OkEq Weekly eNews August 6th, 2019
MISSION: OkEq seeks equal rights for LGBTQ+ individuals and families through intersectional advocacy, education, programs, alliances, and the operation of the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center.
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Sorta Love Songs
Thursday, August 15, 8:00 p.m – 10:00 p.m.
Dennis R. Neill Equality Center
621 E. 4th St., Pride Street
Tulsa, OK 74120
We Are Tulsa - Video Campaign
Saturday, August 10, 9 a.m. - 4:00 p.m.
111 E. M.B. Brady St.
Tulsa, OK 74103

On Saturday August 10, 2019, from approximately 9a-4p, we will be filming a series of spots called 'We Are Tulsa' at the Guthrie Green. The spots are designed to showcase diversity in Tulsa and to promote goodwill, tourism, and culture. There will be one long form spot showcasing the wide range of diversity (Multi-Cultural, LGBTQ+, people with disabilities, etc...) and then multiple individual spots showcasing more specific communities. The first scenes to be filmed will be our 'hero' bird's-eye-view of a large group of people holding a giant Tulsa flag; the following scenes will be individual 'portrait' shots of people.

Please note: These spots were conceived by me alone and will be Directed/Produced by me with local crew. There is NO budget for this and we are not sanctioned by any specific department within Tulsa. Long story short, I believe Tulsa can be a place FOR EVERYONE and these spots are my contribution toward showcasing that potential.

Please confirm your attendance through the form and we will contact you with your estimated filming time slots! (We will follow up with emails to all those who have signed up.) It is very important that you fill out the form so we can anticipate the number of people coming through one source.
If you or anyone you know would like to be a part of this project, please fill out the following form:
If you love Tulsa and would like to support this cause, please join us. And if you have any questions please feel free to send me a private message. Thank you!!
Voting begins for the 2019-2020 Board of Directors 
Saturday, August 31, 6:00 p.m. - September 7, 5:00 p.m.
Dennis R. Neill Equality Center
621 E. 4th St., Pride Street
Tulsa, OK 74120

OKEQ VOTING MEMBERS CAN VOTE for your favorite candidates for the board of directors of Oklahomans for Equality. You can vote online or in person at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center. VOTING MEMBERS are individuals who have donated $50 or more in the past 12 months to Oklahomans for Equality.
OKEQ Membership Annual Meeting Vegas Casino Night: Everybody is a Winner!
Saturday, September 7, 6:00 p.m.
Dennis R. Neill Equality Center
621 E. 4th St., Pride Street
Tulsa, OK 74120

The evening will be filled with hor d'oeuvres, wine, a cash bar, and Vegas style entertainment alongside the best in Casino Games and big prize packages. The membership of Oklahomans for Equality will select their Board of Directors and hear the final results of the board election.

This is a members-only event and you must be a voting member to attend. The voting membership is a $50.00 donation to Oklahomans for Equality.
It was an Incredible Night!! Thank You So Much for your Support!

The Raise the Roof Campaign has raised $70,000 in donations and pledges to repair the roof of the Dennis R Neill Equality Center!  We are thankful for our generous donors that participated in our $14 for 14 years campaign and that attended our Raise the Roof Party on Saturday, July 27th.  Thank you for your support. We still have continuing repairs and value your ongoing contributions to the capital improvements campaign. 
ACA LGBT Healthcare Proposal

We at Oklahomans for Equality are appalled by the Department of Health and Human Services proposed rule. This proposal would eliminate the LGBTQ+ protections under the Health Care Rights Law of the ACA and, as a result, access to care would become limited for the LGBTQ+ community, and there would be an increase in discrimination within the health care system. At the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center, we receive calls daily from people seeking LGBTQ+ friendly health care providers and, because the need is so high, we flood the friendly providers in town with new patients. 

We as a state cannot afford to lose the protections we have under the ACA, and we at Oklahomans for Equality urge the Department of Health and Human Services to withdraw this proposal. 
Let the Trump administration know what you think about this proposal. Submit a comment by following the link below.
Dads Hug Too and Alphabet Soup Hosting Car Maintenance, 101
Saturday, August 17, 6:00 p.m.
Dennis R. Neill Equality Center
621 E. 4th St., Pride Street
Tulsa, OK 74120

Dads Hug Too will be joining Alphabet Soup on August 17th at 6:30 pm to talk with our youth about taking care of their cars. They will provide hands on learning for skills like changing a flat tire and checking your oil.

Alphabet Soup, where all letters are welcome! This is the Facebook group for the Alphabet Soup youth group located in Tulsa. We will post about upcoming meetings, answer questions, and provide resources to our youth.

Dads Hug Too is a grassroots movement. We do what dads should do: we teach life skills to LGBTQ+ people whose own dads wouldn't, and love them along the way. Investing in People Through Love and Life Lessons
S.A.G.E. Summer Pool Parties
Tuesday, Aug. 20, Sep. 17, 10:00 a.m.
1938 E. 55th Pl.
Tulsa, OK 74105

Members should meet on Tuesday, June 18th at 9:30 a.m. at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center if they want to carpool to the party. Lunch at the pool party will be burgers and hot dogs. Participants are encouraged to bring side dishes, desserts, and drinks. The pool has a shallow end and also has railing with steps to help people into the pool. If you would like to attend, please email alex.wade@okeq.org  to RSVP. The pool party will be held at 1938 E. 55th Pl., Tulsa, OK 74105. Maps are available at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center.
The mission of SAGE Tulsa is to address issues related to lesbian, gay bisexual and transgender aging. In partnership with its constituents and allies, SAGE Tulsa works to achieve a high quality of life for LGBT older adults, supports and advocates for their rights, fosters a greater understanding of aging in all communities and promotes positive images of LGBT life in later years. SAGE Tulsa meets every Tuesday morning at 10:00 am at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center. 
EBA Mixer
Wednesday, August 21, 6:00 p.m.
OsteoStrong Tulsa
5940 S. Lewis Ave
Tulsa, OK 74105

OsteoStrong Tulsa will be hosting the Equality Business Alliance Mixer for August.

OsteoStrong is a unique place where you can go to improve your overall health by focusing on the one thing we all have in common: a skeletal system.
Grateful Day
HIV Wellness Retreat
Thurs day, August 22, 3 p.m.

The Grateful Day Foundation is excited to announce the dates for this year’s HIV Wellness Retreat. The Grateful Day Foundation seeks to fill gaps in services in Oklahoma's HIV/AIDS wellness community through collaboration with partner organizations, providing transportation to those in need, and hosting an Annual HIV Wellness Retreat. .
We are looking forward to another fun and informative retreat this year.
This retreat is designed and planned around the needs of the clients we serve in our community. We will be hosting a number of workshops throughout the weekend as well as several fun things to do at the retreat.
Don't forget to pay your retreat fees after filling out the registration form.
Visibly Imperfectly Perfect First Meetup
Thursday, August 26, 6:30 p.m. - 8:30 p.m.
Dennis R. Neill Equality Center
621 E. 4th St., Pride Street
Tulsa, OK 74120

This will be the first meetup for this event. It is meant to be a social event and there will be food, drinks, and plenty of conversation!

Visibly Imperfectly Perfect, VIP for short, is a group for anyone who has felt different because of their skin. We want to provide support and community for inexplicably unique people. This group started as a place for the vitiligo community but is open to anyone who could be considered unique. We are here to support one another in the skin we are in.

This group is meant for anyone with:
Hair Congenital Nevus (Birthmark)
Dark Skin
Light Skin
Exfoliative Erythrodermatitis
Waardenburg Syndrome
Mastectomy Scars
Eczema/Severe Dermatitis
Sexual Health and Risk Prevention: Sharp Class at the Equality Center
Wednesday, August 28, 6:00 p.m. - 7:30 p.m.
Dennis R. Neill Equality Center
621 E. 4th St., Pride Street
Tulsa, OK 74120

SHARP stands for – Sexual Health and Adolescent Risk Prevention. Here are the program objectives:
· Understand how HIV and STD’s are transmitted.
· Identify incorrect HIV/STD myth’s.
· Identify behaviors that place people at risk for contracting HIV/STD’s.
· Develop sexual risk reduction strategies.
· Learn how to communicate and negotiate with a partner.
· Understand the risk of alcohol and drug use.
· Improve attitudes for the future.
· Develop long term sexual risk and alcohol use reduction goals.
· Understand how decisions about engaging in risk behaviors today can affect life tomorrow, and further down the road.

If you are between the ages of 12-24 please join us for
Sexual Health and Risk Prevention class
We will discuss STD’s and HIV infections, how to reduce your risk of getting them and pregnancy prevention.

Why should you take the class?
Learn about safer sex methods
Get a $10 QuikTrip Gift Card
(Only receive card if you complete entire class)
Pizza and snacks during class
New Volunteer Shifts Available

We will now be opening at 9:00 a.m. and are in need of volunteers from 9:00 a.m. to 12:00 p.m. every day of the week. If you are interested in volunteering during this time, Please fill out our volunteer form here: Volunteer Form
Equality Center
Our Hours are Expanding!

We're happy to announce that we are expanding our hours of service!  Starting Monday, July 1st the Dennis R Neill Equality Center will open at 9:00 a.m.
Hate Crime Vandalism at the Equality Center

On Monday, July 22nd, at 11:14 p.m. the Lynn Riggs Memorial Mural at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center, the home of Oklahomans for Equality, was vandalized, and under Oklahoma law, this is not classified as a hate crime. Lynn Riggs, a celebrated, gay playwright, was not silenced during his lifetime and we will not be silenced during ours. This is why we continue to fight and speak up against hate.
AIDS Quilt Narratives Wanted

The Dennis R. Neill Equality Center and Jeremy Stevens, program director of the Orbit Initiative for the Tulsa PAC, are asking anyone who knew and/or loved someone who died of AIDS to record their narratives for archival and future use. This project is for anyone affected by the AIDS crisis whose stories are connected to Tulsa. All of these stories deserve to be told.
Those who are interested in having a story recorded are asked to contact Stevens at the Tulsa PAC at (918) 596-7119 or  jeremystevens@cityoftulsa.org  or Oklahomans for Equality Program Director Jose Vega at (918) 743-4297 or   jose.vega@okeq.org .
First Thursday Art Opening: Featuring the work of Tami Smith
Thursday, September 5, 6:00 p.m.
Dennis R. Neill Equality Center
621 E. 4th St., Pride Street
Tulsa, OK 74120

The September Oklahomans for Equality (OkEq) showcase and exhibit will feature the works of Tami Smith, beginning with a reception on Thursday, September 5th from 6-9pm and continuing throughout the month.

This body of work is all about texture. The works consist of highly textured acrylic paintings, using out of the ordinary materials and paper collage pieces which have applied texture through many layers of paint, many of which are covered with a layer of resin. Each piece has its own unique surface which draws the viewer in close to examine the layers of paint flowing over the hills and into the valleys of applied materials. Some artworks are painted with metallic paint, which allows the light to bounce off the texture from every angle.

“The process of applying texture to a canvas, then watching the paint find its way through the crevices and cracks is quite rewarding for me. You could say some of my paintings, paint themselves – while I am able to watch as each painting transforms itself; that is what gives me joy. It's always a moment in time I get to experience - never to be repeated the same way twice; and because of the process in which I paint, no two paintings will ever be exactly the same. In creating each piece, I strive to construct in a way that will prompt questions of how it was produced.”

“I have always loved to paint, create, explore, make, and transform; I have also always loved to share what I have learned with others. After decades of teaching graphic design and computer classes, I decided to start creating for myself. Along with the composition and color theory knowledge I have from teaching, I have learned many new and unique art techniques by studying with the best - world renowned artists and local artists, numerous online classes, and self-learning from a whole library of art books. After years of perfecting my techniques and style, I am now experiencing the greatest delight – having collectors of my art!

The show begins with a reception on Thursday, September 5th from 6-9pm where there will be a door prize drawn of the artist’s work. The show continues throughout the month.
The Last Five Years
Friday, September 6, 6:00 p.m. - 9:00p.m.
Dennis R. Neill Equality Center
621 E. 4th St., Pride Street
Tulsa, OK 74120

An emotionally powerful and intimate musical about two New Yorkers in their twenties who fall in and out of love over the course of five years. The show's unconventional structure consists of Cathy, telling their story backwards while Jamie, tells their story chronologically; the two characters only meet once, at their wedding in the middle of the show.

Friday, September 6
Directed By: Kara Staiger
Performed By: Claire Schroepfer & Travis Guillory

Saturday, September 7
Directed By: Ryan Mahannah
Performed By: Tylar Dougan, Austin Reid, & Catherine Simmons

Sunday, September 8
Directed By: Jen Thomas
Performed By: Kia Dorsey-Hightower & Nash McQuarters

Friday, September 13
Directed By: Thomas Farnan-Williams
Performed By: Kristen Simpson & Jacob Brockunier

Saturday, September 14
Directed By: Rick Harrelson
Performed By: Liz Hunt & Drew Rosene

Sunday, September 15
Directed By: Meghan Hurley
Performed By: Margaret Stall & Karlena Riggs

Music Direction (all performances): Christy Stalcup

Want to attend more than one performance? There's a discount for that! After you purchase one ticket, you will receive an e-mail confirmation with directions to receive a unique code for $5 each additional date you purchase.

This is a not-for-profit production. Additional proceeds will be donated to performance volunteers and the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center.

Click Below for Tickets:
Saturday, September 14, 3:00 p.m.
Guthrie Green
111 E. M.B. Brady St.
Tulsa, OK 74103

MisFEST presented by Fowler Automotive is coming back better than ever on September 14, 2019 at Guthrie Green with KT Tunstall as our headliner!
There will be food trucks, live and interactive art installations, vendors, and fantastic music.
MisFEST is FREE with VIP ticket options for those who want a designated space on the back deck with a few other perks.
4:00 pm - Shoulda Been Blonde
4:50 pm - Yardbone
5:40 pm - Smoochie Wallus
6:30 pm - Bambi feat. Tea Rush
7:10 pm - Tea Rush
8:00 pm - Good Villains
9:00 pm - KT Tunstall
Enid Pride
Saturday, September 21, 12:00 p.m. - 5:00 p.m.
Garfield County Courthouse
100 W. Broadway Ave.
Enid, OK 73701

Mark your calendars for the 10th annual Enid Pride celebration on Saturday, September 21, 2019! 
McAlester Pride
Saturday, October 12, 12:00 p.m. - 4:00 p.m.
Chadick Park
S. 3rd St & E. Chadick Ave.
McAlester, OK 74501
The Gender Diversity Health and
Social Experiences Survey (GHSE)

Do you identify as transgender or any gender that is different from the sex you were assigned at birth? If so, we encourage you to participate in The Gender Diversity Health and Social Experiences Survey! This research will help support our understanding of the social,
institutional, and healthcare needs of trans and gender nonbinary people.

Participants will have the opportunity to vote for a trans-related non-profit organization. $300.00 will be donated to each of the two organizations with the most votes. We will not collect any identifying information from you.
Joe and Nancy McDonald Library
Find this selection and more by visiting the Nancy and Joe McDonald Rainbow Library.
" This Book is Gay " by Juno Dawson
"The book every LGBT person would have killed for as a teenager, told in the voice of a wise best friend. Frank, warm, funny, USEFUL." ―Patrick Ness, bestselling author
Lesbian. Bisexual. Queer. Transgender. Straight. Curious. This book is for everyone, regardless of gender or sexual preference. This book is for anyone who's ever dared to wonder. This book is for YOU.
There's a long-running joke that, after "coming out," a lesbian, gay guy, bisexual, or trans person should receive a membership card and instruction manual. THIS IS THAT INSTRUCTION MANUAL. You're welcome.
Inside you'll find the answers to all the questions you ever wanted to ask: from sex to politics, hooking up to stereotypes, coming out and more. This candid, funny, and uncensored exploration of sexuality and what it's like to grow up LGBT also includes real stories from people across the gender and sexual spectrums, not to mention hilarious illustrations.
You will be entertained. You will be informed. But most importantly, you will know that however you identify (or don't) and whomever you love, you are exceptional. You matter. And so does this book.
One of The Guardian's Best Books of the Year
"This egregious gap has now been filled to a fare-thee-well by Dawson's book..." - Booklist
Equality Pride Store

New in the OkEq Pride Store: Gender Traitor T-Shirts!

Be sure to "Like" the  OkEq Pride Store Facebook  page to keep up with the new items and new sale items
Counseling Services
Allison Ikley-Freeman
Allison Ikley-Freeman, LPC Candidate is passionate about assisting individuals who are a part of the LGBTQIA+ community who experience a range of concerns and issues. Individual, youth, and adolescent counseling is available on a sliding fee scale based on income. 

You can make an appointment with Allison by calling  918-280-9645
OSU - Tulsa Counseling Services
The Oklahoma State Tulsa Counseling Center is an LGBTQ+ affirming center located in Main Hall of OSU Tulsa. You do not have to be affiliated with OSU to benefit from these services! Our center offers clients from OKEQ 5 sessions  free  and each session following that is only 5 dollars. Each member of our counseling team receives additional training and supervision in LGBTQ+ issues and is excited to work with clients from OKEQ. Please contact us at 918-594-8568 for more information or to schedule an appointment. 
Sara Griffey
S ara Griffey is an LPC candidate under supervision. Sara specializes in LGBT+ and non-traditional relationships (i.e. kink, polyamory, etc.). She has experience working with homeless youth and individuals struggling with anxiety & trauma.
She previously worked with survivors of domestic violence, sexual assault, and human trafficking.
She is passionate about advocacy and public policy in order to ensure that proper treatment is available for any individual seeking services.
 Sara’s office is located at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center, 621 E 4th St, Tulsa, OK 74120
 Sara operates on a sliding scale fee structure and can be reached at
918-928-2809 or Sara@UnityTulsa.com
Regularly Scheduled Programming
Lawyer in the Library
2nd Wednesday of each month
5:30 p.m. - 6:30 p.m.

Lawyer in the Library is an opportunity to meet with a lawyer about topics such as family law (divorce, paternity, custody and child support), landlord/tenant disputes, estate planning, and bankruptcy. No appointment is necessary.
Coming Out Workshop

1st and 3rd Monday of every month
6:30 p.m. – 7:30 p.m.

Are you planning to come out? Maybe you have just recently come out?
Join us for a coming out discussion group meeting
Meeting the History Project Room
Free to participate, this course is designed for individuals coming to terms with their sexuality with presentations on how to come out to family, friends, and coworkers. Question and answer session in a supportive and informed environment.

It is a safe space to share experiences about coming out and discuss topics as it relates to doing so. By sharing struggles and victories the group allows those newly coming out and who have been out for a while to learn from others. All are welcome to join in the discussion whether Lesbian, Gay, Bi, or Trans.
Please contact ComingOut@OkEq.org or call 918-743-4297 .
Free Yoga Class at OkEq
5:45 - 6:45 p.m.   

Enjoy a free class! These 60-minute, free Community Yoga classes are open to everyone of all levels. Each class is mindfully crafted to prepare the body for a peak pose in the arm balance, inversion, backbend or twist family. This class will connect the mind, body, and spirit through movement and breath.
SAGE Tulsa 
Every Tuesday
10:00 am to 1:00 pm

"drop in for coffee" 
Facilitated by
John Madigan
OkEq Board Meeting
Monthly Meeting 
Thursday, August 15, 7:00 p.m.

Dennis R. Neill Equality Center
 All Oklahomans for Equality board meetings are open to all OkEq members
It's Complicated
1st & 3rd Monday
of each month
6:30 - 7:30 p.m.

"It's Complicated" is an ongoing group for individuals in nontraditional relationships (kink, polyamory, swinging, etc.) This group meets every 1st and 3rd Monday of the month from 6:30-8pm at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center. Each session will have a new topic. For topic information, please like Unity Tulsa’s Facebook page at www.facebook.com/UnityTulsa or check the OkEq event calendar at http://www.okeq.org/event-calendar.html
SOS Group
Mondays 7:00 p.m 

This open Secular Organizations for Sobriety (SOS) Recovery and Sobriety Group meets every Monday at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center. For more information, visit  www.SOSTulsa.org
Survivors of Incest Anonymous
Every Saturday
12:00 - 2:30 p.m.

SIA strives to empower those who have survived childhood sexual abuse (who are not abusing any child), who want to become survivors and thrivers. For more information, visit  siawso.org
Partners of Trans*/Non-Binary Individuals Support Group
The program is providing support, education and social opportunities for partners of transgender and non-binary individuals. Ages 18+. A first time interview is required before attending your first meeting. Please contact Amanda at 918-902-4625.
Gender Support Program
7:00 - 8:30 p.m. 
(First time interview required before attending)
The program is providing support, education and social opportunities for transgender and intersex individuals.
Brought to You Bi 
the Letter B 
2nd & 4th Monday
of each month 
7:00 - 8:00 p.m.
Bisexual support group at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center. Tell all your friends. The group is open to all bi/pan/queer/fluid+ folks and their allies. Facilitators
Daniel & Haley
Tulsa Area
Prime Timers
2nd Tuesday of every month
7:00 - 9:00 p.m.

A social organization for mature minded Gay and Bisexual men age 21 and over. The purpose is to establish friendship and support through social interaction. Visit
the website  for
more information.
  Intimate Partner Violence & Sexual Assault Survivor Support Group
2nd & 4th Thursday of each month
6:30 - 8:30 p.m.

This support and educational group is for individuals who have survived domestic violence and are ready to explore their personal healing process and find hope and to discuss their experiences, share ideas, and provide emotional support for one another. 

Children/Siblings of Trans*/Non-Binary Individuals Support Group
This program is for youth ages 8-18 that have trans* parents or siblings. This group will provide support, education and social opportunities for those living with trans* family members. Attendees must have approval from the facilitator to participate. Please contact Amanda at 918-902-4625.
Game Night
7:00 - 9:00 pm
 Join old friends and make new friends as you play some great board and card games at the Center!
All are welcome!
Facilitated by
Saturday Volunteers Richard Haley and
Teresa Reno 
Community Partners
The Equality
Business Alliance fosters a sharing of information, ideas, contacts, products and services, and also strengthens and expands our businesses, careers and community.
Workforce OK
Workforce Oklahoma
Access Point
Open every day
Workforce Oklahoma maintains a resource area at the Equality Center that includes computers, a printer and fax machine, as well as step-by-step instructions on how to register with
Oklahoma JobLink.
HIV Testing Schedule

Tuesday  4:00 - 8:00 p.m.
Wednesday   4:00 - 8:00 p.m.
Saturday 4:00 - 8:00 p.m.
Testing provided by H.O.P.E. Testing
Check  www.okeq.org  for testing dates.
OkEq Staff
Jose Vega
Deputy Director
Morgan Allen
Center Coordinator
Alex Wade
Medical Services Coordinator
Tracy Allen
Special Projects/Library
Kao Morris 
Facilities Manager
Krissy Dudley
Administrative Manager
Toby Jenkins
CEO/Executive Director
OkEq Board and Trustees
Executive Committee
Sheena Grewal - President
Paul Allen - Treasurer
Darci Hazelwood, D.O. - Member at Large

Board of Directors
Laura Arrosmith, D.O.
Allison Ikley-Freeman
Chris Shoaf
Al Triggs
Robin VanMeter
Will Vaughn
  Board of Advisors
Michael Farr
Joann Frizell
Andrew Gordon
Jack Graham
Bob Hanson, PharmD
Dale Hogan
Denise Reid
Justin Ross
Jeremy Stevens

Shawna Baker, Esq.
Dan Burnstein
Kirk Holt
David Nelson
Kris Wilmes 
Oklahomans for Equality
Hours:  Mon - Sat 9 a.m. - 9 p.m. | Sun 9 a.m.- 6 p.m.
621 E. 4th St., Tulsa, OK 74120