November 2026 Newsletter

The Deal is Sealed

Hi!

The big story this month is about Collin Gosselin, one of the kids from the reality show John and Kate + 8. 

Did he really suffer the abuse he alleges at the hands of his mom?

I kept my eye on his interviews over the last couple of weeks. I didn’t want to draw any conclusions before something really stuck out. 

Then yesterday I found the evidence I was looking for.

Take a look at this video. Does anything stick out to you?

Here’s what I notice.

He’s got what I call a vocal hitch before he says ‘it takes the humanity’ and also before ‘her eyes on me’

I’ve tried to train actors to do this and it’s nearly impossible to recreate. 

This is his body’s attempt to shut down his vocal system before he speaks about his trauma. The mind re-lives the situation every time he talks about it and the cognitive load to go through trauma again is very taxing on the system. 

So it tries to shut down the statement momentarily as self-preservation. It takes 5 organs to make a sound so it’s a very in depth show of stress.

The moment I knew his words were consistent with personal involvement in the story was when he was talking about abused kids and the child service workers visiting the house. His description of what happens to the kids is in 3^rd person. Then quickly he puts himself in that group and says ‘we’. 

If this hadn’t happened to him, he’d likely keep his comments in the 3^rd person using ‘they’.

Remember people are ALWAYS telling you the truth even when they’re trying not to.

This is how you can find that truth:

1.      Don’t jump to conclusions. 

The reason I didn’t weigh in on this story immediately is that when someone is consistent it can mean they’re telling the truth or 100% of what they’re saying is a lie. Eventually you'll find a usseful tell if you just watch.

2.     Pay attention to what happens BEFORE the words

A sudden pause, vocal hitch or change in behavior can signal a topic carries emotional weight.

3.      Listen for pronouns that suddenly change or even disappear.

A seemingly insignificant shift from ‘they’ to ‘we’ or ‘I’ to ‘you’ shows what’s going in in their mind. And if pronouns disappear from a sentence, the speaker doesn’t have a personal connection to the event they’re describing . These will slip by you really fast if you’re not listening closely.

It’s sealed for me. I’m on #TeamCollin.

And there’s a couple of BIG ANNOUNCEMENTS in the Hunt, my treasure hunt with a twist. 

What’s the twist? I’ll give you the clues, but I may lie to you. 

So you’ve got to use all of the body language and lie detection skills I’ve ever taught you to follow the right clues and find your way to the treasure. It’s free, anyone can play and it’s been super fun.

Now for the announcements.

First. The item I set out for someone to find has been found. I verified the claim and awarded the $2500. 

I know. You’re probably bummed.  This deal is sealed.

I’m not telling you who won, where it was or the clues they followed yet. I will, don’t worry.

This leads us to the 2^nd big announcement.

The Hunt has gone virtual!. And I’m putting $500 on the line for the prize.

No travel required. You can now play from home, on your couch in your pajamas. 

All you have to do is follow the correct clues to pinpoint the treasure’s hiding spot.

Send me a Google map pin and your explanation of how you picked that spot. Easy Peasy.

And I’m still dropping clues on my social media. You can find them on TikTok or Facebook.

If nobody finds the right location I’ll do a drawing from all eligible entries.

Yes you have to register and agree to the rules. 

The deadline to enter is Sunday Nov 29, 5 pm mountain. So if you’re looking for something to do with the family over Thanksgiving, this is it.

All the details are here.

PS. I know you want a clue right now so here you go:

You know what people are really good at? Making mountains out of molehills.

Here's the thing about being a good Hunter. Don't automatically assume a mountain is more important because it's bigger.

Sometimes the molehill on the way up the mountain is the thing that matters.

Good Luck!