September 23, 2020

The mission of Trinity Church is to share Christ's love and grace in a vibrant community whose joyful spirit empowers people to do God's work.

This week's newsletter item is written by Holly Feliciano. The Feliciano family has been through tremendous trials and tribulations for the past couple of years due to Allan's brain cancer. Holly's blog last week on CaringBridge was so moving and inspiring, I thought everyone would like to read it. Thanks, Holly. -- Claire Curcio, Senior Warden

Hello Fellow Trinitarians!
How's everyone doing with 2020? Filling up any Bingo cards? 
No matter where you stand politically, we all have to admit our lives have changed pretty dramatically thanks to Covid-19 and other fun times 2020 has brought us. Whether it be you teleworking or your kids being hybrid/virtual, we have all had to adjust to some changes. And change is pretty hard, isn't it? 
We've had our adjustments, to be sure, but the bulk of our changes (of course) were mostly over last year. (For those of you that don’t know us personally, Allan, my husband, has brain cancer. Last year was a full of year of treatment, including radiation and chemotherapy. His tumor is currently stable with MRI scans every 3 to 4 months. He does have seizures occasionally, not uncommon with this condition.) This pandemic in a lot of ways is easier for us to cope with because we feel like all of us are in it together, while cancer can be so isolating. However, there are still times where we are trying to get to that new normal this year too.
Case in point, Allan hasn't traveled in almost 2 years. His last business trip was right before that initial grand mal seizure. Crazy right? To be fair, this year nobody is traveling much. He has been home 24/7 working (thankful!) and has only gone into the office twice (again, thankful!). He had a trip scheduled in June that was postponed and it was postponed again. 3rd time is the charm and he actually left for travel to Kings Bay, Georgia.
To say it is weird to have him gone is an understatement. 
Lots of feelings about this on Allan's and my part. Happiness and anxiety all mixed into one. This is the first time Allan has "been on his own" in almost 2 years. He still can't drive because of the seizures, so he arranged with a coworker to be picked up. It is a "normal" thing for Allan to travel for work, so that part feels great for both of us. Traveling in Covid, eh, that's not so normal, but yet learning a new normal. The point is traveling is normal, and it's a piece he is getting back. The one part that worried me was him having a seizure and me not being around to help. Legit concern.
Allan's seizure specialist adjusted his VNS device 3 and a half weeks ago to give him more "coverage." Meaning the device goes off a bit more frequently to keep things calmer in the brain. I have noticed the difference in Allan and so has he. It's been 4 weeks since a seizure and that is a nice long stretch! However, when you have that long of a stretch you wonder how much longer will it go. And with being on travel in a different place? A bit more nerve-racking.
We talked about scenarios and what he would do in different places. But again, travel is a part of his life and he needs to do it and adjust! And if a seizure happens, well, it happens. Stinks, but that new normal…
Well, he ended up having a seizure the first night away while out dining alone. Yes, total bummer. But stick with me here because there are a couple of positive lessons to be taught here.
Allan was at Cracker Barrel when it came on. Of course, his waitress witnessed it. And yes, that sounds really awful. But here is where you roll with the changes. She saw it and after it happened went and told her manager. (Nobody else around saw it, it was focal, meaning just face and arm. Not noticeable unless you are watching him.) Manager did a casual walk by to make sure everything was ok. When the waitress brought his food, Allan tried to explain why he needed some help opening the syrup bottle and a couple other things (he has temporary weakness for a bit after a seizure).  
Here's the cool part. She told him not to worry about it, that her dad has seizures, so she completely understood and said she would help him with whatever he needed. How's that for awesomeness? Talk about the perfect stranger to help, right? (Ahem, some would say some divine intervention, perhaps?) He tipped her well and as he was leaving, thanked her for her kindness. She responded with how our world needs more kindness and no need to thank her, that it was her pleasure to help.
Our world needs more kindness. There's the first lesson. Be kind, be helpful.
While we are sad Allan had a seizure, there is a sense of relief. His clock is "reset" basically and I feel like he will be fine for the remainder of his travel. He won't have to worry about it happening in a meeting or whatever. A strange way of thinking, I know, but it is our normal. And isn't that what we all need to do? Figure out how to live life in a new normal? There's no sense in mourning the past (although that is ok to do, don't get me wrong, just don't stay stuck there) when we have to figure out how to live life today. Easier said than done, trust me, but it is something I'm learning.
There's the other lesson. Figuring out the new normal. Living your life every day and making the adjustments you need to do to LIVE. Try not to stress, try not to worry. Mantra.
Life is carrying on here for us and we aren't taking things for granted. Kids are 100% virtual and seem to be adjusting well. I'm doing all my usual stuff. All is well.
Now if only FSU football can get their act together, life would be grand, but that's a whole other writing piece.
Blessings, Tribe. (For you newbies, that’s what I like to call my readers.)
Trinity Discernment Prayer

O Everlasting, Omniscient, and Loving God
We confess that our daily worries and concerns often blind us to your voice and guidance in our lives. We thank You for this time of change, may it be an opportunity to grow together more closely as followers of your son Jesus Christ as we work to discern your path forward for our congregation. We pray that You will watch over the Bishop, diocesan transitional ministry team, the parish clergy, members of our vestry, and the other leaders of our church as they lead us on a new path for our parish. We pray for the members of the discernment committee as they endeavor to do Your holy work in calling a new rector for Trinity. We pray for all the members of our parish family during this time of transition that we come closer to You and feel your presence in our hearts. AMEN.

The Vestry appointed a Regathering Commmittee to consider all aspects of regathering -- indoor worship, outdoor worship, live-streaming and the technology required, altar guild requirements, role and training of ushers, and other pertinent areas. They will also study the multiple guidelines sent to us by the Diocese to be sure any plans made fit those requirements. Members of the committee are Barry Holliday, Val Folden, Harry Dickinson, Rosemary Arneson, David Stokes, and Mike Frye, with Bambi Willis and Claire Curcio as ex officio members.
More from the Treasurer

Our Stewardship Campaign is virtually upon us and it will be virtual this year.

The big challenge for the Finance Committee is to develop a budget for Year 2021
which will include compensation for a new Rector.

The Discernment Committee has been working diligently since it was created and
I’m confident we will have a new Rector in 2021.

Our responsibility, as a Church Family, is to be able to provide adequate compensation in
order to attract the best candidate.

From a financial standpoint, we have been fortunate this year not to have had to pay a full
time Rector. Going forward that will change!

Please remember these facts when completing your Estimate of Giving Card this Fall.

As always, I’m grateful your continued support.
Come Walk the Labyrinth!

The Daughters of the King invite you to come walk our canvas labyrinth on Saturday, September 26, between 10 am and 2 pm. The labyrinth will be set up in the William Street parking lot, and members of the DOK will be there to answer questions. We ask all who come to walk to wear masks, and we will make sure people maintain adequate physical distancing. No more than 2 people will be allowed to walk the labyrinth at the same time. We ask that shoes be removed, but socks should be worn. Walking a labyrinth is an ancient spiritual practice, and the labyrinth pattern plays a part in many world cultures. It can be a powerful tool for meditation, reflection, and prayer. 
Virtual Coffee Hour continues this Sunday, September 27th at 9:30 a.m. 

Zoom meeting ID # 999 7723 0413 and the password is 6YiW22. This will be a recurring Zoom meeting with the same ID and password each Sunday. We ask that everyone mute their microphones when we start the Zoom meeting to minimize background noise. You can unmute when and if you want to speak. We look forward to seeing you!
Hello from Blessings in a Backpack!

My name is Nancy Griswold, the new coordinator for the program. Many thanks to Susan McSpadden who has led the charge for the past four years. I am going to have some tough shoes to fill but I'm ready to give it a try.(I have to do something other than watch PandaCam!) As of right now we do not know when the students will return to the classroom. I understand there are some people meeting about different proposals right now. Hopefully they will make some decisions soon. In the meantime, if you are interested in becoming a donor, a packer or a deliverer or all of the above, please contact me at I will keep you updated.
Families with children are invited to join us for Online Sunday School this Sunday at 10:30 a.m. for a 30 – 40-minute Sunday school lesson on Zoom. Our time together will include a few minutes of social (gathering) time, a few songs we all know, some prayer time, a story, and an easy craft response to the story. This will be geared for children ages 5 through fifth grade, but older and younger people are welcome too. Each child/person will need a pencil, a few sheets of paper, and some crayons or colored pencils. I will email some additional materials to everyone on Friday. If you have not received emails in the past with the information to join the class meeting and would like for your child to participate please contact Sam Burton at
All middle school and high school students are invited to join us for a Youth Group Meeting this Sunday, September 27th from 2:00 to 3:00 p.m. on Zoom. We will have a brief Bible study and discussion and play some games. An email will be sent out on Friday with the information to join the meeting and some handouts needed for the activities. If you have not received emails in the past with the information to join the meeting and would like for your youth to participate please contact Sam Burton at
New copies of the FORWARD DAY BY DAY (November - January 2021) are now available in the box outside the Ida Beck doors. Please feel free to pick up your copy. Donations may be left in the mailbox near the red doors in front of the church.

2021 EPISCOPAL CALENDARS are now in. The cost is $5 each. If you would like to reserve a copy, please email Denise.

PRAYER FOR OUR PEOPLE - Responding to a request from Bishop Jennifer Brooke-Davidson, Trinity is delighted to announce the establishment of a prototype prayer initiative for the Fredericksburg Region named PRAYERS FOR OUR PEOPLE. Using a web-based form found on this link (, individuals can request prayers for their needs or the needs of others. The initial phase of the pilot will be staffed by members of Trinity and Bishop Brooke-Davidson has extended an invitation to participate to the other churches in the region via the Fredericksburg Region leadership.

CAMPUS MINISTRY has begun its regular semester meetings online on Tuesdays from 5pm – 7pm! We would like to invite all college students (no matter which college!) to gather with us by Zoom. A Zoom link may be found on our church website,, or find the event on our Facebook page .

During this time when we cannot be together physically, let’s keep in touch virtually.  Please check out the TRINITY FACEBOOK PAGE for information, inspiration, and some things to make you smile. Messages from Bishop Curry and from our Bishop Susan Goff are posted as they are received. Don't forget our follow Instagram page and subscribe to our YouTube channel.


"Thanksgiving Has Come Early This Year", a Meditation for the 16th Week after Pentecost, " by Bishop Jennifer Brooke-Davidson, can be found here.

GOOD TROUBLE FOR A HEALTHY PLANET: 2020 Faith-Based Organization Consultation on Climate Emergency. The Episcopal Church, in collaboration with a coalition of interfaith partners led by the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America (ELCA), will offer a virtual webinar on “Good Trouble for a Healthy Planet” on September 24, 10:00am-1:00pm EDT. It will address the impact of human activity on the planet and the urgent need for action to obtain sustainable and resilient communities globally and develop strategies for moving forward to address climate change. Access descriptions of the workshops here. Register for virtual event here. Registration Deadline: Close of business on Tuesday, September 22, 2020. For more information, click here.

Episcopalians are invited to join churches around the world in celebrating the SEASON OF CREATION; a time for people of faith to renew their relationship with God and all creation through celebration, prayer, and action. The Season’s roots rise from the Orthodox Christian tradition; the World Council of Churches was instrumental in making the special time a season, extending the celebration from September 1 until St. Francis Day, October 4. The Episcopal Church Office of Creation Care offers Season of Creation and St. Francis Day Resources to help plan. 

WAY OF LOVE -- The Episcopal Church continues to offer new resources for congregations interested in following the Way of Love as a way of life by starting small group ministries. New resources include the Building an Intentional Small Group Ministry information packet, an infographic, video compilations, and social media graphics. These resources are available in English here, Spanish here and French here. For more information and resources visit or email
Wednesday, September 23

Thursday, September 24
10:00 am Task Force to Plan "Dismantle Racism" online meeting
11:40 am School Children Feeding Program

Friday, September 25
10:00 am DoK LUCHA Ingathering
11:40 am School Children Feeding Program

Saturday, September 26
7:30 am Brotherhood of St. Andrew online
10:00 am Labyrinth Walk

Sunday, September 27
Seventeenth Sunday after Pentecost
9:30 am Virtual Coffee Hour
10:30 am Sunday School online
2:00 pm Youth Group online

Monday, September 28
11:40 am School Children Feeding Program
7:00 pm Forward Day by Day Discussion online

Tuesday, September 29
11:40 am School Children Feeding Program
12 Noon Knaughty Knitters online
2:00 pm Task Force to plan "Dismantle Racism" online w/St. Paul's, Richmond
5:00 pm Campus Ministry Online
Wednesday, September 30
11:40 am School Children Feeding Program

Thursday, October 1
10:00 am Task Force to Plan "Dismantle Racism"
online w/United Methodist
11:45 am School Children Feeding Program

Friday, October 2
11:40 am School Children Feeding Program

Saturday, October 3

Sunday, October 4
Eighteenth Sunday after Pentecost
Feast of St. Francis of Assisi 2020
9:30 am Virtual Coffee Hour
10:30 am Sunday School online
2:00 pm Youth Group online
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