Parenting and Family

June 2022
Dear Friends in Christ,

The family is God’s creation. Beginning with Genesis Chapter 1, God’s Word teaches the fundamental reality of society is not centered upon the individual but rather upon family. In the beginning, God established the family. It is within the family, with the marriage bond between a life-long commitment between husband and wife, that God gives the gift of sexuality and children. By this human cultural universal of marriage, all society is preserved.

There are many challenges facing the family today. It seems at every turn, we live in a world in which individuals are shouting their own truth, that the desire and aim of the world is not what God has designed in the family, but rather whatever pleases the individual heart, mind and body.

Bethany Woelmer wrote, “We swim in a sea of worldly lies and deceptions, whose roaring waves bring fear and doubt upon our consciences and whose subtle currents attempt to carry us farther from the truth. We swim in a culture that redefines marriage, misinterprets God’s Word and promotes intolerance against the fundamental reality of family and its blessing to society and the Church. Yet there is a wave of truth, that is, God’s Word” LCMS Reporter, Jan. 15, 2015).

Authors Elton and Pauline Trueblood, in their book, The Recovery of Family Life, (Harper and Row, 1953) warned about the withering away of the family. The Trueblood’s were concerned about the undeclared civil war on the planet, between Marxism/Communism and the Family. They quote from the Communist Manifesto: “We replace home education by social.” In The Recovery of Family Life, Pauline describes the family roles and honors the importance of the ministry of the wife and mother in the family. She writes:

“The ministry of wives to men lies in the realm of affection. Women are the attentive audience, the source of praise, the tender critic. A man counts on his wife for loyalty when the world misunderstands him; one person who knows the best he has in him. A woman ministers to the needs of her husband by keeping her life free, under no direction but her own so she may give any time she likes to her husband. Being the person she is means more than all the work that she will ever do. To remain a bride to one’s husband while using one’s ability and education up to the limits of the highest standard possible in rearing the next generation requires a neat capacity for doubling. Women must know who they are before they can know what their duties are. “ (The Recovery of Family Life, Elton & Pauline Trueblood, Harper and Row, New York, 1953, p 86).

God designed the family to provide for the needs of children, not the greater society. In God’s design of the family, it is possible to establish the kind of a home where faith and character are caught by the example of a living faith of the father and mother, and taught through the specific and direct instruction within the family. The foundation of a child’s development comes from the Word of God that is planted in a child’s heart in Holy Baptism and nurtured through the teaching of the Scriptures.

Sons and daughters are a true heritage from the Lord. The family unit preserves the very idea of what it means to be a human being created by God. The beauty of marriage is a reflection of God’s love in Christ for the Church. And a reflection of the beauty of creation in which God sustains life, both physically and spiritually. May the resources provide here strengthen your family.

Pastor James L Kroonblawd
From Martin Luther
“The noblest and greatest work and the most important service we can perform for God on earth is bringing other people, and especially those who are entrusted to us, to the knowledge of God by the holy Gospel.” What Luther Says, Ewald Plass, CPH, page 958
Getting it Together with Your Family
by Theresa M. Shaltanis

Many families—maybe yours—are feeling frazzled by a fast-paced life that takes members in every direction. But there are some things you can do about it:

1. Have a Spiritual Center.
2. Having Quality and Quantity Time Together.
3. Honoring Family Rituals.
4. Developing Family Goals and Managing Family Time.
5. Developing Individual Goals and Having Personal Time.
6. Having a Support System.
7. Keeping Up with Communication.
8. Having Clear Expectations and Rules.

Read the full article from LCMS with more great insights!
Equipping Parents to be Faith Leaders in the Home
Posted by Tawn Bueltmann

A survey of parents by The Barna Group found that “close to nine out of ten parents of children under age 13 believe they have the primary responsibility for teaching their children about religious beliefs and spiritual matters.” However, “a majority of parents do not spend any time during a typical week discussing religious materials with their children.” Instead, they “generally rely on their church to do all of the religious training their children will receive.” The report concludes that parents are willing to provide spiritual leadership for their children, but are ill-equipped to lead them in this way.

How can you change the course? Read full article
Sanctified Parenting
February 3, 2012 / by Jill Hasstedt

Today our parenting lives are hurried and hectic. There never seems to be enough time. But is it that different from other eras? The Israelites were fighting for their survival every day in the wilderness when Moses received the Ten Commandments and passed on the Lord’s command to “teach them diligently to your children” (Deut. 6:68). There were animals to care for, tents to move, clothing to make for the household and a wilderness to contend with, but along the way, they had an even more important task to accomplish: talking and teaching about the living God. Read more.
By Christina Stackle

Have you heard parents tell their children, “I love you right up to the moon and back?” This saying, from the children’s book Guess How Much I Love You, helps children understand the magnitude of their parents’ love.
I Will Love You to Heaven

As I read this book to my children I asked myself, “Do I love my children just to the moon or is it more than that?” Much more, I concluded. While I want them to know my earthly love for them, I desperately want them to know Jesus’s love, so one day they’ll see my love for them as we stand before the King of all Kings, Jesus Himself. So, in our house, we use the phrase “I will love you to heaven.”

This idea of loving my children to heaven has weighed on me over the years. As a DCE, I have seen many families fall apart and away from God. This is not my desire for my family or my children. So as a parent, what can I do to love my children to heaven, knowing full well that it is the Holy Spirit at work in my children’s and my life?

Here’s some of what we’ve done as a family: Read her tips
From God's Word

 “I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth.” 3 John 1:4
Raising children of The Kingdom
Are you looking for ways to strengthen your parenting skills? Here’s some ideas from LCMS Focus: Stewardship.

1. Model Children learn from observing their parents. So if we want our children to grow into faithful Christians, we need to be role models for what a faithful Christian life looks like: regular worship attendance, daily Scripture reading and prayer, faithful giving, acts of service and so on.

2. Teach If you are faithfully modeling a Christian life for your kids, then what you say to them about the faith will stick all the better. Why do you go to church? Why do you set aside a firstfruits proportion of your income for the support of Word and Sacrament ministry? Why do you volunteer at church? Tell your kids these things.

3. Involve As your children grow, involve them in more and more activities of your Christian life. Of course, you already attend worship with them, but as they grow they can mark the hymns in the hymnal, help make out the tithe and offering checks, and tag along to all of the service events and other volunteer opportunities at your parish.

4. Repeat Parenting never ends. The role changes as our children (and we!) grow older, but it still comes down to modeling, teaching and involving them in the activities that make for greater maturity and a godly life.
Parenting Resources from Lutheran Hour Ministries

Parenting Families Practical Strategies for the Family Life:
Life as a parent has its great moments… joy, pride, and more love than you thought possible. Parenting has its low moments too… times of loneliness, frustration, and some days more heartache than you thought possible. If you are tired of trying trendy how-to strategies that only prove to fall short, discover the life-changing approach to parenting found within the pages of this booklet. Full article

Parenting with Purpose:
Without a doubt, parenting is hard. Yet, you wouldn’t trade it for the world. Between busy schedules you may find yourself lost in such a whirlwind of immediacy that you lose focus. How can you love and protect your children in the best way? How do you parent them with purpose? Inside this booklet, you’ll discover practical insights to strengthen the way you relate to your children—helping you find the Christ-centered rhythm God intends for you and your family. Read more

Parenting Families Practical Strategies for the Single Parent:
You are a single parent. Most likely you didn’t choose the circumstances that led up to this time in your life, but here you are—mom and dad rolled into one. Double the stresses. Double the issues. Double the frustrations. And then there is your child, catching you off guard and pushing your “buttons.” Even the smallest issues can turn into power struggles. What to do? Within the pages of this book, you’ll find answers. Further reading
God’s command to parents:

Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.”Deuteronomy 6:4-9
4 Part Plan for Successful Parenting

By: Susan Merrill
There are few tasks in life more complex than parenting a child from infancy through young adulthood. Their needs and abilities change rapidly and your parenting tactics are forced to modify accordingly. If you maintain your focus on a few fundamental goals, however, you can ensure that your methods have a strong chance of helping your child become an adult of whom you’ll be proud. We’ve identified what we believe to be the four key traits of contented and successful people and rounded up some expert advice on how to instill each of these in your kids.
So if you’re looking for a well-thought-out approach to being a mom, take a look at these 4 things you need to teach your children:

1. Self-discipline. 2. Character. 3. Self-Esteem. 4. Security.

Christian mom or dad, could you use some encouragement and support? Put your ear buds in for this Christian parenting podcast and get practical, faith-based inspiration through all stages of parenting — raising toddlers, navigating the school-age years, preparing for puberty, and seeing your teen soar with confidence. Hosted by Dr. Danny Huerta, in every 8 to 15 minute episode, you’ll hear parenting experts share Biblical truths, effective parenting techniques, and useful resources that will help you feel equipped as a mom or dad in today’s culture. Get started
Are you celebrating the birth of a new baby?
Congratulations! We celebrate with you at this new gift of a child into your family. Call the TLO Church Office to schedule your child’s baptism and enroll your child in TLO’s Cradle Roll Ministry.

TLO’s Cradle Roll Ministry is for the families of infants and toddlers following their baptism. During the first three years of a child’s life, resources and encouragement are sent to parents on a regular schedule. This can include Bible story books, information about the child’s spiritual, emotional, and physical development, and music. TLO believes support of parents in the early years is critical. Cradle Roll provides resources to support parents in raising their children from infancy in the faith, and encourages Christ-centered relationships and community with other parents with children the same age or older mentoring parents. Contact the TLO Church Office when you have a newborn that you want added to the Cradle Roll.
Infant Baptism

Lutherans believe that the Bible teaches that a person is saved by God's grace alone through faith alone in Jesus Christ. Baptism, we believe, is one of the miraculous means of grace (together with God's written and spoken Word) through which God creates the gift of faith in a person's heart.

Although we do not claim to understand how this happens or how it is possible, we believe (because of what the Bible says about Baptism) that when an infant is baptized God creates faith in the heart of that infant. Dig deeper
The Roles & Blessings of Baptism Sponsors
KFUO Radio Podcast

Deaconess Erin Bauer, Gwen Zagore, Deaconess. Dr. Tiffany Manor
If you’re baptized, if you have baptism sponsors, if you are a sponsor, then this episode is FOR YOU! Ever wonder what the difference is between a godparent and a baptism sponsor? Have you grown up confused by the role of baptism sponsors? Are you considering who to choose as a sponsor for your own children? What is the role of a sponsor and what does it mean to agree to that responsibility? All of these questions and more are answered in this episode!  
From God's Word

“I planted, Apollos watered, but God gave the growth.”  1 Corinthians 3:6
Parent and Church Partnership

The faith given by God to an infant child in baptism cannot yet, of course, be expressed or articulated, yet it is real and present all the same (see, e.g., 1 Peter 3:21; Acts 2:38-39; Titus 3:5-6; Matt. 18:6; Luke 1:15; 2 Tim. 3:15; Gal. 3:26-27; Rom. 6:4; Col. 2:11-12; 1 Cor. 12:13).

Parents and sponsors of a baptized child bear the responsibility of teaching this child God's Word so that the child's faith may remain alive and grow (Matt. 28:18-20). Trinity Lone Oak Lutheran Church through Cradle Roll parent resources, Sunday School, Vacation Bible School, and the Pre-K, K-8 Lutheran School is a great resource to partner with parents in teaching the Christian faith.
Why send your child to a Lutheran school?

Here is why you should send your child to a Lutheran elementary school.

Lutheran schools:
  • Are driven by a commitment to the Gospel and focused on a mission of bringing hope and healing to students and families.
  • Are governed by board members who clearly understand their roles and focus on the vision and board policies that effectively govern the operation of the school.
  • Meet or exceed state and national academic standards at all grade levels.
  • Have educators who model visionary leadership. They practice stewardship of resources, build up others and empathize with others.
  • Have educators who model servant leadership. Do those served grow as persons; do they, while being served, become healthier, wiser, freer, more autonomous, more likely themselves to become servants? (Robert Greenleaf)
  • Have educators who model spiritual leadership. They study God’s Word, share their personal faith story, apply Law and Gospel appropriately, exhibit a passion for ministry, act courageously, equip God’s people for service, care for others, demonstrate integrity, and pray.
From God's Word

If you abide in my word, you are truly my disciples, and you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” John 8:31b-32
Confirmation is a time-honored church tradition (not required by God's Word, but we believe useful nonetheless) in which the child baptized as an infant is given the opportunity to confess for himself or herself the faith that he or she was unable to confess as an infant.

Faith is not “created” at confirmation, but it is rather confessed for all to hear so that the church can join and rejoice in this public confession, which has its roots in the faith which God Himself created in Baptism. TLO offers Confirmation beginning at 7th grade. If you are interested in enrolling your son or daughter in Confirmation, contact the TLO Church Office.
All Things New: Spoiler Alert: Jesus Wins
Posted by Brandon Metcalf | Jan 12, 2015 |
Our young people don’t need us to just complain with them about the state of their lives or this world. They need us to remind them of the ending of their story. When they mess up and make a big error, they need to hear that Jesus forgives those sins. When they are so focused on chasing after the fame, accolades, and things of this world, they need to be reminded to store up their treasure in heaven, the only place where it will last (Matthew 6:19-20). When they are weighed down by the vast amount of evil that they see in this world, they need to know that, spoiler alert, Jesus wins. In the end, Jesus always wins. His sacrifice prevails, His love endures, His Word alone stands forever. Read the rest of the story!
From God's Word

Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us. Romans 5:3-5 (NIV)
A Hope that Endures: Developing Resiliency in Teens
Posted by Karen Merritt | May 9, 2022

Now more than ever our children need to develop resiliency skills as they face the after-effects of the pandemic as well as the ongoing repercussions of social and political unrest.

Rates of child and adolescent depression have doubled since before the pandemic. Children and adolescents struggle to cope with a lack of predictability, safety, and security as they face a much different world today than even three years ago. However, as much as we would like to shield our children and adolescents from the pain and hurt that comes along with struggle, we know that struggle is part of growth. Click for more.

Soli Deo gloria
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