Care for your Marriage
For many, the Covid 19 pandemic is placing stress on marriages and home life. It is good to be alert to this. The pandemic can easily exacerbate any weakness in a relationship and aggravate any past hurts or underlying issues that might harm a relationship. Just the current stressors of the coronavirus cause most of us to face our shadows. In New York, there has been a 50% rise in divorce proceedings. Increased filings have taken place around the world hard hit by this virus such as in China and Turkey.
Emily De La Torre, a nationally board certified, licensed Catholic mental health counselor who specializes in marriage and family therapy has offered these suggestions:
Plan on adjusting and changing to new roles. Make a plan for
the division of labor.
Do not forget you do need “alone time.” You may need to
find it in the bathtub, garage, back yard, etc.
Video call married couple friends to maintain a sense of
Strive to be your best self: offering forgiveness, acceptance,
patience, encouragement, etc.
Engage in growth activities: read a book, watch an
educational show, take an on line seminar, make a self-
improvement plan A good book to consider is Hold Me Tight
Every couple has a fighting cycle, understand yours and
know your triggers
Some communication issues cannot be worked through
together. Seek professional help when necessary (telehealth
couples counseling is a possibility).
Professional help reduces
distress in 75% of couples, while 90% of couples will
experience lasting relationship improvement.
If you are in need of someone to talk to, please contact Erica Cohen Moore at firstname.lastname@example.org for a list of available Mental Health Committee Members in the Archdiocese of Seattle