Lunch Pals News
                                                                                           March 2018
Young people are more likely to grow up successfully
when they experience developmental relationships
with important people in their lives.

Search Institute has identified five elements, expressed in 20 specific actions,
that make relationships powerful in young people's lives.
Express Care:
Show me that I matter to you.
  • Be dependable: Be someone I can trust.
  • Listen: Really pay attention when we are together.
  • Believe in me: Make me feel known and valued.
  • Be warm: Show me you enjoy being with me.
  • Encourage: Praise me for my efforts and achievements.

Challenge Growth:
Push me to keep getting better.
  • Expect my best: Expect me to live up to my potential.
  • Stretch: Push me to go further.
  • Hold me accountable: Insist I take responsibility for my actions.
  • Reflect on failures: Help me learn from mistakes and setbacks.

Provide Support:
Help me complete tasks and achieve goals.
  • Navigate: Guide me through hard situations and systems.
  • Empower: Build my confidence to take charge of my life.
  • Advocate: Stand up for me when I need it.
  • Set boundaries: Put in place limits that keep me on track.

Share Power:
Treat me with respect and give me a say.
  • Respect me: Take me seriously and treat me fairly.
  • Include me: Involve me in decisions that affect me.
  • Collaborate: Work with me to solve problems and reach goals.
  • Let me lead: Create opportunities for me to take action and lead.

Expand Possibilities:
Connect me with people and places that broaden my world.
  • Inspire: Inspire me to see possibilities for my future.
  • Broaden horizons: Expose me to new ideas, experiences, and places.
  • Connect: Introduce me to people who can help me grow.
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