The unifying conclusion: If it doesn't "sit right" with us, we can feel it, if only for a fleeting moment. What we choose to do with this important sensory feedback determines where we go from here. Jewish tradition refers to "sin" as having "missed the mark." This can pave the way for a willingness to seek forgiveness, or a determination to "make it right." An important tenant in 12 step programs is the need to "make amends" when one has transgressed. Taking redemptive action frees us to return to "center," hopefully, determined to have learned useful, often powerful lessons. Applications of which can serve to enhance our sense of wellbeing and pave the way for greater connection with ourselves, and those whom we encounter.
"To thine own self, be true;" a well-known expression which means 'be true to yourself' or 'don't do anything that would go against your true nature', Think Pinocchio and his burgeoning nose. Now, let's give a closer look:
SHAME: "The intensely painful feeling or experience of believing we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love or belonging-something we've experienced, done, or failed to do makes us unworthy of love or connection." - Brene Brown
Shame affects how one feels about oneself. Shame touches on the "ideal self" one wishes to be, which is often shaped by societal expectations.
GUILT: "The emotion we feel if we have let ourselves, or others down by failing to meet a particular standard; feelings of responsibility or remorse for some offense, crime, wrong, failing to live up to one's values." - Dr. Google
Guilt is a negative response to a specific event or one's behavior.
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