Most parents and teachers don't understand that there is a belief behind every behavior. Thus they make the mistake of trying to change just the behavior. The behavior will stop only when the belief behind the behavior is changed. Breaking the code helps you understand the discouraging belief behind the behavior and what the child really needs to feel encouraged enough to change his or her belief.
Parenting Tool of the Week
Break the Code of Misbehavior
When children are misbehaving, they are speaking to adults in code? A misbehaving child is a discouraged child. The primary goal of all children is to feel a sense of belonging and significance. Too often they form a mistaken belief about how to seek belonging and significance-as explained in the Mistaken Goal Chart. Unless adults know how to break the code-children usually experience the opposite of belonging and significance.
Solving the mystery of "why" your students "misbehave" can be fun and beneficial. Once you break the code, you will have more information on how to encourage behavior change.
In Positive Discipline we emphasize the importance of understanding the belief behind the behavior. You can use the Mistaken Goal Chart and the Mistaken Goal Detective Clue Form to accomplish this goal. You will be much more effective in encouraging behavior change when you deal with the belief behind the behavior instead of just the behavior.
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