Miami Valley 
Unitarian Universalist Fellowship

8690 Yankee St.  Dayton, OH  45458






MVUUF's Forum for October, 2018

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Service Topics for October, 2018

Sunday, October 7th - 11:00 AM      
Sanctuary for One Another
 with Rev. Kellie Kelly

Sunday, October 14th - 11:00 AM      
Sharing Our Light
with Rev. Kellie Kelly
Sunday, October 21st - 11:00 AM      
with Tina Musgrove, MVUUF member
Sunday, October 28th - 11:00 AM
 with Laura Vondenhuevel & Lathe Snyder, MVUUF members

October News

Dear MVUUF Members and Friends,

Don't let the book boxes in my office fool you- MVUUF is quickly becoming the home of my heart. I'll get the book boxes unpacked eventually. Knowing me, I'll have pictures on the walls first. I tend to choose beauty over practicality, hehe!
We have two new programs rolling out this month: our Soul Matters Covenant Groups and our Congregational Read. Please read more about each in their individual write-ups further on in this month's Forum . I'm also excited to let you know that we'll be attaching the Soul Matters Covenant Group packet to The Forum each month so everyone can take advantage of the packets' inspiration and wisdom, regardless of whether they are participating in the covenant groups.
Our Children and Youth Religious Education (YRE) program has started off with a burst of enthusiasm and wonder that makes me even more excited about this year than I already was. A HUGE thank-you to all of our congregants who have volunteered to be in YRE this program year, both our dedicated long-time volunteers AND our wide-eyed newbies. A HUGE thank-you to Rene Hick and Genevieve Harvey for filling the gap left by our open Director position. You ROCK and I am hugely grateful!
This month's Soul Matters theme is Sanctuary, which has become a word that stirs a lot of hard emotions for congregants due to conflict over the decision to make MVUUF an immigrant sanctuary last year. In order to heal the wounds of this conflict, we will work though it together in the coming months. No one is going to be left behind.

Sanctuary means many other things, too. 
We do not need to just be a sanctuary to the outside world. We can be a sanctuary to each other. MVUUF can save lives by just having a congregant spend a few minutes with a person they've never seen at the fellowship before. We have no idea how many lives our welcome has already saved. Everyone needs a place they can call home,   especially if their real homes are fraught with pain and difficulty. MVUUF can become the home of all of our hearts. 

Soon after Matt and I arrived in Dayton, I heard a song that brought tears to my eyes when I first heard it,
Home by Phillip Phillips. Phillips asks us to hold onto each other and promises to make this place our home. This is the promise I have made to Matt and the promise I make to you. Take a listen HERE 
Settle down, it'll all be clear.
Don't pay no mind to the demons-they fill you with fear.
The trouble, it might drag you down.
If you get lost, you can always be found.
Just know you're not alone. 
'Cause I'm going to make this place your home.
Holding each of you in my heart!

With gratitude and love,
Rev. Kellie
Office hours available by appointment 
(please contact me via my mobile phone 847-804-4614).

In our August Ministerial/Congregational Relations Workshop, we identified four key areas of dissatisfaction and concern that need to be further worked on by our fellowship. These issues are the following:      1.) our most recent interim minister, 2.) confidentiality and transparency around decision-making, 3.) the Sex Offender Response Team (SORT), and 4.) immigrant sanctuary. While we had intended to work on these issues over two sessions in September, Rev. Kellie and the Board made the difficult decision to postpone these important meetings because we could not locate suitable facilitators as quickly as we hoped.
In order to locate suitable facilitators, Rev. Kellie has consulted with several regional and national UU leaders and has been directed to Rev. Deborah Pope-Lance, the UUA's expert on helping congregations heal and rebuild after histories of ministerial misconduct. Rev. Kellie is now taking one of Rev. Pope-Lance's online classes, where she can learn and consult directly with her to gain more insight as to how we may best proceed.
Please know that we are sensitive to the complaints that past abuses were "swept under the rug." We do not want that to happen again and will do everything we can to help the fellowship move through these painful issues in both a healthy and timely way. While Rev. Kellie is not shy about engaging in these tough issues, this is a big task for a new minister and she wants to ensure that the process she leads us through will not be detrimental to our fellowship or her ministry with us.
Due to the importance of these meetings, we have decided to create a small task-force to assist Rev. Kellie in   planning a healthy path forward for MVUUF. This task-force will be led by Board Representative Garlene Hamilton and include representatives of the Right Relations Committee and the Pastoral Associates Committee. We expect good things from Rev. Kellie's efforts and will keep you informed of her progress.
If you have any questions or feedback, Rev. Kellie welcomes your questions and feedback ( Thank you for your understanding and support!
Maury Wyckoff, MVUUF Board President

Music Minister and composer Jason Shelton wrote the hymn #1014 Standing on the Side of Love in 2004 in response to President Bush's call for a constitutional amendment banning same-sex marriage.  But at the 2016 UUA General Assembly, the Rev. Theresa Soto, who uses a wheelchair, called out the ableist language that made people like her feel excluded. Ableism is prejudice against people with disabilities that characterizes them as defined by their disabilities and as inferior to the non-disabled.  With new awareness, Rev. Shelton decided to re-write the  lyrics to what is now Answering the Call of Love . He stated, " When someone in your community says they're feeling pain, or rejected, you can't just ignore that ." 

Our UU faith constantly challenges us to examine the words we use and lyrics we sing for unintended expressions of privilege: racial, gender, or ability. Can we think of the words we sing together as not only a tradition but also an ongoing endeavor to create a world of equity and compassion?  (Adapted from an article in UU World called A Gesture of Love by Kimberly French; read the full article HERE
--Sara Davis, Director of Music

" Robin DiAngelo's White Fragility brings language to the emotional structures that make true discussions about racial attitudes difficult. With clarity and compassion, DiAngelo allows us to understand racism as a practice not restricted to 'bad people.' In doing so, she moves our national discussions forward with new 'rules of engagement.' This is a necessary book for all people invested in societal change through productive social and intimate relationships ."
-Claudia Rankine, Frederick Iseman Professor of Poetry at Yale University
Rev. Kellie will be leading a monthly discussion group for MVUUF friends and members on Beacon Press's new release White Fragility: Why It's So Hard for White People to Talk About Racism by Robin DiAngelo. We have ordered 10 copies from the UUA Bookstore. Five of these copies are available for purchase and 5 will be available for lending to those unable to purchase their own copies. In addition to the UUA Bookstore, the book is also available on Kindle and Audible.
Starting Saturday, November 3rd, the group will meet on the first Saturday of the month from 10:30 AM - 12:00 PM at MVUUF. The monthly group will discuss two chapters a month and end Saturday, May 4th. Because of the continued importance of antiracism work in our  denomination and in our country overall, Rev. Kellie encourages everyone to read the book with her and join our monthly discussions. Staff will also be participating as time allows.
While Rev. Kellie would love it if everyone could do their "homework" before each session and/or commit to all 7 sessions (November 3rd - May 4th), she understands that many of us do not have the time necessary and encourages congregants to attend as many discussions as they can, whether they have done the reading or not. Something done with love and humility is always better than nothing done while trying to be perfect. Perfectionism is part of white supremacy culture. We don't have to be bad people to have internalized parts of white supremacy culture.
Please sign up via SignUp Genius so that we can communicate with interested readers before the first session and make sure everyone is able to get a copy of the congregational read.

In September, the Program Council was pleased to recognize Mary Hamilton as our Unsung Hero.  This may be our first Unsung Hero award to one of our high schoolers!  You have likely seen Mary behind our pulpit, sharing her enthusiasm, commitment and intelligence. Our younger members have enjoyed Mary as a frequent child care provider.  She has been the driving force behind MVUUF youth and adult participation in the Unitarian Universalist United Nations Office (UU UNO) Intergenerational Spring Seminar.  She first attended with Rev. Greg in 2016 and then again in '17 and '18; each time facing the challenge of making travel arrangements and lining up the required adult sponsor.  Girl Scout that she is, Mary works to leave things better than she found them. Thus, she invested considerable effort navigating MVUUF governance in order to lay a firmer groundwork for MVUUF youth wishing to attend the UU UNO seminar in the future. She is now the chair of a new UU UNO action group in the Social Action program area! Additionally, Mary has also presented to the youth from the Cincinnati UU congregations to encourage their future participation in the UU UNO seminar and spoke about the seminar as part of a sermon at the Gathering at Northern Hills to build connections beyond MVUUF. 

When you see Mary, please congratulate her!

Wow, what a turn out! We had over 30 members and friends register for a Soul Matters Covenant Group! And guess what? We still have room for another 10-15 participants!
As a reminder, the Soul Matters Covenant Groups meet monthly from October through June. While Soul Matters offers a distinctive small group curriculum tied to the Sunday worship and religious education themes, its central goal is to foster circles of trust and deep listening. These groups allow you to go deep with each theme and with a small group of the fellowship's members and friends.
We will have the following sessions this program year:
  • 3rd Thursday afternoon
  • 3rd Friday afternoon
  • 3rd Friday evening
  • 4th Monday evening
If you would like to join one of these groups, please email Rev. Kellie at with your 1st choice and 2nd choice of session. If you already registered, Kellie has already put you in a group and will be sending your group information this week.
In the meantime, Kellie invites us all to enjoy the inspiration of October's small group packet on Sanctuary , whether we're enrolled in a covenant group or not (click HERE  for the packet).

Don't forget! MVUUF will be holding its annual baby shower at the Wesley Community Center on Saturday, October 13th! 

Thank you to everyone who has donated supplies for this fun & necessary event. Just a reminder: if you signed up to donate an item please bring it to the Fellowship by Sunday, October 7th . And please see Steve Steel or Bea Walther if you have any questions.

A long planned initiative to improve MVUUF security has been achieved!  Our amazing Operations Rep., David Dickey, has implemented a long standing plan (from at least as far back as 2011) by installing security cameras.   Currently two cameras are installed: one outside by the playground (which views the parking lot) and one in the YRE hallway. A third camera is planned  for the front entrance.
Currently, David Dickey (Operations Representative), Maury Wycoff (Board President), and Lynn Buffington (Program Council Chair)  have access to the video feed, live and stored. In the coming weeks, the regular staff also will have access to the video feed (Minister, Fellowship Administrator, Director of Music, and Director of Religious Education). Stored video is automatically deleted as space is needed for new video.  Additional details were given in March, 2018 Forum,  in the invitation to the congregation to comment on the plan.

The Fundraising Committee will be meeting on Thursday, October 11th, 7:00 PM, in the Library at MVUUF. They will continue to meet on the second Thursday of each month, 7:00 PM, ongoing.
At the October 11th meeting, they will focus on the budget gap, and a winter gifts and gathering event. Currently, they are looking for co-chairs for that event and others who are willing to invest their time and talent with this committee. Please email chairperson Garlene Hamilton at if you have an interest in this.

And while we're on the subject of fundraising...did you know you can donate to MVUUF at no cost to you every time you shop at Kroger, Dorothy Lane Market, and Amazon? When you use the affiliate programs at these     companies, a percentage (based on your purchases) will go to MVUUF.
You may think that this may only be a small drop in the bucket when it comes to donations. ALL adds up! The more people who register, the larger the donation to MVUUF. And the best part is that it doesn't come out of YOUR pocket.
Set-up is an easy, one-time process, and then every time you the donation to MVUUF increases! Your friends and family members may also be willing to designate MVUUF in these affiliate programs to further increase the amount we receive...why not mention it to them? You can read more HERE

The MVUUF Voter Registration Drive is in full swing, and Election Day, Tuesday, November 6, is almost here! Thank you to all who have volunteered, canvassed, attended meetings, and signed up for future activities.
There is much to do between now and November 6. Please sign-up in the Gathering Space to...
  • Join---Canvassing Teams (Saturday October 6th, 13th, 20th, 27th, and November 3rd). Training starts at 9:00 AM, walking from 10:00 AM to Noon, lunch following. Gather at New Hope Lutheran Church, 2000 Catalpa Drive, Dayton OH 45406. 
  • Educate---Although Voter Registration closes October 9th, we will still be canvassing to educate voters on Issue One, the Ohio Neighborhood Safety, Drug Treatment and Rehabilitation Amendment (click HERE  for more info).          
  • Drive---Voters to the Polls on Election Day
  • Donate---Money
MVUUF's Voter Registration Drive is in partnership with LEAD (Leadership for Equality and Action in Dayton) to increase voter registration and participation in Dayton's West End. Questions? Contact Team Members Dennis Kay, Harvey Scott, Ruth Rowley, Larry Stone, Bob Lewis, and Trudy Krisher. 

With much thanks to David Cobb, MVUUF now has a one year Church Video License (CVLI) which allowed our Activities Rep. to hold the June Black Panther movie night.  There are lots of wonderful films included in this license; to see what your MVUUF group may like, check out the listings HERE
The CVLI license only addresses copyright; procuring a movie is a separate step (someone still needs to own or borrow the DVD, or stream the movie, etc.). There are some important restrictions:  we cannot charge admission or publicize to the general public; we can accept voluntary financial donations for snacks shown at a movie; we can tell the general public we are having a movie night without naming the movie; we can include the name of a film in our Friday E-Blast, on our Beloved Community Facebook page and in a private MVUUF Facebook event as those are primarily internal communications.   Publicizing to the general public requires separate specific permission such as which Social Action occasionally obtains for documentaries.  See you at the movies! 
---MVUUF Program Council

The Women's Group meets at 9:30 AM every Sunday morning in Classroom #5. It is an open covenant group and women of any age are invited and encouraged to attend. 

If you've never been, we hope you will visit us soon. Child care is provided during this time. The topics for October will center on Sanctuary as we use the Soul Matters resources as a guide for our sharing and listening time.

The next gathering of this well-read group will take place on Wednesday, October 17th, 10:30 AM in the Library, and they'll be discussing The Round House  by Louise Erdrich.
Upcoming choices for discussion are:
November 14th           Educated: A Memoir  
                                      by Tara Westover
December 19th           Pretty Paper  
                                      by Willie Nelson
January 16th               A Gentleman in Moscow 
                                      by Amor Towles
All are welcome to join them!

The next bi-monthly meeting of the Environmental Book Club will be held on Monday, October 15th, 7:00 PM, in the Founders' Room. The book to be discussed is The Immense Journey by Loren Eiseley. Meetings of the Environmental Book Club are held every two months, the third Monday of that month. All are welcome to join them!

Book Fair time is just around the corner: November 9th-12th, at the Montgomery County Fair's new location, 645 Infirmary Road (just off Route 35). This year's non-profit recipients are:

        Rebuilding Together Dayton, 
              The Victory Project, 
                  and We Care Arts.
We thank you for your generous contributions of books, as well as the help in getting them to the foundation. MVUUF will continue to be a drop-off location for those books, so please feel free to bring them to the Fellowship now through this month!
Members & friends of MVUUF (that identify as women) are invited to join this fun-loving group as they celebrate birthdays on Thursday, October 11th, 11:30 AM, at MCL Cafeteria, in Kettering. Please RSVP to Allie Petersen at:

We're expecting a crowd for October at St. Vincent's! In September, we provided lunch for 128, which may be the most we've ever served, and usually October and November have more diners than September! Please step up, if you can, to provide food for our long-standing second Saturday lunch ministry for women and families staying at the St. Vincent de Paul Shelter.

You can sign up for the Saturday, October 13th lunch for food donations and/or serving on the clipboard in the Gathering Space, or you can contact Lynn Buffington at 937-657-0426 (call or text) or

  You can also check on what is  needed  at  Sign Up Genius 
(no need to log in unless you also want to sign up through Genius).  
If you would like more information regarding  volunteering, please take one of the info flyers near the sign up sheet. Thanks to ALL who pitched in by providing food and/or serving at that huge September meal! Below is a photo of our September servers. We even had to break out two batches of main dish from our non-perishable back-ups!

October 13th menu:  This is the last month of our "summer" menu before we switch to chili.  Our needs this month include sandwich filling (sloppy joes, BBQ pulled pork/chicken/beef, tuna salad and one batch of egg salad) vegetable dishes (pasta salad with LOTS of veggies, cole slaw, or other vegetable - green beans have been popular!), green salads, fresh fruit/fruit salads, 100% orange juice and 1% milk (we use buns from St. Vincent's pantry for the sandwiches). We need several donations of most items, with each donation serving 15-20 people. Please bring all items---heated if applicable---to 120 West Apple Street (the St. Vincent de Paul Gateway Shelter) by 10:45 AM.

Remember...due to allergies, asthma, and other sensitivities, we ask you to please refrain from wearing scent when at the Fellowship (perfume, aftershave, scented hair products, lotions, etc.). Thank you for helping us to be a safe as well as welcoming congregation!

Remember to place your order for Fair Trade coffee on the first Sunday of the month (this month it's on October 7th ) !

Coffee will be ready to be picked up on or after the third Sunday of the month (this month, October 21st )

There are many varieties and bean grinds to choose from, including several that are organic!  Contact  Lynn Buffington  at:    (937) 657-0426  or
Y ou can keep up-to-date with all the happenings at MVUUF by viewing the Fellowship's calendar online, from a link to our website  HERE  
The calendar is updated daily, so it's always the place to check and see what's going on!

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We are a liberal religious community that embraces diversity and respects the inherent worth and dignity of every person.  ALL are welcome here, no matter their race, sex, sexual/affectional orientation, gender expression, or ability.


Please visit us on Sunday mornings at 11 a.m. for our worship service---

we'd love to see you!