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The Overlooked Bliss of Normality – my most personal newsletter to date

Hello Carole Ann,


You  know, sometimes it takes life-changing news to slap you upside your chops and make you see things differently. We, as a family, received some very sad and frightening news about a beloved’s health last week.


Time has a way of bending, flexing and slowing down to a pace that makes a minute feel like an hour. After panic, denial, chaos and unending questioning there comes a lonely place of acceptance. Everything becomes heightened, super real, crystal focused and then deeply foggy.


I swear I heard a worm yawn as life ground to halt. 

 

A cloud passing across the sun, a bird’s welcome cheep, the need to make even more tea than is fit for human consumption, the struggle to find meaningful sentences, an incoming text that makes you jump. The comfort of a cat’s purr. Leaden silence.


The text was just Uncle Frank saying “Hope you get the results quickly and things get back to normal soon”. Never before has “normal” seem so utterly desirable.


Walking on the Wild Side


I have spent my whole adult life actively rebelling against “normal”. 


As a cropped-haired punk in my teens, having my own TV show in my 20s, doing time as a TV puppeteer (I worked a snail’s derriere) and interviewing Stephen Fry, Paloma Picasso and Terence Stamp among others as a self-taught journalist – being “normal” was something I considered was the lot of the Joe and Josephine Straights of the world.

Can you guess which one is me?! ^


A wild and eccentric dress sense meant this awkward introvert got to claim her place in a world that doesn’t listen. Becoming a life coach when the UK thought it a “nasty American export” fitted me well enough. I loved to listen – I am in the exclusive minority.


Now, however, the “norm”, the expected, the routine, the known and the ordinary seem like a luxe ticket beyond reach.  Where once I craved red carpet buzzes now a curtain blowing in the breeze offers a sort of solace.


If you have ever had life pull the rug out from under you then you too would have experienced: 


  • A disconnect from reality
  • Food tastes like ash one minute then you can’t stop eating the next
  • Loss of confidence in who you are
  • Nothing means much then everything becomes meaningful
  • Random forgetfulness and stasis over simple tasks
  • You welcome sleep but it eludes you
  • Accepting that even “this” is all part of life
  • The creeping realisation of the horror that you are becoming a fan of afternoon telly

Pikachu my loungeing life coach ^


It’s OK to Not Have Words


I have often said to clients experiencing trauma, loss, disengagement and change that sometimes there are words that haven’t yet been invented to explain how you feel. 


It’s OK to not know, of not being to make sense of anything or to feel much except a sense that where there used to be skin is just rawness.


I do know things change daily and strength comes in mightily like a lion and some days a biscuit dipped in tea seems like progress. Resistance is futile and I am adopting a new flow.


Anyway, enough dwelling. It has taken a few days to write this newsletter (I hope it makes sense because not many things do right now) and I am “getting there” and functioning.  


But do you know what? The “life” bit of life coach really does come in every colour and flavour and I am grateful for the experience to add to my repertoire of coaching tools. 


Oh, and it goes without saying, deep gratitude too for my immediate family, devoted friends and their daily check-ins, two glasses (!) of rose in the garden every night and the daily distracting irritant of Escape to the Country. 


Why do they never put an offer in??

Pure Coaching Academy

Ever Heard the Calling to Become a Coach


Exciting things are happening at Pure Coaching Academy this year. We have had a successful launch in Italy which is well under way with a happy and enthusiastic cohort excited by our unique content and approach.

We launch the in-person coaching academy in Brighton on 16th May (places still available) and my online Spring term graduates next weekend with coaches raring to get out there and make the world a happier place.


If you are considering becoming a coach you may like our downloadable book 

The 5 Essential Tips for Aspiring Coaches.


Why not book a call to find out more about becoming a coach with me.



Carole Ann Rice

Life Coach, Author, Columnist

The Real Coaching Co

T: 020 8566 2862

M: 07726 860 014


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About Carole Ann Rice


Carole Ann is an award winning journalist, media consultant and high profile coach, with over 20 years' coaching experience with private clients and major organisations such as the London School of Economics and Play England.


She co-wrote Start Your Dream Business and Find Your Dream Job which are available from Amazon.


She is the winner of 'Best Coach' in the Best Business Women's Awards 2017.


She is also MD of the Pure Coaching Academy which is an accredited (IIC&M) 8 week life coach training course where she trains people to become world class coaches. It includes an inclusive coaching manual which is the handbook of any new life coach when starting out.

As her website boldly states "not just another life coach".


Carole Ann Rice | Real Coaching Co | Pure Coaching Academy 


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