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What’s normal in grief?... Well, almost everything. There are some complications that can occur with grief, but grief, in itself, is normal. It’s a natural and necessary reaction to a significant change or loss in our lives. It’s normal; It’s healthy; It’s instinctual; and it’s necessary. As quoted from grief author and speaker, Doug Manning, “Grief is as natural as crying when you are hurt, sleeping when you are tired, eating when you are hungry, or sneezing when your nose itches. It’s nature’s way of healing a broken heart.” You are not broken, even though you may feel broken-hearted. You are in a state of transition, albeit a painful place in the beginning phases. Grief cannot be fixed or repaired, like a flat tire or a broken dish, but rather you learn to integrate it gradually and gently into your new lifestyle. Grief is a placeholder where your deepest love exists, as you find your way to express and share it in your new normal.
I suspect the deeper question most grievers really want to know is, “How do I know if what I’m experiencing is NOT normal?” It is our hope, in this month’s articles and in our grief support meetings, to help you understand your grief and to help you discover if your grief is normal “for you” and “for this grief experience” and if you have the right level of support that you need. More than likely, you will be surprised to find that you are right where you need to be in your grief. It takes time and patience and a caring companion to accompany you in your grief journey. This month we also provide a few reflections for the upcoming Lenten season which starts on March 5th. We encourage you to draw closer to God who guides you from darkness to light, fear to trust, and from sorrow to joy.
We welcome you to join us at any of our free monthly grief support meetings (in-person and/or virtual). Come, sit, listen, and share (as you are able to). Be in the company of others who understand, who get where you are, and find a place where you are free to openly discuss these “normal” feelings. Information to register for our monthly Grief Support Groups is shown below in “Upcoming Events”.
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