December 2021
What got us here, will not get us there
By Steve Hicken, on behalf of the community of Illuman men
Dear Friend of Illuman,

We write to you today to ask you to contribute the financial support that Illuman requires to heal the masculine so we may authentically serve our families, communities, workplaces, and the earth itself.

Per oral tradition, the Vision which Illuman inherited from Fr. Richard Rohr and the Center for Action and Contemplation was the dream that in five generations, men's rites of passage would become commonplace in our society. Thanks to Fr. Richard’s work and after nearly ten years of experience, Illuman is seeing an emerging vision that in five generations healthy masculinity will be commonplace in our society.

This is Illuman's emerging dream, which guides us now as we mold Illuman into a vessel, really an organism, in which men find belonging and from which they each draw focus, energy, and support for what is theirs to do. Let's remember that individually and collectively, we are all works in progress! As Illuman turns ten in 2022, we are learning that:

  • Illuman needs to invest time and attention in building and supporting Chapters, which comprise the base communities for the men that we serve.

  • We need actions to better communicate the change that Illuman is bringing about. 

  • We need to open new channels for the meaningful participation of all Illuman men now that we are growing in diversity of age, culture, and ethnicity. 

“What got us here, will not get us there.”

To respond to the needs and opportunities for nurturing healthy masculine transformation locally, regionally, and internationally, we can no longer be sustained by a strictly volunteer effort with one paid administrator and very modest contracted services. Our journey and aspirations have outgrown that container. We will need to build more paid services to achieve this vision. Examples include:
  • External communications (social media, video, public relations, etc. so we can reach new men)
  • Internal communications (so that we can better invest the time and talent our men offer)
  • Technology (to support a lean infrastructure)
  • Access to organizational know-how (now essential for our current stage of growth)

Healthy masculinity must replace toxic masculinity, which, to a large extent, is responsible for present political, environmental, cultural, and economic crises.

This is the dream and vision that energizes Illuman. Does this dream resonate within you? Will you financially support the dream? The money needed to do this work is simply a concentrated ingredient to bring about change. It is just one part of the collective input required— though without it, we aren't going to get where we want to go.

We hope you can join us in this great work! See below for how to do that.

In gratitude and solidarity,

Steve Hicken, on behalf of the community of Illuman men
How you can help (please do the following now or within the next 48 hours):

  • Become a monthly or recurring donor of a sustainable amount—maybe $10 or $20/month, or whatever is appropriate.

  • If you are already a regular donor, consider increasing your current recurring gift by $5 or more.

  • Consider a one-time gift of $50, $100, $200 or more.

  • Talk about the transforming work of Illuman with a family member or friend, asking them to consider a gift of financial support

  • Remember Illuman when planning your will and estate.

Or send a check to Illuman at:

500 Westover Dr.
#12690, Sanford, NC 27330

We invite donations of any size.
Donations are tax-deductible in the U.S.
(Illuman EIN #38-3878480)

For more information, email Us.
Thank you for your support and consideration of this appeal!

"I look forward to the formation of our chapter and the opportunity to increase the opportunities for men in Wisconsin."
Consider joining us and perhaps inviting a friend to an Illuman Virtual Council!

Be sure to visit our website to see our complete virtual council schedule. It's also where you can learn more about the program.
Join Us for These Upcoming Illuman Events
Acknowledging Our Persona and Embracing Our Shadows

January 7-8, 2022
- Lawrence Lodge -
Brooklyn, MI

Hosted by Illuman of Indian-Michigan
We have been through a lot these last 20+ months and have been challenged in a variety of ways. This retreat will give us an opportunity to finally meet in person, unpackage our experiences, look into our hearts and discover lessons that are waiting to be revealed. We will explore multiple understandings for what it means to wear a mask and what it might mean to take our mask(s) off.

“Spiritual maturity is to become aware that we are not the persona (mask) we have been presenting to others. That is why saints are humble and scoundrels are arrogant. We must become intentional about recognizing and embracing our shadows. Religion’s word for this is quite simply forgiveness, which is pivotal and central on the path of transformation.” -Richard Rohr
Come join us on an epic
poetry writing retreat!

January 7-8, 2022
(held virtually on Zoom)

Hosted by Ohio Illuman
What are the myths guiding your spiritual journey?

Illuman is dedicated to helping men on a spiritual journey. That quest is what this writing retreat is about. What are the myths that are guiding your journey? We will draw some of our inspiration from the work of author and storyteller Michael Meade.

You don't have to think of yourself as a poet to greatly benefit from this Illuman writing retreat. The weekend is open to men of all writing experiences—from complete novice to published author. We mainly focus on free-verse, open-form poetry. You won't have to worry about rhyming, cadence, nor other aspects of some classical poetry.

We will gather virtually as a large group, but we will also experience some time one-on-one with another participant, and there is an extended lunch and wandering included for Saturday. All this is to say that the retreat has a lot of variety in it. You won't be sitting watching experts talk about poetry. You will be invited to be fully involved.

This will be the fifth year for the writing retreat sponsored by Ohio Illuman. No past attendance or special writing experience is necessary. We are thrilled to invite men from around the world to join us in this reflective writing journey as we gather virtually to share our real-life mythic experiences.

Discussion of Matthew Fox’s book The Hidden Spirituality of Men: Ten Metaphors to Awaken the Sacred Masculine

2nd and 4th Mondays of each month throughout 2022
In this year-long discussion of Matthew Fox’s book The Hidden Spirituality of Men: Ten Metaphors to Awaken the Sacred Masculine, we will explore ancient and new masculine images that allow men breathing room to be our best and deepest selves; our wild and fierce selves; our gentle and loving selves; our soaring and mystical selves; our prophetic, sharing, earth-loving, cosmic, and expansive selves; our generative, creative, compassionate, fatherly, and wise selves; our gay, straight, bi, pan, or asexual selves. In short, our true selves….

We will meet the 2nd and 4th Mondays of each month throughout 2022 (starting January 10th). We will explore one chapter of the book each month we meet.

2nd Wednesday of every month
(held virtually on Zoom)

Hosted by Illuman of New Mexico
M.A.L.E. ANON is a fellowship of men who share their experience, strength, and hope in order to find spiritual solutions to their common problems. It is open to all men of any description, any background. Anybody who identifies as a male is welcomed, including those in transition. Men in M.A.L.E. ANON gain great relief from attending meetings and great recovery from working the 12 Steps. Therefore, attending meetings and working the steps are essential to our program. We believe that the 12 Steps offer a blueprint for becoming better human beings and better men and that changed attitudes can aid recovery.

We meet on Zoom the 2nd Wednesday of every month from 6:30–8:00 PM MST (8:30 EST & 5:30 PST).
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Be sure to visit Illuman's Online Shop where you can order t-shirts, hats and other Illuman logo items. Every purchase helps support our work!
Illuman is an independent, non-profit 501(c)(3) organization whose vision is to see men transforming men and, through them, families and communities for generations to come. Our mission is to engage those seeking a life-long journey of spiritual transformation. 
Your support in all forms, including prayer, service, and money, is met with gratitude and a commitment to honor your gifts by using them to support men on their spiritual journey.
Please also remember Illuman in your estate planning. Contact us at [email protected] for more information.


Without us God will not,
but without God, we cannot.
~ Fr. Richard Rohr ~