My (No Longer) Secret Worries about Baby Number Two

by Rebecca
Tomorrow I’m having a baby! I should be sleeping and resting up for the big day. Yet here I am up in the middle of the night, anxious about the delivery and worried about the changes that will come. This is our second child, our second daughter. One would think that being a mother already would give me confidence and lessen my anxieties. But the truth is – in many ways because of my experiences as a mother these past nearly three years – the anxiety this time around is much higher.
 
Maybe it’s a timing thing. With my first, I was convinced that the baby would arrive on or around her due date – ah, the naivete of a first-time mom. Yet to my shock (and to the shock of my husband, who was two time zones away on a work trip), my water broke at 35.5 weeks and we found ourselves with a healthy – but preterm – baby. (Thankfully, my husband made it back in time for the delivery.) I was in shock most of that day and really didn’t have time to be too anxious about what was coming. This second child, on the other hand, has been pretty content to stay put ­– and with the current heat wave, I can’t really blame her. So she has had three extra weeks to grow and develop inside me. And I have had three extra weeks to worry.

Baby’s Got (Secret) Sauce: Recipes to Add Swagger to Your Table

by Jacque and Maura
Sauce. The word has come to mean so much more than just its Merriam-Webster definition of “a condiment or relish for food.” According to Urban Dictionary, the slang term “sauce” is something of a synonym for “swagger”: it denotes a preternatural confidence, allure or style. Something special. A  je ne sais quoi . Take it from ’90s alternative hip-hop group G. Love & Special Sauce (experts on the subject) in their hit song “ Baby’s Got Sauce ”: “My baby’s got sauce / and of course as a matter of course / she does what she wants to / ’cause she’s the boss.”
 
What I’m trying to say is: if you want to be the boss, you’ve gotta have sauce. And this holds true in the kitchen, too. Why do you think there are so many “secret sauces” out there? A sauce is a special and delicate thing, not to be shared with just anyone – the key to taking any old recipe from average to delicious. 
 
ProFmagazine’s  Jacque has got sauce. Read on below as she shares her secrets for three delectable-yet-simple batches.

Secret Heat: Look Cool as a Cucumber in the Sweltering Sun

by Kari
Summer is full of gorgeous flowers, water splashes – oh, and the sun. Who could forget the extreme heat? Where I live, it is hot. Blazin’ rays requiring major SPFs. In weather like this, it’s impossible sometimes to stay cool. Sweat becomes a fact of life, deodorant a twice-daily necessity. But while we can’t always feel cool and comfortable, we can look it. By choosing the right items for your closet, you can keep your sweaty reality under wraps – and you might even fool yourself into  feeling  cooler.
 
How, you ask? Think light-and-airy. For me, the heat provides an excuse to add options to my closet that aren’t so heavy. Get away from those synthetics – soft cotton gives you a chance to breathe, to feel unencumbered and relaxed. Read on for some feather-light options to keep you looking cool this season.

Secretly Searching for Campus Leaders: proFile of Judith Wilde

by Suzette.... and Maura
I met Judith Wilde earlier this year, when my university was conducting a non-transparent, secretive presidential search. I had given some public statements about the need for transparency in the hiring process, and she reached out to me. Wilde is Chief Operating Officer and professor in the  Schar School of Policy and Government at George Mason University , and throughout her career has focused on statistics, design and evaluation of professional development and K-16 education of English learners. In recent years, however, she has become a go-to resource in higher ed media on the issue of presidential searches at public universities, a topic which she has researched extensively.
 
When she read my statements regarding secret searches, Wilde was generous enough to share her insight and guidance. Impressed by the depth of her knowledge, I knew I had to feature her in  proF  – not only to highlight her career and the incredible work she’s done, but also to draw attention to this larger issue of the university executive hiring process. In the past decade, more and more universities have begun delegating the work of hiring to external search firms, which often advocate for keeping the process secret from faculty and staff. Wilde’s research sheds light on the increasing use of these firms, their benefits and drawbacks and the potential consequences of secret searches for university presidents and other top administrators. (Check out  Judith’s most recent op ed , on the use of campus police in secret executive searches, for  Inside Higher Ed .)

Secrets
Sweet Emotion: On a Lifelong Obsession with Steven Tyler

By Lauren
Have you ever loved someone or something so much that you couldn’t find the words to explain it?
 
Have you ever felt truly connected to someone that you don’t even know?
 
If so, then you understand how I feel about Steven Tyler of Aerosmith. For 25 years, he has been my favorite. Over this time, almost everything in my life has changed – but my love for Steven remains the same. I often thought that meeting him would somehow calm or even diminish my feelings, but I was wrong. We met in 2016 and it was one of the greatest days of my life. Having met him again in May 2018, I think it’s safe to say nothing can change the way I feel.
 
In 1993, I was a chubby, buck-toothed 12-year-old. I wasn’t sure where I belonged or who I was. But when a friend gave me the newly released Aerosmith album  Get A Grip , it changed my life. Not only did  Get a Grip  give us the insanely cool music videos for “ Cryin ’” and “ Crazy ” (featuring a pre- Clueless  Alicia Silverstone); it also featured the thought provoking “ Livin’ On the Edge ” and the kiss-my-ass attitude of “ Eat the Rich .” The music was fun, it was different, and damn if Steven Tyler wasn’t sexy. Even then I felt it, even if I didn’t really know what “it” was. I just knew that when he sang, I listened. And he made me happy. I started reading about Aerosmith and Steven’s onstage persona. I was fascinated by the fact that his drug and alcohol addiction didn’t kill him. I loved that he spoke in riddles and rhymes.

Spilling Secrets: The Pros and Cons of Gossip at Work

by Maura
August is back-to-school time, which for many in academia means a return to the office setting after time away, meeting new coworkers and reconnecting with old. Thus, the beginning of the school year is the perfect time for one of our favorite office activities: gossip.
 
Gossip – even the term alone seems to conjure negative associations. We think of people who make judgments behind others’ backs, those who spread nasty rumors and “trashy” tabloids like the National Enquirer, Us Weekly or gossip website TMZ, which publish lurid stories about celebrities’ personal lives. But if we’re honest with ourselves, not one of us out there can say we’ve never shared information about someone we know behind his or her back – or delighted in hearing a juicy tidbit about an acquaintance or coworker. So, is gossip really all that bad? Are we terrible people?
 
According to Dr. Frank McAndrew, a professor of psychology at Knox College and columnist at Psychology Today who has spent years studying gossip, the answer is no. McAndrew, who specializes in evolutionary psychology, argues that the human brain is hardwired to gossip – it’s a natural behavior that we couldn’t avoid even if we tried.