Volume 11   Issue 4                                                                                  April, 2018
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  High Definition Trust, Understanding and Camaraderie
   Reduce Struggle · Dissipate Conflict · Improve Relationships · Relieve Stress
 
 
 
Coaching:  

A one-to-one process and relationship between an individual and a

coach with  clear aspirations concentrated on expanding potential, enriching relationships and accelerating performance.
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Defining the problem
Solving the problem
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"The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result." 
 
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Komrad Kim in Eastern Europe
Komrad Kim in Eastern Europe
                                                  
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Defining the problem     
 
Harold walked into his boss's office to report on the project he'd been given earlier in the week. Before Harold said a word, his supervisor, clearly agitated, asked why the completed project was not yet on his desk.
 
Harold's blood pressure rose and in an instant he found himself in a potential fight, flight, or freeze situation. He chose to defend himself and offered myriad valid reasons why the project was not yet done.
 
The battle had just begun-and not for the first time. Harold's supervisor frequently set expectations of Harold that Harold felt were unreasonable. In other words, this dialog was not foreign to either participant. (Read more)..... 
 
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Solving the problem

  
Here's Mr. Oil and Mr. Water staring at each other across the desk. Both are replaying a video of themselves in their youth in the same emotional situation. One's getting harassed for underperforming, and the other's on the offense, because that was (and is today) his role and makes his world work the way he wants it to.
 
Allowed to play out, the dialog that develops between these two (and husbands and wives and parents and kids) will most likely follow the same pattern it's followed for years. One individual, locked in their Knower/Judger response patterns, will elicit the same response from the other individual locked in their K/J response patterns. There's virtually no hope that anything different will happen than has happened in the past. It's a downward spiral and actually, with repeated experiences, becomes easier and easier to reach the level of dysfunctional faster.  (Read more)..... 
  
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A note from the author:

Trust.

Understanding.

Camaraderie.

Three foundations of successful teams.

It has dawned on me that when working with management teams of highly productive executives, the most progress made is with the individual.  After all, it's the individuals who develop these three conditions....or do not.

They may be a part of a team.  They may even lead that team.  They are first and foremost individuals.  People who came to this position with Knower/Judger ramifications that can both serve the mission well and cause it to stumble.  Serve the individual's life well, or cause it to stumble as well.

So it is clearly with the individual I work.  It is even more fun when I work with multiple interacting individuals, and I can watch interpersonal wellness enhance performance and productivity.

Most managers and executives I have had the pleasure of Coaching report benefits not only in their professional world, but in their personal and recreational worlds as well.  The tools are Universal.

If you want to explore expanding potential, enriching relationships, and accelerating performance....anywhere in your world, drop me a line or give me a call.  Curiosity is a wonderful teacher.

...and....it's Time to Learn.
"There is a clear and present danger.....when you are neither clear nor present."


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Kim DeMotte, Corporate CoDriver (and "Pop")
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