November 22, 2019
Welcome to the UUFSD Weekly Newsletter

Inspired by our UU principles, we are a vibrant, intentionally diverse congregation that models and promotes both locally and globally: love, spiritual growth, service, right relations, and sustainable living.

PLEASE NOTE : We will not be publishing a newsletter on Friday, November 29th as the office will be closed for the Thanksgiving holiday on November 28th and 29th .
Upcoming Services

November 24, 2019
"Giving Thanks as a Spiritual Discipline"
Rev. Thomas Perchlik
Worship Associate: Diane Masser-Frye
Music: "Gracias por el amor" by Clif Hardin, performed by UUFSD Choir

December 1, 2019
"Ethical Eating"
Guest Speaker: Lisa Shaffer
Worship Associate: Chris Byrnes

December 8, 2019
"Hotei, Ho, Ho?"
Rev. Thomas Perchlik
Worship Associate: John Sherman
Music: "Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas" performed by the UUFSD Choir

December 15, 2019
Music Sunday
"Something Like a Star"
Rev. Thomas Perchlik and Chris Lehman
Worship Associate: Candace Sage
Many Dining 4 Dollar$ Items Still Available!

Do't miss out on these fun activities! We've added a second Severinghouse Lab Tour and there are dinners, hiking, paddlepboarding, backyard ziplining, babysitting, guitar lessons, hiking and games still available.

Fixed Price items will stay open until the event date. Bidding will close on bidder items on Monday, November 25. Bid at
Seinfeld ReGift Party
November 23rd at 6:00pm in Founders Hall

Sponsored by the Pink Flamingo
The term "regifter" was popularized by Seinfeld.
There is even a National Regift Day!
There will be a UUFSD Community "Regifter" Party
November 23 at 6:00 P.M. Founders'Hall

Bring Old, New, Antique, Anything you do not want to languish in your closet and collect dust. Something for everyone. There will be sandwiches, cake, dips, chips, drinks, wine, served. Donate a dish.

Bring kids too. Come have fun, even if you don't bring anything. Anything left over will be donated to the CRC.

Questions? Contact Louise Garrett at
What’s Happening in Religious Education!
Sunday, November 24, 2019
Kindergarten-3rd grades are doing Anti-racism/ Anti- Oppression curriculum this year
4th-6th grades are studying the Bible through a UU lens
Junior and Senior high students are studying environmental issues with earth based spirituality to heal
Register for RE classes at
Children’s Shoe Drive
Now through December 22nd
“Those Shoes” was read at the 3rd of November service and it was about an African American child who lived with his grandmother who desperately wanted the “it” pair of shoes. Grandma tells him that “in this house there is no room for ‘want’, only need.” The child ends up finding the coveted pair of shoes at a thrift store and buying them, despite the too small size. In the end, he generously and reluctantly gives them to another boy in his class whose shoes are held together with Duct tape.
In this season of warmth, family and gratitude, the 1st-3rd Grade Religious Education class will be holding a shoe drive based on “Those Shoes.” We invite the entire Fellowship to purchase any size children shoes and bring them to the shoe table in the Core Area. The shoes will be donated to the children of Casas de Luz! The 1st-3rd graders will be writing letters and putting them inside the shoes with the hope of becoming pen pals with other children. The Shoe Drive will be from November 17th-December 22nd.
Environmental Justice Task Force Meeting
Sunday, November 24th, 12:30-1:30pm in Palmer Library

The Environmental Justice Task Force will be meeting this Sunday at 12:30pm, in Palmer Library. Everyone, young and old, are welcome to attend.

Any questions please email

Thanksgiving Day Dinner!
Thursday, November 28th
1:00-5:00pm in Founders Hall
Join us for our spend all day cooking, Stuff yourself for 30 minutes,
Feel Sick, Eat more, LOVE the time with our favorite people, family and friends, THANKSGIVING DAY FEAST!

Vegan, Vegetarian, Carnivore, There will be something for everyone.

Bring a dish or two, take home a Doggie Bag.

Eat at 1:00 P.M. in the Founders' Hall
Sign-up in core area or just show up. Everyone welcome!
Food and Mood -
The Nutrition Connection
Mindful Nutrition Auction Class
Sunday, November 24th
12:30-1:30pm in Founders Hall
Support UUFSD and make sense of the latest nutrition news as it applies to your own health “issues." You can experience Vicky’s Rancho La Puerta nutrition talks right here at UUFSD for a fraction of the cost of a trip to this historic spa

Handouts with practical tips will be provided at each class. The auction donation is $15/class, which will be collected at the door (unless you are already on the auction list).

Creating a Community of Caring: Pastoral Care
We Will Have a Table in the Core Area on Sunday, November 24th


Through small acts of kindness, we strive to build a beloved community of strength and compassion with meaningful and lasting bonds among our members. February, 2015, UUFSD pastoral care committee launched an initiative, “Creating a Community of Caring”, designed to involve the congregation in providing support for each other in times of crisis such as illness, disability, grief and loss, and other challenges. We created a North Care Team and a South Care Team based on zip codes of our congregants. Over the years many people provided care by delivering meals, providing transportation, and visiting others to diminish feelings of isolation and hardship. The pastoral care committee would like to revisit our care team initiative and extend an invitation to participate in our “Community of Caring” by signing up to be contacted if someone living near you is in need of support services. There is no ongoing commitment by signing up, simply that you are willing to consider helping as you are available. On Sunday, November 24 th , we will have a sign up table in the core area. You can also contact the pastoral care team to sign up at
Annual Giving Tree Toy Drive
Beginning December 1st, the SJA group Immigration Task Force is conducting a brief drive to provide toys for our three Guatemalan families. Please stop by the table on the patio and choose an ornament with a name, age, and gender of a child and bring a wrapped age appropriate gift for the child by December 15th. If you are able to staff the table on December 15th, please contact Robin Sales at This has been a fun activity for families to engage their children in generosity.
Please go to this link to find out what has been happening with the families over the past year.
What’s Happening at Camp de Benneville Pines
  • 11/28-12/1         Thanksgiving Family Celebration
  • 12/6-12/8           Winter Art Camp (Life Drawing)
  • 12/27-1/1           UU Senior High Winter Youth Camp
To register visit
San Diego Food Bank Volunteer Night
Thursday, December 5th, 6:00-8:00pm

Volunteer at the San Diego Food Bank. December 5 from 6:00 – 8:00 PM is our next opportunity to help feed San Diego's hungry by prepping boxes or bagging fresh produce. It’s always the first Thursday of each month.
For more information and to Register you MUST contact Sara Ohara for the special UUFSD Group code: . Anyone 11 and older is welcome to come! We do A LOT in just 2 hours! This is a wonderful way of helping locally those in need and strengthening our UUFSD community as well. Plus it’s fun! We can’t solve all of the world's problems, but we can make a difference right here, right now, one small effort at a time.
Remember you MUST contact Sara at if this is your first time volunteering at the food bank and/or you have any questions.
Welcome Karma Lekshe Tsomo
Saturday, December 7th, 10:00am-Noon in Palmer Library

Karma Lekshe Tsomo, a renowned scholar of Buddhist Studies, and cherished speaker to our Buddhist groups will join us for "Dealing with Expections." There is no charge for this event, and dana for the teacher will be gratefully accepted.We will take Karma Lekshe to lunch afterwards and all are invited to join us.
Enhance your Holidays with a Book Discussion

The evening group is reading the classic novel written a century ago: A Tree Grows in Brooklyn by Betty Smith. Francie Nolan learns early the meaning of hunger and the value of a penny. Like the Tree of Heaven that grows out of cement or through cellar gratings, resourceful Francie struggles against all odds to survive and thrive. Our discussion will be at 7pm on Monday, December 9th .
Each group meets here at UUFSD in the Palmer Library.
Contact: or call/text Cathy Leach-Phillips at 650 224-1974
CRC Holiday Baskets Are Coming!
Tuesday, December 10th, 6:00-8:00pm at the Faigrounds
The Community Resource Center’s Holiday Baskets is San Diego’s largest distribution program, providing a dignified and free “shopping experience” for families and individuals in need. They provide low-income households with both basic necessities and a few gifts to brighten their holidays. Families receive food boxes that provide a turkey or chicken and all the trimmings for a holiday meal and staples for the week.
Join UUFSD members and friends for another year of preparing food boxes for Holiday Baskets 2019 on Tuesday, December 10 from 6-8 p.m. at the Del Mar Fairgrounds. This is a fun activity for youth and families! Look for the sign-ups this Sunday, November 24, in the core area.  
Save the Date!
Sunday, December 15th, 12:30-2:30pm in Founders Hall
The next Social Justice Visioning workshop will be held on Sunday, December 15th from 12:30-2:30 pm in Founders Hall. We are making great progress in developing a truly comprehensive social justice vision. Your voice matters in this process. If you have been before or are new to our group, we welcome your input.
Please mark your calendars and join us. Lunch will be served.
Robin Sales and Wenda Alvarez

Questions? Email
It is the Holiday Season!
Join us on December 24th

The weather is cool, the lights are bright.

Between the two Services, on Tuesday December 24, there will be cookies, coffee, and Hot Chocolate. Ohhhhhh!

Because it is the Holiday Season and everyone bakes, please bring a plate of your favorite cookies to share with family and friends between the services.

Stay and have a cup of coffee or Chocolate.
What is Nonviolent Communication?
Out beyond ideas of wrong-doing, and right-doing, there is a field.
I will meet you there.
-- Rumi
Beginning Monday, January 13th, 2020 at 7:00pm in Founders Hall:

With Nonviolent Communication (NVC) we learn to hear our own deeper needs and those of others. Through its emphasis on deep listening—to ourselves as well as others—NVC helps us discover the depth of our own compassion. This language reveals the awareness that all human beings are only trying to honor universal values and needs, every minute, every day.
NVC can be seen as both a spiritual practice that helps us see our common humanity, using our power in a way that honors everyone's needs, and a concrete set of skills which help us create life-serving families and communities.
The form is simple, yet powerfully transformative. This class will meet for four consecutive Mondays beginning Jan.13, 2020. No charge but donations gratefully accepted to sponsor future adult education events. Info on registration coming soon.
Your Board of Directors has set as one our goals this year to update our Policy & Procedure Manual. It is available as a hard copy in the office and on our website

Here are the latest updates:

111 Board Member Responsibilities - this is a new policy.

143 Authorized Check Signers - new policy from Finance. Board President, Treasurer, and 2 Finance Comm members will be check signers. Any others must be approved by Finance. Addresses conflict of interest regarding contractor supervision and family members.

411 Sunday Services Location - knowing that, in general, most of us want outdoors on Sundays, this new policy was created to address how the decision is made to hold services indoors. Safety & comfort are the major priorities, and occasionally services are indoors for special acoustic or audiovisual needs.

752 Pet Policy - updated to include Emotional Support Animals (ESA’s). In general, only Service Animals are allowed, but ESA’s will be considered on a case by case basis, pending minister approval. See the policy for additional requirements.
November Food Bank Results!

In November, we bagged 6,000 lbs. of kiwis and oranges for our Peers-in-Need.
Thanks all!

We do this the 1st Thursday of each month so our next night will be Nov. 7th.

If this is your 1st time your MUST first contact Sara Ohara for the Group Code:
Monthly Call To Action for November

Mattel recently announced the launch of a gender-neutral doll line called Creatable World. ( The company is now the target of an anti-gender inclusivity campaign. The campaign states, “Mattel is confusing our innocent children by attempting to destroy very definitive gender lines. Why can’t the toy manufacturer let kids be who God created them to be instead of glamorizing a sinful lifestyle?” ( Affirm the inherent worth and dignity of every person by contacting Mattel and thanking them for promoting gender inclusivity.

You can write to Mattel CEO Ynon Kreiz at Mattel, Inc., 333 Continental Boulevard, El Segundo, CA 90245-5012. You can call Mattel Consumer Relations at 1-800-524-8697 (Hit options 1, 1). You can also post a positive comment on Mattel’s Facebook page.
Your Good News for the Weekend

Other News of Interest to UU's
Note for those who use the Le Port School parking lot on Sundays : the gate code is 253
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Phone: 858-755-9225