Lodge Life
AN INTERVIEW WITH TIM MAGUIRE
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This month
The Chandelier
sat down with
Lodge
Program Manager and WW alum Tim Maguire to learn more about
Willingway
’s clinically intensive program for men that emphasizes daily recovery and allows residents to gradually become productive members of the community.
Recently, Tim was promoted to Assistant Director of
Extended Treatment Services
, which has given him added duties in addition to running the
Men’s Lodge
, but anyone who knows Tim will tell you that he’s more than equipped to handle such a workload. Under Tim’s guidance and direction
The Lodge
has flourished and a big part of that is because of Tim’s dedication to and belief in the effectiveness of long-term treatment.
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TC: Willingway was founded in 1971 – when did the Men's Lodge first form?
TM:
I’m not sure the exact year, but I know that The Lodge has existed for multiple decades. I believe it has been over 30 years.
TC: How long have you been managing the program?
TM:
It’s coming up on two years. I initially began working in Willingway’s Maintenance Department and did that for close to a year. When I graduated from long-term treatment, John Williamson came to me and asked if I would work part time as The Lodge House Manager and live in his old apartment on property. John had been the House Manager for years before being promoted to the Director of Extended Treatment Services. At first, my new position was simply distributing the residents’ weekly allowances – sort of logistical stuff. Overtime my duties and responsibilities increased, so that when March of 2017 came around and John Williamson received his promotion, I was asked to come on full time and take on a greater role within The Lodge. At that point I was working with Jim Becker and his landscaping business mowing grass, in addition to my part-time Lodge duties. I accepted the offer because it was an awesome opportunity. Since then my passion for long-term treatment and its clinical aspects has grown exponentially.
TC: Describe the program for us. How is it different from The Lodge that our alumni might be familiar with?
TM:
The Lodge has actually changed a lot over the years and even some since I was a resident. We currently provide the highest level of clinical services, structure, and accountability that Willingway’s Extended Treatment Services offers males and because of that we can take clients with a higher acuity level. The Lodge, approximately a year long program, has always been pretty high in clinical work since our guys attend outpatient four evenings a week, but now it is even more so, especially since I am available to do one on one sessions as needed. The younger guys request it fairly often, primarily because there are specific issues that 18 to 25 year olds really struggle with in that first year of sobriety – especially the idea of their lives being over and that recovery is just going to be boring and no fun. I am able to help them process and work through those feelings.
When I was in the lodge it was a true peer-driven program. John was the Program Manager but he was also a fulltime Inpatient Counselor at that time, so for the house to work the residents had to have a certain level of motivation to try to do the right thing and a lot of the responsibilities fell on the senior Lodge residents – people like myself and Nick C. While The Lodge still has a strong peer driven component, the level of staffing has increased. I’m here full time with an office inside the main Lodge and we also have Jose on property nights and weekends. He’s available to do urine drug screens, room and house checks, searches, really whatever needs to be done. Our ¾ step down House Manager also helps out. Plus we have an Extended Treatment Aide, Dirk Graham, who assists both Louie’s and The Lodge. All of this is in addition to the staff that works with our guys over at Outpatient.
TC: That leads me to my next question - what does the ideal Lodge client look like?
TM:
As I mentioned earlier, now that The Lodge is a higher level of care, we are able to take on more complicated cases. We have become more equipped at effectively handling dual diagnosis and men with behavioral issues. Many of our residents have been to multiple treatments with the inability to remain sober, although that is certainly not a prerequisite. Previously, clients would have some level of motivation and a basic desire to be sober, but now we see more clients that are not motivated – they are more hesitant to find recovery, at least in the beginning. But you can only wear a mask for so long. This is something that is so effective about our program and ties directly into the clinical services and level of staff we offer. When our guys are going to group three hours a night four nights a week with weekly individual counseling sessions, coupled with me being over there all of the time, along with Jose, Adam, and Dirk – it’s only so long until we see through the façade. Additionally we have Treatment Team multiple times a month, where we discuss the client and the progress he has made, along with any concerning behaviors. A number of staff members are involved in this meeting, so we end up hearing from all these different points of view and are able to collect all of the pieces. It allows us to have as much information as possible so that we can appropriately help our guys become healthy and happy in their recovery.
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TC: What sets The Lodge apart from other extended treatment programs?
TM:
Of course there’s the level of clinical work that we do, which we have already discussed, but the family program was actually really big for me when I was in The Lodge. The group is held on Wednesday evenings at Outpatient and works to gradually get the guys back involved with their families. For instance, with me, my family situation was strained to say the least. I had Wednesdays, however, to start out with to rebuild those relationships. Families can come in early and go to lunch with their loved one and spend some time together, followed by group, and then dinner. It’s a slow transition for both sides of the family back into each other’s lives. After they do that a couple times, the family comes to Statesboro for a long weekend, during which they all meet with the counselor on that Friday and then they have the rest of the weekend to spend with their loved one. We really try to get the families involved and do our best to give them as much information as possible, especially about the rules, which exist because of therapeutic reasons.
TC: Would you care to share some of what you learned from going through extended treatment at Willingway?
TM:
The Lodge is where I started connecting with others and began sharing what was really going on with me deep down. I never had experienced that before, at least not on that level. It taught me how to talk to people and how to listen – how to communicate. I also learned that just because I’m in a bad mood, it doesn’t give me the right to treat others poorly. The Lodge showed me how to be there for people. Sometimes the answer is just to listen – it’s not always to have some great advice. I learned that if I don’t put some action into things, I am going to be miserable. For instance, if one sits in treatment and doesn’t do anything to better themselves or their life, they end up just sitting around the house, picking out things to hate. Our solution is gone – the drugs and the alcohol are all long gone – and if I don’t find another solution and put the work in, I will always end up miserable.
TC: Completing an extended treatment program, although it is worth it, can be difficult for a variety of reasons. What is something that our clients often find themselves loving about The Lodge?
TM:
The Lodge guys do quite a bit of fundraising in order to go on trips and experience fun in sobriety. Once they raise enough money, the residents all get together and vote on how they are going to use the funds. The self-esteem and solidarity you feel from doing that is incredible. Working towards something and being able to say “we did this together” and then actually going and experiencing the thing together and feeling the satisfaction of delayed gratification - there's nothing like it. We recently went to Hilton head and rented an enormous house for 19 people – right on the beach. And the guys did it all on their own, they raised the money, did the planning. They actually remodeled an entire house to finance that trip! We had five days right on the beach and those kinds of moments are, looking back, the coolest ones to me. It was so much fun, being sober and in the moment, feeling a sense of accomplishment and togetherness. We don’t have to be miserable, that’s not what sobriety is about.
The Chandelier
would like to thank Tim for taking the time to talk to us about the Men's Lodge. Can't wait to see all the grads at thi
s year's reunion, which will be held on Friday, April 27th, at 5:00 p.m.
Food will be provided, along with beverages. RSVP with Emily McFarland at
emcfarland@willingway.com
or by calling her directly at (912) 489-7277 for this or any of the other Extended Treatment Services reunions.
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Homecoming 2018
ROCKETED INTO THE FOURTH DIMENSION
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Help us create the best possible Homecoming 2018 experience for you by pre-registering. Alumni, families, and friends who purchase tickets prior to March 15th will be entered into a raffle to win a Willingway Swag Bag!
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Registration is open for our 42nd Annual Homecoming Weekend: "Rocketed into the Fourth Dimension." We welcome returning Alumni and their families as well as friends of Willingway to Statesboro on April 27-29. Please join us for a weekend full of fellowship and fun while celebrating recovery!
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Alumni Updates
NEWS FROM OUR COMMUNITY
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Passing
Eileen J.
Nevils, GA
1992 Willingway Inpatient and Women's Residence alumna Eileen J. passed away on Friday, February 2, 2018, at her residence. Eileen was working in Willingway's dietary department prior to her passing and filled her co-workers' days with much joy. One WW employee shared with us that Eileen "always took the time to go around the hospital, asking everyone about themselves and how their day was going - she was a ray of sunshine, a beautiful soul." Eileen will be greatly missed by all.
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Move
Ivy and John R.
Augusta, GA
Newlyweds Ivy and John R. have moved to Augusta, GA to pursue the next phase in their clinical careers. Both will be greatly missed in our Statesboro recovery community, but we are excited to see their lives continue to grow!
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Engagement
Ally L. and Tim M.
Statesboro, GA
WW alums Tim M. and Ally L. are engaged! Tim proposed to Ally on a gorgeous South Carolina beach last Friday evening and they can not wait to spend the rest of their lives together. All the best to Ally and Tim!
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Do you have news to share?
- Birth announcements
- Marriages
- New jobs
- Sobriety/Wedding anniversaries
- Obituaries
- Spiritual support requests
Use "Alumni News" in the subject line for all submissions and let us know where you are currently located. We welcome your photos.
Deadline for inclusion is the 15th of each month
and as they say, thanks for sharing.
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Happenings Around The Way
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Patient Super Bowl Party!
Our Rec Therapy and Dietary Departments put together quite the spread earlier this month for Willingway's annual Patient Super Bowl Party!
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Bubba Retires
After 16 years of outstanding and devoted service, Inpatient Counselor Bubba Lewis has retired. Willingway hosted a going away party for Bubba, who was presented with a plaque commemorating his time working for our inpatient facility. Pictured to the right are WW CEO Cherie Tolley, Inpatient Counselor Bubba Lewis, Director of Operations Tracie Smith, and Clinical Director Janice Blakley. Bubba, you will be missed!
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Willingway Weekly Continuing Care Community Groups
Held weekly in the following cities, our care extends beyond the Statesboro campus
to provide ongoing support for those in recovery. Alumni, their families and friends,
and anyone with a touchpoint to recovery are welcome.
Atlanta - Tuesdays, 6:30 pm
Augusta - Saturdays, 10:00 am
Bluffton - Tuesdays, 6:30 pm
Charleston - Mondays, 6:30 pm
Macon - Mondays, 6:30 pm
Marietta - Thursdays, 7:00 pm
Raleigh - Mondays, 7:30 pm
Savannah - Mondays, 6:00 pm
Statesboro - Mondays, 6:30 pm
St. Simon's Island - Saturdays, 10:00 am
Jacksonville - Mondays, 6:00 pm
Jacksonville Beach - Tuesdays, 6:00 pm
Warner Robins - Tuesdays, 6:30 pm
Waycross - Tuesdays, 6:30 pm
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“But I know, somehow, that only when it is dark enough
can you see the stars.”
-
Martin Luther King, Jr.
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The Chandelier is a digital monthly publication for the Alumni, Family, and Friends of Willingway. For any questions about it or our Alumni program in general, please contact Alumni & Community Relations Coordinator Emily McFarland at
emcfarland@willingway.com or 912.489.7277.
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