How To Manage Your Boss -- Ten Dos And Don'ts
We manage our relationships with our kids and our kids' teachers. We manage our relationships with our co-workers and the mail carrier. We pay attention to the needs, concerns, sensitivities and preferences of the people we interact with frequently - if we are awake!
We are all learning to find our voice. If you want to learn from difficult experiences you've had, you have to see your part in whatever caused you pain. If you don't see your part, you will not be able to change anything when the same circumstances show up again. That's how Mother Nature works. She keeps serving up the same lesson until we learn the lesson. Then we get a new lesson.
Here are three of the ten Dos and Don'ts for managing your relationship with your boss:
5. Do express your concerns, complaints, frustrations and rants -- but in a positive fashion. Take whatever you're unhappy about (e.g., staff meeting minutes almost never get distributed) and turn it into a suggestion (What if we used the first agenda slot at next week's staff meeting to decide how we're going to distribute minutes every week?)
6. Do speak up if your manager is confused or misinformed about your role, goals, results or any other aspect of your work. Clearing up miscommunication with your boss is extremely important and will grow your muscles.
7. When your boss is a pain in the neck, don't take it personally. Most managers get almost no leadership training and very little support. They don't know how to manage their stress, and who can blame them? Don't take abuse from anyone at work, but if your boss is short with you don't label him or her an idiot or bully or label yourself a failure. Neither is true. You're fine and your boss is fine, and work is a stressful place. CDC says normal humans need eight to nine hours of sleep; about 40 percent of U.S. soldiers get fewer than five. And that's when they're stationed at home, sleeping their "normal" amount. The sleep deprivation gets even more extreme when they're in combat.
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