St. Mary's Episcopal Church

Stone Harbor, New Jersey


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Sunday Holy Eucharist: 10:00 am



Annual Parish Meeting

January 18, 2026

10:00 am

Parish Hall


Our Annual Meeting will NOT be livestreamed. Please join us in person.


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Rector's Corner


A Message from Bishop Austin


Over the past year and a half, I have been writing quite a bit. Many of you follow along on social media and have been overwhelmingly supportive. While the growth of my pastoral presence has had many benefits, it can also become too familiar. Today, I wish to step aside and share with you a letter from Bishop Austin of the Episcopal Diocese of California that he sent to the congregations of his diocese. Thank you, Sherrie, for sharing this with me!


A Message from Bishop Austin


Since Monday, I’ve been participating in a contemplative prayer retreat with some of my fellow bishops in Schuyler, Nebraska. The time we’ve spent has been meaningful, and I am particularly grateful to have begun this new year focused on prayer—this most essential part of our Christian discipleship that can often fall by the wayside as the concerns and crush of the world mount. 


Like many of you, I awoke on January 3 to the shocking and disheartening news that our country invaded Venezuela, forcibly removed their president, and unabashedly stated that the U.S. was going to run the country and control its oil production. For an administration that promised many things, including the end of our involvement in “forever wars,” this action is especially alarming. The fact that our duly elected representatives in Congress had absolutely no involvement in this decision is beyond troubling for such a weighty and consequential action.


I asked myself, “What can I do as a Christian, as an American citizen, and as a child of God who values the hard-won democracy that generations of our forebears bled for, marched for, and sought to perfect?” 


I am not so naïve as to believe that my salvation arises through our political system or our elected leaders. I do my best to avoid partisan bluster. I endeavor to refrain from the same dehumanization of those who vote differently from me that I find deplorable when aimed at me.  

But there are times that require us to make our ultimate allegiance known, and the combination of this action in Venezuela, repeated attempts to rewrite the history of the January 6 Capitol riot, and yesterday’s murder of Renee Good in Minnesota by ICE agents makes me do so now. 


As a follower of the One we know as the Prince of Peace, I see war as one of our worst human failures and must only be considered as a last resort. To actively seek it out, especially when one’s own life is not offered in service to the cause, is reckless, foolish, and decidedly not in line with the teachings of Christ.


The attempts to whitewash the violence and insurrection of January 6, on the day we Western Christians celebrate the last day of Christmas and the arrival of the wise ones at Jesus’ manger is jarring. As Christians, we celebrate the Epiphany, which is about the promises of God extending beyond Jesus’ narrow social context and tribe to enlighten the nations and larger world. And yet, January 6 in our country is now known for division, destruction, and deceit. Such misdirection and schemes are more easily associated with King Herod than with the King of Kings who is the way, the truth, and the life.


And when I see another civilian murdered by an ICE agent on a residential street in Minnesota, and the sickening spin that ensues, I wonder when it will be enough. How many more innocent people will die before we decide to say no more? How many of the freedoms our forebears fought for must be erased before we stand up together and take our own risks for freedom’s sake? 


As I said earlier, I’ve chosen to begin this new year with a renewed focus on contemplative prayer. The Bishop of Minnesota, the Rt. Rev. Craig Loya, who now must deal with this crisis in his diocese, as well as the Bishop of Washington, the Rt. Rev. Mariann Budde, who called our country to decency and mercy last year during this season, have been praying here as well. 


I ask all of you who read this, regardless of who you vote for, to join us in this renewed focus and to attend to your own prayer lives.


Not as a way of shutting out the world, or disengaging from the hard work ahead of us, but as the surest path to discerning how and when to enact your faith allegiance in the public square. 


Through contemplative prayer, each of us comes face to face with two simultaneous truths—we are all beset by fears and the shadow sides of our souls that we’d prefer to ignore or hide AND we are all beloved by God in unfathomable ways that we spend this existence exploring. The more we can attune ourselves to these truths, the more we can both receive and extend grace and perceive when it is time to take the fruits of prayer and convert them into action.


As we move into this Epiphany season, in a time of uncertainty and fear in our country, I pray that you will resist the urge to meet violence with violence, hatred with more hatred, and dehumanization with more dehumanization. 


Sink the roots of your heart deep into the rich soil of Jesus’ way, truth, and life and draw from the living water that only he can provide. And most importantly, connect with your siblings in Christ for strength and support and keep reminding one another of “whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is pleasing, whatever is commendable,” and then find ways to live that out together. 


For the sake of our country, the sake of our planet, and the sake of your very souls.


Yours in Christ,

Austin   

Contemplative Prayer

A gentle invitation to rest in God


Description


Contemplative prayer is not about doing more, saying more, or thinking harder. It is about consenting to God’s presence and action within us. In a world that constantly demands our attention, contemplative prayer invites us to stop striving and simply be. It is prayer of the heart rather than the head, a holy pause where we trust that God meets us not in our performance, but in our openness.


In contemplative prayer, we are not trying to solve problems or generate insights. We are practicing presence. We come as we are, carrying whatever the day has handed us, and we place ourselves quietly before God. Over time, this prayer gently reshapes us. It softens what is clenched, steadies what is anxious, and reminds us that we are held.


This form of prayer can feel unfamiliar at first. Silence often does. Yet silence is not empty. It is spacious, attentive, and alive with God’s nearness.


Instructions

  1. Prepare the space
  2. Find a quiet place where you can sit comfortably for 5 to 15 minutes. You may wish to light a candle as a sign that Christ is present with you.
  3. Settle your body
  4. Sit with your feet on the floor and your hands resting easily in your lap. Gently close your eyes or soften your gaze. Take a few slow breaths, allowing your body to arrive where you are.
  5. Choose a sacred word or phrase
  6. Select a simple word or short phrase that expresses your intention to rest in God, such as “peace,” “Jesus,” “be still,” or “Abba.” This is not a mantra to repeat constantly, but an anchor.
  7. Rest in silence
  8. As thoughts, feelings, or distractions arise, notice them without judgment and gently return to your sacred word. Let it draw you back into stillness. There is no need to force anything. Simply return, again and again.
  9. Remain for the time you have chosen
  10. When the time ends, do not rush away. Take a moment to become aware of your breathing and your surroundings. Offer a simple prayer of gratitude.
  11. Carry the stillness with you
  12. As you move back into your day, trust that the prayer continues to work within you, even if you feel nothing at all.


A gentle word of encouragement


If this prayer feels difficult, you are not doing it wrong. The wandering mind is not a failure, it is part of being human. Each return to stillness is itself a prayer. Contemplative prayer is less about success and more about faithfulness, showing up and trusting that God is already there.

“Be still, and know that I am God.”



ANNUAL MEETING of THE CONGREGATION of ST. MARY'S EPISCOPAL CHURCH

The Annual Congregational Meeting of St. Mary's Church will be held on Sunday, January 18, 2026 in St. Mary's Parish Hall at 10:00 AM. Please plan to attend the meeting.

Message of gratitude from a member

The number of non-driving regular church attendees has risen to five at St. Mary’s.  A group of parishioners who drive banded together to provide regular transportation to St. Mary’s for these non-driving individuals, so that all who want to attend services on a given Sunday may do so.



This group of drivers saw a need, and quietly, without fanfare, formed this ministry, to the gratitude of all who benefit. Thank you!

Maker's Night January 23rd

Plan to join us for a night of crafty fun and creativity. We'll each make an Ocean Wave Board in St. Mary's Parish Hall. Bring a friend or two, or more, and please spread the word. All in the community are welcome!


When: Friday, January 23rd

Time: 6 pm

Cost: $40 includes all materials and instructions
BYO:
Snacks and Drinks
Sign up:
Email backyardbarman@gmail.com

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2026 Liturgical Calendars

Radzieta Funeral Home has once again provided liturgical calendars to St. Mary's. They can be found in the parish hall, and church narthex. Please help yourself to one.

Forward Day By Day for 
February, March and April

The new year is a wonderful time to start or renew a habit of daily scripture reading. And Forward Day by Day makes it easy, with daily scripture listings and reflections, prayer and action. Pick one up …and your new year habit begins!


The February, March and April 2026 edition of Forward Day by Day is available in the church narthex. Please help yourself to a copy and feel free to take one for someone who may enjoy this devotional. If you would like us to mail one to you, please contact the church office. 609.368.5922

Stewardship Minute

Stewardship packets were mailed. If you did not receive one and would like to, please let the church office know. 609.368.5922 jultaylor9425@gmail.com


You may read the Stewardship letter from Larry Schmidt, St. Mary's Stewardship Chair, at this link.

Your 2026 Pledge Form is Online for your convenience. 

Click here.

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Some ways to support St. Mary's


  • Become a member
  • Volunteer
  • The Sunday collection plate
  • Send a check payable to St. Mary's to:


St. Mary's Episcopal Church,

9425 Third Ave., Stone Harbor, NJ 08247

(Your envelope and number is not necessary, only your name.)


  • Setting up a personal online banking "bill pay" option. The bank will mail the check for you to the church office.
  • Online giving through our website at https://www.stmarysstoneharbor.org/
    
  • We accept donations via Venmo! @StMarysStoneHarbor

http://www.venmo.com/u/StMarysStoneHarbor

Formation/ Education

The Baptismal Covenant

p. 304-5 in

The Book of Common Prayer.

The baptismal covenant “is widely regarded as the normative statement of what it means to follow Christ” in these questions and answers, the congregation expresses the ways each of the faithful will live their faith both inside and outside the church walls.

 

The first four questions are patterned on the Apostles’ Creed, with the liturgy’s celebrant asking the people about their beliefs in each of the members of the Trinity, along with a concise understanding of their natures. Following these questions, the covenant includes five questions regarding how we, as Christians, are called to live out our faith: with firm commitment and a reliance on God’s help. (click on the picture to take you to a Larger Version)


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Timeline

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Music & Liturgy

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Sunday Coffee Hour


Please join us for Coffee Hour on Sundays in the parish hall.

It is an opportunity to get together for relaxed conversation and fellowship over a cup of coffee.

If you would like to provide a snack for coffee hour, please pick a Sunday and sign up. Nothing elaborate, just a small snack to enjoy with coffee.

You can find the sign up sheet on the door to the kitchen.


Thank you!


CHECK OUT OUR CALENDAR on our website for all activities taking place throughout the week.


1 Epiphany: The Baptism of Our Lord Jesus Christ

Isaiah 42:1-9

Acts 10:34-43

Matthew 3:13-17

Psalm 29

Worship Services


Sunday Service Time: 10:00 AM

St. Mary's 2025 Vestry

Sr. Warden

Lillian Armstrong


Jr. Warden

Cheryl Lukens Oleferuk

 

Clerk of the Vestry

Dina Ziemba

 

Vestry

Cathy Johnson

Allyn Penkethman

Kate Rodriguez


Treasurer

Jack Olthuis


The Annual Report for 2024 may be downloaded here.

Services, studies, and service bulletins may be accessed on our website: www.stmarysstoneharbor.org
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