How to be Happy Even When You Are Sad, Mad or Scared:

How to be happy...How to be Happy Even When You Are Sad, Mad or Scared is available on It is a book for children of all ages (including those in adult bodies). Buy it for the children in your life so they can be better able to “feel and deal” - feel and accept their emotions and deal with them in a way that avoids being driven by them. You can order the book at
The Taste of Sugar Continued
Paradox - Reflection and Experience
There is a paradox. We know that intellectual reflection on what we are doing, thinking and feeling is very useful. It is what enables one to choose, to be skillful in life. Yet, when we are caught up in the intellect, acting as if it were the boss, the center of everything, we lose perspective and do not fully experience the moment.

Objectively experience the full picture – body, intellect, emotions, mental models all seamlessly inter-operating.

In complex activities, whether managing a project, composing music or collaborating in a team, one doesn't perform optimally if he or she relies solely on intellectual understanding. Healthy relationships and optimal performance rely on emotional, spiritual and social intelligence as well as cognitive intelligence.

Mindful Awareness Beyond Intellect
Let's apply this understanding to mindful awareness. Mindful awareness is an experience, like the taste of sugar. It is the experience of the instant presence. Intellectual understanding, while powerfully important, is not mindful awareness. Mindful awareness is a subtle objective knowing. It has no center or edge. There is no subject that is knowing.

Maybe you have tasted this experience. Maybe when fully engaged in an activity, you found yourself effortlessly performing. Maybe it was in the AHA moment as the solution to a complex problem came to mind. Some taste it in the first moment they see a fabulous flower or painting or look into the eyes of a baby. Then, in the next moment there is the labeling, and thoughts like, “that was the most beautiful flower I have ever seen." And then, on and on into thought trains that depart from the experience and go just about anywhere, for example comparing or taking a photo.

Nothing Special 
Mindful awareness is not a miracle, it is "Nothing special." It is not a cure-all. It is a facet of experience that supports optimal living.

Brief experiences of mindful awareness occur randomly. If these glimpses go unrecognized, it is as if they never happened. When they are recognized for what they are, they open one into a peaceful, spacious big picture perspective.

With practice, glimpses appear more regularly and for longer duration. Until then, stay mindfully aware of everything you experience - your posture, breath, thoughts, movement, interactions with others, perceptions, sensations, feelings, the way you eat or fast, and everything else.

Very gentle awareness. 5% or less of your attention. Just enough to recognize when you are distracted, caught up in thought. When you see the mind wandering, stop. Experience the spacious, clear present moment. Carry on.

No need to reach for it or hold onto it. It is just there to be experienced at any time - with the next breath, when you remember to be present. 
Performance and Open-minded Mindfulness
Open-minded:  questioning everything, accepting diversity and uncertainty. 
Mindful: consciously aware; concentrated. 

Foundation for blending process, project, engagement and knowledge management into a cohesive approach to optimize performance.
By George Pitagorsky

Success is measured in how well and how regularly you meet expectations. But what exactly are expectations, and how do you effectively manage them when multiple priorities and personalities are involved?
Using the case study of a Project Manager coordinating an organizational transition, this Managing Expectations book explores how to apply a mindful, compassionate, and practical approach to satisfying expectations in any situation. George Pitagorsky describes how to make sure expectations are rational, mutually understood, and accepted by all those with a stake in the project. This process relies on blending a crisp analytical approach with the interpersonal skills needed to negotiate win-win understandings of what is supposed to be delivered, by when, for how much, by who, and under what conditions.

Managing Conflict in Projects
By George Pitagorsky

Managing Conflict in Projects: Applying Mindfulness and Analysis for Optimal Results by George Pitagorsky charts a course for identifying and dealing with conflict in a project context.

Pitagorsky states up front that conflict management is not a cookbook solution to disagreement-a set of prescribed actions to be applied in all situations. His overall approach seeks to balance two aspects of conflict management: analysis based on a codified process and people-centered behavioral skills.

The book differentiates conflict resolution and conflict management. Management goes beyond resolution to include relationship building that may serve to avoid conflict or facilitate resolution if it occurs.
The  Zen  Approach to Project Management 
By George Pitagorsky

Projects are often more complex and stressful than they need to be. Far too many of them fail to meet expectations. There are far too many conflicts. There are too few moments of joy and too much anxiety. But there is hope. It is possible to remove the unnecessary stress and complexity. This book is about how to do just that. It links the essential principles and techniques of managing projects to a "wisdom" approach for working with complex, people-based activities.