Volume I Issue 27 ~ March 24th, 2019
1. Academics Spotlight
Mrs. Kuhn's Biology Honors students this week dived deep into the curriculum and were transformed into “Disease Detectives” for one of their labs. Students took a hands on approach and diagnosed their test patient with bacterial meningitis! Yikes!
2. Athletics Spotlight
Baseball lost to Mira Costa but beat Hart 7-6. The boys continue play next week

Softball lost to Mira Costa but beat Serra 11-1.

Boys Volleyball lost to Redondo. The boys are at home on Tuesday vs. Leuzinger.

Boys Lacrosse beat La Costa Canyon 6-5, Agoura 13-4, and Chaminade 18-3. They are 17-0 overall.

Girls Lacrosse is currently ranked #6 in the nation and #1 in California with wins this week over Agoura 16-4 and Peninsula 17-3.

Austin Mone qualified for CIF for diving with a 5th place finish. He’s our first diver since the school reopened!

Varsity Boys Tennis is off to a strong start with wins against South High, Redondo Union High and a very close match with Mira Costa. This weekend, the Sea Kings were in Irvine for the National High School Tennis All American Team Tennis Tournament.  Come out and see great tennis at home this coming week, Monday vs. Arcadia, Wednesday vs. Corona del Mar, and Thursday for the big match vs. Pen.
3. Staff Spotlight
PVIT and math teacher Mrs. Loh Norris has been accepted to attend the MIT Science and Engineering Program for Teachers (SEPT) this summer, a week-long program with about 45 teachers from all over the world to collaborate on innovative technology and issues relevant to all STEM fields. Teachers invited to attend this program are all recognized as innovative, creative, and dedicated leaders in their schools and communities. Each year, SEPT teachers attend lectures from top scientists, try out the latest technology developed on campus, and talk shop with an outstanding group of passionate educators - professors, students, researchers, and teachers at sessions together all week long. Congrats Mrs. Loh Norris on this outstanding achievement!
4. Choreo Spotlight
The PVHS annual choreo team had two amazing performances this past week at the Armstrong Theater. This student choreographed and led show was titled "I Want My PV TV" with each piece inspired by a different television show. Numbers took inspiration from The Bachelor, Storm Chasers, Friends and more. Congratulations to all of our choreo students and Ms. Mastan on a great show!
5. Drama Spotlight
Drama hosted their annual Dessert Theater night for PV families and friends. The audience was treated to a wide variety of sweets while getting to watch the amazing performances of our drama and musical theater students.
6. Capitol Convoy
The opportunities for students at PVHS are endless and this week was no different. Thanks to our PTSA, students, teachers, parents, and staff went to Sacramento to lobby our Senators and Congressmen about topics that have a direct impact on their education. Students also got to meet our local elected officials and hear guest speakers cover topics such as funding in education and other important education issues. PVHS students even got a tour of the Capitol. Thank you PTSA for providing these opportunities for students!
7. International Leadership Foundation
Congratulations to the PVHS students who were selected and attended the International Leadership Foundation Workshop. These students were chosen for being young global leaders.

Great job to Eliana Choi, Joanna Choi, Sauel Mendel, Max Mendel, Julie Qiu, Yolada Wang, and Zackary Huang for participating in this event.
8. Activities Spotlight
PVHS' Irish American Club hosted the 16th Annual Sean's Run in honor of late Sea King, Sean Heffernan. Sean was tragically killed by a drunk driver when he was a student here. This event works to raise awareness to the dangers of drunk driving as well as celebrate the life of Sean. Students and families were treated to traditional Irish dance performances, food, fun and more.
9. Student Spotlight
Dustin Wescott was recognized by the National Football Foundation. This organization recognizes young athletes from the LA area for their sacrifice and dedication to the game of football, education, family, community, and as a representative of their school. Congrats Dustin and way to represent the Sea King family!
10. Next week at a glance
Monday:
  • First day of CAST Science testing for Juniors only! Juniors will test in their science classes on Monday and Tuesday 3/25-26. There is no change in bell schedule on these days.
  • Tennis vs. Arcadia
  • Girls Lacrosse @ Westview
  • Boys Lacrosse vs. IMG Academy

Tuesday:
  • Second day of CAST Science testing for Juniors only! Juniors will test in their science classes on Monday and Tuesday 3/25-26. There is no change in bell schedule on these days.
  • PTSA General Meeting, 9am in the MPR
  • Muffin Madness @ nutrition!
  • Golf @ South
  • Volleyball vs. Leuzinger
  • College Essentials Toolkit at 6:30pm. Speaker: Ed Devine (Lafayette College) Transition to College - What high school students should consider looking forward to their freshman year in college.
  • PVHS Softball is having a Pedone’s fundraiser all day and 20% of all sales will go back to the PVHS Girl’s Softball program!  See the flyer below for more details.

Wednesday:

  • El Camino College Orientation 12:30pm in the CCC
  • Tennis vs. Corona del Mar
  • Baseball vs. Centennial
  • Softball @ Redondo

Thursday :

  • Tennis vs. Peninsula
  • Swim @ Redondo
  • Volleyball vs. Peninsula
  • Baseball @ Redondo Tournament
  • Boys Lacrosse @ Peninsula

Friday :
  • Minimum B-day schedule
  • Off site evacuation drill at 8:15am. Click here for more information.
  • Golf tournament
  • Track and Field at South Bay Championships
  • Baseball @ Centennial
  • Softball vs. Leuzinger
  • Girls Lacrosse @ Redondo
  • Boys Lacrosse @ Oaks Christian

Happy Spring Break Sea Kings! Enjoy the week off and we will see everyone on Monday April 8th. Don't forget! Monday April 8th is an
ALL PERIOD bell schedule.

Health and Wellness

Each week, one of our community partners, Dr. Moe Gelbart generously volunteers his time to provide information for our community related to wellness. Dr. Gelbart is the Executive Director of Thelma McMillen Center in Torrance.

SUPPORT VS. ENABLING: WHEN WE PROTECT TOO MUCH

We all love our children. We all want to do what is best for them, protect them, help them to succeed, and insure that nothing bad happens to them. We need to find a balance, however, between support and enabling. Many parents ask me what the difference is, especially when I am working with teens (or adults) who are experiencing problems with drugs or alcohol. The basic difference is that support is a “two-way street”, while enabling is a “one-way street”. When we support our children, there is an unwritten contract that each of us has a responsibility to perform, and that as long as one person does what they have agreed to, the other will respond in kind.

For example, you may tell your teen “as long as you don’t use drugs or alcohol, we will provide you with a vehicle to drive”. If they demonstrate compliance, then they get to drive. If, however, they experiment and use, and we give them second and third chances, or are unable or unwilling to put up with their upset and anger, and continue to let them drive, we are enabling them. In other words, our behavior is actually strengthening the behavior which we want to avoid.

In previous articles, I have written about the value of limits, consequences, and follow through, and enabling is not enforcing limits, and not following through with consequences. Some parents are determined to provide too much support. We have all heard the term “helicopter parenting”, which describes parents who hover over their children, and are over focused on them, often taking too much responsibility for their successes or failures. Newer terms include “lawnmower parent”, and “bulldozer parent”. Such behavior generally emanates from a good, caring, loving place, though it may be fueled by one’s own unfulfilled dreams and regrets, and living one’s life through their children. The helicopter parent is so concerned that their child will not find their own way that they intervene in things like teacher selection, playing time in sports, closely monitoring school work and over-assisting in projects, selecting children’s friends for them.

We have come to a place in our society that we are afraid to let our children feel disappointment, uncertainty, and failure. In reality, these are often important life lessons, and help children grow, and gain self-esteem. Of course, our role as parents is to protect our children from danger, and severe consequences, but over protection can have negative impact. When we do too much for our children, the message we may be sending to them is that they are not capable of achieving those things themselves. Although the results may be positive, in regards to things like grades, their self-esteem does not improve and grow. In order for self-esteem and self-confidence to improve, one must benefit from the results of their efforts, and take pride in their achievements. Otherwise, results not earned can often lead to what is called “the imposter syndrome”, which follows people well into their adulthood and careers.

I have worked with many successful adults, CEOs of companies, who fear internally that they will be found out as incompetent. In addition to decreased confidence and self-esteem, overprotecting your children decreases the development of their own coping skills, and their ability to deal with negative outcomes, and often increases anxiety. The other major consequence is a sense of entitlement, and developing a belief that things will always be taken care of. The reality is that the world will not treat them like their parents do, the world will not enable them. Their teachers, their bosses, the local police officer will not be ok with them not holding up their end of the bargain.

What are some things you can do to stop overprotecting and enabling your children, and to put your helicopter down?

* Redefine the notion of failure. It is a word I try and help parents not use. Instead, I encourage them to look at behavior as successive approximations to the mark. Each time you miss the mark, you are provided with new, good information to improve your next attempt.

* Understand limits, consequences, and follow through, and hold your children accountable.

* Recognize that difficulties and roadblocks are building blocks to growth, strength, and independence. Overcoming obstacles may be painful, but are great learning tools.

* Know that you cannot protect them from disappointment, and that not being successful at everything can actually be a benefit. Help them learn to understand that they do not need to be perfect. Like the saying goes: “Perfect is the enemy of good”.

* Accept, and help them accept, the notion that things will not always work out. Help them take (safe) risks.

Remember, if you have issues you would like to see addressed, please email me at askdrgelbart@gmail.com.

Moe Gelbart, Ph.D.
Executive Director, Thelma McMillen Center
General Info
Peninsula Education Foundation (PEF) proudly presents our last Parent University will be held on Tuesday, March 26 at Miraleste Intermediate School from 6-7:30 pm. Harlan Cohen is a  New York Times  best-selling author of six books, a nationally syndicated advice columnist, and a dynamic speaker who has spoken to thousands of students and parents to help:
   • middle school students dream big and get over their fears
   • high school students become gritty leaders and navigate college planning
   • high school grads successfully make the transition to life in college
   • soon-to-be grads find their dream job
   • parents get comfortable with all the changes along the way
  
This is a free event for all PVPUSD parents! Look forward to seeing you there!
Families Connected Youth Wellness Corner
600 Cloyden Road, Palos Verdes Estates, 90274 ~ 310-378-8471 ~ pvhs.pvpusd.net