If you are considering a divorce which can be very traumatic, there are some key points you should consider. If possible, once you and your spouse have made the decision to terminate the marriage. If you have children, their well-being must come first! Courts are consistent with what is in the best interest of the child. Judges have heard every story possible between the spouses therefore the focus needs to be on the children’s well-being and on obtaining an amicable custody agreement the courts will agree to. If there is domestic violence or other issues preventing an amicable solution, see your attorney for advice.
While and after the divorce try to keep things as close to predivorce (for the children) as possible. As an example, when having birthday parties for the children, include your spouse, grandparents, and other relatives as well. This sets an example for the children that even though their parents are not married anymore, we could still act as a family where they were concerned.
When preparing for a divorce, financial disclosure by both parties is critical in this process. Know the family finances inside and out. Your attorney will discuss what you are entitled to legally. It is always important to know what the family finances are including bank accounts, credit cards, utility bills, retirement accounts, life insurance policies etc.…Often, the financial responsibility in a marriage is taken on by one spouse with the other spouse being completely left in the dark as to what is going on. In the event of a divorce, this proves problematic, especially if the finances turn out to be much less than believed or there could be the issue of hiding assets that one spouse may not be aware of.
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