Decluttering
by Brian Dean
Surviving and thinking amidst the garbage can be a hard thing to do. While we may not be hoarders in our physical world, we are hoarders when it comes to our minds. We store information that we no longer need. We keep bringing up memories and either feeling sad about how we handles them or figuring better was to have handled them. Yes, we’re cluttered.
Having a cluttered mind is like standing in a room full of garbage, and not knowing which way to turn. If we go this way, we step on this. If we go that way, we step on that. Basically it’s time to sort things in their proper places, and throw out what we no longer need.
Meditation is a good method of doing this. You go into a meditative state and create images for what you want to do. The best one for this seems to be opening the closet door and taking out all the shoe boxes (which are loaded with memories, not shoes).
The next step is to start looking at each one, deciding what you want to keep or not. If it no longer serves you, throw it away. With each one you get rid of, a small record will remain, and you can remember that it happened, but the big bulky experience (and the space it takes up) will be gone. Now move on to the next memory and ask the same question. If it is something you need in its entirety, put it back in the closet ina place you can find it.
I have taken people through similar meditations when they are dealing with traumas form past experiences. In these cases, past experiences are making themselves known, and affecting how one responds in certain situations.
A good example of this is the story of scaring a child. A very young child sees a white rat. As he reaches out to pet the rat, someone bangs two pots together behind him and scares him. So now this child is afraid of white rats. But as the child grows, that memory embeds itself and affects his reactions to things. He is not afraid of white cats, dogs, Santa Claus, basically anything white and furry.
The meditation goes through and strips the emotions from each memory so they become nothing more than a fact. With no emotion attached to it, it does not pull on one to react in a certain way.
If one is looking for a quick, short term solution, there is a method of centering. It helps us focus on one thing for the little bit ahead. Let’s be real, we multi-task, we think of many things at once, we have loose thoughts. This is a way of bringing all those loose thoughts to your center which allows you to focus on one thing.
Stand up and close your eyes. With your hands at your sides, start by thinking of extending your energies out of your fingers. Then move your arms away from your sides in a sweeping motion until they come together above your head. In doing this motion, you are gathering all your loose thoughts together. Next bring your hands down to your center (about where your naval is) and just park those loose thought there. This clears your mind enough to focus on the task at hand.
So, how cluttered are you? And what are you going to do to start clearing some space?
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