OkEq Weekly eNews February 15, 2021
MISSION: OkEq seeks equal rights for LGBTQ+ individuals and families through intersectional advocacy, education, programs, alliances, and the operation of the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center.
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SB676 - Authored by Senator Warren Hamilton, SB676 would prohibit transgender healthcare to any person under 21. The bill also creates felony penalties and sentencing for any doctor who intentionally provides such services to any person who is not age 21 or older. Our transgender youth know who they are, and they deserve fair and equal access to healthcare. Doctors should not be punished for caring for transgender youth. Say NO to SB676.

Urgent Call to Action

Contact Senator Greg McCortney, and ask him to say NO to SB676
Phone: 405-521-5541
Website: https://oksenate.gov/senators/greg-mccortney
Mailing address: 2300 N. Lincoln Blvd., Rm. 534 Oklahoma City, OK 73105

Please tell Senator McCortney, the Chair of the Health and Human Services Committee, that this bill SB676 is an extreme attack on transgender young people. This bill shows a fundamental lack of understanding of transgender children, and if passed, would criminalize best-practice medical care. The American Academy of Pediatrics, The American Medical Association, and other leading medical authorities agree on best practice medical care for transgender youth.

Transgender children, like all children, have the best chance to thrive when they are supported and safe. Giving SB 676 a hearing would put doctors, transgender youth, and their families at serious risk.
OKEQ Compas Conectando
Online Event
Sunday, February 21, at 5:00 p.m.

A group for LGBTQ+ Hispanic or Latinx people to connect about life, identity, and culture: we will speak in English and Spanish.
Email donovid.sekulits@okeq.org for Zoom meeting ID

Un grupo para personas LGBTQ hispanos o latinx para conectarse sobre la vida, la identidad y la cultural. Se habla ingles y español.
Enviar un correo electrónico a donovid.sekulits@okeq.org para Zoom meeting ID
Watch Queer Black Voices: A Conversation with Mauree Turner

OKEQ kicked off Black History Month with the newly-elected OK House District 88 Representative Mauree Turner.

Turner is the first publicly non-binary U.S. state lawmaker and the first Muslim member of the Oklahoma Legislature. Turner is queer/non-binary and uses they/them and she/her pronouns.
Click the video below to watch the recorded live stream on Oklahomans for Equality's YouTube Channel.
SAGE Tulsa
Every Tuesday at 10:00 a.m. via conference call

You can join the SAGE call at (918) 398-8780 and enter the access code, 60#.
If you are 50 or older and would like to be a part of our SAGE Tulsa program or would like to help, please contact us today.
SPIRIT: Interfaith Happy Hour  
Thursday, February 18, 2021, 6:00 p.m. on Facebook Live

Oklahomans for Equality's new Equality Faith Alliance is excited to announce SPIRIT, a virtual happy hour-style support and social group dedicated to helping LGBTQIA+ individuals reframe their relationship with religion. Whether your goal is to reconnect with your faith, recover from past spiritual abuse, renounce your faith, or just connect with other people like yourself, SPIRIT is the group for you. Each Thursday, a spiritual leader from Tulsa and the surrounding areas will guide the group through a discussion about the intersections of faith and sexuality. All walks of faith are welcome. All expressions of identity are welcome.
This week, our guest host is Rev. Kelli Driscoll, a member of the Disciples of Christ.

Precepts C.A.R.E
1. Committed to Interfaith Dialogue
2. Affirming full equality for LGBTQ+ persons and families
3. Resistant to any coercive action of proselytizing and conversion
4. Eradicating conversion therapy and dangerous reparative counseling practices
Thursday, February 19, 2021, 7:00 p.m. via Zoom

IndigiQueer is a space created for queer and two-spirit native/indigenous persons. IndigiQueer aims to empower our indigenous community through cultural learning, connection, and tribal involvement. – Vnokeckv.
Add our IndigiQueer Facebook group!
For more info click the buttons below:
POC SOCIAL: Club Quarantine
Thursday, February 26, 2021, 7:00 p.m. on Watch Party App

POC Social is a space for people of color across a variety of backgrounds to come together and create a community through friendship, connections, entertainment, and thoughtful conversations.
Club Quarantine allows you to party from the safe social distance of inside your home! Come chill, listen, and bop to some throwbacks and new bangers from your favorite artists and discover some new ones!
Download the Rave - Watch Party app in your app store and for more information or for more info click the buttons below:
OKEQ Membership Focus Group
Thursday, February 25, 2021, 6:00 p.m. via Zoom

You are invited to participate in this focus group to discuss Membership enhancement and duties being explored by the Governance Committee of the Board of Directors for Oklahomans for Equality. Participants must be a member in good standing with their $50.00 donation membership current with Oklahomans for Equality. Participants will review the proposed by-law amendments recommended by the Governance Committee of the Board of Directors.

RSVP for the zoom link by clicking the button below:
Phil Wilson is more than just an advocate for people living with HIV/AIDS. He is also a survivor of HIV. He is the founder and executive director of the Black AIDS Institute, an organization he created in 1999 to help end the AIDs epidemic and address how it disproportionately affects the African American community. Its mission is to end HIV in Black communities by engaging & mobilizing Black institutions & individuals to confront the epidemic. Wilson has been involved in HIV advocacy since the beginning of his professional career. He is the co-founder of the National Black Lesbian and Gay Leadership Forum, was the AIDs Coordinator for the City of Los Angeles, was the co-chair of Los Angeles County HIV Health Commission, and has also been apart of the National Task Force on AIDS Prevention. He was appointed to the President’s Advisory Council on HIV/AIDS by former President Barack Obama.
2021 Legislative Agenda

​To find your legislator and raise your voice about these bills, visit ​www.oklegislature.gov/FindMyLegislature.aspx
The February Exhibition
in the Allie Jensen Memorial Art Gallery featuring
Alexander Tamahn: “Antivenom”

My Blackness and Queerness enter the same rooms I do, as is true for many men who present as Black and self identify as members of the LGBTQAI+ community. To create this series of work, I sat down and spoke candidly with several peers who exist at this intersection. I created work grounded in these experiences that allowed these men (and myself) to share authentic, personal truths about the challenges and triumphs of being Black, Queer, and male. No single identity supersedes the other, yet we exist—we thrive—in a world that seeks to pigeonhole us, often relegating us to small confines of an imposed identity we must ultimately shed to grow beyond such limitations. 
Serpents are creatures demonized and vilified in western culture. So are Black men. Although we often project our own emotions and ideas on animals and use science to support our claims that we are more enlightened and cognitively advanced than all other creatures, many indigenous cultures and eastern philosophies implore us not to lord ourselves over all creation but rather learn, protect, and respect creatures beyond ourselves. This series of works incorporate subtle and overt serpentine motifs to draw the connection be them and us.
Contrary to many beliefs in the west, snakes are not, in fact, slimy. And while many believe they are only capable of acting upon instinct, they are social creatures to certain extents—not unlike us. They have been known to coordinate with one another to increase the likelihood of success in hunting and developing meaningful social bonds with one another. Like us, they’re selective about who they bond with. My goal, however, is not entirely to humanize these misunderstood creatures. I instead consider several idiosyncrasies of their behaviors and the correlations therein with our own—particularly the shedding of skin. 
Molting or ecdysis is a special and unique process for serpents to undergo. They are arguably at their most vulnerable when engaging in this process. What’s more, this process helps them remove harmful parasites that could kill them. While there are several complexities to this process and corresponding variables that deeply impact it, one thing remains true; they must complete it to become and/or remain healthy. 
Through this series, I assert that the men I held space for (myself included) must do the same to become and/or remain healthy. Identities placed upon us by society—by our own family, friends, etc. must be shed. When we no longer subscribe to them, we inherently subscribe less and less to toxic masculinity as it has long been normalized and codified into socially acceptable behaviors.
Portraiture and critical use of blue and pink hues that allude to masculine and feminine binaries are prevalent throughout this series. Many compositions include statements by the subjects themselves to amplify their truths oriented so that audiences must crane their necks to and fro—they must physically change their perspective to engage with them. Much like antivenom, exposure to the toxins is necessary… The show’s namesake was selected because this work is ultimately about binding and neutralizing the venom that is toxic-masculinity.

The show is currently open at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center located at 621 E. 4th Street Tulsa OK 74120, with Covid measures in place. The show continues throughout the month.

Take a virtual tour by clicking the below link to Oklahomans for Equality's YouTube channel:
Art2Go: Five-Week at Home Art Class
Start Date Postponed to Monday, February 22nd

Five art classes in a box delivered directly to your door once a week for five weeks! Learn a little art history, a little art theory, and then get creative with art supplies, step by step instructions, and virtual support.

Projects include:
  • Altered books
  • Found object sculpture
  • Paper art quilting
  • Grafitti Stamping
  • Collage

There are only ten spots for this first round of classes, so sign up for this free class today! Classes start Monday, February 22nd.

Cody Wayne Allen

Anthony "Tony" Carney
We celebrate the life of Tony and honor his memory. Tony was a long time volunteer at Oklahomans for Equality. Helping out in so many ways such as working the front desk, maintained the flags for years, the front door greeter at the Equality Gala for years, always in charge of the coat check at the Falalala Ball, and would organize the food drive and pet food drive. Tony's contributions have helped so many, and he will be dearly missed.

Neurodiversity Tulsa
1st and 3rd Tuesday of Every Month, 6:00 p.m.
Virtual Event

Neurodiversity Tulsa is a program of OKEQ focused on connecting neurodiverse LGBTQ+ people. If you are on the autism spectrum, have ADHD, have bipolar, have anxiety, have Down Syndrome, a personality disorder, brain injuries, or other neurodivergencies, you are welcome in this group! We will meet on the first and third Tuesday of the month (on zoom until further notice) to play games, make art, chat, and connect with like-minded individuals in our community.

Please message Anna Puhl on Facebook for the zoom link or email by clicking the button below:
HealthCare.gov is open for business from Feb. 15 to May 15.

You should NEVER face discrimination no matter who you are or where you live.
Need help finding health insurance? Worried about how much it will cost? You're not alone! Connect today with a FREE LGBTQ-friendly expert to make sure you're getting the best deal on coverage. Visit out2enroll.org/enrollment-help and enroll at HealthCare.gov.

Looking for transition-related care? We've got you covered with TRANS HEALTH INSURANCE GUIDES. Find your state at out2enroll.org/2021-cocs/ and enroll at HealthCare.gov.
The March 
Allie Jensen Memorial Art Gallery 
will feature Audrey Byrd:
 “The Divine Feminine”

“My bold colors and textures act to accentuate the femininity that is often so harshly judged and censored by the public eye. My main goal as a painter is to help people fall in love with their beauty and recognize their divinity. I use all reclaimed + repurposed canvases, frames, and miscellaneous oddities to create my pieces, in an effort to be as sustainable (and unique) as possible. I love manipulating my supplies to create one-of-a-kind paintings and sculptures that leave my viewers thinking “how did she do that?” and inspire them to try creating their own masterpieces.”

“I am a native Tulsan in my second year of medical school at OSU-COM, with hopes of becoming an obstetrician and gynecologist. I have always been an artist of sorts, mainly photography and 2-D art, but I picked up painting in March of 2020 when COVID restrictions began. Now, it has blossomed into a full-blown business that helps me make the most of my study breaks. A lot of what I hope to embody in my medical practice is reflected in my art – that women deserve to feel sexy and powerful and worthy; that they deserve to celebrate their beauty and feel empowered in their skin. I want to use color and texture to accentuate the parts of femininity that I sometimes struggle to appreciate about myself. More than anything, my work has helped me accept my beauty and power and helps me feel confident enough to empower other women in my professional life. I hope to incorporate creativity and artistry into my medical career to inspire change in the world of medicine.” - Audrey Byrd

The show opens at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center located at 621 E. 4th Street Tulsa OK 74120 on Thursday, March 4th with Covid measures in place. The show continues throughout the month. For more information, please visit www.okeq.org. 
Register Now! Spring 2021 CHAUTAUQUA Conference on Family Resilience: Resilience of LGBTQ+ Families: Pride and Celebration:

Join us for the 2021 Chautauqua Conference on Family Resilience- Resilience of LGBTQ+ Families: Pride and Celebration.

General Registration is $25

The first 50 students to register through the registration link will receive free admission to the conference. Once this hits capacity, the $25 General Registration fee will be required.

Continuing Education Units (CEUs) Available!
All Youth Programming has Resumed on Zoom
Do you know a young person who loves to sing?
We are so excited to partner with Tulsa Opera and have a youth choir at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center!

This choir is open to all LGBTQIA+ youth, will be held on zoom and in-person starting this Saturday afternoon, and is COMPLETELY COST-FREE!

This group is meant for all music levels, all genders, all expressions, and will be 100% fun. The group is led by a professional musician and will have multiple concert opportunities as COVID-19 allows.
Join Oklahomans for Equality's NEW youth group for kids under 13: Alphabet Soup Kids. This group is for all youth who identify as LGBTQ2SAI+ or who have parents/guardians who are LGBTQ2SAI+. This group exists to provide support, connection, and (most importantly) FUN for our kids across Oklahoma.

If you have questions, please email Youth@okeq.org

Being a parent is the most challenging, most amazing job on the planet but being the parent of an LGBTQ2SIA+ youth comes with its own unique challenges and amazing moments. OKEQ's new support group for parents of LGBTQ2SIA+ youth is here to help you navigate hard conversations, meet other parents and have a safe space to talk about what's going on and how to create a better environment for our kids. To learn more and to join this group, contact Morgan Allen at Morgan.Allen@okeq.org
New Year, New Me!

Starting in 2021, Oklahomans for Equality will offer scholarships for transgender persons seeking a name and gender marker changes. This scholarship will cover the cost of an attorney and all filing fees. 

Applicants will be chosen based on financial need and a dedication to volunteer service. This scholarship is open to anyone in Oklahoma, not just the Tulsa area. 

We will select scholarships monthly as funds allow. 
Oklahomans For Equality's Transgender Programming is launching a new Gender Marker and Name Change Scholarship fund! Help raise money for transgender and gender non-conforming folks in Oklahoma to secure funds for legal fees, gender marker change, and name change fees.

The full cost for each scholarship is $300, but any amount helps!
Support Group for Parents of Transgender People
1st Wednesday of the Month, 7:00 p.m.
Meets via Zoom

This group is here to support parents of transgender people at all stages of transition. Whether your child is 6 or 60, this group is for you to find community and connect to resources.

All participants must speak to one of the group facilitators before joining.
Trans Teen's Support Group
2nd and 4th Monday of the Month, 6:00 p.m.
Meets via Zoom

This support group is for all transgender teens, ages 13+. This group is welcome to trans boys, trans girls, non-binary teens, and everyone under the trans umbrella.

All participants must speak to one of the group facilitators before joining.
Support Group for Partners of Transgender People
2nd Wednesday of the Month, 7:00 p.m.
Virtual Meeting

Support group for partners of transgender people. Whether your partner is just starting to transition or transitioned twenty years ago, you are welcome to come to talk and find community.
Non-binary Support Group

2nd Wednesday of the Month, 7:00 p.m.
Virtual Meeting

Support group for anyone who identifies outside the gender binary. Whether you identify as non-binary, genderfluid, genderqueer, or agender, everyone is welcome!
Brought To You Bi the Letter B Virtual Programming
2nd and 4th Mondays, 7:00 p.m. - 7:40 p.m.
Meets via Zoom

Our Bi Support Outreach group is now Virtual! The program exists to provide support, encouragement, education, and social opportunities for all Bisexual and Pansexual, Curious, & Questioning individuals. The group will meet virtually via Zoom. You will be able to access it via Video, Chat, and/or telephone.

Please call 918-798-1054 or email Daniel Buck with the link below for more information.
Coming Out Workshop
1st and 3rd Monday of the Month, 6:00 p.m. - 7:00 p.m.
Virtual Meeting

Free to participate, this one-day course is designed for individuals coming to terms with their sexuality with presentations on how to come out to family, friends, and coworkers. Question and answer session in a supportive and informed environment.

Please contact our OKEQ Mental Health services at 918-938-6538 or click the button below to schedule.

Our clinic is open to provide the healthcare services our community needs. Right now, our clinic is taking patients for hormone replacement therapy (HRT) and PrEP.

If you are interested in starting or continuing care, please contact the OKEQ Health Clinic by calling 918-938-6537. If you want to make an appointment, follow the link below.
The Equality Health Alliance strives to connect the LGBTQ+ community with friendly healthcare providers. With our searchable database, patients can find doctors based on their specialty and accepted insurance.

We provide healthcare professionals with training on working with the LGBTQ+ community and follow-up support and education on evolving best practices. All participating healthcare providers must show a commitment to being an affirming and welcoming place for the LGBTQ+ community.

As we are still getting started, our database is small, but it is growing. If you would like to look at our database, click here.
Oklahomans for Equality Sponsors

George Kaiser Family Foundation
Flint Family Foundation
Sanford and Irene Burnstein Foundation
Boomtown Tees
Blue Cross and Blue Shield of Oklahoma
Temple Israel
Bank of Oklahoma
Phillips 66
Creoks Mental Health Services
Phillips Theological Seminary
Dennis R. Neill and John Southard
Kelly Kirby CPA
Dwight Kealiher
Timothy T. Cole and Chance Phillips
Larry Ward
Richard and Debra Gordon
Sasha and Ethan Warlick
Jason McVicker and Justin Clary
Joe and Nancy McDonald
The Estate of John Raveill
Al and Renee Carlozzi
Marylyn Tippeconnic
Barbara Abercrombie and Tery DeShong
Cynthia Phillips and Chere Gibbs
William Murphy and Todd Holland
Joe Hukills
David Nelson
Christopher and Michael Brecht-Smith
Mark Fitch
Daniel S. Burnstein and Martin Martinez
Kristopher Wilmes and Dusty Gross
Danny Thomason 
College Hill Presbyterian Church
Darci Hazelwood and Sharon Kimberlin
Sue Welch and Marcy Smith
Trevor Project
Linda Ford
Fellowship Congregational Church UCC
Harry Cramton
Jane Wiseman
Runnymeade Foundation
Jacob and Lacey Grinnell 
George McCauslan and Rusty Clyma  
James Monroe
Bob and Oliver Dale Hanson
Peter Athens

Counseling Services: Please contact the counselor directly to schedule a virtual appointment.
Allison Ikley-Freeman
Allison Ikley-Freeman, LPC, is passionate about assisting individuals who are a part of the LGBTQIA+ community who experience a range of concerns and issues. Individual, youth, and adolescent counseling is available on a sliding fee scale based on income. 

Please call 918-938-6538 and select option 2 to make an appointment or send her an email at allison.ikley-freeman@okeq.org.
OSU - Tulsa Counseling Services
The Oklahoma State Tulsa Counseling Center is an LGBTQ+ affirming center located in Main Hall of OSU Tulsa. You do not have to be affiliated with OSU to benefit from these services! Our center offers clients from OKEQ sessions for only 5 dollars. Each member of our counseling team receives additional training and supervision in LGBTQ+ issues and is excited to work with clients from OKEQ.

Please contact us at 918-594-8568 for more information or to schedule an appointment. 
Regularly Scheduled Programming
Gender Support Program
7:00 - 8:30 p.m. 
The program is providing support, education and social opportunities for transgender and intersex individuals.

A first time interview is required before attending your first meeting. Email
Support Group for Parents of Transgender People

1st Wednesday of the Month at 7:00 p.m.
Meets via Zoom

The program is providing support, education, and social opportunities for parents of transgender people.

A first time interview is required before attending your first meeting. Email  
Support Group for Partners of Transgender People

2nd Wednesday of the Month at 7:00 p.m.

The program is providing support, education, and social opportunities for partners of transgender and non-binary individuals. Ages 18+.

A first time interview is required before attending your first meeting. Email  
SAGE Tulsa 
Every Tuesday
10:00 am to 12:00 pm

"drop in for coffee" 
Facilitated by
John Madigan
OkEq Board Meeting
Thursday, March 11th, 6:00 p.m.
Dennis R. Neill Equality Center.
All Oklahomans for Equality board meetings are open to all OkEq members.
Support Group for Transgender Teens

2nd & 4th Monday of the Month at 6:00 p.m.
Meets via Zoom

The program is providing support, education, and social opportunities for transgender teenagers 13+.

A first time interview is required before attending your first meeting. Email 
Alphabet Soup Youth Group

Join us for Alphabet SOUP, where all letters are welcome! Alphabet SOUP is dedicated to supporting Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, Intersex, and Asexual (LGBTQIA+) youth by providing fun group activities, community, and volunteer opportunities. Alphabet SOUP’s primary goals are providing Services, Outreach, Unity, and Preparation for adulthood -- or SOUP -- to LGBTQIA+ youth ages 13-17. It will be Every Saturday Upstairs area of the Dennis R Neill Equality Center!

for more information.
Children/Siblings of Trans*/Non-Binary Individuals Support Group
This program is for youth ages 8-18 that have trans* parents or siblings. This group will provide support, education and social opportunities for those living with trans* family members. Attendees must have approval from the facilitator to participate. Please contact Krissy at krissy.dudley@okeq.org.
Brought to You Bi 
the Letter B 
2nd & 4th Monday
of each month 
7:00 - 8:00 p.m.
Bisexual support group hosted virtually. Tell all your friends. The group is open to all bi/pan/queer/fluid+ folks and their allies. Please call 918-798-1054 or email Daniel Buck with the link below for more information.
Tulsa Area
Prime Timers
2nd Tuesday of the Month
7:00 - 9:00 p.m.

A social organization for mature minded Gay and Bisexual men age 21 and over. The purpose is to establish friendship and support through social interaction. Visit
more information.
Survivors of Conversion Therapy T.E.A (Therapy Experienced Anew)
Every Monday at 7:00 p.m.
Over 113,000 LGBTQIA+ individuals have been subjected to Conversion Therapy. T.E.A is a new group that will utilize several different activities to help you take your narrative back and find peer support along the way. Come, sit, and spill the tea with us on this journey to the most authentic you.

Call, text, or email Jess Branston at 918-924-5624 jess@anchoredbhc.com
Equality Game Night
2nd Friday of the Month
6:00 p.m. - 9:00 p.m.

Looking for something fun to do on a Friday night? Wanna meet up with friends and make new ones? Do you have board games or video games you've been eager to play? Then Equality Gaming Night is for you!
Community Partners
The Equality
Business Alliance fosters a sharing of information, ideas, contacts, products and services, and also strengthens and expands our businesses, careers and community.
HIV Testing Schedule

 2nd and 4th Saturday of the Month
from 4:00 p.m. - 6:00p.m.
provided by H.O.P.E. Testing
Check www.okeq.org for testing dates.
OkEq Staff
Alex Wade
Medical Services Director
He / Him / His

Krissy Dudley
Administrative Coordinator
She / Her / Hers
Anna Them Puhl
Technical Coordinator
They / Them / Theirs

Morgan Allen-White
Center Director
She / Her / Hers

Kao Morris 
BIPOC Program and Digital Media Coordinator
He / Him / His
Donovid Sekulits
LatinX Outreach and Library Services Coordinator
He / Him / el
Lily Piña
Nurse Practitioner
She / Her / Hers
Luke Scuitto
Membership Coordinator
He / Him / His
Shay Brewer
Operations Manager
He / Him / His
Donna Mathews
Grant Coordinator
Tracy Allen
He / Him / His
Toby Jenkins
CEO/Executive Director
He / Him / His

OkEq Board and Trustees
Executive Committee
Chris Brecht-Smith - President
Stacy Turner - Vice President
Will Vaughn - Secretary
Paul Allen - Treasurer
Bob Hanson - Member at Large

Board of Directors
Laura Arrowsmith, D.O.
Angelyn L. Dale, Esq.
Allison Ikley-Freeman
Joe Guetlein
Darci Hazelwood, D.O.
Corey Thompson
Monique Washington
Justin Ross
Shannon Gordon Fair

Shawna Baker, Esq.
Dan Burnstein
Kirk Holt
Cynthia Phillips
Kris Wilmes 

Board of Advisors
Aderyn Lonigan, C.P.A.
Amairani Perez
Christian Fencer
Cray Flyn
Crista Patrick
Dani Byrd
Denise Reid
Matt Else, D.O.
Elizabeth Ortiz
Jane Wiseman
Joann Frizell
Karen Keith Wilkins, Esq.
Stephen Rundell
Ty Morgan
Whitney Cipolla

Oklahomans for Equality
Reduced Hours: Please Call before you visit 
621 E. 4th St. 
Tulsa, OK 74120