Miami Valley 
Unitarian Universalist Fellowship

8690 Yankee St.  Dayton, OH  45458






MVUUF's Forum for October, 2019

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Service Topics for October, 2019

Sunday, October 6th   11:00 AM
Holding Each Other's Grief 
with Rev. Kellie 
Sunday, October 13th   11:00 AM
Congregational Read: The Power of Learning Together
with Rev. Kellie
Sunday, October 20th   11:00 AM
Reflections on Belonging
with Laura Vondenhuevel
Sunday, October 27th   11:00 AM
Worship for All Ages:
Belonging Makes Life Less Scary
with DRE Jerry Leggett & Rev. Kellie 

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Our Nursery is available for all children during 
before-service programming (starting at 9:30 AM)
and children younger than our preschool* class 
during the Worship Service.

Our Worship for All Ages services are intentionally multi-generational 
so that young people preschool-aged* and older may happily participate
in the entire Worship Service.

For our other Worship Services, all young people preschool-aged* 
and older will begin in the service and exit for their 
religious education classes after the Time for All Ages.
Please pick up children at 12:15 PM.

*Preschool students are 3 years old 
by September of the current school year.

Staff Notes

                                      FROM REV. KELLIE
My Dear Ones,

Wow, I hope you all read the September Forum-it was our biggest in recent memory, with 25 articles highlighting the kick-off of our program year. Although this month's Forum is a tad smaller, it still is packed with information on all the exciting things going on at MVUUF, both new ventures and old favorites.
In case you didn't have time to cozy up with last month's Forum, I want to share my highlights from last month. First of all, we celebrated the new partnership between our Children and Youth Religious Education (CYRE) program and our RE Director's organization, the 21st Century Peace Literacy Foundation, at the reception for our exhibit at the main branch of the Dayton Metro Library. If you would like to learn more about the exhibit, you can find information in the YRE Hallway (look for the big U, hehe).
In celebration of the International Day of Peace (September 21st), I was privileged and humbled to welcome 5 Rivers Chautauqua to MVUUF for their 5th annual Peace Tree Planting. 5 Rivers Chautauqua is an organization that promotes peace throughout the Miami Valley area. Their two founders, Guy Jones (Miami Valley Council for Native Americans) and Tom Bensman performed the ceremony using a white pine tree in honor of the Iroquois Great Law of Peace. As in the Iroquois ceremonies, we made a commitment to bury our weapons with the tree (hurtful words written on pieces of paper) and live harmoniously with one another. You may see our young peace tree in MVUUF's front yard, near the Labyrinth. May it remind us of our commitment for many years to come.
September was also a busy month for us in public social action, with 3 protest rally requests: Unitarian Universalist Justice Ohio (UUJO) End Gun Violence in Columbus, Dayton Climate Strike, and UUJO Educate a Legislator Day in Columbus. I was thrilled to see MVUUF members and friends join me at all 3 events. While rallies and protests aren't enough on their own, they have proven to be an effective way to show lawmakers we are serious about specific issues. I was honored to speak at the final event and to hand-deliver our letter and petition to the Governor's staff. We are so much stronger together.
Last but certainly not least, our Board and Program Council hosted a fabulous Fall Fellowship Fair with over 20 MVUUF committees and groups participating. We included the fair in our Sunday service so that people had time to learn more about all the activities, committees, and groups MVUUF offers. One of the most important things I learned in seminary was the following: people visit a church because of the minister and stay because of the congregation. It is the connections that you all make with each other that make people feel like they have found their people-like they truly Belong.
And not to be too obvious (again, ha), guess what this month's Soul Matters theme is. Yup, Belonging. In our worship services, CYRE classes, and covenant groups, we'll explore what Belonging is and why it is important to us as human beings. More importantly, we continue to offer many programs to help you find ways to plug in, deepen your connection, and Belong here at MVUUF.
As usual, I have selected a song to guide us through our theme: We Belong by Namoli Brennet (listen HERE) . I feel like it was written for Unitarian Universalism and our MVUUF family. I hope it reassures and reminds you that we all belong somewhere. And selfishly, I hope that somewhere is here-that we're your people. 
Holding you in my heart, 

Rev. Kellie

What I'm Reading (or What I'm Listening To):
  • For Whom the Dogs Spy: From the Duvalier Dictatorships to the Earthquake, Four Presidents, and Beyond by Raymond A. Joseph
  • How to Be an Antiracist by Ibram X. Kendi
  • Centering: Navigating Race, Authenticity, and Power in Ministry, edited by Mitra Rahnema (this year's Congregational Read, starting October 26th) 

Feel free to click HERE to get the Soul Matters packet on Belonging for this month. You do not have to be a member of a Covenant Group in order to have it; the packets are available to all our Members & Friends. If you prefer a hard copy of the packet, please contact our Fellowship Administrator, Jennie Freiberger, at 937-436-3628 or and she'll make sure to get one to you.

Why do we sing hymns during worship service? I got a spark of insight recently while attending a performance by the Cincinnati Symphony Orchestra. As always, I was enthralled by the incredible skill of the musicians on stage. Yet I realized, not one them individually was really playing the music I was hearing. In fact, with the exception perhaps of the violinists, most of the instrumentalists on stage were just waiting, listening and counting rests. Then the exact moment in the the composer's imagination comes for them to play their exquisite contribution to the whole. 

Unlike a singer songwriter or a recording star whose performance is all about self-expression, the orchestra musicians perfectly meet all their minds in a single musical expression; a work of art that none could achieve individually. So I hope it is for us. When we sing together in worship, may we be joined in voice, body and spirit by the music of a single, unified song.
 ---Sara Davis, Director of Music

During the month of October our Soul Matters theme is Belonging. In our YRE classes we will explore belonging as a way of life that is rooted in our core seven principles/practices.

Through the gift of the African concept of Ubuntu we offer our young people a world view for what it means to be human -- to care, to share and to be in harmony with all of creation. Ubuntu (oo-boon-too, n.) is a Zulu or Xhosa word, and a traditional African concept.

Our Middle Schoolers will continue with the Heed The Call study which offers skills and knowledge to be an agent of change and social justice. Our High Schoolers are exploring a variety of topics that integrate their everyday concerns with our UU faith.

On Sunday, October 20th, we will host a Trunk or Treat for young children from 5 - 9:00 PM in our parking lot. It is exciting to see new families with young children that are finding a sense of belonging here at MVUUF. Perhaps you have a neighbor or friend you'd like to invite!

Ultimately, most of what we can teach our young people in a class setting only becomes actualized for them as they experience it themselves and in their wider faith community. And that's where YOU have a role to play. Thanks to each of you for all you are doing to help create a Beloved Community of Belonging here at MVUUF!
---Jerry Leggett, Director of Religious Education

Fun Things To Do This Month

Sunday, October 13th, 12:30 PM, 
in the Sanctuary
Don't forget! Y ou can enjoy spending some time after the Service on Sunday, October 13th, to find out more about our very own Rev. Kellie Kelly. 

Grab a beverage, take a seat in the Sanctuary and have a nice chat with Rev. Kellie'll be glad that you did!

Currently in the Sanctuary at MVUUF
Featured Artists:  Diane Dover and Kay Hissong
Artists Diane Dover and Kay Hissong currently have some of their work on display along the walls of our Sanctuary. These artists have shared a lasting friendship and love of art and the natural world for over 25 years, and both have transitioned from art quilting to exploring new mediums to express themselves.

Diane is hand-dying and hand-painting silk scarves, and transitioning them even further into pieces of art to hang on the wall. She has a B.A. of Fine Arts from Wright State University, with areas of concentration in drawing, sculpture, and printmaking.

Kay has discovered Plein Air painting and using pastels as her new medium of choice. She has a B.A. in Fine Arts and Psychology from Manchester College (Indiana) and the Instituto Allende (San Miguel de Allende, Mexico).

Both artists' works focus on representing native flora and fauna; showcasing the beautiful Midwest landscapes, insects, and plants found at Huffman Prairie, Shawnee State Park, and Garbry Big Woods Preserve in Ohio, among others. Diane and Kay have studied together at countless workshops and seminars on native plants and animals, cultures, and the arts.

Make sure to spend some time in the Sanctuary soon and take a look at their beautiful work.

Thursday, October 10th, 11:30 AM, MCL Cafeteria, in Kettering
If you identify as a woman, you should think about joining this fun group of ladies as they celebrate birthdays every month! They usually meet on the second Thursday of the month, 11:30 AM, at MCL Cafeteria in Kettering. This month, they'll be meeting on Thursday, October 10th.
If you're going to attend, please make sure to RSVP to Allie Petersen at

Wednesday, October 16th, 10:30 AM, in the Founders' Room
This well-read group meets on the third Wednesday of every month, 10:30 AM, in the Founders' Room at MVUUF. This month, they'll gather on Wednesday, October 16th, to discuss The Last Runaway by Tracy Chevalier.

They've also selected several books 
for the coming months:

November 20th - Stay and Fight: A Novel 
by Madeline Fitch
December 18th - Dinner with Edward: 
A Story of Unexpected Friendship by Isabel Vincent
January 15th - The Bluest Eye by Toni Morrison
The group is open to all, and they'd love to have you join them!

Friday, October 18th, 6:30 PM, at MVUUF
Join us for a family-friendly game night, usually held on the third Friday of the month; this month's Game Night is scheduled for Friday, October 18th, 6:30 PM at MVUUF.  Bring a favorite game (or play games that others bring), and bring a snack to share if you can.  We look forward to your company!

Sunday, October 20th, 5-9:00 PM, in the parking lot at MVUUF
We are excited to be hosting a Trunk or Treat event this year! We will have awesome trunk displays, a magician, games and a movie.

Everyone is welcome to come out and join us in the fun! Wear your best costume and enjoy a safe and family-friendly environment to trick or treating.

If you would like to offer up your trunk (we need trunks to make this a great event!) or make a donation for the treats to be given out, please contact Somaya Bernard at for more information.

Friday, October 25th, 6:30 PM, at MVUUF
This month's Craft Night will be held on Friday, October 25th at 6:30 PM at MVUUF. Bring your portable craft supplies and spend an enjoyable evening with like-minded individuals. Questions? Contact Adrienne Clark at

Sunday mornings, 9:30 AM, in classroom #5
The group is open to ALL who identify as women, and they love to have you join them!  

The discussions are confidential with topics of general interest and those with a women's viewpoint. They meet on Sunday mornings, 9:30 AM, in class room #5 in the RE hallway.  

Begins Friday, October 11th, 6:30 PM, in the Founders' Room
What if we are inextricably bound to one another in oneness? What if we could feel that connection in our heart? What if we could know more through our hearts than our heads? What if there were a way to listen to what is within our heart? What if you could control your thoughts, rather than letting your thoughts control you?

Heartfulness Meditation is a simple way to calm our thoughts, so we can feel what is already within our hearts. Because it is simple to learn, Heartfulness is perfect, even for beginner meditators. Willingness is the only thing required to start Heartfulness Meditation. Heartfulness meditation is priceless, and there is never any charge.

Please join us Friday evenings at 6:30pm to see if Heartfulness meditation might be what you are looking for in your life. Allow yourself to release your stress and be rejuvenated for the start of your weekend.

6:30 - 7:15 PM:
  • we will start with a brief introduction to Heartfulness meditation
  • followed by a guided process to let go of the accumulated thoughts from the day
  • followed by a guided relaxation to allow us to be relaxed and ready to meditate
  • followed by meditation

7:15 - 8:00 PM:
This is optional time to foster a meditation community where you can safely share your experiences and ask questions for further clarifications.

Meditations will be led by MVUUF Friend Bruce Howorth, a longtime meditator and certified Heartfulness trainer. If you have questions, feel free to contact Bruce at 937- 286- 4533 or
Around the Fellowship
At its September meeting, the Program Council (PC) was happy to recognize Trudy Krisher as an Unsung Hero. Many of you will know that Trudy is a doer! She has served on a Search Committee for a settled minister, organized the raffle baskets for our last Service Auction, helped develop and run last year's Gifts and Gatherings, offered her time and talent to the Worship Committee and played a key role in our "Filling the Gap" and other fundraising campaigns. In addition to helping with YRE and Tornado Relief, Trudy has developed a volunteer program for the newly re-established library in Westwood School in West Dayton. 

These are only some of the variety of ways this longtime member has contributed to our community. Please thank her for all she continues to do and be sure to talk with her about her writing. She is a local author super-star!!!

UU United Nations Office Fundraiser Kick-Off     
Sunday, November 3rd
January Congregational Meeting                             
Sunday, January 19th
Rev. Kellie's 2nd Annual Valentine Open House     
Saturday, February 15th
Service Auction 2020                                               
Saturday, February 29th
2020-2021 Pledge Drive Kick-Off                        
Sunday, March 8th
Peacebuilders' Walk     
Saturday, May 16th
June Congregational Meeting     
Sunday, June 14th

Sunday, October 6th, 7:00 PM, in the Sanctuary
Our new monthly Circle Worship services take place the first Sunday evening of the month and offer a shorter and more intimate alternative to our Sunday morning services. Circle Worship: The Gathering of Spirits seeks to provide another way for us to find deep connection and welcomes children, youth, and adults of all ages. 

We had considered describing the services as "vespers", but vespers has more of a connotation of quiet contemplation, and we are thinking that a group that also includes children will be a little more lively. 

The service is about a half hour, and then there is time for food and drinks and conversation. Please contact Somaya Bernard at if you want to find out more about the group.

Sunday, November 10th*, 12:30-2:00 PM
Saturday, November 16th, 1-3:00 PM
Thursday, November 21st, 7-9:00 PM
Rev. Kellie and our Board of Trustees invite all MVUUF friends & members to join them in an exploration of our shared ministry. These sessions will be highly interactive, allowing us to identify who we are and imagine who we might become as Love transforms us.

If you have any questions, please contact Rev. Kellie at

* on this date a light lunch will be provided by the Board.

Many hands (and hearts) make light work.
The Pastoral Care Team at MVUUF is a group of lay leaders from around the fellowship who volunteer their time to tend to the heart of our community. Led and guided by Rev. Kellie, this group reaches out to individuals or works with individuals who reaches out to the team who are in need - for many different reasons.

The 5 W's of Pastoral Care
1) What is Pastoral Care?
Pastoral care is an ancient model of emotional and spiritual support that can be found in all cultures and traditions, religious and non-religious.
2) Why is Pastoral Care important at MVUUF?
It is the ministry of caring, responding to needs across the fellowship. A way of tending to the heart of our community.
3) When might someone seek Pastoral Care?
All types of situations have arisen prompting people to seek pastoral care support such as:
  • When they are ill, have an injury, or are in hospital
  • Struggles with housing, food access, transportation, or public assistance
  • Dealing with emotional times in life, such as divorce, death, or job transitions
  • Other times when you need help to lessen the burdens of your heart
4) Who utilizes Pastoral Care?
Anyone may call on the Pastoral Care Team.
5) Where does someone receive Pastoral Care?
Every pastoral care interaction is different, some places that the Pastoral Care Team has met with individuals include private and public spaces. The goal is to make this process accessible to many which means meeting where it is comfortable and appropriate to do so.

How do I access Pastoral Care at MVUUF?
Reach out to anyone on the team at any time. If you have one of the specific needs below, you can reach out directly to these individuals.

MVUUF Food Pantry
Steven Steel     937-304-4087 or
For all people at MVUUF, located in the kitchen

Meal Coordination
Deb Tarr     937-657-3425 or
During an extended illness, surgery, new baby arrival (birth/adoption), or family death

Kathleen Werning     937-825-4314 or
Assistance with rides to/from MVUUF or appointments

Your MVUUF Pastoral Care Team:
Rev. Kellie Kelly
Mike Fanelli
Cameron Smith
Kathleen Werning
Laura Vondenhuevel or 937.308.3266 (text/call)

The Right Relations Committee at MVUUF serves as the stewards of the Covenant of Right Relations. We accomplish this through education around how to navigate conflict and personal communications, process observation for specific events, and working with individuals who request assistant in working thru conflict at MVUUF with another congregant.

How can you help this year?
Process Observer - Be part of an ongoing team of individuals that could be called on to provide feedback and observe congregational meetings or gatherings were conflict might arise. A typical commitment might be 2-3 meetings per year.

Facilitator - Be part of an ongoing team of individuals who can help with others navigate thru conflict they encounter at MVUUF with another congregant in a one on one encounter. A typical commitment might be 2-3 meetings per year, as well as ongoing education with the team.

Revisit the Covenant Taskforce - Be part of a group of congregants who will develop a plan to review the Covenant of Right Relations, gather information from the community, and consider potential revisions or rewording the covenant as needed. This commitment would be for approximately 6-8 months for 4-6 hours per month. The goal is to kick this off in January 2020.

For more information, contact Laura Vondenhuevel, Right Relations Chair, at or 937.308.3266 (text/call).

Have you heard? The monthly meetings of MVUUF's Board of  Trustees are open to all, and the first 10-15 minutes are provided for members & friends to ask any  questions they may have of the Board members.
The next meeting of the Board is scheduled for Sunday, October 13th, 1:30 PM, in the Founders' Room.

Remember, due to allergies, asthma, and other sensitivities of our members & friends, we ask that you please refrain from wearing scent at MVUUF (perfume, aftershave, scented hair products, lotions, etc.).

Thank you for helping us to be a safe as well as welcoming congregation!

You can order fair trade coffee after the Sunday Worship Service at MVUUF! Orders are placed on the first Sunday of the month (this month that's October 6th!), and then your order should be ready to be picked up on the third Sunday of the month (this month that's October 20th!).

There are many varieties and bean grinds to choose from...some are even organic! For more information, feel free to contact Lynn Buffington at or 937-657-0426.

Did you know we have a lost & found box at the Fellowship? It's located in the Office area, on the floor under the long table holding all the plants!

If you think you may have lost something while at MVUUF, it's the FIRST place you'll want to look!

Showing Up for Justice
Monday, October 14th, 7:00 PM, in the Founders' Room
This group is a supportive place where white congregants can work on reducing and eliminating their own white fragility and internalized racism without harming our siblings of color. 

This group now meets on the second Monday of the month, 7:00 PM, in the Founders' Room. Questions, concerns or suggestions? Please email Rev. Kellie at .

Begins Saturday, November 2nd, 10:00 AM, in the Founders' Room
Sometimes it can be difficult to talk about issues of race. Most people do what they can to avoid hurting others in the course of our human interactions. But when it comes to race, people who identify as white can be especially concerned about saying and doing the right thing. 

I will be leading a discussion group on the book, White Fragility: Why It's So Hard for White People to Talk About Racism by Robin DiAngelo. Many in the congregation have already read this book and the interest was high! This group will be an opportunity for those of you who have not had a chance to read it and discuss it to join in a supportive circle for such a conversation. The sessions will be held on the first Saturday of the month beginning Saturday, November 2nd, 10:00 AM--noon, and ending on Saturday, March 7th. 

Please try to come to the first class having read the introduction to the book. Copies of the book may be available in the church library as well as the public library. Please sign up HERE or contact me (Alice Diebel) directly at or 937-305-4694.

Centering: Navigating Race, Authenticity, and Power in Ministry
edited by Mitra Rahnema
October 2019--June 2020, 10:30 AM, in the Sanctuary
  Centering: Navigating Race, Authenticity, and Power in Ministry has been chosen by Rev. Kellie as our Congregational Read for this programming year. The book includes nine essays by different authors, each one a Unitarian Universalist religious professional of color. Each essay is followed by a response, also from a religious professional of color. This book centers the stories, analyses, and insight of Unitarian Universalists of color who are offering their professional religious leadership, and is a joint project of the Unitarian Universalist Ministers Association's Committee for Antiracism, Anti-oppression, and Multiculturalism and Skinner House Books (and it's  available through the UUA Bookstore, on Kindle, and Google eBooks).

We'll gather on the third Saturday morning of the month (except for October 26th and May 23rd) October, 2019 through June, 2020; for our first discussion on October 26th, please try to read the first set of essays. However, if you're unable to do the reading, Rev. Kellie hopes you will still join us for the first discussion.

If you have any questions, please contact Rev. Kellie at

Monday, October 28th, 7:00 PM, in the Founders' Room
This group offers a supportive place where cisgender congregants can work on reducing and eliminating their own internalized transphobia and heterosexism, without harming our transgender siblings. Meetings are usually scheduled for the 4th Mondays of each month, at 7:00 PM, in the Founders' Room.

Contact Rev. Kellie at with any questions or concerns.

Monday, October 21st, 7:00 PM, in the Library
The Social Action Committee meets on the third Monday of the month, 7:00 PM, at the Fellowship. On even-numbered months they gather in the Library, and on odd-numbered months they meet in the Founders' Room.
If social action issues are something you feel strongly about, why not consider joining them? The meetings are open to ALL.

Monday, October 21st, 7:00 PM, in the Founders' Room
The next meeting of this group is scheduled for Monday, October 21st, 7:00 PM, in the Founders' Room. They will be discussing The Inner Life of Animals by Peter Wohlleben. 

Why not plan to join them? They meet every other month on the third Monday, 7:00 PM, in the Founders' Room.

Saturday, October 12th, 10:45 AM, 120 West Apple Street, in Dayton
Please join us on October 12, in providing our long-standing second Saturday lunch for women and families staying at the St. Vincent de Paul Shelter.   This is the first month of our "fall/winter" menu and our needs this month include: hearty chili (at least one batch vegetarian) , chili fixings (shredded cheese and sour cream), vegetable dishes (such as cooked fresh vegetables or medley), green salad, fresh fruit/fruit salads, 100% orange juice and 1% milk .   We need several donations of most items, with each donation serving 15-20 people. Please bring all items---heated if   applicable---to 120 West Apple Street (the St. Vincent de Paul Gateway Shelter) by 10:45 am.   You can sign up for Saturday, October 12 lunch on the clipboard in the Gathering Space, or you can contact Lynn Buffington at 937-657-0426 (call or text) or 

You can also check on what is needed at Sign Up Genius HERE
(no need to log in unless you also want to sign up through Genius).

We expect St. Vincent's to continue to be very full with about 120 in house. In September we fed 103 people in temporary residence at St. Vincent's with 34 in the women's group at 11 and many, many kids for a total of 69 in the family group at noon .
Thanks to the many who served (in the photo) and/or provided food in September!  

Saturday, November 9th
9:30 AM Coffee & Registration (doors open 9:15 AM)
10:00 AM - 4:00 PM:  keynote, lunch, workshops & annual meeting
Methodist Theological School in Ohio (MTSO), Delawaremap

  • Featuring the Rev. Dr. Jack Sullivan, Executive Director, Ohio Council of Churches
  • Morning worship offered by UU seminary students form MTSO
  • Workshops on Transgender Justice, Immigration, Gerrymandering, Poverty, and ad discussion of Those Things that Continue to Divide Us.
  • Time for deeper on the Keynote
  • Lunch provided by MTSO's excellent farm-to-table program and includes vegan, vegetarian and omnivore options. 
  • Business Meeting where we will elect new UUJO Board Members, approve the budget and vote on important changes to our bylaws to strengthen our work for justice in Ohio.
  • Childcare is provided but you must register by October 27th.
  • REGISTER Today by clicking  HERE!


One Last Thing... 



You can keep up-to-date with all the happenings at MVUUF by viewing the Fellowship's online calendar right HERE.


The calendar is updated throughout the week, so it's ALWAYS the place to check & see what's going on at MVUUF; usually, it's quite A LOT!



We are a liberal religious community that embraces diversity and respects the inherent worth and dignity of every person.  ALL are welcome here, no matter their race, class background, sex, sexual/affectional orientation, gender expression, or ability.


Please visit us on Sunday mornings at 11 a.m. for our worship service---

we'd love to see you!