Wednesday Weblog for January 6, 2021
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Quote of the Week:
“If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude.” -Maya Angelou
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So one person responded they had eaten cranberry sauce since Thanksgiving. Sorry, but day-after leftovers don't count.
Has anyone actually opened a new can of cranberry sauce since Thanksgiving as part of a breakfast (ugh), lunch, dinner or snack (double ugh)?
Saying you love cranberry sauce and then NOT serving it or eating it more than once per year, is not love. Here's a follow up question: how many end up throwing away the leftover jellied cranberry from Thanksgiving?
Morale of the story: only touching once per year, and throwing the best part away is not love, either with cranberry sauce or relationships.
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Name one thing in your entire life experience that went 100% exactly, perfectly, flawlessly, exactly as you planned it? Your wedding? Your senior year? 2020? Your performance review? Your last Happy Meal?
Ok, I did marry the girl of my dreams, so there are exceptions to the rule, but I have also had head-scratching performance reviews and cold French fries.
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Our personal and professional lives are filled with obstacles, curveballs, last minute changes, fire drills, and requests-from-above-at-the-most-inconvenient times. There are a limited number of ways to react to these ‘challenges.’ (Today’s word for pain-in-the-butt, problems, issues, etc. ‘Opportunities’ is so last year-don’t use it).
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I’ve observed that these three types of reactions to ‘things’ or ‘change’ also apply to the ongoing lockdown and the disruption and havoc it has wreaked on society. (I know I’ve asked this before, but can you wreak anything else besides havoc?)
(I don’t count the ‘Huh?’ Reaction of those who are clueless in Seattle, or Boston or Miami. Those folks are happier than we are because oblivion is a very happy location, but not a AAA Recommended destination).
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So, what are the three reactions to change or disruptions like having to wear masks, or gyms closing, or missing family gatherings during the holidays or having your favorite TV show canceled?
You Can Obsess: Your reaction might be to think about this all day, every day and share your obsession with everyone you meet. You can lose sleep, lose weight (not a bad thing), lose hair (a bad thing), lose friends, and gain enemies. When you obsess about problems, no one wants to be you or be with you. You are not fun, and you have no fun. Think of a flower garden with some flowers and weeds. You are a weed.
Stop watching CNN as the first step to recovery from your obsession. Second step, take singing lessons? Third, maybe stop listening to Led Zeppelin or Gang Green and switch to bluegrass or blues to slow down.
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You Can Whine: You can also choose to react by whining about the obstacle or the change and tell everyone and anyone how stupid it is, how clueless people are, how it doesn’t make sense, how it prevents you from doing your job properly, wah, wah, wah.
Do you want cheese with that? News flash: no one, and I mean no one, not even your partner who pretends to listen, wants to hear another whine from you about the situation. Guess what, you’re a weed in that same garden.
Your recovery starts, rather unusually, by talking to yourself. In your closet. With no one home. Or talk to the family dog, they seem to enjoy this kind of talk, and THEY can whine back. What made you think we all want to listen to your ranting? Do you like listening to others rant? Think about the Golden Rule pal.
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You Can Rise: You can react in a different way, instead of obsessing or whining. As soon as you realize that nothing you can say or do is going to change the change, or should change the change, you can rise above it.
In fact, if you do so immediately, you have a huge advantage on those who need to continue to obsess and/or whine about it. Rising quickly to the challenge, to the new set of rules, to the inconvenient request, gives you an automatic head start, and it does something else: it gets you noticed. You are a flower and really stand out among the weeds and won’t get pulled.
Leaders love those who rise quickly when thrown for a loop. Love them. Appreciate them. Value them. ‘Rise’ kind of implies moving ‘up’ doesn’t it? That’s what happens to the person who rises when everyone around them is whining and obsessing.
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Let’s think about this for a minute. Are your chances better for future success if you obsess, whine, or rise? An easy multiple choice and a great Final Jeopardy Question, don’t you think? Or maybe "Common Sense for $200?"
The most relevant universal obstacle for most today is the lockdown. A pain in the neck? A devastating financial blow to many? Absolutely. A year ago, if someone mentioned a Zoom Christmas, you would have said WTF is that, right? Almost no one reading this asked that question just now, I know.
What determines the eventual outcome for obstacles or changes or other disruptions in your way, is you. Not the disruption or change or pandemics. It just SEEMS that way to those who obsess and those who whine. Rephrase: it IS that way for those who obsess and those who whine.
You still always have three choices:
- You can obsess, and we’ll talk behind your back about how unfun you are. Trust me, we do this, even if it to ourselves.
- You can whine, and those that love you will tell you to shut up. Please don't ignore that advice.
- You can rise, and amaze everyone, including yourself. Even you'll be proud of you.
With choices this different, it is easy to see how YOUR choice impacts very different outcomes. I recommend that you try to rise, so you can thrive through it, whatever ‘it’ might be.
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Surprise Photo at the End: Posed
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Thanks for reading and thanks for referring.
The 37 Member honor roll has added the Conch Republic and now consists of: Arizona, California, Colorado, Conch Republic, Connecticut, Delaware, Florida, Georgia, Hawaii, Indiana, Iowa, Kentucky, Louisiana, Maine, Massachusetts, Michigan, Mississippi, Montana, New Hampshire, New Jersey, New York, North Carolina, Ohio, Pennsylvania, Puerto Rico, Rhode Island, South Carolina, South Dakota, Tennessee, Texas, Vermont, Virginia, Washington and Washington DC, plus Canada, Spain, and Australia. Still waiting for Oregon, Ireland and Siberia, and of course Oklahoma.
For those too embarrassed to ask anyone where the Conch Republic is, this Wikipedia link has the answer.
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Please note, that today's edition is the half-year Anniversary of the Wednesday Weblog, the 26th Issue! Celebrating six months of anything, besides a marriage, may not seem appropriate to you, but to me it is a milestone. I set a goal to send out these original thoughts weekly, every Wednesday for at least a year. (I can recycle stuff after that because you only kinda remember it).
You may ask, 'what changes do you have in store for the 2nd Half-Year of Wednesday Weblogs, Ed?' and I will respond by saying that I have a few surprises up my sleeve , including maybe some video elements and some other 'versions' of the Weblog.
I also plan to recognize more people, like Tiffany in Leominster, Michael in Springfield, Jon in Lowell, Irene in Memphis, Joe in Indianapolis, and Perry in Rhode Island or South Carolina for their encouragement.
Because without your encouragement I would not have achieved the lofty ambition of today's half-year anniversary.
I'm going to eat some more cranberry sauce today to celebrate.
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Links to 2020 Wednesday Weblogs
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Ed Doherty
Ambrose Landen
774-479-8831
Yes, the Girl of My Dreams
ed-doherty@outlook.com
Forgive any typos please.
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