Iron Sharpens Iron
"Not Letting Anger Dominate Our Lives"
Many men live angry lives. I’ve been there. I bet you have too. You may be there right now. You’re angry and you don’t know exactly why. But, you are just fed up! You’re having a hard time being around anyone. Everything “sets you off.” Can I get a witness? We all go through seasons where it seems that anger can get the best of us. Often it’s when we’re overworked, tired, stressed or sick. Frustration kicks in and it’s hard to function without blowing up. Thankfully the book of Proverbs has some great instructions! Read these verses carefully. (I know…you don’t have time…and I don’t want to make you angry…but, trust me…you need to read these.)

Whoever is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who has a hasty temper exalts folly.

A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but he who is slow to anger quiets contention.

Whoever is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city.

Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense.

Make no friendship with a man given to anger, nor go with a wrathful man.

Wrath is cruel, anger is overwhelming, but who can stand before jealousy?

man of wrath stirs up strife, and one given to anger causes much transgression.

For pressing milk produces curds, pressing the nose produces blood, and pressing anger produces strife.

Did you catch how many times the Scripture says, “slow to anger,” or “given to anger?” Have you become “quick to anger” and “submitted to anger”? In other words, have you just given up and said, “Yeah, I’ve just got a bad temper and people are going to have to deal with it.” Yep, with that kind of attitude, no wonder you’ve got anger problems. :) Sorry, that might make you angry. 

Listen, anger comes from a heart that isn’t settled. It comes from a heart that’s not getting its way. Be honest. Are you settled? Are you calm? That’s the opposite of anger. Watch these next four passages... 

Ephesians 4:31
Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice.

Colossians 3:8
But now you must put them all away: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and obscene talk from your mouth.

James 1:19-20
19 Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; 20 for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.

James 4:1
What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you? Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you?

Look at how anger manifests itself...

Bitterness: polluted, contaminated, sour. When anger is unresolved, it turn to bitterness, completely infecting our spirit and outlook on life. It ultimately hardens our heart. "Strive for peace with everyone, and for the holiness without which no one will see the Lord. See to it that no one fails to obtain the grace of God; that no “root of bitterness” springs up and causes trouble, and by it many become defiled" (Hebrews 12:14-15).

Wrath: outbursts of rage, impassioned agitated feelings, anger in its first-stage. If unchecked, our initial feeling or inner indignation will produce an abiding and active anger.

Anger: fierce passion. While wrath is more indicative of inward impassioned response, anger suggests an abiding condition of the mind, often with a view of vengeance.

Clamor: noisy, brawling, like a raven’s cry. Those ruled by their rage can be tempted to clamorous arguments and fights.

Slander: to blaspheme, revile, rail. The natural fruit of bitterness is to verbally attack the object of our anger, either confrontationally or by gossip and slander.

Now watch how anger can dominate our lives. See if these describe you...

  • Constant irritability, always snaps
  • Nit-picking, critical, faultfinding
  • Rudeness, constant sarcastic cuts and digs
  • Over-willingness to tell others of the offense, rallying them to your side
  • Dwelling on the offense, reliving the cause of the “injury,” rehearsing it in your mind over and over
  • Impatience, intolerance
  • Vengeful, want to get people back
  • Rejoicing or celebrating when others have bad fortune
  • Degrading them makes you feel better

Did you see yourself there? Believe me…I saw more of me than I care to admit. So, what’s the antidote. Let. Huh? Let… You say, “Let what?” The word “let” means to" "allow, or to give oneself over to." You and I must:

Ephesians 4:31
Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice.

Isn’t it time you “let it go.” The anger. The frustration. The bitterness. It’s killing you. It’s eating you up (as Satan laughs). Jesus hung on the cross and forgive those who were killing him. Anger consumes and destroys… Let it go. Put it away from you. Ask the Lord to take it from you. He will and you’ll be calm and at peace in your soul. 

I’ll see you tomorrow here at the church for Iron Men. 12 noon. “Taking the Initiative” is our topic. We’ll talk about what God made you for! We’ll talk about what we’re to say “yes” to and “no” to. Come join us! 

Putting away anger, 

Kevin
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