Volume I Issue 13 ~ December 2nd, 2018
1. Academics Spotlight
The opportunities at PVHS are endless, including taking a class on glass blowing. Each week students are given the opportunity to learn and practice different glass blowing techniques. Pictured here are students heating their glass and shaping it before it cools.

Thank you PTSA for supporting all of our teachers and classes through the gifting process!
CTCT-20181201_083103
2. Athletics Spotlight
Boys Basketball started the season off winning the Valley Christian Tournament and beating South at home 67-39. The Sea Kings are ranked #17 in the state and #2 in their division.

Girls Basketball started strong beating El Segundo, Sage Hill, Corona del Mar, and Laguna Hills. The girls are ranked #13 in their division.

Boys Soccer started the season with a 2-2 tie versus Long Beach Cabrillo then went on to beat South 1-0. The boys lost to Millikan but play again at home on Tuesday..

Girls Soccer opened the season with a loss to Culver City 3-2. They continued with a win versus Torrance at home on Friday.

Girls Waterpolo lost to a tough Santa Monica team 6-4 at home but finished 4th place in the platinum dvision at the Claremont Tournament. They play at Long Beach Poly on Tuesday.

Girls Tennis players Maddie & Cara made it to the state quarterfinals in CIF before loosing to the # 2 seeded team in a tiebreaker. Awesome season ladies!
CTCT-20181201_082935
3. Choreo Spotlight
Our PVHS Choreo team participated in the annual Riviera Village Holiday Stroll and Parade on Thursday night. Dressed for the holiday spirit, the team danced down Catalina Avenue, spreading holiday cheer to all. This annual tradition is something our Choreo team looks forward to every year.
CTCT-20181130_084905
PVHS staff also got in the holiday spirit and were able to participate in the parade. Ms. Millar drove her '64 and a half mustang down Catalina avenue with Ms. Mindicino, Ms. Carmona, Ms. Astiazaran, and Ms. Palosaari waving and passing out candy canes to everyone.
4. PVIT Spotlight
The Palos Verdes Institute of Technology (PVIT) hosted their second annual VEX tournament on campus over the weekend. With over 30 teams competing from all over Southern California, PVHS had 2 VEX teams competing. Our teams have been working tirelessly to finish and test their robots so that they would be ready for the obstacle course at the competition. Congratulations to all of the teams who competed and to all of the PVPUSD teams there!

Thank you to the PVHS Booster Club and PEF for all of your support of our PVIT program.
CTCT-20181202_093201
CTCT-20181202_093228
CTCT-20181202_093147
5. College and Career Center
The Director of Outreach from El Camino College presented to both students and parents this past week about an exciting opportunity for our students via the community college/transfer route. Thanks to the efforts of El Camino and our CCC, PVPUSD graduates will now have the opportunity to attend ECC for their first year with free tuition. One in every four to five of our graduating seniors will begin their post secondary education at a community college. Thank you to ECC for coming and speaking at PVHS. If you are interested in the South Bay Promise, please click here .  
CTCT-20181128_165747
6. Coca-Cola Scholar Semi-finalists
Congratulations to the 10 PVHS students who have qualified as a semi-finalist for the Coca-Cola foundation scholars. 1,896 students were selected from over 95,000 submitted applications from across the country to continue through their selection process. Congratulations and good luck Sea Kings!

Harry Cha
Gabriela Gomez
Lane Karlitz
Faith Kim
Tina Li
Skylar McVicar
Hana Meroth
Malia Shitabata
Manon Snyder
Seraphine Sun

Not pictured: Harry Cha and Tina Li
7. Spirit Spotlight
Varsity and JV cheer do more than just cheer for our sports teams. Our cheerleaders find different ways to be involved in the community. This past week they went to PVIS to help with a school rally and went to the opening day of the new basketball little league. Thank you girls for representing PVHS in the community!
CTCT-20181201_083000
CTCT-20181202_093107
Don't forget, if you are interested in getting in the holiday spirit, ASB is selling crewneck sweatshirts and beanies decked out and ready for the holidays. Orders must be placed in the student store by December 7th.
8. Club Spotlight
Lead by our two student leaders, Alex Pheiffer & Tina Li hosted the school year's first meeting of the Sea King Sustainability Committee. This committee works to identify environmental problems on campus, examine their systematic roots, and then plan and enact sustainable change. 
CTCT-20181128_165712
9. Student Spotlight
The Southern California Youth Yacht Racing Association recognizes advanced junior sailors from Southern California who have shown tremendous dedication and accomplishment in youth sailing.
Each year a select number of the top junior sailors from San Diego to Santa Barbara are chosen to become members of the annual SCYYRA Racing Team and invited to participate in advanced sailing clinics and otherwise be recognized. Congratulatsions to PVHS student Gavin McJones (in the Red Hat!) for such a great accomplishment!
10. Next week at a glance
Monday:
  • Girls Soccer vs. West
  • CSF Toy Drive starts today!
  • Baseball Tryouts

Tuesday:
  • Boys Soccer vs. San Pedro
  • Water Polo @ Long Beach Poly
  • Boys Basketball in the Artesia Tournament
  • Baseball Tryouts

Wednesday:
  • Girls Soccer vs. Beverly Hills
  • Boys Basketball in the Artesia Tournament
  • Baseball Tryouts

Thursday :
  • Girls Basketball @ Mira Costa
  • Water Polo @ Orange Lutheran Tournament
  • Boys Basketball in the Artesia Tournament
  • Baseball Tryouts

Friday :
  • Girls Soccer vs. Santa Monica
  • Boys Basketball in the Artesia Tournament
  • Baseball Tryouts
  • Jazz Band Concert 7pm in the MPR

Health and Wellness

THE IMPORTANCE OF VALIDATING FEELINGS.

Every parent knows the value of communication with their children. It is probably the most sought after goal, and desire. A recent article in the Wall Street Journal cited research indicating that when communication breaks down, the mental health of adolescents suffer. The article quotes that “teens who disclose their daily activities and inner feelings to a parent tend to have lower levels of anxiety and depression and are less likely to engage in risky behaviors”. While seemingly obvious, why is it that the barriers to communication are often great? One study asked teenagers “who would you most like to talk to about problems” and the overwhelming majority answered an understanding adult. However, when asked “ who DO you talk to about problems”, the majority answered a friend/another teen. In essence, they are getting most of their input and advice from friends who have similar experiences, rather than parents who have their best interest at heart, combined with extensive life experience.

The reason for this is that teenagers often do not feel heard, and feel adults talk at them, rather than to them. The most important skill/factor to reverse this trend is learning how to validate feelings. This is the cornerstone for good communication, not only with your children. First, we have to understand that feelings are never incorrect. When your child says they are sad, angry, hurt, you can’t say “no you’re not”. Feelings are always the result of thinking. What our thoughts tell us, create and lead to our feelings. While our feelings are always correct, our thinking may be distorted, based on wrong information, or exaggerated. It is essential to learn to validate feelings. What that means is to listen carefully, hear what your child is feeling, and let them know you understand the feeling, based on what they are telling you.

For example, if they come home and say they are really angry at their teacher, and you ask why, and they say they were not treated fairly, you have to be able to put yourself in their shoes, and validate their feeling experience. You might say “if you think you were not treated fairly, I could understand why you are angry”. This is not agreeing with their perception, but understanding that how they feel is correct based on their perception. When you validate their feeling, they feel heard, and you have built a bridge of communication with them which allows you to begin to understand, or question, their thinking. With their feelings validated, they will be much more willing to look at other possibilities. If the thinking can change, eg, you come to an understanding that they were treated strictly, but not unfairly by the teacher in our example, their feelings will change. Changing thinking changes feelings.

That is one of the primary goals of counseling – to challenge and change thinking which may be leading to negative feelings. The reverse of validating feelings is called invalidating feelings. As parents, we do this unknowingly, usually with good intent. If you want to insure that your child will not want to share and open up with you, make them feel like you think their feelings are incorrect. This is often done caringly, and with good intent, but the results are a shutdown in communication. In our example, a parent would say “you shouldn’t be angry at your teacher – I’m sure he wasn’t being unfair”. The child experiences this being told they are wrong, and although they may not say so, will begin to shut down. The most direct invalidation is “you shouldn’t feel that way”.

As stated, learning how to validate feelings is one of the most essential skills to good communication. It is complex, and not easy. You must work at listening, at trying to hear the feelings which are being communicated (sometimes indirectly), and then make it clear that you understand, and respect (not necessarily agree with) the perspective and point of view. When you are able to validate your child’s feelings, you may be surprised that they are much more willing to open up to you.


Remember, if you have issues you would like to see addressed, please email me at askdrgelbart@gmail.com.

Moe Gelbart, Ph.D.
Executive Director, Thelma McMillen Center
General Info
In January 2016, California adopted a new law covering comprehensive health education in public schools, Education Code Sections 51930‐ 51939 (AB 329) called the CA Healthy Youth Act (CHYA). Students in intermediate and high school must receive comprehensive health education and HIV prevention education from trained instructors. Each pupil shall receive this instruction at least once in middle school and at least once in high school. Here are some facts about the CHYA.

Los Angeles County Office of Education (LACOE) is recommending the following steps to take toward initial, immediate compliance, with future consideration of a complete textbook adoption with the release of the new Health Education Framework in 2021:
1.    Selecting curriculum to cover CA Healthy Youth Act requirements (Board of Education approval process)
2.    Determining who will teach the curriculum and in which grades
3.    Scheduling training, parent education events, and public review of curriculum/opt-out procedures


LACOE strongly encouraged us to use the Adolescent Sexual Health Work Group curricula review as a starting point, as they were charged with grading a subset of comprehensive sexual health education curricula for alignment and compliance with the CHYA.


Five of the districts in the South Bay Consortium have selected the same resource, while the others are just beginning this process. Administrators across the greater South Bay have continued to communicate with each other as we move collectively forward towards legislative compliance. PVPUSD will coordinate with LACOE to present information to the Board of Education and entire parent community about the changes.

If you are interested in participating in this Health Task Force work, please complete the following form: https://forms.office.com/Pages/ResponsePage.aspx?id=alG_LzE4eUS6iIMJfbVyeR3BiGtsvk5NgKNhK9rVDgpUOEUxVzBNUUxYVzhLRVA4QUJMWkNYOVAzNi4u
600 Cloyden Road, Palos Verdes Estates, 90274 ~ 310-378-8471 ~ pvhs.pvpusd.net