When Mamas Cry
September 11, 2019
In This Issue:
Crying Mama, Cling to Christ

Hey Mama,

This is kind of urgent; so I am typing fast—forgive any mistakes here. The urgency comes from the fact that I have heard you are in a heap of tears because the grief is a lot to bear right now. You keep walking yet troubles still come; today even, new problems are before you, and it hurts. It's pure grief! The pain pierces. Why is it piling up instead of resolving itself, you ask. Where is He? Where is our great God, our Savior?

Mama, I know it sounds like a broken record, but I am going to say it again and again—CLING to Christ. This is all happening for a reason, and there are many, many good things that will come from it.

Need a reminder that God's got this—and God's got you? We all do. Take heart as you read these articles from The Old Schoolhouse® Magazine:




And remember, Mama. . .

He works all things for good. God never lies. He is the Author of truth. This is straight from His Word, so stand firm on it. Do not look to your left or to your right. Eyes on Him, sweet Mama. That’s right; He works ALL things for good.

And here's what I want you to do right now. Read Psalm 34.

Read it all, and do it slowly and out loud. You can read it to your kids or better yet, pull away for a minute, go into your closet alone, and just read it so your ears can hear it. Mama, you need to know about these passages (I vote for the closet if you can get away for a few minutes).

This part here—try to remember it. Commit it to memory, OK?

The eyes of the Lord are toward the righteous
And His ears are open to their cry.
The face of the Lord is against evildoers,
To cut off the memory of them from the earth.
The righteous cry, and the Lord hears
And delivers them out of all their troubles.
The Lord is near to the brokenhearted
And saves those who are crushed in spirit.

Did you hear that, Mama?

THE LORD IS NEAR TO THE BROKENHEARTED.

You are crushed, and that's when He is right next to you, as tight as can be. He's holding you even now, Mama. Go read His words and find comfort. It's not over. He wins. You win. This season will pass; I promise. Go read now, Mama, because you know His hand is on your head, and He goes with you. Always.

CLING to Christ!

-gena
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Cry...Then Cry to God

My children are secure in knowing that I am committed to this God-given conviction called home education and will continue doing the right thing whether I feel like it or not. I want them to be obedient no matter how they feel; so I cannot be the example of someone who gives up or gives in because of tears. 

When those tears come, let the children see you go to Jesus and hear you proclaim His wonders. Cast all your care on Him. Have a good cry and then rejoice in His care for you. Stand up and stand on His promises. Perfect peace comes from a mind purposely stayed on God and His Word.

“Thou will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on Thee, because he trusts in Thee” (Isaiah 26:3). 

There are days when something minor happens, and I am in tears and I don’t know why. Then there are the times I am crying because of a very painful situation, or the days I cry because of pure exhaustion. No matter the tearful situation, tears are my clue to change my focus. It is my time to cry out to the Lord, as He is the only One who can truly help, whether I know why there are tears or not. Look at this powerful verse:

“I will cry unto God most high; unto God that performeth all things for me” (Psalm 57:2). 

Neither our spouses nor closest friends, our parents or our children—no person on this earth can do what God does—He performs all things for us. 

When the tears overwhelm me because I can’t, God can! Don’t cry out to anyone else before you cry out to the Lord. He is the only One Who can do what needs to be done in us. He freely gives help, comfort, and encouragement, if only we would come. 

Be careful of allowing feelings to dictate actions. Some actually stop homeschooling because of these fickle feelings, allowing their thinking to become clouded. Having a good cry because of those fleeting feelings is okay, but don’t wallow there—this is unproductive and can lead to a quick downward spiral. 

Cry the tears, then dry your eyes, and let the first thing you see be the Word of God—that is where the real Truth is.

Our minds are renewed and transformed, and we will finally be able to know the good and perfect will of God (Romans 12). We lay our feelings down at the foot of the Cross and take them captive unto obedience. Obedience should trump feelings every time. 

Cry out to God; He will hear and He will do what He will do. Trust Him. Let Him perform all things for you as you look for the glory of God to be revealed. 

~Deborah 

Ten Years of Burnout by Deborah Wuehler

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Tears Through the Years

Over twenty-five years of homeschooling I have sure shed my share of tears, including a bunch of them this weekend—but more on that later. 

I cried sometimes when all our kids were little, and I was so tired I couldn’t see straight. The Lord who will “ gently lead those that are with young” (Isaiah 40:11) met me there and held me together. 

I cried when we had those days. You know the ones—when you spend all day on discipline and get no schoolwork done at all. Now, though, I realize that those days built the character our boys would need as men. 

I shed tears when one of our kids just couldn’t seem to learn to read. We tried program after program. He cried. I cried. You know what, though? He did learn to read, and he’s away at college now on a full ride scholarship.

I cried sometimes when life got complicated and school took a back seat. I didn’t understand that the Lord had more in mind than school, that He wanted them to develop the character that those trials would bring.

I cried when we dropped each of our five grown children off at college—one of them just this weekend. It wasn’t that I didn’t want him to grow up but because I knew how much I’d miss him.

I cried at our son’s wedding, and I cried when my grandson was born. I teared up just last week when another son called to tell me he was engaged.

Yeah, there have been a lot of tears, but the tears of exhaustion and frustration and assumed failure are giving way to tears of joy. Homeschooling gives me the time not only to educate our children, but to discipline, to disciple, and to build a strong relationship with them. Those things aren’t easy, but they make the tears of joy possible. 

Listen, Mama, don’t give up! Galatians 6:9 tells us, “ And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.” Don’t give up! The best is yet to come. One day your tears will turn to tears of joy, too.

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Your friend,
Melanie
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Tears and the Presence of God

Whether you cry while watching a sappy commercial or only tear up when things are dire, all of us moms have a point where we just cannot contain our tears. Having talked with moms at homeschool conferences for decades, I have realized that we are all just a few pointed questions away from crying. Now, I usually spend my time in a vendor booth that sells science; so you wouldn’t expect we would hit emotional subjects. But, surprisingly, even simple questions like these have evoked tears in the past:

“What grade is your child in?”
“Does your child learn better by reading for himself or does he prefer hearing and watching information presented?”
“Do you have any questions about scheduling lessons?” 

*grabs tissue and hands it to sobbing mama*

Oh, this fallen world is so full of things that can bring sorrow. I consider the times I have opportunity to encourage (or just hug) someone while standing in the midst of a crowded homeschool convention hall to be a privilege and a sweet blessing.

We all have areas in our lives that make us cry. My grandmother once shared with me that mamas tend to have it harder. She told me we are only as happy as our saddest child. I was shocked to hear that! But I have found it to be true. Even now that my children are adults, there is a heart-bond to them that will never be broken. I wholeheartedly share in their successes, and I am a complete blubbering, prayerful mess when they struggle. 

BUT GOD…
That is the most important part, you see. God reminds us that He is present and knows our sorrows. There are so many Bible verses that tell us how God is our shield, our banner, and our strength. When things bring you to tears, whether it’s due to academic stresses, discipline issues, or just days when nothing seems to be going well, remember these:

Gen. 50:20 - “You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives.”

Ps. 73:26 - “My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.”

1Cor. 1:27 - But God chose what is foolish in the world to shame the wise; God chose what is weak in the world to shame the strong.”

As we walk through our school days and beyond, know that nothing takes God by surprise. I may not be able to control what happens to my children when they are driving for the first time. I cannot make those big choices for them when they grow up. I have no control over any inherent

physical/emotional struggles or learning issues. But I do know that God made them to be who they are. He placed them in my family, and He will purpose to do things according to His will, for His (and our) ultimate good. We mamas may cry sometimes, but God is our strength and hears our prayers. I need to rest in that each day.

Now, to go grab another tissue. . .

Sherri Seligson and her husband David homeschooled their four children for 21 years. Before being promoted to motherhood, Sherri worked as a degreed marine biologist at Walt Disney World. She has authored Apologia’s Exploring Creation with Marine Biology, General Science, instructional video courses for Apologia’s science curricula, and more. Sherri is an international conference and retreat speaker. Using transparency, truth, and humor, she encourages moms on their homeschool journey and teaches families the importance of studying God’s creation. 
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Linda J. Hawkins’ lovely award-winning cookbook  Southern Seasons with Memory Making Recipes has 182 pages of beautiful photos and family recipes, with an internal spiral binding which allows the book to lie flat (so helpful for cooks!). It costs $27.99 and is available at Heart to Heart Publishing.

Linda J. Hawkins is both a mother and a grandmother and the descendant of gifted cooks in her own Southern family from Kentucky. She has combined her family’s recipes with her own photographs of nature, events, and people (as well as food) with meaningful quotes and Bible verses to create a book that is at once a devotional, an encouragement for moms (and families), and a cookbook of recipes keyed to the four seasons of each year.

Southern Seasons with Memory Making Recipes begins with recipes for the winter season, specifically, with cakes! Then Linda shares meaty skillet dinners and soups, including his and hers chiliis, stews, soups, and chowders. Spring recipes are next with picnic food ideas followed by delicious pie recipes and old-fashioned desserts. In the summer section, Linda shares delicious-sounding canning recipes and many delicious recipes like Corn Pudding, her Great-Granny’s Tea Cakes, Peanut Brittle, and Chocolate Spinach Cake. Fall begins with sweet treats featuring nuts as the main ingredients in cakes and fudges. A Thanksgiving menu starts with cornbread dressing, homemade mashed potatoes, broccoli casserole, and cranberry Jell-O salad. 

Each section also includes tips for entertaining, meal preparation, pantry staples, etiquette tips, and child training. Ideas for making mealtimes fun and saving money inspire families to connect as well, and Scriptures and loving quotes encourage the cook as she pages through the book.


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