St. Mary's Episcopal Church

Stone Harbor, New Jersey


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Sunday Service - 10:00 am

Saturday Service 5:30 pm 101st St. Beach Pavilion

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Sunday Service Time: 10:00 am

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Ninth Sunday after Pentecost: Proper 11

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Rector's Corner


A Reflection on Compassion and Healing


This past week, I had the opportunity to experience a profound reminder of the healing and restorative power of compassion, as reflected in the Gospel of Mark 6:30-34, 53-56.


For my Sabbath, Lisa and I left the island and went away. All of you who know me know that I couldn't wait to get into the water and fully immerse myself in its healing and restorative power.


As I floated along feeling the jets at my back, I noticed an overwhelming energy drawing my attention. I put my hands together, cusp the water, and rinsed my face, as my eyes slowly opened and I washed down my arms, I felt the ripple of prayer cross the water catch me in the gut. There, as I gazed up from my reflection, she stood, left arm in the air flowing side to side, reaching for the heavens. A young man, tall and thin, stood attentively behind her outside of the water as Bob Marley played in the background to the rhythm of her prayer. I felt her energy calling, a deep sadness, a grief, a pain. She didn't pray aloud with voice, she prayed with her body, eyes closed, side to side she swayed, arm in the air the other on her heart. The spirit tapped me, spoke to me, "Go to her."


I adhered to the spirit's call, looked at Lisa, "I'll be right back," I said. I waded through the ripples of prayer dancing between us. She was an African American woman, stood about 5ft tall, was heavy in stature, and her eyes were tightly shut. As I approached her, I noticed a single tear trailing down the side of her cheek. Quietly I spoke, "Are you ok?" I said to her. I caught her off guard, she didn't know I was approaching. She was deep in her feelings. "Yeah" she replied. "Are you sure?" I said meekly. "I'm ok" she said. I smiled and nodded, but inside, my heart sank. I could feel her pain, intensely. She wasn't ready to speak, especially not to some strange white girl in a jacuzzi.


As I made my way back to Lisa, my eyes filled with my own tears, heart heavy and filled with compassion. I stepped out of the water and went inside to recenter myself and pray. " Ok, spirit," I said, she is not ready, but if it be your will, present her to me again." She remained on my heart all night. I said to Lisa at dinner, "She lost someone close, she's grieving, I can feel it, but it's in the hands of the spirit. Thy will be done."


The next morning we woke. I wanted to get a good early start as we would be leaving in the afternoon. We hustled everything together, packed the car, and went back to the pool bright and early, around 8:30 am. Straight to the Jacuzzi we were chatting with folks, when to the right of me she appeared. The young, tall, thin gentleman escorted her down the stairs like royalty. She announced as she approached the last step, "I'm blind. Could you tell me if there is a place for me?" The Holy Spirit delivered.


I immediately dropped off of the gathered conversation, "Right here," I said, "I'll move down." "Thank you. You are that girl from yesterday who asked if I was ok?" "Yes, I am," I said. "I could feel your pain." She responded, "He said," referring to the gentleman with her, "you were crying." "Yes", I said, "I was."

"My God, thank you," she went on, "Every year my girlfriends and I," she got choked up, "would come here for a girls weekend and dance and have a good time. But one night, we were all supposed to go out, but I wasn't feeling well, so I stayed home, and they died, they all died in a car accident." I was supposed to be with them."

"I'm so sorry, " I said, "they were young."

"Yes," she said as the tears streamed down her face.


We engaged in conversation. I told her not to worry that I wasn't just some crazy person, but a priest who, from time to time, gets a nudge from the spirit to deliver a message. "You are loved, my dear; God loves you; you are meant to be here in this moment; keep dancing; your friends, though you cannot see them, are right here dancing with you."


She smiled and I could feel the grief lifting from her soul. She shared her story. " I'm Rhea and that's Marc, he's legally blind and on the first day here he broke his glasses. It's been a tough trip."

"Is he your son?" I said.

"No, he's my boyfriend. Why does he look young? "Yeah, I said with an assuring playful tone.

"Is he good looking?" she said.

"Oh yeah," I replied. We laughed and chatted, and by the end of the conversation, she was at peace and smiling. Before leaving, I observed her family arrive and the joy shared among them all. My heart leaped with joy!


This encounter reminded me of the Gospel of Mark, where Jesus and his disciples, despite their own weariness, were moved by compassion to minister to the needs of the people. Jesus taught, healed, and fed the crowds, embodying the essence of divine compassion. This same compassion calls us to be present for one another, to recognize the hidden pain and need for healing in our midst.


In our busy lives, we may forget to pause and connect with each other deeply. We must make time to gather as a faith community, to rest, break bread together, and be reminded of our shared humanity. Let us be open to the nudges of the spirit, guiding us to reach out and offer compassion to those around us.


As we reflect on this Gospel and my recent experience, may we be inspired to live out our faith with compassion, recognizing the presence of Christ in our interactions. Let us be the hands and feet of Jesus, bringing healing and hope to those in need.


With love and compassion,

Mo. Allison+

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Forward Day by Day - August, September, October issue

Read, Reflect, Respond, Pray - Forward Day by Day is an inspiring daily devotional to begin your day with. The August, September, October issue is now available in the church narthex. Please help yourself to a copy and feel free to take one for a friend who may enjoy having it. If you would like us to mail a copy to you, please let the church office know and we will be glad to send it.

Stewardship Minute


To All of our members and friends


What is Stewardship?


Stewardship is the responsible management and care of the resources that God has entrusted to us. It encompasses our time, talents, and treasures, recognizing that everything we have is a gift from God. As stewards, we are called to use these gifts wisely, generously, and joyfully to further God's work in the world.


Why is Stewardship Important?


Deepening Our Faith: Stewardship is a spiritual practice that helps us grow in faith. By giving back a portion of what we have received, we acknowledge God's sovereignty and express our gratitude for His blessings. This act of giving strengthens our relationship with God and deepens our trust in His provision.


Supporting Our Mission: At St. Mary's, our mission is to share the love of Christ, serve our community, and nurture spiritual growth. Your contributions enable us to offer meaningful worship services, provide pastoral care, support outreach programs, and maintain our beautiful church facilities. Every gift, no matter the size, makes a significant impact on our ability to fulfill this mission.


Building Community: Stewardship fosters a sense of belonging and partnership within our congregation. When we come together to share our resources, we create a vibrant and supportive community. Your generosity allows us to host fellowship events, educational programs, and other activities that strengthen our bonds and enrich our spiritual lives.


Extending Our Reach: Through your stewardship, St. Mary's can extend its reach beyond our church walls. We support local, national, and international initiatives that address critical needs, such as hunger relief, disaster response, and educational support. By giving to St. Mary's, you are part of a larger effort to make a positive difference in the world.


How You Can Get Involved


  • Pray: Begin with prayer, asking God to guide you in your stewardship journey. Seek God's wisdom in how you can best use your gifts to serve God's kingdom.


  • Give: Consider making a financial contribution to St. Mary's. Your regular tithes and offerings provide the foundation for our ministry. You can give online, or by mail or by collection plate.


  • Serve: Offer your time and talents by volunteering for one of our many ministries. Whether it's assisting with worship services, participating in outreach projects, or joining a committee, your involvement is invaluable.


  • Invite: Encourage others to join our church family. Share the good work that St. Mary's is doing and invite friends, family, and neighbors to experience our community and worship with us.


Thank you for your ongoing generosity and commitment to St. Mary's. Together, we can continue to grow in faith, serve our community, and make a lasting impact for Christ.

Some ways to support St. Mary's


  • Become a member
  • Volunteer
  • The Sunday collection plate
  • Send a check payable to St. Mary's to:


St. Mary's Episcopal Church,

9425 Third Ave., Stone Harbor, NJ 08247

(Your envelope and number is not necessary, only your name.)


  • Setting up a personal online banking "bill pay" option. The bank will mail the check for you to the church office.
  • Online giving through our website at https://www.stmarysstoneharbor.org/
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We have now joined Venmo! If you have Venmo, you can donate to the church - @StMarysStoneHarbor


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Become an Acolyte and Eucharistic Minister!

Are you seeking a deeper connection with our worship and community? Have you felt the call to serve in a meaningful way? We invite you to consider becoming an Acolyte and Eucharistic Minister.


Why Serve?


Spiritual Enrichment: As an Acolyte or Eucharistic Minister, you'll play a vital role in our worship services, helping to create a sacred and reverent atmosphere. This ministry offers a profound way to experience God's presence and grace.


Community Connection: Serving in these roles strengthens your bond with fellow parishioners and enhances your sense of belonging within our church family.


Personal Growth: Engaging in this ministry allows you to grow in faith, humility, and service. It's an opportunity to develop leadership skills and deepen your understanding of our liturgical traditions.


What Does the Role Involve?


Acolytes assist in the preparation and conduct of our worship services, lighting candles, carrying the cross, and helping with the altar.


Eucharistic Ministers assist in distributing the Holy Communion, sharing the body and blood of Christ with our congregation.


No prior experience is needed—just a heart willing to serve and a commitment to our church’s mission. Training will be provided to ensure you feel confident and supported in your new role.


How to Get Involved


If you are interested in joining this fulfilling ministry, please contact Mo. Allison. You can also sign up after Sunday services at the welcome table in the narthex.


We are excited to welcome new members to our team and to witness the many ways you will enrich our worship and community life.


Together, let us continue to serve God and one another with joy and devotion.

Coffee Hour

Coffee Hour is held after service every Sunday in the parish hall. It is an opportunity to get together for relaxed conversation and fellowship over a cup of coffee. If you would like to provide a snack for coffee hour, please pick a Sunday and sign up. Nothing elaborate, just a small snack to enjoy with coffee. You can find the sign up sheet on the door to the kitchen. Thank you!

Upcoming Events

Sunday Service - 10:00 am

Saturday Worship at the 101st St. Beach Pavilion 5:30 pm


  • July 21st - Vestry Meeting 11 am
  • July 24th - Recovery Eucharist 7 pm
  • July 25th - Lectionary Study 10:30 AM - St. Mary's Chapel
  • July 25th - The Quietmen perform at our Thursdays on the Lawn concert - 7:30 - 9 pm

CHECK OUT OUR CALENDAR on our website for all activities taking place throughout the week.

Ninth Sunday after Pentecost: Proper 11

Jeremiah 23:1-6

Psalm 23

Ephesians 2:11-22

Mark 6:30-34, 53-56

Worship Services

Tuesday - Friday 8:30 am Morning Prayer via Zoom

Sunday Service Time: 10:00 am

and Live on Facebook

Saturday Worship Service, 101st St. Beach Pavilion, 5:30 pm

Services, studies, and service bulletins may be accessed on our website: www.stmarysstoneharbor.org
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