver who works outside the home

Nearly 60% of caregivers work outside of the home. If you work outside the home and you're a caregiver, you may begin to feel overwhelmed. If you do, think about taking leave from your job for a period of time.

Employees covered under the federal Family and Medical Leave Act may be able to take up to 12 weeks of unpaid leave a year to care for relatives. Ask your human resources office about options for unpaid leave.

You aren't alone

If you're like many caregivers, you have a hard time asking for help. Unfortunately, this attitude can lead to feeling isolated, frustrated and even depressed.

Rather than struggling on your own, take advantage of local resources for caregivers. To get started, check out the Eldercare Locator or contact your local Area Agency on Aging (AAA) to learn about services in your community. You can find your local AAA online or in the government section of your telephone directory.

 


Pledge Envelopes Have Arrived


Please look for your envelopes in the sunroom. In an effort to cut down on paper waste we only ordered envelopes for those who used them last year.

Thank you!

Valentines For Veterans TIme


Judy Scarafile is working to organize our annual effort to make Valentine's to accompany the food package donations going to Veterans in need on February 9th. Please contact Judy or Allison if you are interested in helping.

Thank you!



A Note From The Sacred Ground Committee

Thank you all for your interest in joining us on another journey through the Sacred Ground Curriculum. Unfortunately, although there was a lot of interest throughout the Parish we did not have enough individuals able to fill any one session. The Committee will be working to modify our proposed class schedule and in addition we will be inviting our brothers and sisters at First Lutheran to participate with us, most likely after Easter. More details to follow.

A Note to Our Volunteers


Thank you to all who participated in the special training sessions Father Scott offered for LEM, Altar Guild, Acolytes and other Liturgical Participants. Please know your dedication and care makes our Worship beautiful and our spiritual lives richer. An enormous thank you to our Flower and Altar Guilds who worked overtime during the Christmas Season making our church look so glorious. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!


We always welcome more to join our ministry groups. Please give the office a call if you are interested. We are still in need of more, garden committee members, flower guild members, ushers, LEM's , acolytes, lectors, video streamers, zoom facilitators, Half Day Hooray Volunteers, Coffee Hour hosts. ALL ARE WARMLY WELCOME! Please just let Julie or Allison know you are interested.




A Note From Rob and Bev Parke ...

On IRAs, RMDs and QCDs.


We have been asked to share the following thought as we move into

2023. In the St. Mary’s congregation there are a fair number of us

who, by virtue of the passage of years, have to know about “Required

Minimum Distributions” (RMDs). Our Individual Retirement Accounts

must have a particular percent withdrawn annually. Normally, the

entire amount of those withdrawals would be added to our taxable

income. However, by designating a portion of those RMD funds as

“Qualified Charitable Distributions” (QCDs), including our annual

pledge to St. Mary’s, we are able to exclude that portion of our RMD

funds from our taxable income. In essence, the share pf our RMDs

that we designate as QCDs bypasses our income and goes directly to

the church and other causes — and thus is not subject to taxation.

Anyone faced with having to take an annual RMD might find this a

useful step. (Please note that we are not qualified to provide tax

advice, just able to share our experience in this regard. Anyone

considering this course of action should consult with a qualified tax

advisor.)



Vestry Minutes December


The December 8th 2022 Vestry meeting was called to order at 5pm.

 

Barry’s 7th year of service as treasurer was voted with approval.

 

Hub sought volunteers for coffee hour as he has taken over coordination of that ministry.

 

Total church service attendance for November was 636; for the year thru November 4,650. Both have been growing steadily, but have not reached preCovid levels.

 

Angel’s Treasures expects to raise $107,000 this year. Half of this will go to outreach and half will support the church’s operating budget.

 

The office is implementing a new communications system: submissions for E-news to be sent to Allison by Tuesday for publication Friday morning; Monthly Newsletter submissions due by the 15th of the month to be published on the 25th.

 

Search Committee Report: A Church Assessment Tool (CAT) will be offered to parishioners both online and on paper to help develop a St. Mary’s profile and job offering. The survey will be distributed in January and consist of 90 multiple choice questions with an option of adding text comments.

 

Outreach Report: all but $300 of their $65,000 budget have been distributed (based on grant requests) to nine local organizations. They plan to meet 4 times next year.

 

Additional reports: Half Day Hooray Ministry continues to need volunteers; holiday auction predicts $5000 in revenue; Janis is seeking participants to revive the Holly Fair next year. Garden Committee planted 600 daffodil bulbs in December; and the very successful First Lutheran/St. Mary’s forum in December drew 45 people .

 

Interim priest update: 10 Meet and Greets held, attended by about 100 parishioners; program to continue in January. Attendance has been strong compared to other churches. Church office closed 12/23/22-1/2/23. Scott away After Dec 25th service - January 2.

 

Christmas offering will go to the Baby Center in Hyannis

 

The new logo of Faith Communities Environmental Network (FCEN), 36 churches participating in the Cape Cod Climate Change Collaborative chaired by Dorothy Savarese, will be added as a live link to www.capecodclimate.org/faith. St. Mary’s website to be added to FECN as a live link.

 

Nominating committee (3 departing members, wardens and rector): received 10 names from parishioners; a slate will be presented at annual meeting.

 

Treasurer”s Report: Barry shared financial results through the end of November:


  •   Total cash and invested assets are expected to be up due to market conditions
  •   Liabilities are expected to be up due to timing
  •   Total Ordinary Income is expected to continue to run above the prorated budget. 
  •   Total Ordinary Expense is expected to continue to run below the prorated budget

 

In addition to the financial reports Barry shared notes on stewardship:


  •  As of December 7th, $309,535.24 in pledges had been received from 122 pledge units including 100% of the Vestry and clergy. A minimum of $340,000 is needed to support the draft budget. More is needed to pay for Search Committee expenses.
  • Thanking pledge makers by name (without pledge amount) in the bulletin and annual report was suggested and discussed.
  • The affordability of an Assistant Priest will be discussed at the January Finance Committee and will be presented to the Vestry for their review.

 

Meeting adjourned at 7:30 pm.

 

Respectfully submitted, Hub Mathewson, Clerk