St. Mary's Episcopal Church

Stone Harbor, New Jersey


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Rector's Corner


Born From Above and Learning to Discern the Wind


There is something profoundly human about the way this week’s Gospel begins. A respected leader comes to Jesus under the cover of night.


Nicodemus is faithful, learned, and committed. And still, he comes with questions. He comes in the dark. Many of us know that place.

We show up for worship. We serve on vestry. We care for one another. We try to be steady in an unsteady world. Yet beneath the surface there is often a deeper wondering. What is God doing right now. Where is the Spirit moving? How do we respond faithfully in a time that feels both tender and turbulent? That is the work of discernment.


When Jesus tells Nicodemus that he must be born from above, he is not handing him a rule. He is inviting him into a new way of perceiving. A life animated by Spirit. A life attuned to God’s movement rather than driven by fear or habit.

“The wind blows where it chooses,” Jesus says.


You cannot control the wind. You cannot schedule it. You cannot manufacture it. But you can learn to feel it on your skin. You can watch how it bends the trees. You can listen for its sound.


Discernment is exactly this kind of attentiveness. It is not cleverness. It is not anxiety disguised as urgency. It is prayerful listening. It is asking, together, what is being born among us. It is paying attention to where there is life, where there is freedom, where there is love that feels larger than our own.


In John’s Gospel, Jesus goes on to say, “For God so loved the world.” The world. The whole aching, complicated human family. And he clarifies that he was not sent to condemn the world, but to save it, to make it whole. If that is true, then discernment is not about protecting ourselves from the world. It is about joining God’s loving work within it. It is about asking how we, as St. Mary’s, are being invited to participate in that love here and now.


As your Rector, I sense in our parish what I would call quiet resilience. A tenderness. A willingness to stay with hard conversations. A desire to be faithful rather than flashy. That is not accidental. That is the Spirit shaping us.


But being born from above is ongoing. It is not a one-time event. It is a continual surrender. It means allowing God to reshape our assumptions, our priorities, even our comfort. It means stepping into the light, trusting that whatever is revealed there can be healed there.


Nicodemus begins in the dark. Yet he keeps moving toward Jesus. That is discernment. Returning to Christ again and again. Letting our questions be honest. Letting our hearts be softened. Listening together for the movement of God.


May we be a community that notices the wind.

May we have the courage to follow where it leads.

And may we trust that the One who loves the world is still breathing new life into us.


With love and steady hope in Christ,

Mo. Allison+

" I'm very excited to announce that the Episcopal Diocese of New Jersey's ECW is having a Lenten Retreat again this year, facilitated by the wonderful Very Rev. Allison Burns-LaGreca!

See the flyer below.


Register by contacting me, at dlfesq@aol.com or via messenger, so we can plan materials and refreshments. Thank you to Linda Kinsley and St. Thomas' ECW for hosting!"


Please register by contacting Donna Freidel at dlfesq@aol.com

The Episcopal Diocese of New Jersey


MONTHLY TOWN HALL MEETINGS

1st Thursday of each month


7:00 PM LAY LEADERS TOWN HALL - Register


March 1:  Absalom Jones Service of Witness

March 1:  Annual Parochial Reports Due - See Item Below

March 12: Fresh Start

March 21: Stations of Reparation

March 21: ECW Retreat at St. Thomas, Glassboro

March 26: Chrism Mass

March 29: Palm Sunday

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2026 Liturgical Calendars

Radzieta Funeral Home has provided liturgical calendars to St. Mary's. They can be found in the parish hall, and church narthex. Please help yourself to one.

Forward Day By Day for 
February, March and April

The new year is a wonderful time to start or renew a habit of daily scripture reading. Forward Day by Day makes it easy, with daily scripture listings and reflections, prayer and action. Pick one up …and your new year habit begins!


The February, March and April 2026 edition of Forward Day by Day is available in the church narthex. Please help yourself to a copy and feel free to take one for someone who may enjoy this devotional. If you would like us to mail one to you, please contact the church office. 609.368.5922

Stewardship Minute

Stewardship packets were mailed. If you did not receive one and would like to, please let the church office know. 609.368.5922 jultaylor9425@gmail.com


You may read the Stewardship letter from Larry Schmidt, St. Mary's Stewardship Chair, at this link.

Your 2026 Pledge Form is Online for your convenience. 

Click here.

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@StMarysStoneHarbor


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Some ways to support St. Mary's


  • Become a member
  • Volunteer
  • The Sunday collection plate
  • Send a check payable to St. Mary's to:


St. Mary's Episcopal Church,

9425 Third Ave., Stone Harbor, NJ 08247

(Your envelope and number is not necessary, only your name.)


  • Setting up a personal online banking "bill pay" option. The bank will mail the check for you to the church office.
  • Online giving through our website at https://www.stmarysstoneharbor.org/
    
  • We accept donations via Venmo! @StMarysStoneHarbor

http://www.venmo.com/u/StMarysStoneHarbor

Sunday Coffee Hour


Please join us for Coffee Hour on Sundays in the parish hall.

It is an opportunity to get together for relaxed conversation and fellowship over a cup of coffee.

If you would like to provide a snack for coffee hour, please pick a Sunday and sign up. Nothing elaborate, just a small snack to enjoy with coffee.

You can find the sign up sheet on the door to the kitchen.


Thank you!


CHECK OUT OUR CALENDAR on our website for all activities taking place throughout the week.


Second Sunday in Lent

Genesis 12:1-4a

Romans 4:1-5, 13-17

John 3:1-17

Psalm 121

Worship Services


Sunday Service Time: 10:00 AM

St. Mary's 2025 Vestry

Sr. Warden

Lillian Armstrong


Jr. Warden/Clerk of the Vestry

Dina Ziemba

 

Vestry

Cathy Johnson

Kate Rodriguez

Pat Saunders

Susan DiStefano

Larry Schmidt


Treasurer

Jack Olthuis


Services, studies, and service bulletins may be accessed on our website: www.stmarysstoneharbor.org
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